Female protective equipment

A student’s protective equipment for ballet-sex

The photo: A silicone Semina coil spring diaphragm mounted on an introducer to aid in its insertion and a pair of hard shanked Gaynor Minden pointes. Students wear both as gorgeous and effective protection for their cervix and toes during ballet-sex training.

Semina is effective and popular with teens: In my introductory sex-ed course, Contemporary Sexual Health, I use Semina diaphragms because they are effective as well as pretty (which makes very young women feel adult, attractive and confident) so a Semina is more likely to be used during surface-sex. The Semina with spermicide in the dome is a good non-hormonal option when young women reach menarche and begin to need protection for sexual intercourse as it will allow sex with unprotected men giving young women experience in coping with coital discharge.

Semina is manufactured and available primarily in Brazil. It is very difficult to get in the U.S. and it is only selectively available from private clinics in the UK. However, it can be worth the trouble for a student who needs encouragement, something that she thinks is pretty as well as adult and effective which can give her a boost in self confidence.

The diaphragm as an anterior fornix thrust-buffer: I’ve written about this before, but it bears repeating because for some of us it can be important. For a woman with a well endowed partner who can thrust painfully into her anterior fornix a traditional diaphragm can provide some thrust-buffering. I usually wear a latex Reflexions flat spring rim which is no longer commercially available or a custom fitted latex FS device made for me by my London Gyn clinic. In addition to thrust-buffering with my latex FS diaphragm I get a twofer! That’s because when I’m fully aroused so my cervix has been pulled up and back out of the way of an average length penis when Tiny Tim one of my magnificently endowed lovers enters me in missionary he can push the stretched latex membrane of the dome up into my anterior fornix. At the same time the pressure of the dome on the tip of my cervix forces my cervix deeper while the increasing pressure of the stretchy dome squeezes his glans as his thrusts push it deeper into my anterior fornix giving me an A-spot orgasm while buffering his thrusts by slowing or stopping them before he hits bottom while at the same time pulling the anterior rim far enough away from the back of my pubic bone to rub against my G-spot.  None of my friends using a diaphragm have had anything like the mind-fucking turns-me-to-jelly pleasure of a simultaneous two erogenous zone orgasms with a single contraceptive device.

Even when a woman can’t get the same over-the-top orgasmic pleasure I get from wearing a latex diaphragm women with well endowed lovers find peace of mind and increases her pleasure while using it as a thrust-buffer to prevent tearing the ligaments holding her uterus in place.

When a latex FS device is not available silicone diaphragms such as the Milex (Omniflex or Arcing rim) or Semina (coil spring), but not a Caya contoured diaphragm - because the Caya has a smaller diameter and deeper dome - work well for thrust-buffering. Of the silicone options I think a Milex arcing spring rim works best since with an Omniflex or Semina the coil spring rims are more flexible so tend to put less pressure on the tip of the cervix.

Even though the Reflexions flat spring diaphragm is no longer commercially available a Gyn clinic specializing in cervical barriers (like the Blackthorn Clinic in London) can have a latex FS device custom made. And because a latex FS rim device has better heat transfer properties and the flat spring rim is almost impossible to even intentionally under-thrust by a mischievous partner it is the preferred cervical barrier used by  latex fetish escorts and as a flood insurance device it can be used for dive-sex at any depth. The down side of a latex device is that it won’t last as long as a silicone one and can’t be used by couples with a latex allergy.

The pointe-shoe as a defensive weapon: Occasionally a dancer in pointe-shoes can find herself at a disadvantage with a male partner who won’t take no for an answer. It’s difficult to out run a man while you’re wearing pointes, but the hard blocks make ideal blunt force trauma weapons if you are willing to use them. A kick to the temple to fracture the skull and knock him out; A kick to the kneecap to crush the bones and make the knee fold to the side or back; or a flexed foot kick to the pelvis coming up under his penis to crush it against his pubic bone all can be effective, though a kick to the pelvis may not be effective if he is wearing a groin protector/sports cup. A dance belt won’t protect his genitals from a hard blow from below but a sports cup probably will.

