Showing posts with label menstruation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label menstruation. Show all posts

Monday, July 11, 2016

Bare down there: Nude pubes – the pluses and minuses


A full Brazilian (squeaky clean) waxing

The photo: The lovely and confidence building results of a full (squeaky clean) Brazilian waxing.

IPL hair removal: Intense Pulsed Light (IPL) laser permanent hair removal is not suitable for use on light blond, red and white/grey hair as darker colored hair absorbs the energy from the laser and is more quickly destroyed.  However, my thick bright red hair while not as easily removed by laser as darker colors was removed in nine sessions, one every six weeks, over the last year. If I was young and hadn’t been waxing it would have taken longer, but I’d been waxing for more than twenty years so there wasn’t a lot of hair left. Finally, all I have left now are my eyebrows and scalp hair!

The down-side of bare down there:  There can be a safety issue with pubic grooming at home. If not careful shaving can cause cuts requiring a visit to the ER and home waxing can cause burns also requiring a trip to the ER. Too, there is some research that shows that girls who haven’t reached puberty have more pelvic infections than after puberty when a thick bush can afford some protection. So removing pubic hair can increase the chance of pelvic infections.

Reasons for nude pubes: Growing up in a ballet boarding school I couldn’t wait for my first pair of pointe-shoes and my first pubic waxing, which occurred shortly after I reached menarche at fourteen. The school encouraged nude pubes since costumes fit better and leotards and tights displayed the mons pubis and cameltoe in greater detail. Some of the other reasons knowledgeable and sexually sophisticated women prefer hairless pubes are:  

  • It makes the woman look younger.
  • Ease of access to fondle the shaft of the clitoris.
  • Sports Plugs (vaginal plugs) seal much more securely if body adhesive is needed (if her post-pubic vault isn’t shaped to retain the plug) when the wearer has bare pubes to prevent being finger-fucked at parties.
  • It’s easier to clean up while menstrual, especially after menstrual sex and cunnilingus.
  • Hair doesn’t get caught in a partner’s teeth and the relief zippers of catsuits.
  • Greater comfort, poise and confidence gotten from knowing you look fabulous when displaying nude pubes under revealing clothing.

Latex Catsuits relief zippers: Nude pubes as a relief zipper plus was mentioned above, but I think it needs its own brief discussion because with tight relief zippers on properly sized, very tight, latex catsuits getting a relief zipper closed even when the wearer has a closely trimmed bush can be a challenge. I recommend some relief zipper training for my escort clients when fitted with one of Gepettos custom latex catsuits that are so tight that the zipper is between the labia forming a soft deep cameltoe. With one of those it is very difficult to get even a well waxed zipper fully closed w/o having hair caught in the zipper unless wearing a Sports Plug so nude pubes are highly recommended.  Of course a suit that tight can’t be worn comfortably by many of us but for those who can, like me, the zipper along the shaft of my clitoris is very arousing.

A Full Brazilian for hygiene: Hygiene is defined as: “Conditions or practices conducive to maintaining health and preventing disease, especially through cleanliness.” Well, ease of clean-up is certainly one aspect of having nude pubes though I agree with the doctors (in the links below) that grooming to hairless pubes isn’t really the primary reason that a high percentage young women and a much higher percentage of performers and escorts go bare down there for the reasons mentioned above. A recent New York Times article about shaving, waxing, or lasering pubic hair is at:

“Most Women Prefer to Go Bare, Citing Hygiene (and Baffling Doctors)” can be read HERE

In case readers hit a pay-wall at the NYT Links cited in the above article are:

“Pubic Hair Grooming Prevalence and Motivation Among Women in the United States” can be read HERE

“Pubic hair removal among women in the United States: prevalence, methods, and characteristics” can be read HERE:

“Vulvovaginal Health” article can be read HERE:

“Pubic hair grooming injuries presenting to U.S. emergency departments” article can be read HERE.


 
 
Major external anatomical parts of the female genitalia
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Thursday, June 26, 2014

SCUBA diving, menstruation and DCS


Emptying a Diva Cup menstrual cup

The photo: The Diva Cup comes in two sizes. Size 1 cup is 1 11/16" (4.3 cm) in diameter and the Size 2 cup is 1 13/16" (4.6 cm) in diameter. Both cups are approximately 2 1/4" (5.7 cm) in length in the body of the cup, with another 3/8" (1 cm) stem (2 5/8" total length). Until I bought my new Diva, just before we came to Scotland for the Solstice I was wearing a size one and it worked well. However, even I have to give in to age after a while so I decided on a size 2 as I’m now 43, but my vaginal muscles are far stronger than most twenty-something ballerinas known for their amazingly tight grips.

The Diva Cup should be emptied, washed and reinserted at least twice in 24 hours and can be worn overnight without concern of leaking and it can be safely boiled if necessary to clean it. Even on heavy days I can wear it for 12 hours w/o it needing to be emptied. DivaCup holds an ounce of menstrual flow (30 ml) and as the average woman only flows about 1 to 2 ounces (30-60 ml) per cycle so most of us can go longer than 12 hours w/o emptying if necessary.

