Cervical barriers and BDSM

Reflexions flat spring latex diaphragm preferred by dive-sex professionals

Premature ejaculation in the fetish world: I’m working with my psychiatrist who is treating several of his patients for premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation (PE) in the vanilla world is annoying and embarrassing to men and frustrating to their women partners during recreational sex, but it doesn’t affect their fertility. If he is erect and can get it in before getting off he’s a success at procreational sex. In the fetish world where Viagra, Cialis and Lavitra are consumed like breath mints by males of all ages the inability to control the ejaculation reflex and retain an erection for extended intervals, even with a cock ring, can be a psychologically crippling condition and will affect a man’s standing with women while competing for the most desirable females.

Rather than medicate them with anti-depressants which make it more time consuming for some men to reach orgasm my psychiatrist is trying to have these patients become so used to visual erotic stimuli - in the form of a rubber-girl masturbating - that they can begin to regain control of their ejaculations. I wear a black latex catsuit with a hood that hides my features so I can’t be identified, ballet boots and special black latex exam gloves. I speak very little during a 25 minute session with each patient though I do gasp, mew, moan, whimper and occasionally scream while using my fingers or a dildo to give myself orgasms. The object for the patient is to be able to go the full 25 minutes w/o ejaculating while he watches me masturbate to multiple orgasms.

I wear an Oves cap (my secret) and then ‘double bag’ for safety (in case I’m overpowered during the session and the patient pulls my diaphragm out – see ‘BDSM and cervical barriers’ below) while letting the patient watch me insert a Reflexions (latex) diaphragm in case the patient loses control and mounts, penetrates and ejaculates inside me. In which case we begin again and a second occurrence of that behavior and the Doctor bills the patient $500 for each time I’m mounted. Having a guy drop $1,000 in less than 25 minutes usually focuses a patients mind. All sessions are videoed so there are no billing disputes. For my own safety I insist that all the patients I perform ‘erotic therapy’ with have been recently tested for STIs and are clean before I begin treatment since, as I mentioned, it is not unknown for men to lose control and mount their erotic therapist though it’s far more common to get splattered with semen, especially during the early sessions of a patients treatment.

One reason I wear black latex is that fresh milky white semen splatters show up well on a black background for the video. I wear a splatter mask, a pair of oversized contact lenses, to minimize the chances of getting semen in my eyes (it burns) since some patients have amazing force behind the first three or four ejaculations of semen. I’ve treated four patients so far and three have shown substantial increases in ejaculatory control by being able to go the entire 25 minute session w/o spilling seed after only 5 treatments each.

Many of these patients have wives and young children and had begun experimenting with fetishes to try and correct their inability to perform sexually at the level their wives require, so in addition to our therapy sessions I try to help the patients with tips about what to do to improve their standing at home. At the end of a successful session I allow the patient to mount and get off inside me (a non billable orgasm for the patient) or if he insists I’ll blow him. But then I give him a deep kiss and spit his semen back into his mouth and force him to swallow it. After that I’m not asked for any more blow jobs by that patient. I prefer to be mounted since I enjoy being able to have that much control over a partner and love having a man’s semen draining into my thong. I also like being able to release the patient’s tension after a difficult 25 minutes and taking him for my own pleasure gives me a feeling of accomplishment as well as feeling sated and confident after mutually orgasmic sex.

Cervical barriers and BDSM: A group of young Rubber Sluts (a rank in the local BDSM community that has nothing to do with a woman’s moral character) have asked me to give several seminars on the advantages and disadvantages of using a cervical barrier in the BDSM community. Almost everyone involved in dive-sex out here knows by now that wearing a gas guard during dive-sex is important for a woman’s safety but the choice of which barrier to use and the benefits and drawbacks of diaphragm vs. cap is not always clear. They felt the need for the class became obvious after there were several incidents involving local women in BDSM clubs that put women’s lives at risk. I offered to hold the classes for their entire club membership, but they wanted a private meeting rather than having their Masters or Doms present so they could ask as many personal questions as possible w/o feeling controlled by males.