However, I think it’s unlikely to find an amorous man wearing a groin protector in a dance setting, but dance belts are standard on performing males. I’ve found that crushing an attacker’s knee so he can’t chase me works best unless he has bent over so his skull is accessible with a sharp high kick with a pointed foot. Once his knee is shattered an attacker can’t stand and a knockout kick to his head is much easier.  For a woman with several years’ ballet training putting a foot into an attackers kneecap should be relatively easy as foot placement in space becomes second nature.

Tim is Returning to school: He is being posted to the Joint Services Command and Staff College (JSCSC) after he finishes his leave. It is located at Shrivenham in west Oxfordshire which is quite rural and rather near the eastern border of Wales. So perhaps if he can get an occasional day off we can fuck each others brains out for relaxation. In his case I’m all for doing what I can to keep up the morale of our military. Shrivenham is about 120 miles (a bit less than 3 hours in good weather) up the M50 to Caersws then another 1 ½ hours from there south west on the A470 toward Llanidloes and into the mountains to Blackthorn Castle.

Monday 30 May 2016 (Spring Bank Holiday): The Spring Bank Holiday is already underway and those who can took Friday off and made it a four day weekend. While Easter Term ends at Cambridge on 10 June and exams are rapidly approaching Bea came stay with me here at the castle for the long weekend and she brought a lover with her. Bryony and Claire (the Dryads) are with me as well as they are taking a break from their thesis research on member’s fetishes at my London fetish club (the Costume Club AKA Clever Cunts) on Holland Park Road since a great many members are off on holiday. They have brought male ballet dancers who can make the holiday just before the start of performances of The Winter’s Tale at the ROH. So Tim and I will not lack for marvelously compatible company.

An English Spring: The weather is what I’ve come to expect. At the Castle given its altitude midday temperatures are expected to be no higher than the high 50s (F) and rain is probable except perhaps on Sunday morning. But then the weather in London is forecast to be about the same with perhaps somewhat higher temps, but cloudy and rainy too. Ahhh, an English spring!

NuvaRing, Blackthorn Priory girls

 

NuvaRing the vaginal contraceptive ring

 

The photo: Showing NuvaRing packaging, its relative size, about 2 inches in diameter and its flexibility.

 

Lost and found in the sheets: Housekeeping found a NuvaRing in the sheets of one of my New Years house party women guests’ room. She had either expelled it or a lover had hooked it with the corona of his glans and accidently pulled it out. Obviously she was unaware that it was no longer inside and providing protection. When he withdrew she should have immediately checked to see that the ring was still in place and perhaps she did. If she rolled over for a post coital nap and passed gas if she doesn’t have a pronounced post-pubic vault with the back of the pubic bone for the ring to rest against her pelvic contractions could have easily squeezed the ring and it slipped out. I knew who was assigned the room so I called her and mentioned a ring of hers had been found. At first she thought I was talking about a finger ring and assured me she had checked all her jewelry was packed before she left the castle. Then I was a bit more specific that it was a vaginal contraceptive ring.

 

She gasped and there was a noise as she tried to catch her cell as it slipped from her fingers. Moments later she picked it up and in a shaky voice said her ring was missing. Case solved! NuvaRing has an outer diameter of 54 mm and a cross-sectional diameter of 4 mm. and releases on average 0.12 mg/day of etonogestrel and 0.015 mg/day of ethinyl estradiol.  It had been out for much longer than the three hour removal limit during the first two weeks so she will have to use another method (condoms or a diaphragm) for 7 days while the hormones from the new ring reestablish her hormonal protection. She wasn’t sleeping with her husband. It depends on what night she lost the ring as to how serious her situation is. She should have been protected if she lost the ring on the last night. She is newly married and wants children, but not with possible paternity questions.