Willow’s Royal Ballet friends and menstrual dive-sex: Since the Royal Ballet is off for a few weeks Willow asked four of her more sexually adventurous girlfriends from the corps and their boyfriends to come up to the Abbey for a few days of fun and relaxation and they arrived on the overnight train in Himself’s private car that had taken Jacks guests back to their jobs in London. The girls were so amazed at the luxury, blown away really since they got to have menstrual sex all the way from Euston to Inverness and despite a large supply of thick dark red towels provided for just that eventuality managed to get His Grace’s 1,000 thread count sheets bloody. All the girls are completely waxed with the exception of scalp hair and eyebrows which makes cleaning up after menstrual sex much easier.

Three of the four have GyneFix copper IUDs implanted and are menstrual while the fourth is on combined oral contraceptives (COCs) and started a new pack w/o having withdrawal bleed (her pill period) so she can dive period free during her time at the Abbey. The GyneFix girls are wearing menstrual cups.  All were fitted with latex Reflexions FS diaphragms for flood insurance to use while having dive-sex. It’s fairly unusual for ballet dancers to have copper IUDs placed because most enjoy being period free. However, some like Willow’s friends, find they are at a secondary libidinal peak while bleeding and are far moirĂ© creative when fertile so they feel the inconvenience of dealing with flow control is worth it to be able to enjoy the cycling of their natural hormones.

Menstruation, hormonal contraceptives and DCS: There is a correlation between increased instances of DCS and the first week of a woman’s cycle when she is menstrual especially if the woman is on strenuous long or deep dives. Less frequent or shorter less strenuous dives during her period reduce the chances of DCS significantly. There is no indication that using hormonal contraceptives increases a woman’s risk of a DCS incident.   I’m CD26 and luteal and shouldn’t start my period until this coming Friday when I expect Bea, Willow and the Swan Twins will begin to bleed as well since they are in menstrual synchrony with me.

Of course while diving menstrual flow usually stops because diving is very dehydrating since the pressure forces water out of body tissues and fills the bladder, which is why even when you empty your bladder before diving after you have been down for a while you need to urinate again. However, after surfacing menstrual flow begins again and then some of us will gush filling our menstrual protection (tampons) occasionally to over flowing which is why a menstrual cup or a diaphragm works so well as they can withstand the gush that may occur shortly after surfacing. .

EAN32: However, because Willow’s friends are bleeding and menstrual dive-sex will be strenuous for them we are all diving enriched air Nitrox (EAN) with 32% oxygen rather than the 21% oxygen in regular air to reduce the possibility of DCS incidents. In order to do that our Divemaster had to clean our regs and OTS Guardian FFMs to ensure they were safe for use with EAN32 as there is an increased risk of fire when using improperly cleaned masks and regs with high oxygen content gases. Our 80 cu ft tanks are filled from a large cylinder delivered from a dive specialty shop in Aberdeen that services the divers working in the North Sea oil fields.

Menstrual dive-sex and cramps: Almost all women who have tried having sex underwater while menstrual have reported feeling totally free of menstrual cramps after an underwater orgasm. It’s common knowledge that an orgasm during conventional (surface) sex has cramps relieving powers, but as underwater sex is thought to be kinky very little to no research has been done under dive conditions so we are left with our own and friends experiences which for the most part have been very positive as far as relieving menstrual cramps is concerned. I’m sure it’s the endorphins released during sex, especially orgasm that relax the muscles in the uterus.

Underwater: Before diving we all emptied our bowels and bladders and our partners (chosen by coin flips among all nine of us girls) got to watch as we each inserted our latex flat spring diaphragms and then had the lucky guy insert two fingers and feel the cervix under the stretchy rubber membrane. then we let him insert a 10ml disposable applicator of silicone based DiveGel+ - which is a lubricant and biocide - and depress the plunger to add waterproof lube for the moving parts. Then we entered the water. The guys loved ‘helping’ and it was a fun way to get them invested in our safety.

Diving the cistern for dive-sex each girl has one leg tethered to an ankle leash connected to an iron ring on the cistern floor and there is a ring set into the floor in the center of each bay. After being tethered her buoyancy comp is inflated to keep her more or less stable while her partner moves between her spread legs and after pushing aside her bikini thong caresses her clitoral shaft to give her her first underwater orgasm as she sucks gas her bubbles rush to the surface and she quivers, moans, mews and gasps in her mask. Then he pushes inside her and grasps her buns to hold himself as deep in her as possible as he begins a series of thrusts caressing her G-spot before her muscular orgiastic contractions tip her over the edge into ecstasy taking him shuddering and gasping with her filling her with hundreds of millions of sperm as his body tries again for immortality.