Reflexions diaphragm: FemCaps and Reflexions flat spring diaphragms are the barriers of choice with the Reflexions far more often used because it is capable of providing a better fit, is less likely to be uncomfortable for a male partner regardless of his size, is nearly impossible for a male partner to under-thrust the rim, can being worn for protection at any time in a woman’s cycle and – unlike most silicone barriers - can be used safely with silicone intimate lubes (like DiveGel) during dive-sex. And the latex dome is stretchier and transmits heat better than silicone so it is almost like skin-on-skin contact. The only possible down-side to wearing the Reflexions is if the woman has a latex allergy. Latex cervical barriers are more easily damaged by oily meds and lubes than are silicone ones, but with proper care a latex diaphragm should last a year or perhaps two even in frequent use. Other diaphragms made of silicone like the Ortho All-Flex and Milex Arcing spring and Omniflex are more easily under-thrust and can be destroyed not only by oily meds and lubes, but also by silicone lubes used with them and silicone lubes are an important part of dive-sex safety.

FemCap: The FemCap is far less effective than a diaphragm as a contraceptive device primarily because of the small number of sizes available (three) which means that fewer women using it can get a really good fit. And the removal strap can often hurt a partner especially in positions where deep thrusting occurs. However, in the BDSM community the FemCap is very dangerous because it can be so easily misused; pulled out of the woman’s vagina before penetration and either used as a butt plug where the diameter of the cap with the man in her vagina gives her the discomfort of double penetration and the possibility of having to go to an ER to have it removed if her Dom/Master hadn’t tied a cord to the removal strap so he could retrieve it.

However, far worse from a safety standpoint, is to have the FemCap stuffed in her mouth as a gag. And I don’t mean from the bitter chemical taste of spermicide. Using FemCap as a gag is extremely dangerous and has resulted in brain damage from asphyxia when the cap was shoved too far down the woman’s throat and blocked her airway and the Dom/Master hadn’t pulled it out in time with a cord tied to the removal strap. If the removal strap is cut off there is nowhere to attach the cord and a strapless FemCap shoved down a woman’s throat will almost certainly lead to her suffocation. I recommend that FemCap not be worn by women in a BDSM relationship because of the possibility of and danger associated with its misuse. A latex Reflexions diaphragm is far safer and more effective device for dive-sex and is less likely to be misused by the wearer’s partner. To the extent that the Dom/Masters are predisposed to latex over silicone I try to steer the Rubber-Sluts toward using the Reflexions diaphragm for protection during dive sex and for other more vanilla uses in their lives.

Latex encasement STI protection

Total latex encasement vaginal and anal entry points

Latex catsuit protects against STIs: A woman wearing a form fitting encasement suit is said to be wearing a catsuit. A man in a form fitting encasement suit is said to be wearing a Gimp suit. Encasement suits are used in BDSM to objectify the wearer, or ‘gimp’, and reduce him or her to the status of a sexual toy, rather than a sexual partner. That sort of encasement fetish can appeal to wearer’s of both sexes. A frequent reader, Mark, gave me a great idea during a lovely chat the other day. He showed me pics of a HW Design Latex (an Austrian Company) catsuit in black latex with gloves, hood and booties that had molded vaginal, anal and oral inlays (molded penis form sheathes) that insert into the wearer’s body cavities for totally encased sexual penetration. Suits with this sort of body cavity detail are preferred by men and women who need total encasement in rubber during sexual penetration.

I think that’s so ironic! Men hate condoms, but when a guy designs externally accessed condoms for vaginal and anal penetration of a woman in a catsuit guys line up to fuck her! How weird is that? Go figure! I know, it is a mental thing that has to do with her being absolutely totally encased in latex and under his control, but still… The good news is that being sexually penetrated while encased in a suit like that a woman should be totally safe from STIs and being visited by the hCG Fairy.