 

Blackthorn Priory girls training an update: Now that the holidays are over I was able to get back to taking care of my other responsibilities around the Barony one of which is tending to the sexual health of the girls school at Blackthorn Priory. I visited briefly at Christmas to distribute small gifts to girl each as none the students has family or home other than the sisters of the order and her schoolmates.

 

Returning readers may recall what I wrote about Blackthorn Priory in my December 31, 2014 post entitled ‘My Welsh Roots’: “There is nothing to suggest St. Candice (as I tend to think of her) was in any way a disciplinarian. However, she is patron saint of a religious community of women living in a surprisingly large medieval Priory the early parts of which date from the 11^th century.  The Priory is on Blackthorn Barony land within a few miles of the Baroness’s relatively small but superbly constructed 13^th C. castle…”

 

“The Priory is part of the Barony of Blackthorn and the office of Prioress of the Order is in the gift of the Baroness Blackthorn. Maintenance of the priory and the Order are paid for from a small percentage of the profit from the minerals mined on the Baronial estates. The Order of St Canna stresses discipline, obedience and service.  Blackthorn Priory’s primary function seems to be to raise female foundlings selectively chosen from the slums of major cities in the UK.  Their schools taught by Sisters who have attended the best universities, prepare the girls for university educations and socialize the young girls through exchange programs with other elite public (read private) schools in the UK.”

 

Pelvic exams and diaphragms: It is the custom at Blackthorn Priory as with many girls’ schools to give Priory girls reaching menarche their first gynecological exam and fit them with an effective barrier contraceptive so they can become accustomed to wearing it before they move to fifth and sixth forms at Barrow Priory in Middlesex where they will need it during social encounters as guests at dances at a neighboring boys school. Yesterday Chris, the male Gyn who works in my woman’s clinic, and I fitted all the students 14 and older with new FS latex diaphragms.

 

The primary training barrier (fitted at menarche) in use by Priory girls is the silicone Semina diaphragm which the girls think looks like a pink soap bubble a fact that helps the girls remember to insert their diaphragms for flow control on light days during menses. However, the smallest Semina is 60mm so any student requiring a smaller device had been fitted with a 22mm FemCap and a menstrual cup for flow control. Now that the Barony’s women’s clinic has flat spring rim diaphragms down to 50mm I have changed the regimen for girls 14 y/o and older to use latex flat spring diaphragms if they are not allergic to latex and any younger girls who at menarche need a diaphragm smaller than 60mm. A flat spring rim seals as well and is nearly impossible to under-thrust and the heat transfer properties of latex are far superior to the silicone of a Semina and silicone lube can be used with a latex D something that has become more important recently. And for divers a FS latex diaphragm can be safely worn at any depth. So wearing a latex diaphragm has become another rite-of-passage on the way to becoming a woman with all the responsibilities that entails. However, there is the fact that oily lubes of any sort, petroleum or vegetable, shouldn’t be used with a latex device as oil will destroy the latex, but that is a lesson best learned when young, impressionable and under supervision so it won’t be easily be forgotten or ignored.

 

Of course because of the age of consent the diaphragms provided to students younger than 16 are so they can become used to correctly wearing a cervical barrier using it exclusively as a menstrual cup for sanitary purposes.

 

Some readers may wonder why students reaching menarche are not immediately placed on hormonal contraceptives since these days so many girls routinely go on contraceptive hormones with all the negative side effects accompanying them. Some few Blackthorn girls are put on hormones if they have very painful periods or their cycles won’t stabilize. However, the Order feels that it is important for young women to experience the ebb and flow of their hormones while cycling naturally. Diaphragms let them become accustomed to handling their genitals w/o fear or shame (as so many young women these days have not been taught to do) and can experience the marvelous surge in creativity when fertile. Additionally, the discipline of inserting the diaphragm every evening before bed and removing and cleaning it each morning gets each into a routine that will be beneficial when they become sexually active.