 


Tuesday, April 8, 2014

The red sea: sex during menstruation


Menstruation and a matching cashmere pashmina

Menstrual Synchrony: I’m CD3 and flowing heavily with a latex Reflexions inserted for flow control. My wards, Bea, Willow and the Swan Twins, Odette and Odile have been sweating enough with me during ballet classes we take together that their cycles have become synchronized with mine. Willow, was the last to sync in the past month as she was the latest addition to my brood of budding ballerinas. Returning readers will recall that they all have copper bead GyneFix IUDs implanted for contraception so they can enjoy sex and the hormonal swings of their natural cycles w/o having to worry about becoming pregnant.

Having our cycles in sync has its advantages and disadvantages. Disadvantages are that we all can get a bit short and crabby when menstrual and we have to watch that there is enough iron in our diets as women with copper IUDs can bleed more heavily than those who don’t. The advantages are that when we are all fertile together the energy, creativeness and our libidos peak and my girls are up for almost anything. For me a big advantage is that I can teach them together about menstrual sex (both ballet and dive-sex) while we are menstrual and not as each one became menstrual if her cycle wasn’t synched with mine.

Rim movement and leakage: Flexing of the rim of All-Flex and coil spring rims (Omniflex and Semina) and movement of the Reflexions flat spring due to a partner’s thrusts into the dome and our contractions during orgasm will cause a slight leakage of flow as the rim moves over the vaginal rugae, even for a diaphragm that has very strong suction in the dome. So a partner after withdrawal will be coated by a thin sheen of blood. I always like to suck that off his still erect penis and taste my flow and smell its scent which most menstrual sex lovers enjoy as well, I mean the scent and being immediately sucked off after ballet-sex.

FemCap during menstruation: Wearing FemCap while menstrual during surface-sex is not practical since the dome is so small that it will quickly fill with flow and dislodge. Wearing FemCap during dive-sex has a depth limitation of 20 to 30 feet due to the squeeze of water pressure on the dome. In addition wearing FemCap during menstrual dive-sex is questionable even at shallow depths since even though menstrual discharge is not flowing while in the water immediately after emerging a gush can dislodge the cap and spill a significant quantity of flow all over the wearer’s suit, legs and surroundings. You might be able to get away with wearing it on a very light day, but my advice is not to use FemCap at all while menstrual.

Menstrual ballet-sex: Ballet-sex as discussed here is defined as being penetrated from behind while sur les pointes a la seconde while bent over holding on to the barre. For menstrual ballet-sex where a diaphragm is used for flow control any rim style can be used. However, knowledgeable women prefer wearing Reflexions because it is nearly impossible to under-thrust the rim and during menstrual sex you really don’t want the dome contents to spill due to the rim being under-thrust. If you don’t mind the mess and wear old shoes that you don’t mind being stained then it’s usually quite safe for an STI free couple to go w/o contraception of any kind. The only caution is for women with very short cycles (there are a few) who become fertile before their periods are over. For those women a diaphragm and a good spermicide are always needed.

Pointe shoes for menstrual ballet-sex may differ in size from pointes worn for ballet-sex at other times during a woman’s cycle. The amount of foot swelling while menstrual can depend on her menstrual day and how long she has been on her feet which will determine if she needs to wear a larger size or remove some of the padding from the size she usually wears. If I’m wearing Gaynors I can usually just not wear toe pads and be comfortable enough. If I’m wearing Freed Classics I have to go up a half size and in Bloch Alpha I have to go up between a half and a full size and retain the padding in pointes made of traditional materials.

Menstrual dive-sex: Dive-sex as discussed here is defined as sex underwater using SCUBA equipment. However, the same cautions apply even if the couple is only in water up to their waists.  Dive-sex while menstrual is no different than when in other cycle phases as far as precautions that need to be taken in that a latex Reflexions flat spring should be worn for flood insurance. If one of the couple is allergic to latex then a Cooper Surgical silicon wide seal Milex arcing spring diaphragm should be used. That’s because with its two elbow hinges the Milex arcing spring is the next most difficult diaphragm to under-thrust. You should take a cramp relieving medication. 800 mg of ibuprofen usually does the trick for me when I have cramps which fortunately is seldom. Of course the best cramp relief is an orgasm so we all look forward to the first orgasms of the day when the red sea is flowing.

When menstrual and using a diaphragm for flow control a woman should always empty it and reinsert before entering the water for dive-sex and if wearing a style other than a Reflexions flat spring she should switch (unless there is an allergy to latex addressed above) to the Reflexions because it is the safest to use for flood control during underwater sex.  And underwater sex while menstrual can be the most dangerous from a pelvic health standpoint since the uterine lining is sloughing off and blood is flowing freely. That means if from a partner’s thrusting water or an air bubble is forced into the uterus while menstrual there is a greater chance for an infection or an air bubble getting into the bloodstream to cause clots in the lungs, heart or brain.

Water pressure will almost always stop menstrual flow while swimming or diving. However, after coming out of the water there can be a gush that if it’s on a heavy day and she’s been in the water a long time could overload the dome and spill.


Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Menstruation, lactation and toe pads


Diva Cup, a silicone menstrual cup


The photo: The photo is of a silicone Diva cup used to collect menstrual flow. It can be left in for up to 12 hours according to the manufacturer’s guidelines– depending on the woman’s rate of flow - though I have worn one continuously for 24 hours on my light days with no problem. I haven’t written much about wearing a Diva because for me it is a special use device. Returning readers know that I use a diaphragm for flow control and that works well for me even when I’m diving because I can have sex while it’s inserted. However, there are special circumstances, such as when I’m wearing a drysuit continuously for hours and hours during which using a Diva cup works extremely well since I can wear it all day w/o needing to empty it even though my flow is heavier when I dive.

While the manufacturer recommends a Model #2 for women my age I find wearing the smaller model 1 cup fits me better because my continuous training with Ben Wa balls and Kegel exercises keeps the grip of my ‘vaginal vice’ very strong. I always carry a Diva cup in my dive bag in case I find I need to wear a drysuit when I’m menstrual. Then it’s standard procedure to insert the Diva just after empting my bowels and bladder and before putting on an adult diaper and pulling on the thermal underwear worn under a drysuit. The adult diaper doesn’t allow the same form fitting look as when a wetsuit is worn, but the pants of a drysuit are baggy anyway and I’m not on the runway at Lincoln Center during Fashion Week in a drysuit so the extra bulk of the diaper for when I have to urinate isn’t that noticeable. And besides everyone I know wears a diaper when diving a drysuit.

The dimensions of the Diva cup: For anyone interested the Model 1 cup is 1 11/16" (~4.3 cm) in diameter and the Model 2 cup is 1 13/16" (~4.6 cm) in diameter. Both cups are approximately 2 1/4" (~5.7 cm) in length in the body of the cup, with another 3/8" (~1 cm) stem (2 5/8" total length). The stem may be trimmed to adjust for comfort. There is a small difference between the two sizes (Model 1 is 1/8" (~0.3 cm) smaller), but it is important to use the recommended sizing to prevent leakage. The manufacturer recommends Model 2 if the user is 30 or over 30 years old. As with a diaphragm once the Diva cup is properly inserted and positioned at the lower end of the vaginal vault it can’t be felt by the wearer. I’ve worn a Diva for 8 hours in a drysuit on one of my heaviest days and filled it with 20 ml of flow. It will hold up to 30 ml. Another nice thing about wearing a Diva cup is if a man is into drinking menstrual flow drinking it out of a Diva is easier than drinking it from a diaphragm since it fits his mouth better and is easier to compress to squeeze out the last few drops.

Diving and lactation: As I’ve mentioned when writing about lactating before, lactating is a high maintenance function. Extra pressure from wetsuits and/or tight bathing suits puts a lactating woman at greater risk for plugged milk ducts so there is breast maintenance, keeping my nipples and milk glands soft with a lanolin base cream to prevent clogging and the need to wear a front closure wet or dry suit so I can breastfeed or pump my breasts w/o taking the suit off. When diving, in addition to losing fluid when I’m menstrual and due to my milk production I also lose fluid from immersion dieresis - a type of increased urine production caused by immersion of the body in water (or equivalent liquid) which is mainly caused by lower temperature and by pressure - so I have to be very careful to stay well hydrated. And of course I need to breast feed or pump prior to diving and then every 4 to 6 hours to prevent considerable discomfort from engorged breasts, so I take my portable battery powered Medela breast pump when I go on diving day trips.

Toe pads as an aphrodisiac: In my AST (advanced sexual techniques) class I’m teaching tricks to keep a man fascinated. It’s the little unexpected things like letting him suck on your sweaty, smelly and sometimes bloody, toe pads that keeps a man coming back for more. We all frequently change toe pads when changing shoes so with a bit of planning we can take along several pairs of well used, stained and musky smelling pads that are ready to be trashed so when we give them to a lover to suck the sweat, tape residue, skin particles and blood out of them it’s a bonding experience with the guy at no cost to the woman.

I’ve switched to toe pads too when I want to feel semen squishing between my toes. I used to have the guy(s) jack-off in the blocks of my pointes but now that I’m wearing Gaynors when I’m planning to have sex en pointe it’s more convenient and – because Gaynors last so long - it leaves less mess in the blocks after the semen dries if I have the guy cum in my toe pads. That way I can slip my toes into them and get the full effect of the thick slippery fluid oozing between my toes before I force my toes and pads into the blocks of the Gaynors. Another nice thing about using the pads as semen containers is that when I give the cum pads to a lover to suck on he gets a more complete olfactory and gustatory experience. In addition to their feted scent there is the musky taste of semen along with the salty taste of estrogenic sweat, blood and skin particles… a sort of balanced meal as it were, with the trace nutrients and minerals from sperm.