Labia Labs: So, here is my idea. I think a suit of that sort might be just the thing to fill the needs of a niche market, members of the BDSM community here, both men and women, who have incurable STIs, who until now have been shunned (for sex) by other members of the fetish community and commercial escorts because of the likelihood of becoming infected themselves. I was going to email HW Design who made the suit shown at the top of this entry, and ask if the style suit I’m interested in is still available, because I didn’t find it in their on-line catalogue. A lot of HW Design’s encasement suits can be seen on the Austrian rubber fetish site http://www.rubber.at/ (in the free tour section) which is where I got the Images to illustrate this entry. I was also going to ask HW Design about how the seams in their latex suits are sealed with glue or welded, but then I thought rather than dealing with a European manufacturer I could get Gepetto’s latex shop, Labia Labs, to mould me a catsuit (they already have my measurements) with the new super stretchy surgical latex formulation from Jeff’s labs. [Returning readers will remember that Gepetto and Jeff partnered (through Labia Labs) to create the GG+ armored gas guard after some guy in the Vegas area recently began wearing a ‘Shredder’ Prince Albert piercing.] A nice HW Design latex catsuit from their current catalogue costs more than €500 EUR, about $675 USD. Since Gepetto has my measurements and since I own a significant percentage of Labia Labs the cost of any design work should be competitive and I could go in for fittings if necessary.

Vaginal sheath opening through latex encasement suit

I’m thinking that a .5 mm suit thickness would be awesome, but I’d want concurrence from the designers and chemists that .5 mm is the optimum thickness for protection against STI viruses. Then if we have any problems with the design I can just go across town not ship the suit back to Austria. Of course being fucked while wearing a .5 mm thick condom, even with marvelous heat transfer properties, will decrease the sensitivity, but I’m thinking that by putting a velvet surface on the side against the vaginal walls that should convert what little movement there is into a caress as well as pressure. And an added safety feature no one but Labia Labs has is treating the inner surfaces of the vaginal, anal and oral inserts with the scratch and puncture resistant nanofilament mesh just like is used on the puncture resistant GG+ gas guards to protect against a man wearing a Prince Albert shredder, and to prevent accidental punctures resulting in HIV or HSV positive semen deposited against the wearer’s cervix, up her anus or down her throat. Punctures of oral sheathes are especially likely from getting caught on the sharp edges of the wearer’s teeth.

Wearing comfort: I think it will be interesting to see how comfortable the wearer’s pelvic area will be with the heavy rubber condom sheathes inserted in both vagina and anus and how tricky it will be to get them inserted unfolded so they don’t twist and jam when penetration is attempted. I’m planning to use a small training dildo inserted in the well lubed sheaths to get them inserted correctly w/o getting them twisted or folded over in a manner that would block total penetration. I think a critical dimension of the suit will be the waist and how snugly it fits the wearer’s hips as that will control how well the crotch – and therefore the body cavity sheathes – fit and if they tend to pull out if the wearer moves too much. Ideally the vaginal and anal sheathes should stay in position even if the wearer exercises in the suit. If that turns out to be a problem I can have an anti-expulsion ring fitted into the vaginal sheath. The vaginal sheath itself will have to be at least 9 inches long to permit deep penetration when the woman is aroused and her vagina tented. For women used to wearing a Penetrator plug during their daily routine there may be little difference except that her vagina won’t feel as full, until a man or dildo enters the sheath. For men the anal condom may not be objectionable if they are used to having a butt plug inserted. I know some gay men who go to work with butt plugs inserted just like girls who wear their Penetrator plugs all the time. Guys who routinely wear butt plugs shouldn’t have a problem with the anal sheath. Of course discomfort from a heavy rubber condom in the anus could be one purpose of having the person wear the suit. It’s certain that for the safety of the wearer s/he should use a good long lasting lubricating gel in the vagina, anus and applied inside all three sheathes to lessen the friction of a penis or dildo. One down side of this type of double penetration suit is that it takes a long time to get out of it to go to the bathroom and to reinsert the pelvic cavity sheathes and become totally encased again afterward.

Vaginal sheath with dildo inserted

Testing for leaks: The labs will make over-pressure tests with both air and fluids to see if they can get the three sheathes themselves and any sheath seams to fail. And each suit’s sheath-set will be inspected by high intensity light to look for thin spots and pin holes in the rubber before the woman or man puts it on for an STI positive encounter. There is a small but very wealthy group of HIV or HSV positive fetishists in Vegas who have been interested in being sexually active with STI free members of the fetish community, but until now there were only the traditional male and female condoms that offer only marginal protection at best from genital secretions and none from other bodily fluids such as blood, saliva, anal waste and vomit. Of course once used the STI positive client has effectively ‘bought’ the suit since it can not be disinfected for use with another client so it will be saved in a virus proof storage bag for reuse if s/he can afford another encasement suit encounter.

