Brenda and lesbian sex

Purple Freeds in which I dance my signature Bolero solo.

The Photo: I love this photo! I think it allows a non dancer to get some idea of the power, beauty and magic that a trained ballet dancer experiences in a pair of pointe-shoes.

Brenda and the fetish aspect of diaphragms:

[Brenda] I do apologize and was unaware of the limits on your viewing longer posts. What you refer to was an update on my diaphragm play and I really do not know whether others are interested or not. No one, other than you, has commented. My present primary relationship is with another bi- woman who has not been aware of your awakening my interest in diaphragms.

[Jill] It may well be that there is a way to view longer comments before posting them, but if so I’m not aware of it. So thank you for commenting in multiple shorter comments. Actually, I think my readership is quite interested in reading about the sex-lives of Bi and Lesbian women, but may be a bit modest to comment or ask questions perhaps fearing being misunderstood. However, when I have ‘lesbian’ in the title of an entry that seems to increase the page views, so there is interest.

[Brenda] She was giving me a vulvar massage (heavenly), I knew that she would be delving much deeper and I was curious of her reaction to finding the spring. She completed the massage without hesitation until I had a crashing orgasm. One of those near out of body experiences. She maintained pressure on my pudenda, cuddled me and asked, "Why the diaphragm." This led to a long discussion of earlier experiences affecting present sex life and we each learned much about the other's sexual history, desires, likes and dislikes. Very educational.

During the discussion, she mentioned that she had never had a diaphragm inside her. I immediately removed it from me and inserted it into her. I went down on her and we fell asleep. Over tea in the morning I asked how she liked a diaphragm in her. She looked confused and, recovering, admitted she had forgotten all about it. She removed and I washed it and set it to dry for the day. I do believe that it was just a bit small for her but that did not matter. Please feel free to publish, or not, anything I send you. I do wish other participants would join in more. You host an interesting blog.

The diaphragm games continue. Eva spent the night last night [Thursday Oct 25, 2012] and expressed she has a male date for this weekend. She is looking forward to a little penis time and had a request. Now that she has experienced a night with a diaphragm in her, she wants to experience a penis along with a diaphragm in her. I gave her my Reflexions and, at the same time, washed and gave the old silicone diaphragm a vinegar soak. I need something for inside me the next few nights. She has no real need for the protection but is simply curious to know what it is like to use a diaphragm and remove it the next morning. Agreeing with you that latex is more likely to give her the whole experience, that is what I chose to share. I also recommended that she fill it with Surgilube instead of the unnecessary spermicidal vaginal jelly. It is, after all, pretty much the same except for the Non-9. There are not many diaphragms that experience two different vaginal environments and soaking with different semen potions

[Jill] I do hope Eva knows and can trust her male partner about being free of STIs. Using a condom takes all the fun out of having a diaphragm inserted, but if his sexual history is unknown it can be risky. But you being a Gyn I imagine you have discussed all that with her. If it turns out that she likes wearing a diaphragm, have you considered gifting her with one in her size? It would be such a loving and intimate gesture. Here, because we have so many different male partners STI testing is frequent, but there are still cases of YI and BV if the girls aren’t fastidious about their hygiene.

[Brenda] I read your posts about screwing dolphins and passed them off as a bit of your amazing imagination. Today I was looking for a dive vacation and ran across this "warning." The described behaviour of the animal was not dissimilar to your description. Except it was trying to fuck a guy.

[Jill] Male Dolphin’s have been known to attempt sex with inanimate objects; pilings for example, as well as humans and it can be dangerous having sex with them even in the best of circumstances. I try to find a young and small male, not that 250 lbs isn’t plenty large! And young because not only the weight of the older larger ones, but the fact that the older ones can have marine growths on them that are razor sharp so when they rub against you they can shred a wetsuit and whatever part of the body that’s under it. Getting pushed to the bottom and held there for breeding is a standard dolphin maneuver against an unwilling partner. I have a woman friend who, while wearing a 5 mm wetsuit, had an arm badly cut up when a frisky male pushed her down and dragged her across coral before her human dive buddy could get him off her. It can be such a thrill mating with another species but it’s very risky!

