Fatal attraction
Cara’s work ethic: I started this entry as a reply to a comment by a long time friend and reader, Eric, about my December 10, 2009 post, Cara; new chick on the block. Eric asked about her pointe skill level. As I was writing my reply I thought it brought up a series of important points that deserved expansion into a blog entry rather than just a reply to a comment. What I wrote in the comment was:
“I’m going to be watching Cara’s stamina and speed in pointe class. She’s enrolled in a school that has several levels for recreational, semi-pro and professional dancers. At the moment they have her slotted in the top advanced recreational class until they see what she can do. I’m not going to push her about pointe because ballet isn’t her career path and she needs to keep thinking of pointe as recreation and fun. Keep in mind that she is going for her Ph D in Psychology. She will be a Psychologist so I’m going to concentrate on getting her escort education on track which is what she needs to blend in with and be respected by the women she wants to interview if she is going to immerse herself in the trade for a few months. She has a very dry sense of humor so she is already calling our escort training facility ‘Fuck-U’.”
“As much as I would like to have her take my company class I teach Balanchine (very fast) footwork and I don’t want to have anyone in class who can’t keep up. If that were to happen with Cara I’d have to ask her not to participate in company class so I want to be sure she is up to it and it wouldn’t be at the expense of her school work. Even my professionals are panting at the end of my classes so the way I teach class isn’t for sissies. Right now I’m more interested in her spending her time doing Kegels and building up her pelvic and diving stamina which is what she will need for competing with other candidates in her escort class. I’m going to expand on this in a blog entry because I think it’s important to follow how she will navigate the dual and sometimes competing physical requirements of ballet and escort training.”
Expanding on the above, everyone has a finite amount of energy and if a person’s life is filled with physical and mental exertion there are times when energy demands are so high that needs must come before pleasure. Cara’s work ethic is exemplary. There is no other way she could have graduated from Harvard with honors and be doing very well in her doctorial program. Her Doctorial advisor says she is an excellent student. So far she is making the choices that need to be made, concentrating on getting in shape as an escort which takes strengthening some muscle groups that aren’t generally used by classical dancers. It’s imperative that the other escort candidates in her class see her as giving escort training her full attention. That’s because they already know she is studying to be a Psychologist and has taken a seat in the class where competition for seats is strong. There has already been some mumbling about Cara taking a slot from someone who deserved it more because she was going into the profession full time. So Cara is going to have to be as good as or better than the best professional in class just to retain her credibility and validity to hold the seat and make friends with the other girls which is what she will need to do for her study. It could get pretty rough, but then the life of an escort isn’t all being arm-candy for rich and beautiful men.
That may be where Cara’s extensive ballet training will help because ballet is key to teaching discipline, fluid movement, grace and line in class and none of the other students in her class have the intensive training in ballet that Cara does. So she may be able to use that strength to her advantage by tutoring other girls in her class and show them she’s not just another pretty face with connections on the faculty. Actually, we are going to be harder on Cara than the other students so there will be no doubt about her not receiving preferential treatment. None of the others in her class have had a great deal of sexual experience, if what they told us is true, so Cara’s lack of pelvic skills isn’t a disadvantage and with Robin and me tutoring her she should do well there.
Lesson one: The first thing I need to be sure Cara understands is that being an escort is a commercial transaction and should have almost nothing to do with personal romance on the part of the escort. She shouldn’t be lulled into a ‘fatal attraction’ to the physicality of the man or the pleasure which he gives her. That sort of thing clouding an escort’s mind has been the cause of more than a few of their deaths. On an intellectual level I’m certain she know that, but newly involved in intimate encounters with rich handsome men can skew the most levelheaded woman’s perspective. And, if the client becomes romantically involved with his escort that’s usually trouble as well. It’s not that she shouldn’t enjoy herself, she should because the experienced client can tell if she isn’t, she won’t be aroused and the guys can tell when a girl is faking. Faking an orgasm at the level Cara will be entering the trade is a bad career move. If he isn’t good in the saddle she may have to develop a mental image of being screwed by Brad Pitt or Ben Affleck to help him get herself off because an escort has to deliver an orgasm, unless the client just wants to talk or is there to hurt her with brutal sex which in itself can be a huge turn-on for a surprising number of chicks. So while she is letting him do his thing and take her on a magic carpet ride she needs to be aware of her surroundings, especially with a new client. With a client she has been with successfully before an escort may be able to drop her guard to some extent but with a new man you never know exactly what will happen.