Gigi has a client at Splash who is a ballet teacher at one of the local schools and he has her take his ‘class’ while wearing Freed Classics - which he paid for as a premium item - in one of the small studios at Splash. He requires her to wear old toe pads and sweat in them during their 45 minute pointe class. Then when she changes into Gaynors for ballet-sex he takes her sweat soaked pads to put in his gasmask so he can fuck her with the scent of her estrogenic sweat intermingled with the rubber scent of his mask. She says that for a German he is a considerate lover and gives her her pleasure first. She says he sounds like Darth Vader with his heavy breathing and muffled voice through his mask while much of the air flow is blocked by her sweat soaked pads.

I’ve had several severely sexually repressed men chew on my filthy toe pads when I peel them off when changing shoes. One of them is a high ranking business associate who I successfully negotiate with in the gaming industry. These men have socialized fairly well and are successful in the business world and in public with women they appear on the surface to be masculine and almost misogynistic. When with a woman in private however, they are extremely submissive though highly virile and potent and they need the scent and taste of a smelly sweat soaked toe pad to perform sexually. I always wear convertible tights over a thong bottom leo and take a pair of Gaynors and several pairs of well used toe pads when I’m dealing with one of them. It’s important to know an opponent’s weaknesses when you are in the business world.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Dracula for Halloween


Count Dracula and Flora

Dracula in Vegas: For Halloween we are presenting eight performances of Dracula in the various high-roller venues. It’s an occult holiday favorite that we are bringing back and hope to make it a tradition. The original three act ballet was created by Houston Ballet’s Ben Stevenson in 1997 to mark the 100th anniversary of Bram Stoker’s novel and with music by Franz Liszt has become a modern classic. I have had to shorten and reduce its scale appreciably to fit our performance venues and the attention span of my audience and rather than the quite chaste neck punctures by Dracula’s fangs I have substituted a more effective but no less dangerous way for a woman to be taken over to the dark-side.

Induced menstruation: In my version, instead of sucking blood from his female victim’s neck Dracula spellbinds her and then while giving her an orgasm during oral sex forces his saliva into her uterus where its anti-coagulant properties induce her period causing her to bleed heavily. In order for this to work properly in front of an audience the dancers in the role of Flora (Mina in the book) have to be cycling naturally so their periods will be relatively heavy. It also requires scheduling their periods so they are bleeding for the performance. I’m cycle day one (CD1) today and just starting my period so I will be in full flow by tomorrow night when I will dance Flora for the evening performance. For dancers whose cycles aren’t synched to mine we shift them a few days by having them take a regimen of Aygestin tablets containing 5 mg of the progestin norethisterone which delays their periods a few days until needed for their performances as Flora.

After each performance one or two fortunate members of the audiences come away with one of Flora’s break-away thongs soaked with her menstrual blood as a souvenir. I will use the first one of mine with the blood from a public performance in a spell that I will cast for Halloween. Readers of my 360 blog know that I am, at the very least, a ‘sensitive’ though my spells are (usually) of a benign nature. Unlike Christine O'Donnell I’m not running for public office so I don’t really care if people know I’m a witch. I don’t usually mention it in public because it tends to raise eyebrows and then people want me to do something to prove it and when I don’t they think I’m kidding or lying to them. But on Halloween and the Summer and Winter solstices the power of the old religions is very much alive, and in many places it is just below the surface of what is happening in ordinary peoples lives.

I will use my bloody thong as the wick in an ancient oil lamp that will be lit for the Halloween party I’m having at my place Sunday evening. As long as the blood on the thong is less than three days old the spell is quite potent. Blood from a virgin can be used for up to three weeks after her period with no loss in the spells potency. Burning the fragrant oil with a blood-soaked wick will ensure the party is a festive one.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

The Last Taboo


FLOW by Elissa Stein and Susan Kim

Published on Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com)
By Molly Castelloe, Ph.D.
Created Aug 3 2010

The Last Taboo: Menstruation and Body Literacy

"Many moons ago, Gloria Steinem wrote and article "If Men Could Menstruate," which I excerpt here:

"So what would happen if suddenly, magically, men could menstruate and women could not? Clearly, menstruation would become an enviable, worthy, masculine event... Generals, right-wing politicians, and religious fundamentalists would cite menstruation ('men-struation') as proof that only men could serve God and country in combat ("You have to give blood to take blood"), occupy high political office ("Can women be properly fierce without a monthly cycle governed by the planet Mars?")... Street guys would invent slang ("He's a three-pad man") and "give fives" on the corner with some exchange like, "Man you lookin' good!" "Yeah, man, I'm on the rag!"... Lesbians would be said to fear blood and therefore life itself, though all they needed was a good menstruating man."

Gloria, you got to love her! She knows how to transform people and perspectives. Switching gender roles shows us how we create fictions around the subject of a bleeding uterus. What we take as objective or value-free (menstruation- shh, just clean it up!) is really man-made meaning. The riff above gives us a glimpse into how sexual difference is socially constructed. In other words, it shows the show.