 

New Years dildo presentations: In my annual New Years presentation as Baroness I presented each newly blossomed young woman with two dildos: her first borosilicate (Pyrex) glass dildo, a 1 ¾ inches in diameter and 8.0 inches long glass shaft in the shape of a phallus with a handle to use while on her back – a nice feature about Pyrex is that it can be warmed or cooled for use in hot or chilly weather. And since all the Priory school girls take ballet/pointe a high quality silicone one of the same size with a suction cup base with which to solo train for male penetration in the ballet studio. This second item is especially useful in training for deep penetration of the posterior fornix while en pointe during ballet-sex – suctioned on to the mirrored wall in a studio where the user can hold on to the barre rise en pointe and back on to the dildo. All the girls were eagerly anticipating trying them out.

 

Fitting the local swim team with latex diaphragms: Today Chris and I fit the local swim team with latex FS diaphragms.  The custom made 55, 60 and 65 mm latex flat spring rim diaphragms, to be used as ‘gas-guards’ since there have been two recent injuries involving women in the UK getting air or water in their uteri while playing or having sex in a pool which have gotten a lot of publicity in the medical press in the last few months. So since most adults in the surrounding villages work for the Barony either directly or indirectly my clinic is fitting the swim team with diaphragms at no cost to the swimmer or her family.

 

As my readers know latex diaphragms are particular effective for pool-sex since silicone lubricant can be used w/o harm to a latex diaphragm. Returning readers may also recall that a ‘gas-guard’ is a cervical barrier to prevent air being forced through the cervix into the uterus by a lover blowing into his partners vagina or when playing around with SCUBA gear where a mischievous friend holds the mouthpiece of his or her reg against a partner’s vulva and depresses the purge button sending a jet of compressed air into the vagina. All the swim team have mini (4 bead) frameless copper GyneFix IUDs implanted, (also free from the Blackthorn Clinic) with their strings trimmed off so they can wear cervical barriers w/o the possibility of pulling out the IUD while removing the cervical barrier when no longer needed.

 

FemCap wasn’t a choice since the depth limit of a FemCap is about 25 to 30 feet before squeeze on the dome makes it too uncomfortable to wear. And some of the girls are too small to effectively wear the smallest FemCap which is 22mm.  Caya was not considered because of the small sizes needed, rotation and the need for silicone lube.

 

 



Swim teams, safety and fertility

Eggwhite fertile cervical mucus (EWFCM)

The photo: Eggwhite fertile cervical mucus that is thick, clear and stretchy released a few days before ovulation to support the travel of sperm through the cervix and uterus to the fallopian tubes to await the release of an egg. FCM flows into the dome of a diaphragm to mix with the wearer’s natural arousal lubricant as well as the acidic spermicidal gel used to immobilize sperm that may leak into the dome. FCM has it’s own musky scent, slightly salty taste and is a favorite of men who enjoy consuming a woman’s reproductive secretions. Eight hours after sex with an unprotected male it’s always fun to pull out my latex Reflexions diaphragm and watch him lick the secretions out of the dome. My partners say there is such a strong scent of latex in the secretions that the liquefied lactic acid spermicide is completely masked and just provides a bit of additional body to the total.

Swim teams and our reproductive clinic: Since an unfortunate incident earlier in the year where a swim team member had an air embolism during underwater vaginal sex that left her in a vegetative state elite public (read private) women’s school swim teams have been coming to the clinic for cervical protection. Knowing that team members would be protected if the occasion for sex arose was high on their priority list and we are one of the few clinics that are prepared to provide it. Venous air embolisms (VAE) occurring during erotic situations are not unknown, but had been thought to be rare and so have not generally been protected against. However, it’s not clear that this method of introducing air into the bloodstream has been routinely considered when fatalities among healthy sexually active young women occur so incidences of this may be underreported.  For an instance in the literature see Pub Med: Fatal air embolism during female autoerotic practice: HERE. Additionally, an effective cervical barrier will protect against a far more common condition which can lead to infertility, Pelvic Inflammatory disease (PID), caused by having water forced into the uterus from the hydraulics of a partner’s thrusting during underwater sex.

