The Lorelei & Colloquy with J

“Cursing of Lorelei by the Monks" Johann Köler 1887

The legend continues: In Germany the Lorelei is a rock on the eastern bank of the Rhine near St. Goarshausen, which soars some 120 metres above the waterline. It marks the narrowest part of the river between Switzerland and the North Sea. A very strong current and rocks below the waterline have caused many boat accidents there. Lorelei is a mermaid name which (legend has it) belonged to the mermaid who sat on the rock and lured unwary fisherman to their death by singing the most beautiful song they had ever heard.

While St. Goarshausen and the Lorelei are far from Adolph’s beloved mountains outside Munich where he was born the legend of the Lorelei has always fascinated him as has the painting “The Imprecation of Lorelei by the Monks" by the Estonian painter Johann Köler. Adolph sees the depiction of monks attempting to place an evil curse on the Siren as a battle between good and evil. In this case the evil of the monks attempting to curse a river mermaid who was just being who she is preying on the sexual appetites of passing sailors on the Rhine. He commissioned a life size copy of the painting and had it hung in the lobby of The Lorelei to remind guests that their appetite for sexual conquest of men is condoned neither by most organized religions nor community standards and so a sexually assertive woman must always be on her guard against being preyed upon by lesser women and most men who don’t understand that for some women to dominate men is part of the natural order of things.

Tanaquil, the French courtesan who is running the European portion of Taryn’s Porn Empire from Munich, is currently in residence at The Lorelei for a few days with several of her young demanding aristocratic female friends. They are helping Adolph get the kinks out of the operation before he begins advertising in earnest. I even got pulled into helping by supplying six male escort trainees as partners for Tanaquil and her group. I was reluctant to help because I’d seen what happens to a man who partners Tanaquil when she is in the mood for rough sex. When most people talk about rough sex they almost always mean rough for the woman. In the case of Tanaquil it means for the man. Then her partner is physically and mentally drained even when he is on Adderall and a performance enhancer like Viagra or Cialis and often his career as an escort is over because the erectile tissue in his penis has been crushed to the extent that it can’t be surgically repaired. There have been one or two erectile tissue transplants, but none has been successful and a pump while it might give him some sexual satisfaction isn’t what a sexually assertive woman needs, unless she has a fetish for sexually impaired men.

So I ended up sending her six of the male trainees who would have otherwise been cut from the course. Not that they aren’t good in bed… they are, but overall they didn’t have all the facets that makes a great male escort. I told them it would be a very strenuous assignment and the pay would be excellent, but I didn’t share that it would probably end their careers as escorts.


Colloquy with J: My anonymous correspondent J has written me again. And, No J, I am not confusing you with anyone else. He writes:

J: “it's hard to maintain a "secret room" for fetish activities. So of course this is where the commercial clubs and play spaces come in. And these sorts of operations require serious dues, fees and so forth to keep them up at the level the members would expect. I suppose it's a bit of a critical mass problem ... getting the capital to start an operation and attract the clientele which would make it attractive”

That’s so true, which is why The Lorelei is such a big risk. It’s not entirely clear yet what all the costs will be. He has a business plan, but there are a great many assumptions any one of which can significantly affect the bottom line.

Beauty and fetishes: J: “Beauty, however, doesn't necessarily need or find fetish necessary to attract a man, or even desirable to do it. Many women, perhaps most want to be loved for who they are not the style they adapt.. the rubber they wear etc. Of course some will say fetish IS who they are ... sexually. And that is good. Fetishists are also definitely elitist in the snob sense. They seem to feel, and perhaps with some justification, that they have a more expansive and broader sexual menu... something way beyond vanilla sex”

I agree that the fetish scene is outside the interest of most beautiful women. That’s why we at St Lucy’s try to identify and nurture the spark of individualism that can flare into a fetishista with just a little encouragement. We also try to instill proper manners so that a girl does not brag or lord her good fortune in having beauty, money and the incredibly intense sex fetish encounters can provide over those of her friends who are less fortunate.

Ballet dancers: J: “Dancers are very body conscious and ballet dancers are so in a very special way which appeals to me personally ((and others as well). Fetish is also very body conscious but hardly in the sense of movement. And this is the beauty of ballet... it is about the movement of the body. Most fetishists I'd say are clueless about this or have a very pop culture view of movement.. and of body type. So when I discovered a female rubberist who was ALSO a trained ballerina this interested me very much. Fetish attire may be mainstreaming more these days, but I would be surprised to see the girls coming out of SAB in tight rubber fetish gear. I suspect they would think it a bit of a tacky display. Just a guess. Performers though DO have the perfect rationale for costuming in very body conscious attire and so a fetish club ... dance job is the perfect cover for a female fetishist who can pass it off as her work attire.”

J and I are pretty much in agreement here too. Most female ballet dancers are self-centered. Though he wasn’t reading me when I was posting on Yahoo 360 (before they went Disney) when I wrote about dancing in the club in NJ owned by the father of the SAB student I was rooming with. This was years ago before SAB had a dorm. I think she and I were the only ones performing at night and on weekends at a NJ club, but I have no way of knowing for certain and we certainly didn’t mention our adult experiences to other students. I agree that you won’t see the girls coming out of SAB in tight rubber fetish gear. Most are too tired and aren’t that worldly, yet. Long time readers will also recall that I’ve also written about loving that as a dancer in Vegas since I teach and perform ballet I can wear pointes on almost any occasions and not be thought all that strange. Or, if anyone does they have had the good sense to keep quiet about it, because I have a long memory and take delight in revenge.

