Female protective equipment

A student’s protective equipment for ballet-sex

The photo: A silicone Semina coil spring diaphragm mounted on an introducer to aid in its insertion and a pair of hard shanked Gaynor Minden pointes. Students wear both as gorgeous and effective protection for their cervix and toes during ballet-sex training.

Semina is effective and popular with teens: In my introductory sex-ed course, Contemporary Sexual Health, I use Semina diaphragms because they are effective as well as pretty (which makes very young women feel adult, attractive and confident) so a Semina is more likely to be used during surface-sex. The Semina with spermicide in the dome is a good non-hormonal option when young women reach menarche and begin to need protection for sexual intercourse as it will allow sex with unprotected men giving young women experience in coping with coital discharge.

Semina is manufactured and available primarily in Brazil. It is very difficult to get in the U.S. and it is only selectively available from private clinics in the UK. However, it can be worth the trouble for a student who needs encouragement, something that she thinks is pretty as well as adult and effective which can give her a boost in self confidence.

The diaphragm as an anterior fornix thrust-buffer: I’ve written about this before, but it bears repeating because for some of us it can be important. For a woman with a well endowed partner who can thrust painfully into her anterior fornix a traditional diaphragm can provide some thrust-buffering. I usually wear a latex Reflexions flat spring rim which is no longer commercially available or a custom fitted latex FS device made for me by my London Gyn clinic. In addition to thrust-buffering with my latex FS diaphragm I get a twofer! That’s because when I’m fully aroused so my cervix has been pulled up and back out of the way of an average length penis when Tiny Tim one of my magnificently endowed lovers enters me in missionary he can push the stretched latex membrane of the dome up into my anterior fornix. At the same time the pressure of the dome on the tip of my cervix forces my cervix deeper while the increasing pressure of the stretchy dome squeezes his glans as his thrusts push it deeper into my anterior fornix giving me an A-spot orgasm while buffering his thrusts by slowing or stopping them before he hits bottom while at the same time pulling the anterior rim far enough away from the back of my pubic bone to rub against my G-spot.  None of my friends using a diaphragm have had anything like the mind-fucking turns-me-to-jelly pleasure of a simultaneous two erogenous zone orgasms with a single contraceptive device.

Even when a woman can’t get the same over-the-top orgasmic pleasure I get from wearing a latex diaphragm women with well endowed lovers find peace of mind and increases her pleasure while using it as a thrust-buffer to prevent tearing the ligaments holding her uterus in place.

When a latex FS device is not available silicone diaphragms such as the Milex (Omniflex or Arcing rim) or Semina (coil spring), but not a Caya contoured diaphragm - because the Caya has a smaller diameter and deeper dome - work well for thrust-buffering. Of the silicone options I think a Milex arcing spring rim works best since with an Omniflex or Semina the coil spring rims are more flexible so tend to put less pressure on the tip of the cervix.

Even though the Reflexions flat spring diaphragm is no longer commercially available a Gyn clinic specializing in cervical barriers (like the Blackthorn Clinic in London) can have a latex FS device custom made. And because a latex FS rim device has better heat transfer properties and the flat spring rim is almost impossible to even intentionally under-thrust by a mischievous partner it is the preferred cervical barrier used by  latex fetish escorts and as a flood insurance device it can be used for dive-sex at any depth. The down side of a latex device is that it won’t last as long as a silicone one and can’t be used by couples with a latex allergy.

The pointe-shoe as a defensive weapon: Occasionally a dancer in pointe-shoes can find herself at a disadvantage with a male partner who won’t take no for an answer. It’s difficult to out run a man while you’re wearing pointes, but the hard blocks make ideal blunt force trauma weapons if you are willing to use them. A kick to the temple to fracture the skull and knock him out; A kick to the kneecap to crush the bones and make the knee fold to the side or back; or a flexed foot kick to the pelvis coming up under his penis to crush it against his pubic bone all can be effective, though a kick to the pelvis may not be effective if he is wearing a groin protector/sports cup. A dance belt won’t protect his genitals from a hard blow from below but a sports cup probably will.

However, I think it’s unlikely to find an amorous man wearing a groin protector in a dance setting, but dance belts are standard on performing males. I’ve found that crushing an attacker’s knee so he can’t chase me works best unless he has bent over so his skull is accessible with a sharp high kick with a pointed foot. Once his knee is shattered an attacker can’t stand and a knockout kick to his head is much easier.  For a woman with several years’ ballet training putting a foot into an attackers kneecap should be relatively easy as foot placement in space becomes second nature.

Tim is Returning to school: He is being posted to the Joint Services Command and Staff College (JSCSC) after he finishes his leave. It is located at Shrivenham in west Oxfordshire which is quite rural and rather near the eastern border of Wales. So perhaps if he can get an occasional day off we can fuck each others brains out for relaxation. In his case I’m all for doing what I can to keep up the morale of our military. Shrivenham is about 120 miles (a bit less than 3 hours in good weather) up the M50 to Caersws then another 1 ½ hours from there south west on the A470 toward Llanidloes and into the mountains to Blackthorn Castle.

Monday 30 May 2016 (Spring Bank Holiday): The Spring Bank Holiday is already underway and those who can took Friday off and made it a four day weekend. While Easter Term ends at Cambridge on 10 June and exams are rapidly approaching Bea came stay with me here at the castle for the long weekend and she brought a lover with her. Bryony and Claire (the Dryads) are with me as well as they are taking a break from their thesis research on member’s fetishes at my London fetish club (the Costume Club AKA Clever Cunts) on Holland Park Road since a great many members are off on holiday. They have brought male ballet dancers who can make the holiday just before the start of performances of The Winter’s Tale at the ROH. So Tim and I will not lack for marvelously compatible company.

