Menstrual ballet-sex

Spoiled and oiled, a dancer in a French-leg one-piece gropesuit

The photo: This olive nylon/spandex gropesuit providing easy access to the vagina from the front for removal of a menstrual cup can be worn for private pointe class when there is likely to be after class menstrual ballet-sex with a teacher who enjoys very bloody sex.

Suit design limits entry options: The crotch snugly grips the mons pubis and vulva and is stretchy enough to cover the head of a sports plug when inserted. I mention very bloody sex because with the modified back of this suit rear entry is not possible while it is being worn and rear entry menstrual sex would be far less messy for the man.

With front entry for ballet-sex the women is usually up against a wall or the mirrors in the studio - I like being backed against or held against a mirrored wall as it is far easier to clean the coital discharge off glass than a plaster or cement wall - or he has her with her legs around his waist, his hands clutching her butt cheeks and their pelvises pressed tightly together where she can continuously bleed on him as he thrusts into her. 

For partying I sometimes wear this style as it is form flattering and makes my legs look even longer while being relatively easy to breast feed in if a lover wants to milk me by just slipping out of the shoulder straps and peeling down the top. Missionary sex is fine when I’m not bleeding and I have a cervical barrier inserted for protection, but I don’t wear it for menstrual sex. However, it is ideal for having a lover use a vibi on my clit.

Fertility and the gropesuit: This topic came to mind as I’m CD7 and my menses for this cycle are over so I’m looking forward to the hormonal high of being fertile for a few days starting this weekend. During the fertile hormone surge many of us aren’t looking for Mr. right, we’re looking for Mr. right now! Women who are cycling naturally (like me) often choose provocative attire when we are fertile. I enjoy wearing salaciously cut gropesuits in swimwear, latex catsuits or in more vanilla surroundings push-up bras.

When fertile we are far more apt to be too adventuresome and initiate or agree to sexual encounters with dangerous men. Not criminally dangerous, but socially dangerous meaning those with a history of causing unintended impregnation of casual sex partners who think their contraceptive protection is adequate. But women on a hormonal high with a testosterone scented man in her arms often feels she is invincible and besides if she thinks her birth control might have failed there is always the emergency contraceptive ella or ellaOne, a 30mg tablet of ulipristal acetate, soon to be available in the UK w/o an Rx.  

Shoes for menstrual ballet-sex: I always wear a pair of old but survivable hard shanked Gaynor Minden pointes for menstrual ballet sex as there is almost no chance of keeping them free of splatters of menstrual discharge when no diaphragm is being worn for flow control. Afterward I let them dry, brush off the crusty blood splatters and coat the stained pink satin with flesh colored pink pancake makeup to cover the stains and studio/stage grime.

The menstrual cup during menstrual ballet-sex: For a woman wearing the gropesuit pictured at the top of this post a male partner who enjoys the taste of his partner’s menstrual discharge can pull the crotch covering fabric to one side and carefully insert two fingers to break the seal of her cup then carefully remove it and drink the contents clots and all before inserting the emptied cup in her cleavage for safekeeping where he can enjoy the scent of her flow rising from the still bloody cup, or he can place the cup in her mouth as a gag of sorts while he soothes her cramps with deep thrusting front entry penile stimulation of her g-spot to orgasm.

I don’t mind swallowing a partner’s semen, actually I rather enjoy thinking about digesting the hundreds of millions of live sperm that if placed in me through another body opening could cause me to become pregnant. However, I have tasted my own menstrual flow and I’d rather not do so as part of a menstrual sex encounter.  I prefer having the empty but still bloody cup pushed down my cleavage where he can smell the scent as he thrusts into me.

Max-headroom girls: There are a few of us small women, defined here as a height of 5’5” and below, who have vagina’s deep enough to take an 80mm or larger latex diaphragm. The escorts in this category are coming to be known as ‘Max-headroom’ girls – the nickname of their trainer - who is marvelously endowed. The Max headroom girls are in increasingly demand with rubber fetishists to the extent that there aren’t enough fully trained Max-headroom ballet escorts to cover the demand. 

   

Effectiveness tests for users of hormonal contraceptives: I urge women who I am training as escorts to have a copper IUD, preferably a stringless GyneFix, inserted – they are so much easier to get here in the UK - if they don’t mind the sometimes heavier flow during menses. That way they can experience the hormonal swings of their natural cycles such as the peak in libido felt while fertile and offer menstrual sex as an option for clients. However we do offer Lab tests to check the effectiveness of hormonal methods as well as standard pregnancy tests. The tests for progesterone and hCG levels are routinely given for the escorts safety.