I've enjoyed reading Regina Barreca's lively rejoinder to Satoshi Kanazawa's "Why modern feminism is illogical, unnecessary, and evil." Yet clearly the evil among us is menstruation. Or rather, how we think about it.

Contrary to what Kanazawa says, feminism (a multi-vocal movement) does not claim "men and women are on the whole identical." Feminism does, however, strive to illuminate how social and historical conditions make men and women seem more different than they are. For instance, Third Wave feminists of today detach menstruation from the gendered body. They reach out to transsexed people (Male-Females do menstruate) and acknowledge that not all women have a period (post-menopausal females do not). Of late, these plucky feminists have also been toying with the notion of menstrual taboos.

Social taboos against women's monthly have been common throughout history. Pagan Greek and Roman cultures believed that contact with women during menses withered crops and soured wine, dimmed the sheen of mirrors and dulled blades of steel. Leviticus, from the Old Testament, warns that during flow women are not only ritually "unclean," but in danger of contaminating others. Some theologians claim that the Christian perpetuation of these beliefs has fueled the case against women as priests in the Catholic Church.

Cultures often construct fantasies of danger and power around the body's orifices. These vulnerable, penetrating spots reveal our interiority. They are the places where we take things in (food, air) and put things out (words, blood, children, excrement). These are sites of terror and pleasure -- and intense myth making.

Elissa Stein and Susan Kim, authors of the book Flow (2009), argue menstruation is "hidden in a figurative box (scented, of course), stuffed deep inside the great medicine cabinet of American culture: out of sight and unmentioned." They claim this kind of silence is a matter of deep-rooted shame regarding the female body rather than an act of modesty or conversational etiquette. Secrecy is a familiar trope in the advertising for sanitary products. Pad and tampon ads avoid direct allusion to blood by pouring blue liquid on the hygienic napkin to demonstrate how it absorbs.

If men could menstruate, newspapers, TV, and online sources would treat the subject more openly. We have only to recall the media coverage of Uta Pippig's 1996 Boston Marathon victory to see the difficulty in dealing directly with the subject. Pippig spent most of 26.2 miles plagued by menstrual blood, cramps and a live camera feed. While the German runner, who finished first in the women's division, stopped several times to clean menstrual blood off her legs, commentators stumbled over their well-versed tongues: many halted at the euphemistic "physical problems" or "stomach pain." Boston Globe columnist Eileen McNamara sparked further controversy by remarking on the media's failure to address the incident in a straight-forward manner.

There is even more mystery shrouding flow for low-income minorities. A 2007 study "Nobody told me nothing," interviews seventeen African American women from a public housing project to find they have few reliable sources for learning about menstruation among their schools, their mothers, and female friends. According to the data, avoidance of the subject led to confusion and negative attitudes toward all menstrual-related events throughout a women's life. This is of special note, the study adds, since minority women in the U.S. face more menstrual problems than white women.

Women's periods are an astounding problem in developing nations, too, where annually girls miss on average 50 days of school and work due to fear of disgrace. According to children's rights activists Marc and Craig Kielburger:

"Three days a month, Annalita is too embarrassed to go to school. The Rwandan teen, like millions of her peers worldwide, is menstruating. Her family can't afford sanitary pads, so Annalita makes do with what few materials she can find including rags, bark and mud. But these makeshift pads are usually ineffective. Rather than focusing on her studies, Annalita spends her day anxious about a potential accident in front of her classmates."


It is this kind of message - the ominous threat of leakage - that multinational companies like Tampax bank on in some of their ads. Here's one from Seventeen (2004) that lays in on thick. It bodes of a shark attack with the caption "A Leak Can Attract Unwanted Attention."

Stigma surrounding menstruation tells women there is something wrong with their bodies. It fosters shame, self-loathing, and a bad self-image. Many women internalize this attitude, learning to hate their bodies. In the West, they spend extravagant time and money trying to "improve" them, medicate them, aromatize them. You may even see ads for these kinds of products in the margins of this page.

In her book, "New Blood: Third Wave Feminism and the Politics of Menstruation" (2010), Chris Bobel argues that when women can't talk openly about "leaky, messy, authentic bodies" they become vulnerable to pharmaceutical companies, like the makers of Lybrel -- the first extended-cycle oral contraceptive that eliminates menstruation altogether. Bobel claims these corporations exploit women's discomfort through the cleverly packaged idea of freedom from the body. As she puts it, these pills "promote liberation (get it? Lybrel/Liberty?) from our unruly, messy, uncooperative bodies that get in the way." Instead, Bobel encourages "body literacy" with regard to women's cycling. That means "you decide how you feel about your period - not tampon manufacturers, not your 5th grade health teacher, not your Mom, not pharmaceutical companies - you."

In Rwanda, inadequate information and hygiene has spawned a new market-based program that generates support for affordable, eco-friendly sanitary products. In conjunction with MIT, Sustainable Health Enterprises creates a sanitary pad made of banana fibers -- a material abundant in the landlocked African country. The product can be sold at 30% less cost than international brands and made locally by Rwandan women with microfinance loans.”