An English Spring: The weather is what I’ve come to expect. At the Castle given its altitude midday temperatures are expected to be no higher than the high 50s (F) and rain is probable except perhaps on Sunday morning. But then the weather in London is forecast to be about the same with perhaps somewhat higher temps, but cloudy and rainy too. Ahhh, an English spring!

Ball-Girls and cock rings

Metal cock & ball rings on a cut and shaved man

This photo: A cut and shaved man fitted and aroused in a metal cock and ball ring set. It’s important that the man be shaved and experienced in wearing rings before graduating to this sort of C&B harness. He needs to understand and practice removal before attempting to use it in an encounter because ease and speed of removal can be crucial to his reproductive health when trying to wear the device for as long as possible. Wearing cock rings for too long an interval can cut off circulation causing irreversible tissue and nerve damage.

A double Magnum support Stainless steel/TPR cock ring as used by Brian

This Photo: Is from the Eden Fantasy on-line catalog. While it looks like something from the dark ages Brian has used it with me in missionary as a thrust-buffer and even as gentle as he is I found the soft TPR against my recently waxed mons pubis much more comfortable than our two pelvic bones slamming together when he’s planting his seed in me

Bea and cock rings: Since I recently fit Bea with her first 65mm Reflexions latex flat spring diaphragm she hasn’t had another private coaching session with Brian. During her next session (if there is one) she wants to try and take his full length w/o using a cock ring like the one pictured above which he wore - just around his penis – as a thrust-buffer to protect her cervix and pelvis from the power and length of his thrusts. His pubes are waxed so with a little lube and stretching the ring a bit he can easily slip it on and off.

She has been training with a suction mounted 2.5 inch diameter 9 inch long silicone dildo trying to stretch herself a few more mm. Perhaps if she takes him when fertile, while her cervix is ripe, soft, high and open, and if she is fully aroused and penetrated from the rear I might let her try. She would be at her deepest then and she is surprisingly deep for a woman her age and size. I remember my mentor in ballet school saying the same thing about me when I was her age. Then the difference was that all the diaphragms were latex and none of the large men who penetrated me used anything to buffer their thrusts even when I asked them to. Sometimes I had to psych myself to arousal so as not to have my cervix battered unmercifully and I got to be really good at it.

Ball-Girls: I mentioned in an earlier post that Bea is working part time at Fasteners, our BDSM boutique. She is a shop-assistant specializing in cock and ball hardware, a job known locally as a ‘Ball-Girl’. Unlike in baseball and tennis rather than chasing after stray balls a Ball-Girl at Fasteners fits men with cock and ball hardware, both for medical reasons, as ED appliances, as well as performance enhancing sex toys. She learned to fit men by working with me for the last seven months as I fit our male escort trainees with C&B hardware as part of their training in the proper use and safety of the devices. She is really good at it and even gets on well with the two full time Ball-Girls who have been overworked to the point they were unable to provide the level of service that Fasteners is known for. The full time girls can’t really complain as they work on salary not commission.

Client rapport: Right now because of her age Bea’s client base is limited to our male escorts and trainees a limitation which also provides her with significant STI protection because the men are routinely screened and while in training only have sex with female trainees or selected St Lucy’s ballet students. The personal dynamic with her as an expert fitter dealing with the same men who are otherwise fucking her brains out as part of their training is amazing to see. On the first visit the men are initially apprehensive about trusting the safety of their manhood to a gorgeous training partner, but in dealing with them she is professional and the men quickly see her as a knowledgeable, non-threatening, non-judgmental fitter. Not only that but she seems to hypnotize them like a mongoose does a cobra as the brain in the little head between their legs takes over and the guy is sitting there glassy eyed with her gently manipulating his genitals. Once she puts her gloved hands on him the client is completely pussy whipped and dreaming of a chance to shoot his wad in her belly during the test drive of his new C&B set after she finishes fitting him.

The fact is that Bea’s uniform as a Ball-Girl; a white lab coat the hem of which comes only to mid thigh, a thong panty, bare legs and white Gaynor Mindens with suede platforms and a white headband that holds her long glossy hair off her face while letting it cascade beautifully down her back, is intentionally provocative. Since she now works primarily with escort candidates and a few professional escorts her costume is intended as a test to see how well a trainee/client can control his ardor. Once a Ball-Girl puts her client at ease she discusses his needs and makes suggestions then helps him get into and out of some of the more elaborate harnesses as he tries them out. She is careful to explain that 20 minutes of continuous wearing is about as long as a fully erect man should try to wear a correctly fitting C&B set.

Bed-time: Another part of her job, with escort trainees and licensed escorts, is to partner with a client if he wants to try out the device he just bought and almost all of them want to try them out bareback with Bea. Of course contraceptive protection is mandatory, for a Ball-Girl, so her continuous wearing regimen for the Reflexions diaphragm with a 4% O9 DiveGel+ spermicide in the dome is serving her well. She’s having a lot more intimate encounters, which are recorded as ‘bed-time’ regardless of how or where she is taken, with the trainees than other St Lucy’s girls which is building up her stamina. I’m so pleased that I was able to place her as a Ball-Girl she’s perfect for the position! She loves helping her clients select equipment that makes them look and perform their best!