Pointe shoe quiz October 8, 2012

Who is the maker of these shoes? 

Slit Kits part 2

Wolford Legwarmers - Merino Rib Wool

The Photo: This Fall St Lucy’s ballet students have a new dancewear fashion fad Merino wool legwarmers from Wolford for 43 GBP a pair. Not a problem for St Lucy’s students who each have several pairs in Fall colors.

Brenda’s long comment on Slit Kits: Your "slit kit" is certainly complete and to be highly recommended. I recently was asked to moderate a session for mothers at the university school on "the talk." There were about twenty of them, all in their thirties and each with a daughter between twelve and fifteen. I essentially gave them the outline that I used for so many years with girls at their first pelvic exam and added colour and brochures for them to use. The discussion become rather free-wheeling after that with one woman saying she had found semen spots on her daughters knickers and others admitting to indications that their daughters had yielded their virginity. "What do I do now?" was the question.

I recalled for them my teen years in a government school in the Hebrides where we had a strict uniform code and requirements for materials in our book bags. Girls over twelve had to have a napkin and spare pair of cotton knickers; tampons were absolutely taboo. We were required to wear "lightly padded" bras. They explained how it made us look more feminine but we all knew it was only to cover our nipples through the cotton blouses. The standard uniform bras at the local dry goods merchant were barely more than constricting straps and I was greatly relieved when my aunt took me shopping for my first "real bra."

Only a very few of us were ready to be using our genitals but we planned things well. One of the tampon companies was giving away holder that could take two applicator tampons. If, instead, we used non-applicator tampons a few condoms and a few vaginal suppositories would fit in their as well. What is more natural than a fifteen year old girl having tampons in her purse? The butch sports teacher who would check for out pads and panties did not even open the tampon holders. I was berated one time for using tampons but if she had opened the case she would have been really surprised.

I believe that those mothers who had seen signs sex left prepared to equip their daughters similarly. Others had the question, "What do I tell her to do if 'things start to get out of hand'?" I threw the question back to them and only one stated she never had that experience. The other responses ran from "I did it and had an abortion six weeks later" to "I started to yell 'rape.'" A few of them had given in, a few adamantly refused, a few had given hand jobs or blowjobs. Then "What would you do knowing what you do now." All agreed that they would have refused more strongly BUT all agreed that the girl should be equipped in case she willingly accepts. Interesting discussion and I am encouraged that the mothers you deal with are so accepting that sex is part of life, whether or not part of the curriculum. In most secondary schools, it may as well be part of the curriculum!

My reply:

[Brenda] Only a very few of us were ready to be using our genitals but we planned things well. One of the tampon companies was giving away holder that could take two applicator tampons. If, instead, we used non-applicator tampons a few condoms and a few vaginal suppositories would fit in their as well. What is more natural than a fifteen year old girl having tampons in her purse?

[Jill] How adult you must have felt having your own supplies immediately to hand should you want to take advantage of an opportunity!

[Brenda] all agreed that the girl should be equipped in case she willingly accepts. Interesting discussion and I am encouraged that the mothers you deal with are so accepting that sex is part of life, whether or not part of the curriculum. In most secondary schools, it may as well be part of the curriculum!

[Jill] Because St Lucy’s founder believed that young women should be willing and able to enjoy the full range of pleasurable experiences while being as safe as possible entrance requirements are geared not only toward meeting the standards of a rigorous academic curriculum, but also include a tendency toward being sexually assertive and adventuresome. While guiding and shaping each bright young adventuresome mind certain precautions are taken. Each St. Lucy’s student is required to have completed the series of Gardasil injections before arriving on campus. And, as I mentioned in an earlier post we strongly recommend that every new student be fitted with an copper IUD, preferably a GyneFix, so they can continue to experience the cyclical hormonal swings that are the source of so much female creativity.