Personal comment: After it was explained to me (in student health class) what was going to happen I began to look forward to when I would be old enough to get my period. I’m fortunate that my periods are almost painless and when I began cycling (I was 14 and in ballet school where the training almost certainly delayed menarche for me by at least two years) my cycles stabilized and became regular within a few months so I have had no real menstrual problems. I do realize that I’m fortunate and that some women and girls have terrible periods so painful and heavy that they are immobilized and need hormones to moderate the symptoms. I think one of the major advantages of using the Mirena IUD which releases the progestin levonorgestrel or the single rod implant Implanon which releases the progestin etonogestrel is that for women who have menstrual problems these devices can minimize or eliminate most of the symptoms for many users.

A word about Lybrel: It can take a long time for the body to adjust to Lybrel (365 active pills) and other extended cycle birth control pills such as Seasonale and Seasonique (84 active pills each). For a significant percentage of extended cycle pill users irregular bleeding is a common side effect for up to nine months after starting those pills. Many women who switched to extended cycle pills to be ‘period-free’ find they can’t stand not knowing when they will start to bleed and switch back to a 28 day pill cycle again.

Menstruating women and shark attacks: I think the probability of being attacked is no greater while a woman is on her period than off. The National Association of Rescue Divers: http://www.rescuediver.org/rescue-tech/sharks.htm says this about menstruation and shark attacks:

“Shark bites occur more frequently in murky water. They are attracted by lights, noise, or splashing, and smell. For theses reasons surface swimming should be kept to a minimum, in shark waters. Research shows that bright colors attract sharks more than dark objects, so it is better for divers to wear dark colors. Blood in the water can attract sharks from long distances. They can sense blood in the water in concentrations as little as 4 parts per million. Bleeding into the water by a diver or swimmer may not go unnoticed. Women who are menstruating are recommended to wear tampons. As to any evidence that the menstrual cycle can increase the hazard of shark attack is inconclusive. It is believed that sharks are only attracted by fresh blood.”

And this from Florida Museum of Natural History, University of Florida: http://www.flmnh.ufl.edu/fish/sharks/isaf/mens.htm about shark attacks and menstruating women, which says in part: “Don't worry about it. Lots of women safely dive while menstruating. Although we haven't got solid scientific data on the subject, so far we haven't seen any obvious pattern of increased attacks on menstruating women.”

I wouldn’t go swimming without wearing a menstrual flow control device of some sort, a tampon, diaphragm or menstrual cup mainly for hygienic purposes, but scaring menstruating women out of the water because they may attract sharks is pretty far fetched. It has more to do with the colors of clothing the clarity of the water and the amount of splashing a swimmer is doing. I’ve been swimming around sharks in the coves of Virgin Gorda when I’m flowing and haven’t had any problems. Now dolphins are a different story entirely. Males dolphins have initiated sexual encounters with me when I’m fertile as well as menstrual. Perhaps they can sense that my secondary libidinal peak is when I’m menstrual. You think?

I think having my period is a reaffirmation of my femininity, my ability to bring new life into the world and a sign that my reproductive cycle is functioning normally. I try to teach my students that their periods are to be cherished and used for pleasure and should not be a cause for sequestering themselves while auntie Flo is visiting.

Monday, July 27, 2009

Cycling, diving & protection


The purge button works, just be careful how it’s used!


The menstrual cycle and diving: As this is written I’m cycle day 25 (CD25) and in my luteal phase. I will get my period this coming Friday after a normal and very regular 28 day menstrual cycle. Dive-sex is great fun, but for a woman it takes a little extra care. When diving a cervical barrier of some sort, known in the trade as a ‘sports shield’ is a must for upper reproductive tract protection if there is any possibility that the woman could be involved in any sort of penetrative sex. That’s because (as returning readers know) there is a possibility of pelvic infection from having pool water forced into her uterus by the hydraulics of his thrusts or a life threatening embolism if a man or woman gets creative and s/he decides to fill his or her partner’s vagina with compressed air by hitting the purge button on a single hose regulator. Some regulator mouth pieces work better than others for doing that, but I’m not going to be an enabler by telling you which ones they are.