Spotting, endometrium stripping, and VAE safety: Spotting from hormonal contraceptives break-through bleeding, endometrium stripping due to the movement of an IUD and menstruation are three possible sources of entry points for air into the bloodstream should it be forced into the woman’s uterus. Almost all the students in elite women’s schools that our clinic provide services for are using a stringless copper IUD of one sort or another as their leadership believes that experiencing the highs and lows of hormonal swings during the menstrual cycling is a part of becoming a woman and leads to the flowering of creativity during the students fertile days. Therefore, with the exception of the few on hormones for medical problems the students in a given school tend to be in menstrual synchrony.

The latex flat spring diaphragm: To protect against venous air embolisms due to air being forced into the uterus during sex while the woman is bleeding our clinic recommends the use of latex flat spring contraceptive diaphragms similar to the Reflexions which was discontinued at the first of 2015. Latex provides superior heat transfer, can be safely used with all kinds of silicone lubricants and with a flat spring rim it is nearly impossible for even a mischievous partner to under-thrust the rim. It is particularly important that a silicone lubricant be used for underwater vaginal sex as water base lubes are quickly washed away leaving the woman painfully and dangerously unlubricated. Our clinic now has its own supplier of latex flat spring diaphragms in sizes from 55mm to 95mm in 5mm increments which allows us to fit more young women just reaching menarche. We have retained a raised maker’s symbol and rim diameter in the center of the convex side of the dome as a glans stimulator; yet another plus for the latex flat spring diaphragm.

During a diaphragm fitting session our fitters not only fit the patient and answer questions, but demonstrate how to correctly deflate the dome after insertion by pushing down as though having a BM to move the cervix closer to the vaginal entrance making it easier to express the air from the dome with the fingers by pushing the latex membrane into the void of the anterior fornix expelling trapped residual air from the dome so the seal and vacuum are much stronger. Once demonstrated patients are given time to practice insertion, deflating the dome and removal so before leaving the clinic they are confident they know how to correctly insert and remove their diaphragms.

Gardasil: Our clinic also administers the HPV vaccine Gardasil in two or three injection regimens. Gardasil is safe for most girls to take except for those who are allergic to some contents of the vaccine. For girls 9 to 14 y/o the two shot regimen at 0 and 6 months is effective. For women 15 y/o and older Gardasil gives the best protection when given in 3 doses on time two months apart over 6 months.

Menarche, pelvic exams and pre-pompoir training: Unless there is a medical condition requiring a pelvic exam our clinic recommends a girl’s first pelvic be at menarche which can occur as young as 11 y/o, but mostly in dance schools girls in strenuous training where they are developing muscle mass and very little fat menarche may be delayed until about age14, which was when I had my first period. A pelvic gives us the opportunity to determine who might need hymenectomies and offer vaginal dilators to see if stretching the hymen will suffice. Shaped vaginal dilators equipped with a vibi tip are available for girls wanting to begin working on muscle isolation for Pompoir training and other shapes to use as dildos for masturbation. Having reached menarche it is never too early to begin pelvic muscle group isolation and stimulation since it is much easier to learn while young.

Mothers and consent:  In today’s permissive society it’s important that under age young women, especially those excelling in swimming, gymnastics and dance where their bodies are on display be familiar with their reproductive anatomy and learn to safely manipulate it for their own and eventually a partner’s pleasure. To that end, with her mother’s written permission, our clinic can provide a young patient at or above the age of consent with instruction on how to protect herself during solo and partnered sexual activity. This is a relatively new offering and has already become very popular and is currently oversubscribed so we plan on starting classes with me teaching Contemporary Sexual Techniques (for teens) with the same syllabus that I used at St Lucy’s in Vegas. It will be held in a property adjoining the clinic owned by the Barony which had been a health club with a dance studio and pool.

Dildos and diaphragms at the Priory

A silicone Semina diaphragm mounted on its introducer

The photo: A silicone Semina (coil spring) diaphragm on its introducer which makes it easier to insert displayed on a pair of Gaynor Minden pointe shoes. Semina is available in six diameter sizes, from 60 to 85mm, in 5mm increments and is made in Brazil.