An hCG urine test is given by the clinician to test for pregnancy and a PSGN progesterone saliva test is given to check for a clinical efficacy level of PSHN to assure that a woman on hormonal birth control is effectively protected by suppression of ovulation. We have found the occasionally a woman on HBC will be taking supplements or meds that decrease the effectiveness of the hormonal birth control she is using or that a mischievous partner has intentionally given her something that binds to her progestin receptors making her birth control ineffective.

Will, April and dive-sex: April called to let me know how SCUBA sex had gone with Willamina in her home pool in Chelsea. April hasn’t passed her open water SCUBA certification yet, but she says it’s a matter of scheduling around her ballet performances. However, she is diving with her Milex Arcing spring diaphragm inserted wearing an OTS Guardian FFM and soloing with a dildo while fastened to the bottom of the pool with a very short ankle leash; or taken from behind by Will wearing 2 inch diameter 10 inch long silicone strap-on. I’ve warned both Will and April that 10 inches is far too long to be safely used on April, but both say that spacer rings are being used and gradually removed as they try for maximum depth w/o harm to April. I hope they are careful as both want April to bear a child later in their relationship.

Lesbian sex, masturbation and the contraceptive diaphragm

Grishko Ulanova I pointes and Milex arcing spring diaphragm folded for insertion

The Photo: A Milex arcing spring diaphragm folded for insertion. Unlike the Ortho All-Flex arcing spring rim the Milex arcing spring has two elbow hinges that must be folded by griping the rim at two specific spots.

Masturbation and the diaphragm: Masturbation: The excitation of one's own or another's genital organs, usually to orgasm, by manual contact or means other than sexual intercourse. (The American Heritage® Stedman's Medical Dictionary) In some masturbation situations a diaphragm can act as an upper reproductive tract protection device.

Veronika’s friends: Returning readers will remember Veronika is Alexi’s daughter, and my first ‘pelvic protégé’ in the UK, who dances with a major international ballet Co located here in London. I am currently schooling her in the pelvic skills needed for success as a ballet escort. She is friends with a gorgeous 22 y/o soloist (I’ll call her April) with a lovely Balanchine body who is a heart-breaker for the straight men in the company because of her looks and the fact that she is a femme lesbian with a butch partner (who I’ll call Willamina or Will) who owns her own cosmetics company. They met at a party for major ballet donors and April said it was love at first sight for her.

April taking SCUBA lessons: Will has an indoor heated pool at her place in Chelsea where she is having April take SCUBA lessons and will eventually graduate to a OTS Guardian FFM for dive-sex.                      

Veronika referred the couple to our clinic because they want to try underwater penetrative sex with a strap-on and dildo and need diaphragms for ‘flood insurance’ to minimize the possibility of PID as April wants to become pregnant and have a baby when her career ends. Will is in her late 30s tall and slim with lovely legs, muscular shoulders and just the right amount of androgyny to be an extremely striking woman. Will and April make a gorgeous couple and turn heads wherever they go.

The Milex Arcing spring for use by lesbians: Both Will and April had our clinic’s standard baseline full pelvic workups and full panel STI tests and hCG tests came back negative. Neither Will nor April had been using contraceptives of any kind – other than condoms to sheathe penetrative toys to protect against STI transmission - as they don’t have sex with men. Both have had the full series of three Gardasil shots even though Will is outside the recommended age bracket since even though they are monogamous getting an STI from lesbian sex is a possibility and rape is too for women in sexually adventuresome lifestyles and additional vaccine coverage can’t hurt. 

I fitted Both Will and April with Milex Arcing spring diaphragms to be worn ‘dry’ (w/o spermicide) for ‘flood insurance’ since while April will generally be the one penetrated Will wanted to be fitted so she too can experience using a strap-on or dildo underwater. Returning readers will recall that the vagina will often flood during underwater penetrative sex depending on the position of the vagina while being thrust into. So just as with a penis the hydraulic pressure created by thrusting a tight fitting strap-on or dildo into a flooded vagina could force water through an unprotected cervix into the woman’s uterus causing PID and possibly infertility. Additionally the dome of a diaphragm provides some thrust buffering should the partner wielding the strap-on or dildo lack skill in thrusting into her partner.

Hence the need for a lesbian who anticipates underwater penetrative sex to have her cervix protected. The Milex arcing spring is the best choice since there will be little likelihood of the rim being under-thrust and no tactile penis diaphragm interaction and the stiffer silicone dome is more rugged and better suited to take thrusts from hard sex toys like strap-ons and dildos than is the stretchy latex dome of a Reflexions.