Fetishes - growth in the sex industry: J: “I am interested in the growth of fetish activities in popularity and seeing how they are evolving. For example the proliferation of chastity devices over the past several years is incredible - there are score and score of styles and makers and interest in CB and CB lifestyle seems to be growing up from nowhere. Are such growths in popularity because people are now finding the gear of the fantasies and "acting on it"?”

I think the recent interest in Chastity devices may be a manifestation of the religious and politically conservative movement in the country. It fits with self denial or the denial of sexual activity to a woman – or less frequently a man – in a locked CB with the key held by the other partner. Also, some well designed CB devices can be worn undetected beneath street clothes, are of relatively modest cost and most have a long life span making them ideal for kinky religious conservatives of modest means.

Dive-sex: J: “Or is this a matter of people having their fetishes shaped by what they read and see mostly on the internet and incorporating it into their own fetish menus? The dive or underwater fetish sex thing seems to be one of those ... it came from no where kinda things. Reading your blog one would think this is really a big deal and honestly Jill's World is the first I read anything in any detail about the practice. What I find curious or hard to understand is how this fetish became as popular as you claim it to be among the elite. It's certainly a well kept secret in the fetish sites I have been following. So I am a more than a bit skeptical about this fetish. Perhaps you might address how common it is (in your view) and how it actually got that way. It certainly takes an enormous amount of expensive gear, training and a pool to do it with discretion... as they say”

As far as I know SCUBA or dive-sex isn’t driven by what people read on the internet. Actually, most articles I’ve read on the subject talk about the problems involved: sand and debris in the moving parts, the search for a good waterproof lube, positions to keep the tanks from getting in the way, the lack of privacy and the need for warm water for the man to retain an erection. And, what is very troubling to me… nothing about the possibility of the woman having the hydraulics of her partner’s thrusting force water or air into her uterus where it can cause a pelvic infection or far worse a possible embolism. Yes, the chances are slight, but an occurrence can be fatal! That is why I go on so about being sure my women friends and students all wear gas-guards during dive-sex to protect their upper reproductive tracts.

I was introduced to dive-sex by a Hollywood director who was living here and who I worked for when I first moved here a few years ago. I was his toy and Girl Friday and when he tired of me he helped get me my job with the casino. He was a good Boss and a better lover and we had some amazing times together! He later married and they moved to Hawaii. But his circle enjoyed dive-sex and it was a skill that no women (that I knew anything about before arriving in Vegas) had so I decided to master the technique and I got it introduced into my AST syllabus at St Lucy’s. And, you are correct again that the equipment and facilities needed for dive-sex are expensive, but like so much else in this world the well off get to have a lot of the expensive fun. Dive-sex may not be on fetish sites because – as we have both agreed - very few can afford it and those who can aren’t into posting on group sites. Mainstream SCUBA sites undoubtedly have members who have had dive-sex but that’s a topic that a ‘family’ site won’t allow discussed.

Dive-sex, for those into rubber encasement, masks, breathing compressed gas and having sex in hostile environment it is a really big deal, in my circle, but you don’t expect an A-list actress to gossip about having her brains fucked out by a professional stud 20 feet below the surface of an encounter pool in Vegas, do you?

Oh, a reader left me a comment about a month ago asking if I wanted a job modeling for a site that takes stills and videos of underwater intercourse. It’s in Florida and I suppose if you Google it you can find it. I thought it was sweet of him to ask! I don’t think they could afford me! Why would I want anything more than what I have now? Here I’m virtually autonomous. I looked at the site and they had some pretty interesting photos, so I wouldn’t say dive-sex is entirely unknown.

J: “Your sex is about organism and coitus. Fetish sex, from what I can tell is 95% about arousal and almost never has coital sex. This perception comes from reading fetish sites, chat rooms on them, and fetish porn and my own personal experiences (limited as they are). I've always found it odd that coital sex is so little mentioned and often disdained by kinky people. It's almost as if THAT is what boring vanilla sex is and who does that stuff any more? Perhaps you go a bit the other way and mention fetish but don't dwell on the arousal play aspects very much.. dressing for pleasure as thing in itself...”

Well, organisms and coitus are what I’m into – what light my fire - so that’s what I write about. I think, if it’s true that most fetish sex is about arousal and not coital sex, it’s because the risks of getting caught, STIs and pregnancy are too great for most fetishists who make do with parading around and groping one another while wearing whatever fetish gear they can afford. That, for all intents and purposes is ‘safe sex’. And we have already talked about the shortage of women on the fetish scene though there seems to be no shortage of TV/CD and TG ‘female’ members. It’s a common tactic… if you don’t have the balls to do it yourself then talk it down; ‘it’s so vanilla’ etc. ‘Dressing for pleasure’ is one of my kinks, which I’ve written about, especially when I am Duty Manager at the casino. Sheathed in latex and calf length bladed ballet boots with heel guards over the blades I project an image of a woman you really don’t want to upset.