Fetish encounters: That’s especially true if a girl is working a fetish encounter. A fetish encounter may be as tame as wearing ballet slippers or hose and a grater belt for the customer, or it could be as edgy as being taken in a latex encasement suit, ballet boots and a gasmask with rebreather bag while bound to an altar or barre. The encasement suits and ballet boots are kinky but not dangerous. Gasmasks and rebreathers can be very dangerous especially with a new client because the woman’s vision is limited by what she can see through the lenses of her mask, which may be nothing if she is sweating and the insides of lenses have fogged. Once the escort can’t see what the client is doing with his hands he could be closing the valve on her rebreather bag or dipping the open valve into a Ziploc bag containing cotton balls saturated with chloroform. Once something like that happens she is totally helpless. I’m having Robin give her some of those scary fetish experiences sprinkled among the pleasurable ones to give her a bit of paranoia about what can happen if she isn’t careful. Only in her personal relationships with men friends can an escort totally let her guard down and enjoy the pleasures a talented man can bring to an intense sexual experience.
Cara’s work ethic: I started this entry as a reply to a comment by a long time friend and reader, Eric, about my December 10, 2009 post, Cara; new chick on the block. Eric asked about her pointe skill level. As I was writing my reply I thought it brought up a series of important points that deserved expansion into a blog entry rather than just a reply to a comment. What I wrote in the comment was:
“I’m going to be watching Cara’s stamina and speed in pointe class. She’s enrolled in a school that has several levels for recreational, semi-pro and professional dancers. At the moment they have her slotted in the top advanced recreational class until they see what she can do. I’m not going to push her about pointe because ballet isn’t her career path and she needs to keep thinking of pointe as recreation and fun. Keep in mind that she is going for her Ph D in Psychology. She will be a Psychologist so I’m going to concentrate on getting her escort education on track which is what she needs to blend in with and be respected by the women she wants to interview if she is going to immerse herself in the trade for a few months. She has a very dry sense of humor so she is already calling our escort training facility ‘Fuck-U’.”
“As much as I would like to have her take my company class I teach Balanchine (very fast) footwork and I don’t want to have anyone in class who can’t keep up. If that were to happen with Cara I’d have to ask her not to participate in company class so I want to be sure she is up to it and it wouldn’t be at the expense of her school work. Even my professionals are panting at the end of my classes so the way I teach class isn’t for sissies. Right now I’m more interested in her spending her time doing Kegels and building up her pelvic and diving stamina which is what she will need for competing with other candidates in her escort class. I’m going to expand on this in a blog entry because I think it’s important to follow how she will navigate the dual and sometimes competing physical requirements of ballet and escort training.”
Expanding on the above, everyone has a finite amount of energy and if a person’s life is filled with physical and mental exertion there are times when energy demands are so high that needs must come before pleasure. Cara’s work ethic is exemplary. There is no other way she could have graduated from Harvard with honors and be doing very well in her doctorial program. Her Doctorial advisor says she is an excellent student. So far she is making the choices that need to be made, concentrating on getting in shape as an escort which takes strengthening some muscle groups that aren’t generally used by classical dancers. It’s imperative that the other escort candidates in her class see her as giving escort training her full attention. That’s because they already know she is studying to be a Psychologist and has taken a seat in the class where competition for seats is strong. There has already been some mumbling about Cara taking a slot from someone who deserved it more because she was going into the profession full time. So Cara is going to have to be as good as or better than the best professional in class just to retain her credibility and validity to hold the seat and make friends with the other girls which is what she will need to do for her study. It could get pretty rough, but then the life of an escort isn’t all being arm-candy for rich and beautiful men.
That may be where Cara’s extensive ballet training will help because ballet is key to teaching discipline, fluid movement, grace and line in class and none of the other students in her class have the intensive training in ballet that Cara does. So she may be able to use that strength to her advantage by tutoring other girls in her class and show them she’s not just another pretty face with connections on the faculty. Actually, we are going to be harder on Cara than the other students so there will be no doubt about her not receiving preferential treatment. None of the others in her class have had a great deal of sexual experience, if what they told us is true, so Cara’s lack of pelvic skills isn’t a disadvantage and with Robin and me tutoring her she should do well there.