We require that the strings be removed at placement of the IUD to prevent interfering with the seal of a cervical barrier or sticking to the barrier and being accidentally pulled out when the barrier (used for flood insurance during dive-sex) is removed. Actually, dive-sex is a huge motivator as no student wants to be so difficult that she is denied participating in that semester long class. Waxed pubes are also a requirement for students as well as their male partners so that vaginal plugs seat properly, thongs fit snugly and reduce the likelihood that repeated acts of penetrative intercourse might cause ‘beaver burn’.

During a student’s first year my Contemporary Sexual Health (CSH) class is mandatory. Then in her second year Advances Sexual Techniques (AST) is an elective, but every student takes it. In CSH students are taught the advantages, disadvantages and correct use of all forms of contraception and the standard positions for penetrative intercourse as well as the proper use of toys; Ben Wa balls, dildos and butt plugs as well as how to safely use machines like the Sybian.

AST teaches fetishes; rubber, gags & plugs, breathplay (using dive gear and gasmasks), bondage (with rope, chain, straps and scarves), Domination as well as Submissive techniques, the use of safe words and how to play rough while remaining unmarked are some of the things on the extensive syllabus.

The male partners used during the laboratory projects in both CSH and AST are recruited from students at UNLV and very carefully screened. Both the students and their partners are routinely tested for STIs and the women for pregnancy each week. The men selected are screened for HIV well in advance of partnering students so the quarantine interval is over before hand and none have sex except with students in the class they are participating in. Since the guys have a fantasy job, being paid to perform sexually with beautiful young women, the likelihood of them fucking other women is very unlikely since they can get as much tight pussy as they can handle. Even so, as an ex-president said, “trust but verify” so we set honey traps to test their adherence to the rules.

We like the girls to avoid using condoms with their lab partners so they can begin to develop confidence in the effectiveness of their IUDs or other female controlled contraceptive she is using, but that can bring its own problem with multiple unprotected partners changing the vaginal pH.

To stabilize their vaginal pH while sexually active with multiple partners students are encouraged to apply 10ml of DiveGel+ (used primarily for dive-sex) in their vaginas from prefilled disposable applicators before penetration. It’s a marvelous lube of course if the couple can’t wait for her to become aroused and produce her natural lube, but at St Lucy’s it’s used for surface sex more for the biocide in it which minimizes the likelihood of students getting yeast infections from having so many different sets of bacteria inserted in their vaginas over a short period of time.

Brenda on fun with diaphragms

A selection of diaphragms from 3 manufacturers

The photo shows: This is an old photo showing three different makers’ contraceptive diaphragms. From the top, left to right are the latex Ortho All-Flex arcing spring rim, a Milex silicone wide seal available in arcing and coil spring styles, and a latex Ortho White which has a coil spring rim. The device with the clear dome and cherry rim is a Semina made of silicone in Brazil. Ortho converted the All-Flex from latex to silicone in the 4th quarter of 2008 and stopped making the Ortho White entirely at the same time. Semina is not available in the U.S. I can’t find a photo that includes the Lamberts latex Reflexions flat spring rim style with other diaphragms so I have included a photo of it further on in this entry.

Brenda’s comment: Since Brenda, a frequent reader and diaphragm wearer, posted a long comment to an earlier post I thought I’d re-post the entire comment and my reply in its own blog entry where other readers are more likely to read and comment on it. Brenda wrote:

Brenda September 27, 2012 7:24 AM
Just some girl talk and my thanks. Maybe or not some readers will find some interest. Up to you.

I really want to thank you for getting me back in touch with the importance of diaphragms to me. How many women still own every one they ever purchased? Including a rather fragile one over thirty years old. Must be important and likely harkens back to my secondary school days (always a diaphragm and usually a condom as well) and reactionary time at university after the chief lesbian on campus dumped me. I went through a period of denying my lesbian side and tried to fuck my way through the entire student body. Almost made it. So the exceptional activity, with a diaphragm in place, has inextricably linked my sex life with a diaphragm.