A tea-bagging accident

A tea bagger wannabe; Estrogen, alcohol and the wrong anatomy

Tea bagging at Splash: One of the towel girls at Splash was helping a club member with his needs when there was a bizarre accident. The guy was into domination and one thing he enjoyed was to tea-bag his female partner. He had helped her into a zippered leather D-suit with hood – a catsuit with D-rings to restrain the wearer – and strapped her to a wide leather covered encounter table leaving only her arms free to pleasure him while he had his way with her. He had taken her twice vaginally and was tea bagging her while recycling to enter her anally when the accident occurred. The towel girl had a fellatio guard with her and asked if he wanted her to wear it and the client said no because he liked to feel his partner’s teeth on his testicles.

While he was positioned on the table squatting over her face – facing away from her - with his scrotum in her mouth she played with his testicles with her tongue. His stamina began to fade and he asked her to insert one of the medicated silicone butt plugs he had brought with him in his man bag and he handed her an individually wrapped pre-lubricated clear silicone butt plug. She said later that she didn’t really look at it closely and just stripped off the wrapper and had him lean forward as far as he could w/o coming out of her mouth. She spread his cheeks with one hand and pushed it in with the other. To prevent him slipping out of her mouth while she inserted his plug she had tightened her jaws on the soft folds of tissue of his scrotum and he had leaned forward enough that the skin was stretched tight and his little men were pushing against the backs of her front teeth. Her client asked her to make sure the plug was pushed in all the way so the sphincter notch would engage his anal sphincters and braced himself as she pushed it harder until she felt his sphincter pull the plug deeper as it gripped the notch. She gave it another push and felt a slight thump and didn’t think anything more about it.

Suddenly the client gasped and tried to stand up out of the squat and the frightened girl reflexively clamped her jaws tighter on his scrotum which was enough to throw him off balance and he fell off the table. Her head strapped to the table in the BDSM hood didn’t move nor did her jaws open. So when he fell off the table he castrated himself, though at that point it didn’t really matter. That’s because he had accidentally given her the wrong plug, one that had a syringe filled with very high grade cocaine and the last push on the head of the plug had emptied the syringe into his colon. Since he had snorted 2 lines of high quality snow just before they started their encounter he took a massive overdose and was dead shortly after he hit the floor. He also broke his neck when he landed on his head. The TG spit out his sack and screamed for help.

The accidents commercial aspect: If it hadn’t been for the coke they could have called 911 and reported the accident. The client, a single 33 y/o Canadian, had started his own import/export company selling erotic toys. He had been in town from Montreal attending a convention which had ended that day. Splash management made the best of the situation and had his things removed from his hotel room and checked him out electronically and he disappeared. He had used a credit card for services at Splash but the transaction isn’t processed until the client leaves. His charges were canceled so there is no record of him being at Splash and his rental was driven back to McCarran and parked in the long term lot.

The video of the encounter rather than being just another porn vid turned into a far more marketable product, a snuff video. Taryn has an agreement with Adolph to distribute videos taken at Splash and at The Well, his deep water training facility, so as soon as they clean up and master the video it should start distribution in Europe. The manipulation of his facial features to avoid recognition takes the most work and the TG’s features were hidden by the hood she wore so identity security is good. Members purchasing copies of the encounter will get the entire 48 minutes showing the TG being fucked vaginally and her being suited up in her leather D-suit as well as the Tea bagging portion and the insertion of the medicated butt plug and the fatal result. This should be a top selling snuff DVD.

A reader asked: “Are Jill-straps useful in female sports?” That question must have come from a man or perhaps a girl who has never played contact sports. A Jill-strap is a female pelvic protector, the female equivalent of a male’s athletic cup, and any woman who has had her clitoris mashed or twisted by getting a knee or foot in the groin knows the answer to that question is a resounding YES! Any girl curled into the fetal position crying and moaning in agony on a studio floor or a sports field after getting kicked in her unprotected crotch will never forget her pelvic protector again. That’s why it’s a bit chancy working with a new dance partner who may kick you if you are practicing w/o pelvic protection. That is one of the great things about a properly fitted Penetrator plug it provides maximum pelvic protection while being almost undetectable even when wearing a thong. A Penetrator is also fun to wear to a party if you aren’t into being finger fucked that night.