Both Will and April were very excited about being fitted with Milex arcing spring diaphragms and I gave them both an opportunity to practice insertion and removal so they can check that the dome is covering the cervix and cautioned to indert before arousal as when aroused the vagina tents, lengthens, and makes proper insertion to cover the cervix difficult and sometimes impossible.

Lesbians, a niche market for Milex diaphragms: I’m thinking that since Will is very active in the Lesbian community a trend setter and an early adopter of social trends our clinic may see an increase in Milex fittings among lesbians as followers want to participate in the latest trend in sexual protection. While very few lesbian couples have access to a pool for SCUBA sex many do have access to hot tubs in which the vagina can flood during penetrative sex

As with my Lesbian friends I also use a Milex Arcing spring - it has the same spring strength as the Reflexions flat spring - as upper reproductive tract protection when a man is not available and I crave sex in a hostile environment and dive solo to masturbate underwater with a dildo (well lubed with DiveGel+) in my pool in the basement of Blackthorn house. The dive pool is about sixteen feet deep and I hold myself on the bottom with a Velcro closure ankle leash. Stimulating myself to orgasm while sucking gas can be awesome when I’m urgently in need of kinky release!

British Summer Time: In the UK the clocks go forward 1 hour at 1am on the last Sunday in March, (3-29) and back 1 hour at 2am on the last Sunday in October, (10-25). The period when the clocks are 1 hour ahead is called British Summer Time (BST). There's more daylight in the evenings and less in the mornings (sometimes called Daylight Saving Time).

Gasmasks and pregnancy while on the pill

U.S. gasmask MCU 2P with filter canister

What goes around comes around: There are three grad students in the Cosplay group at UNLV that have been giving Taryn’s friend a really hard time because she is using a Reflexions latex diaphragm for contraception. They think that is so old fashioned and she has found her contraceptive supplies tampered with since the three Harpies have been on her case. Things like fresh tubes of spermicide being replaced with tubes long out of date and once she found the dome of an old diaphragm had three pin hole punctures in it. So she knows she is the target of malicious tricks. And the women haven’t been shy about teasing her about being careful when having sex with her BF or she may find herself carrying his child.

The Harpies are all girls from wealthy very conservative Catholic families who have gone wild since they got on the pill and away from home. I’m not saying that it’s a bad thing for a woman to enjoy her body and the effect it can have on men when used provocatively before she settles down, but at the same time the three have high profiles in the Right-to-life group on campus. And this is while they are fucking a large percentage of the male undergrads so you would think they would take more care with their own birth control choices. The three are all on Yaz the 24/4 dosing regimen pill from Beyer that uses the long half-life progestin drospirenone. Each of the 24 active pills has: 3mg of drospirenone and 20mcg of the estrogen ethinyl estradiol and there are 4 placebo pills. Yaz is a good pill (it is 99% effective if taken correctly) but taking dietary supplements that increase your metabolism or taking an antibiotic or seizure meds can decrease the effectiveness as can vomiting within 4 hours of taking your pill. So there are things a user of oral contraceptives needs to be careful about if she is serious about trying to avoid an unplanned pregnancy.

Taryn’s friend was very upset and came to me about six weeks ago to vent and for support. She was hoping there was some way to get back at the Harpies to let them know how serious it is to tamper with someone’s birth control. I think if I was as opposed to abortion as they say they are and was living the lifestyle they are, I’d consider using a Long-acting reversible contraceptive (LARC) like a ParaGard (copper) IUD that is effective for more than 10 years. Or, the Mirena IUS that continuously releases a tiny amount of the progestin Levonorgestrel and is effective for 5 years. Or Implanon the single rod implant that releases the progestin etonogestrel and which is effective for three years. But then I’m fucking as many men as they are and using cervical barriers to protect myself which (theoretically) aren’t nearly as effective as the pill so I don’t suppose I have room to be too critical.

The Cosplay group’s latest fad is gasmasks and the masks are a good fit – fetish wise - since most of the group is also into rubber as fetishwear and in the last several months the Harpies have been seen regularly at one of the up-market rubber clubs in the valley. They are easy to spot because the three of them are always together and they all bought the same style gasmask the U.S. MCU 2P with a ballistic polymer lens and oral nasal unit that has the standard 40 mm NATO canister fitting. And filter canisters are readily available if they decide to wear them into hazardous environments, but none of them have ever been anywhere more dangerous than a fetish club ladies bathroom.