I now nearly always wear it to bed and have wandered out daytimes with it in place as well. On my recent trip to Africa, I went to the airport, which uses full body scanners, with it in place. As I approached security, it dawned on me that the spring would be quite visible on the scan and I found that somehow exciting. Whoever was looking had to wonder whether I was preparing to join the mile high club or I was freshly fucked. Likely gave them something to talk about all day.

Also, the new diaphragm recently had its semen baptism. It occurred to me that there was no medical reason for my wearing one but it should not denied its own experience of being flooded with an ejaculation. A medical conference provided the opportunity - as often as I would have wished. I met a very young doctor at the health club and made certain he had the chance to check everything out. We went to his room because I did not want a stranger in mine. He was young, virile and not very accomplished. Still dumped three loads against the diaphragm which I dutifully left in place until the next morning and removed to the usual aroma of putrefying semen, washed it and laid it out to dry on a towel. I wondered if the young maid even knew what it was. Years ago, that was likely a common event in hotel rooms but few younger women have even seen a diaphragm. Fortunately and unusual for me, I used a douche premix because later in the day I encountered a past lover and we decided we had better things to do than attend a dull lecture. This time in my room so that I could get the diaphragm back in. With a much more accomplished, and familiar partner, the sex was much better.

I really think that the saving grace for my new young friend was the rubbing of the G-Spot by the diaphragm rim as you have described. Though it fits me perfectly, his penis was such that he likely was pushing the dome into the anterior fornix and moving the rim slightly.

Any way, having found your blog quite by accident I have found it interesting and it has re-enabled some old behaviors that are quite enjoyable. If only some of the lurkers would join in more!

Thanks and hugs

A latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm

Fetish uses of a flat spring diaphragm: Both Brenda and I prefer a latex flat spring diaphragm for fetish use. I’ll let her discuss why she prefers a flat spring. Returning readers may recall that I like wearing Reflexions because it is nearly impossible for a mischievous lover to under-thrust a correctly sized and properly inserted flat spring diaphragm as the rim will not flex when rammed at an oblique angle by a penis and the latex dome is far more flexible and the heat transfer properties much better than with silicone diaphragms. Too, with the soft stretchy dome even an inexperienced lover can give me a G-spot orgasm if I adjust my hips to have him thrust into my anterior fornix where he will move the rim just enough to caress my G-spot.

For my fetishist lovers I like that a latex diaphragm will develop a much stronger rubbery scent from being marinated over night in a combination of my vaginal fluids and a lover’s semen. That can be a turn-off for some users, but most of my men are rubberists and fond of the rubbery stench of well used ‘vaginal rubber’. After a quick wash and insertion of another flat spring, while the one just removed soaks in a 50/50 mix of water and white vinegar to remove the odor, and I’m good to go. I do ‘double bag’ wearing an Oves screwed down tight on my cervix because some of my unprotected lovers have been known to pull out my diaphragm just after filling me with sperm. The only down-side to a latex diaphragm is that it can’t be used by woman with a latex allergy. And latex even when well cared for doesn’t last as long as a silicone device. Fortunately neither Brenda nor I are allergic to latex.

My reply to Brenda’s comment:

[Jill] Hi Brenda, I’m so glad you are back safely from Rwanda, it sounds like such a dangerous place.

[Brenda] I really want to thank you for getting me back in touch with the importance of diaphragms to me.

[Jill] I’m pleased that I’ve been able to reawaken in you the fascination and thrill I feel when protecting myself from the most common consequence of engaging in penetrative sex with men when I insert a cervical barrier. I feel more confident and alluring; I’m more sexually assertive and still feel just a bit naughty knowing I’m ready to play without additional preparation when the man I’m with thinks the moment is right, except for emptying my bowels and bladder first if possible.

[Brenda] How many women still own every one they ever purchased?