Lesson one: The first thing I need to be sure Cara understands is that being an escort is a commercial transaction and should have almost nothing to do with personal romance on the part of the escort. She shouldn’t be lulled into a ‘fatal attraction’ to the physicality of the man or the pleasure which he gives her. That sort of thing clouding an escort’s mind has been the cause of more than a few of their deaths. On an intellectual level I’m certain she know that, but newly involved in intimate encounters with rich handsome men can skew the most levelheaded woman’s perspective. And, if the client becomes romantically involved with his escort that’s usually trouble as well. It’s not that she shouldn’t enjoy herself, she should because the experienced client can tell if she isn’t, she won’t be aroused and the guys can tell when a girl is faking. Faking an orgasm at the level Cara will be entering the trade is a bad career move. If he isn’t good in the saddle she may have to develop a mental image of being screwed by Brad Pitt or Ben Affleck to help him get herself off because an escort has to deliver an orgasm, unless the client just wants to talk or is there to hurt her with brutal sex which in itself can be a huge turn-on for a surprising number of chicks. So while she is letting him do his thing and take her on a magic carpet ride she needs to be aware of her surroundings, especially with a new client. With a client she has been with successfully before an escort may be able to drop her guard to some extent but with a new man you never know exactly what will happen.
Fetish encounters: That’s especially true if a girl is working a fetish encounter. A fetish encounter may be as tame as wearing ballet slippers or hose and a grater belt for the customer, or it could be as edgy as being taken in a latex encasement suit, ballet boots and a gasmask with rebreather bag while bound to an altar or barre. The encasement suits and ballet boots are kinky but not dangerous. Gasmasks and rebreathers can be very dangerous especially with a new client because the woman’s vision is limited by what she can see through the lenses of her mask, which may be nothing if she is sweating and the insides of lenses have fogged. Once the escort can’t see what the client is doing with his hands he could be closing the valve on her rebreather bag or dipping the open valve into a Ziploc bag containing cotton balls saturated with chloroform. Once something like that happens she is totally helpless. I’m having Robin give her some of those scary fetish experiences sprinkled among the pleasurable ones to give her a bit of paranoia about what can happen if she isn’t careful. Only in her personal relationships with men friends can an escort totally let her guard down and enjoy the pleasures a talented man can bring to an intense sexual experience.
It looks like you have Cara in a good regimen for her training for her research. You seem to be a good teacher in many different disciplines in what you do, from the ballet to escort services.
ReplyDeleteYou mention: "[I]f the client becomes romantically involved with his escort that’s usually trouble as well." In what way is it trouble? Is it because he has one image of their relationship (thinking it's more than a business proposition) but the escort is strictly business with him? That's sort of what I'm thinking would make it dangerous, because if she doesn't reciprocate and the man is emotionally unstable enough, he could do some bad things to her.
However, what if a female escort does reciprocate the feelings of her client? Does she decide to quit to be his girlfriend/wife, or do they enter into some kind of arrangement where he's her personal "guy" yet she's still able to work.
How about the male escorts? Any of their clients woo them into being their steadies?
“because he has one image of their relationship (thinking it's more than a business proposition) but the escort is strictly business with him?”
ReplyDeleteThat’s it exactly. In rare instances it can work out but that sort of thing is very, very rare. If they are a match it has to be that she gives up her profession. Otherwise jealousy is an immediate problem. That’s the sort of thing that has to be sorted out before she makes that sort of leap because there is no net.
Somewhere there may be a male escort or two with steady girls on the side who are outside the trade, but I know no of no instances of that. In my circle where most of us date escorts off and on we all know there can be nothing permanent as long as either of us is working in the trade. As a couple we are in the relationship for friendship, mutually shared experiences in the business and the intense pleasure our sexual encounters bring. We hope there is nothing more because that leads to heartache. I understand there are married porn star couples. I’m not sure how well that works.
"In my circle where most of us date escorts off and on we all know there can be nothing permanent as long as either of us is working in the trade. As a couple we are in the relationship for friendship, mutually shared experiences in the business and the intense pleasure our sexual encounters bring."
ReplyDeleteI can see that. You all can compare notes, support each other for what you all might need, and enjoy all the pleasures of sex knowing that there isn't that attachment most would equate with that.
"I understand there are married porn star couples. I’m not sure how well that works."
Taryn might be more knowledgable that I, but from what I've seen, the porn actors and actresses usually all appear together in many films of the same production company. I've noticed that with the AVs that are shown on Cinemax. Of course, those shows are all "simulated sex," meaning it's all acting, no real penetration, I do see the same guys and girls in several different features and episodic series on that channel. One time, I saw a scene from a video called "Cougar School" which had two actors from the series "Co-Ed Confidential," whose characters were an item. I wasn't sure if I wasn't seeing a complilation of "Co-Ed," but then remembered what I mentioned before.
Of course, couples like you mention would have the opportunity to share scenes together in many different productions, but they also know that it's part of their job to have sex scenes with other men or women. I think that knowledge might make their relationships work.