The Fertility Project: When Taryn’s friend was telling me about her birth control supplies being tampered with and being verbally harassed by the Harpies I thought of a project that Jeff’s research labs had worked on for the government. They were looking for a way to compromise the effectiveness of female fighters whether they are irregular (guerrilla) fighters or in the uniformed services of opposing forces. Labia Labs developed an odorless colorless liquid that carries a powerful selective progesterone receptor modulator that binds the human progesterone receptor and prevents progesterone from occupying its receptor. Dispensed in an aerosol it enters the woman’s body through her nose and eyes and immediately almost 100% of the steroid is absorbed through the mucus membranes into her bloodstream. Jeff’s chemists also added a trace chemical that stimulates the production of a woman’s natural testosterone in her ovaries which makes her libido spike at the same time her hormonal contraceptive protection becomes useless.

This modified steroid delivered in an aerosol was tested in two clinical trials in Thailand (as a morning after drug) and found to be extremely effective for women on hormonal contraceptives - who were non compliant in taking their pills - in blocking conception from unprotected sex occurring up to five days before the drug was administered. However, two days after being exposed to the drug laden aerosol the long term blocking of the progestin receptors made the women’s hormonal birth control totally ineffective and the pregnancy rate was 53% for women protected by hormonal contraceptives during the remainder of their cycles. That is a huge pregnancy rate for a single menstrual cycle for mixed age group!

Therefore, two days after being exposed to the aerosol only a copper IUD or a reliable barrier method of contraception will be effective with subsequent acts of intercourse that occur in that same menstrual cycle. The government decided that causing enemy women fighters to become pregnant wasn’t what they had in mind (because it didn’t work fast enough) so the project was cancelled and it left the labs with a supply of the progestin blocking steroid that had been intended for another clinical trial.

Bridesmaid’s gifts: It wasn’t difficult to get Jeff to make up a dozen vials of the steroidal fertility drug for me in small gasmask lens anti-fogging atomizer capped dispensers, the sort you see in up-market fetish club ladies bathrooms. I told him they were to be gag-gifts for bridesmaids and other female guests at a rubber fetishists wedding I was helping with. He wanted assurance that I would tell the women that inhaling it would make their hormonal birth control useless and I agreed, I just didn’t say when I would tell them.

Dressing for success: So after putting the dozen small atomizers in a vintage Gucci tote I started dressing to go hunting. I emptied the Reflexions diaphragm I was wearing (I was menstrual) and reinserted it with Semécide, the professional O9 spermicide, in the dome, just in case I found Mr. right now. Anya (who loves this sort of thing and who went with me) and I changed our eye colors with tinted contact lenses, darkened our eyebrows, dressed in vintage House of Harlot latex catsuits – which I don’t personally care for and had never worn to that club - open faced hoods, gloves and Gepetto’s basic up-market style black leather ballet boots - so as not to call too much attention to ourselves - and Mestel SGE 150 gasmasks a style that we ordinarily never wear and went to the rubber club looking for the Harpies. We took Anya’s Porsche and she removed the heels of her boots so she could drive. That’s a nice feature of Gepetto’s BBs, you can remove or change the heels on some of the more expensive models. The three women were there and easy to spot with three male UNLV grad-students so Anya and I mixed with the masked crowd that were groping one another while watching a HD porn video on a large screen while I watched the Harpies and guys at their table. When the women got up to go to the ladies room I followed.

The switch: One of the nice things about that club is that the ladies room is large, well stocked and very clean to attract women and where there are women men will follow. The three had pulled off their gasmasks and left them on the vanity while they relieved themselves. While the stall doors were closed I replaced the atomizers of house brand lens anti-fogging solution with six of the ones in similar faux Lalique atomizers I brought with the progesterone receptor modulator in them. Just as I finished two sixth form girls from St Lucy’s came in. They shouldn’t have been in the club - not because of the sex but because they were too young to drink - and recognized me with my mask off, but didn’t say anything and I nodded to let them know I knew who they were. I used some of the progesterone spray on the lens of my mask and then to wipe out the oral nasal unit which was sweaty and had makeup on the cheek pieces. I mentioned how I thought the spray provided by this club helped keep my mask lens from fogging even when I got hot and sweaty during sex and both 18 y/o St Lucy’s girls sprayed the insides of their masks with it. I wasn’t concerned for their reproductive safety because I knew both had GyneFix IUDs implanted.