[Jill] I imagine the number is quite small. As I’ve mentioned in posts to this blog I was introduced to diaphragms (the latex Ortho All-Flex) at boarding school when I was 14, in 1985, and then switched to a Prentif which was approved by the FDA in 1988, when I was 22, in 1993, when my cervix was large enough that I could wear the 25mm. I was astonished since I had tried in my teens to be fitted and I was too small for the 22mm! Then it was a combination of the Prentif and All-Flex - until the late 90s when I tried Ortho Tri-Cyclen for three years, which dried me out and killed my libido, and I came back to cervical barriers when the Oves cap became available. It was available over-the counter at Boots in the UK, but only on-line for those of us in the U.S. When there started to be shortages of Oves in my size, the 26mm, I stocked up before the manufacturer stopped making them. So now, If I’m careful and don’t get preggers so the size of my cervix changes, I should have enough Oves caps (I can get multiple cycles from a single cap) to get me well into menopause.

[Brenda] So the exceptional activity, with a diaphragm in place, has inextricably linked my sex life with a diaphragm

[Jill] I think the fact that there is a physical barrier in place to block a partner’s sperm is one of the things I like most about diaphragms and caps. I was never really sure the pill was working, other than it made me terribly dry and want to avoid sex with men I otherwise wanted to be ravished by.

[Brenda] As I approached security, it dawned on me that the spring would be quite visible on the scan and I found that somehow exciting. Whoever was looking had to wonder whether I was preparing to join the mile high club or I was freshly fucked. Likely gave them something to talk about all day.

[Jill] After being pulled out of line twice by TSA screeners in Vegas for wearing a Milex Omniflex (because it has a deeper dome) while menstrual to show a female supervisor a blood filled diaphragm and she didn’t seem apologetic at all. I’ve tried when I can to use private aircraft where the screening is less rigorous, or wear a Diva Cup. Other than the delay (I wanted coffee before my flight) it didn’t bother me because in my profession I undress regularly for men so I went into performance mode and wasn’t shy about it at all. I just did get my coffee.

[Brenda] It occurred to me that there was no medical reason for my wearing one but it should not denied its own experience of being flooded with an ejaculation.

[Jill] I agree that every cervical barrier should be christened with highly motile sperm even if the intention is to only insert it as a confidence builder in situations where being celibate is the best policy.

[Brenda] He was young, virile and not very accomplished. Still dumped three loads against the diaphragm which I dutifully left in place until the next morning and removed to the usual aroma of putrefying semen,

[Jill] I love the enthusiasm and stamina of the young ones and if you have them for a while most of them can be trained to perform at very high levels and the training process can be such a joy! I’ve mentioned this before and I know it’s an acquired taste, but I always love the scent of a latex diaphragm after leaving it to marinate in the mixture of my vaginal secretions and a lover’s ejaculate over night. The pungent rubbery fragrance emanating from a ripe diaphragm brings back fond memories of marvelous sex from the night before.

[Brenda] I wondered if the young maid even knew what it was. Years ago, that was likely a common event in hotel rooms but few younger women have even seen a diaphragm.

[Jill] I agree! Less than 1% of women using contraception in the U.S. wear a diaphragm or FemCap and FemCap seems to be catching on because the manufacturer says it can be sized by the woman’s OB history and plays down the need for a traditional fitting, which results an a good many poorly fitting FemCaps in the U.S.

[Brenda] I really think that the saving grace for my new young friend was the rubbing of the G-Spot by the diaphragm rim as you have described. Though it fits me perfectly, his penis was such that he likely was pushing the dome into the anterior fornix and moving the rim slightly.

[Jill] I’m so pleased that you and your young admirer had that experience! Wasn’t that amazing!

[Brenda] If only some of the lurkers would join in more!

[Jill] It is fun corresponding with readers. I have a few regular readers, but most I think read me for the kinks I have that appeal to them and because I write about the life I lead which to some, if not most, I suppose might seem like a fantasy.

If you believe what my readers say about themselves they are: 54% male and 46% female, 48% are 18-34, 32% are 35-48 and 16% are over 50. 73% have no children. In that mix there are a lot of fantasists that my lifestyle might appeal to, and I appreciate every one of them!