For women cycling naturally and in need of contraception condoms don’t work under water as they almost always come off. Either the guy pulls out of it or he leaves it wadded up inside her where they have to fish it out later. Fishing it out can be fun, but if the condom was being used for birth control the woman could end up being both literally and figuratively fucked! If she’s just diving typical swimming pools that aren’t more than 15 feet deep she can use a diaphragm both for contraception and as a sports shield for upper repro tract protection. But diaphragms are only effective protection when diving no deeper than 10 meters. That’s because the hollow steel spring rim begins to distort from the water pressure below that depth and the distorted rim will cause the seal to fail allowing sperm, water and air to get into the uterus. So, below 10 meters the only safe barrier to use is a properly fitted cervical cap of one sort or another. The only cervical barrier generally available in the U.S. right now is FemCap www.femcap.com. Our clinic fits a lot of FemCaps which most women can wear and with the removal strap trimmed off are more comfortable to use. For really dedicated professional women who need the smallest and best barrier protection possible Oves is available. But a woman’s cervix has to be perfectly smooth and symmetrical for Oves to develop suction properly so a high percentage of women who want Oves shouldn’t be fitted with one. Any unintended pregnancies while using Oves are almost always due to the user being a poor candidate for the device. However, a cervical cap should not be worn while menstrual because the small dome can fill with flow and dislodge compromising the woman’s protection.

Diving while menstrual: Dive-sex while menstrual should be limited to depths above ten meters. That’s because a diaphragm must be used as a sports shield to collect the flow in the much larger dome and as I mentioned above diaphragms are only effective to a depth of ten meters. Not that there is much likelihood of sex below that depth around here. Other than my 64 foot deep pool, the pit, the only other place nearby is Lake Mead which is plenty deep in spots but the visibility at that depth is extremely poor and there is often a lot of particulate matter in the water which can cause friction problems even when using plenty of Dive-Gel. To minimize the likelihood of menstrual cramps a diver can take 800 mg of ibuprofen an hour before diving. Of course if she has disabling cramps she shouldn’t dive at all while menstrual. Unlike urine menstrual flow seems to slow while under water but will release with a gush after reaching the surface.

There is an exception to the ten meter rule for dive-sex while menstrual. That is if the woman has been fitted with an IUD. Then, since contraception is assured by the IUD she can wear a cap for short duration dives where the dome hasn’t time to fill and dislodge. When the diver reaches the surface and no longer requires over-pressure protection she can remove the cap and reinsert a diaphragm or Diva cup for flow control.

Diva Cups: A brand of silicone menstrual cup that can collect flow for up to twelve hours is called Diva Cup, www.divacup.com . There are others but Diva is very popular and worn by most of my friends when they have no plans to have sex. It dives well but of course you can’t have sex with a menstrual cup inserted and removing it leaves the woman totally unprotected. Because my partners and I are so spontaneous when I’m menstrual I’ll wear a Cooper Surgical Milex wide seal diaphragm. A Milex wide seal has a slightly deeper dome that takes longer to fill and the wide flange around the inner lip of the rim creates a stronger seal so that a thrusting penis is less likely to cause it to lose suction. With a Milex inserted I’m ready when he is, ‘when the moment is right’ as the Cialis commercials say.

Divers and urination: All divers regardless of sex urinate in their dive gear, swimsuits, wetsuits, drysuits or whatever. That’s because the additional pressure compresses body tissue forcing more fluid out and through the kidneys that is excreted as urine. Women seem to be a bit more troubled by this because, generally, we are shyer about bodily functions. But when you are intimate enough with a man to be having sex what is there to be shy about when you have to pee? Any woman who has tried having sex with a full bladder knows how miserable that is, so when diving I always pee when ever I feel the need. In the case of the video crew in the pit where there are sometimes eight women were on the bottom during videoing we have an area in a far corner over a drain where we go to pee and the pumps sucked the urine clouds into the filters almost instantaneously. That way we don’t have to have to break the flow of work. The sexes are pretty much even in having to deal with the urination problem except for drysuits. Men in drysuits have an optional device that fits over the penis to collect their urine. With women the only collection options are to be catheterized or wear a diaper neither is particularly appealing but the other option of urinating in your thong and splashing around with pee in your booties is seldom chosen. There can be the possibility of bladder infections from catheters and you need someone trained to insert them under sterile conditions so the option of choice for women in drysuits is to wear an adult diaper. Because diving is so dehydrating, all divers should stay well hydrated with sports drinks to replace nutrients squeezed out by water pressure.

Diving while fertile: Most women usually know when they are fertile. That’s because when we are fertile our estrogen peaks and we are far more easily aroused, often more creative and we are draining fertile cervical fluid that wets our thongs. Our fertile interval is the few days – as many as 10-12 for some women – each cycle during which we can become pregnant and so to avoid conceiving we need the best possible method of contraception. For some that’s an IUD. The GyneFix IUD implant is especially effective and nearly impossible to expel, which is why it’s the fave IUD for use by teens at St Lucy’s and for our casino performers. For others, like me, the method of choice is a cervical barrier. In my case my primary method is an Oves cap. I’ve been wearing Oves for the last seven years (I’m on my 90th cycle being protected by Oves) and haven’t had a single pregnancy scare so I’m certain that I have an amazingly effective fit. However, there may be times I don’t know the size of the man’s genital equipment ahead of time and want to protect against a man who might be much too large for me. In that case I will ‘double bag’ and wear a large strapless FemCap as a thrust buffer over my Oves to provide some protection if he is too long. If I’m unsure I’ll wear a FemCap just in case.

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