Just as I was fitting my mask back over my hood and establishing a good seal the Harpies came out of the stalls. They had heard my conversation with the students and they all used the spray to prevent lens fogging and to wipe out the mixture of sweat and makeup that collects quickly in a woman’s gasmask. The UNLV grad students pulled their freshened gasmasks back over their hoods, adjusted the straps to produce a good seal breathing deeply to make sure the seal was tight and sucked the fumes from the steroid into their lungs. Everyone put the progesterone atomizer she used in her purse and the Harpies and St Lucy’s girls left while I fumbled for ‘my car keys’ in my tote. When they were gone I replaced the house anti fogging solution atomizers on the vanity just as another woman entered pulled off her mask and soaked the inside of it with the house solution while muttering about how “fucking hot” the masks were even while breathing through the 40 mm canister connector port with no filter attached. I nodded mumbled “yeah” and left having never taken my rubber gloves off.

Shortly afterward Anya and I left having succeeded in getting the Harpies to ingest the progesterone receptor modulator. I wasn’t worried about what the inhaled steroid would do to my cycle because I was menstrual and my hormones were at their lowest points in my cycle so I thought the lack of progesterone probably wouldn’t even change the length of my cycle and I was right. Though an immediate side effect that was very noticeable was that I became extremely aroused with my nipples and clitoris becoming erect and very hard, especially my clitoris which I played with through my open relief zipper as Anya drove us home.

It is now four weeks later and the three Harpies are all pregnant! Two tested positive for hCG a week ago and the other tested positive yesterday. Ohhh! Who could have known! After the first ingestion at the fetish club Taryn’s friend said they were bedding even more men than usual while wearing their rubber catsuits and gasmasks and showed everyone in the Cosplay group the lovely Lalique atomizer and marvelous anti-fogging solution they had taken from the club and used on their masks every time they had sex. Taryn’s friend is beside herself with joy because somehow the change in the Harpies reproductive status leaked from the files in student health and with their high profile in the right-to-life group on campus they are between a rock and a hard place. They are no longer riding Taryn’s friend about her birth control choices.

Fertility Awareness Method of contraception

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Fertility Awareness Method (FAM): On my August 6, 2010 post ‘Teens, rhythm and pregnancy’ Eric asked a question about the difference between FAM and the Rhythm Method. Since the two are often confused I thought I’d explain a bit about FAM which is far more reliable than the Rhythm Method if practiced correctly, and post it in an entry where more readers, who might be interested, can read it. An excellent book on FAM is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It’s easy to understand and a very empowering read. I highly recommend every woman reading it regardless of whether she plans on using FAM or not as it gives you an understanding of what’s happening in your body all through your cycle. And guys, it’s worth you reading it too if you are interested in what’s going on in a woman’s body and why we may be cranky at times during our cycles. FAM is super for when you are trying to conceive, because you can tell exactly when you ovulate so you know the best time to go baby dancing. However, what my circle generally uses FAM for is as an aid for contraception and the discussion below is from that viewpoint.

First a caution: Used for contraception FAM is unforgiving of Oopses and just-this-once events like “Just let me stick the red part in for a minute” That’s against the rules when the woman is fertile! Ok?

To use FAM fully (including taking basal body temp) takes discipline and a stable schedule, because the temp readings should be taken at the same time each morning, immediately after awakening after more than 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. The temps are recorded so the woman can see her temp shift at ovulation. So for any woman with an erratic schedule the temp part is questionable. If you are using FAM for birth control the temperature shift upward by a few tenths of a degree at ovulation is a sort of after-the-fact measurement that tells you when you’ve ovulated. About two weeks later, if you haven’t become pregnant, your progesterone level drops – causing a decrease in temp – that occurs a day before your period starts. No temperature drop about two weeks after ovulation is an indication that progesterone is still high and you may be pregnant.

It’s good to know that you have ovulated and therefore after another 24 hours (O+1) it should be safe to go without protection if you’re sure STIs aren’t a problem. However, if you haven’t been carefully watching up to that point for slippery stretchy cervical fluid and a ripening of the cervix when it softens, opens and rises higher in the vagina - which tells you you’re fertile and should be using a barrier - you may find you’ve been truly fucked in every sense of the word. That’s because when sperm reaches fertile cervical fluid it can live in a woman’s tubes as long as 5 to 7 days waiting for her to release an egg. In the teens and early 20s (19 to 26 years old) a woman has a 50% chance of becoming pregnant from a single act of unprotected IC on her most fertile day. So a woman really needs to be careful using FAM.