The weather: It’s been raining and cold, around freezing, for the last few days with occasional snow flurries so the Barony’s Land Rovers with their all terrain tires and large heaters are a very comfortable and safe ride for Charles, my Chamberlain of the Household, and me to travel in to the Priory and while making the rounds of shops in the nearby villages to introduce myself. 

Priory girls training: Returning readers may recall what I wrote about Blackthorn Priory in my December-31, 2014 post entitled ‘My Welsh Roots’: “There is nothing to suggest St. Candice (as I tend to think of her) was in any way a disciplinarian. However, she is patron saint of a religious community of women living in a surprisingly large medieval Priory the early parts of which date from the 11^th centaury.  The Priory is on Blackthorn Barony land within a few miles of the Baroness’s relatively small but superbly constructed 13^th C. castle…”

“The Priory is part of the Barony of Blackthorn and the office of Prioress of the Order is in the gift of the Baroness Blackthorn. Maintenance of the priory and the Order are paid for from a small percentage of the profit from the minerals mined on the Baronial estates. The Order of St Canna stresses discipline, obedience and service.  Blackthorn priory’s primary function seems to be to raise female foundlings selectively chosen from the slums of major cities in the UK.  Their schools taught by Sisters who have attended the best universities, prepare the girls for university educations and socialize the young girls through exchange programs with other elite public (read private) schools in the UK.”

Pelvic exams, diaphragms and dildos: It is the custom at Blackthorn as with many girls’ schools to give Priory girls reaching menarche their first gynecological exam and fit them with an effective barrier contraceptive so they can become accustomed to wearing it before they move to fifth and sixth forms at Barrow Priory in Middlesex where they will need it during social encounters as guests at dances at a neighboring boys school.

The primary barrier currently in use by Priory girls is the silicone Semina diaphragm (pictured at the top of this post)  which the girls think looks like a pink soap bubble a fact that helps the girls remember to insert their diaphragms for flow control on light days during menses. The smallest Semina is 60mm so any student requiring a smaller device is fitted with a 22mm FemCap and a menstrual cup for flow control. There were four girls who had reached menarche in the last several months and Chris, my Male Gyn and new member of the Blackthorn Clinic, gave them their pelvic exams. All had deep post-pubic vaults, took 60mm Seminas and none needed a hymenectomy.

Some readers may wonder why students reaching menarche are not immediately placed on hormonal contraceptives since these days so many girls routinely go on contraceptive hormones with all the negative side effects accompanying them. Some few Blackthorn girls are put on hormones if they have very painful periods or their cycles won’t stabilize. However, the Order feels that it is important for young women to experience the ebb and flow of their hormones while cycling naturally. Diaphragms let them become accustomed to handling their genitals w/o fear or shame as so many young women are taught and can experience the marvelous surge in creativity when fertile. Additionally, the discipline of inserting the diaphragm every evening before bed and removing and cleaning it each morning gets them into a routine that will be beneficial when they become sexually active.

I fitted them with their Seminas and Diva menstrual cups and discussed the insertion and removal procedure for their barriers and Diva cups then let them practice insertion and removal of both devices. Fortunately, in my opinion, none required a FemCap since a cap shouldn’t be used during menses and it has depth limitations during dive-sex.

Then in my first presentations as Baroness I presented each newly blossomed young woman with two dildos: her first borosilicate (Pyrex) glass dildo, a 1 ¾ inches in diameter and 8.0 inches long glass shaft in the shape of a phallus with a handle to use while on her back – a nice feature about Pyrex is that it can be warmed or cooled for use in hot or chilly weather. And a high quality silicone one of the same size with a suction cup base with which to solo train for male penetration in the ballet studio. This second item is especially useful in training for deep penetration of the anterior and posterior fornices while en pointe during ballet-sex – suctioned on to the mirrored wall in a studio where the user can hold on to the barre rise en pointe and back on to the dildo. All the girls were eagerly anticipating trying them out.

P.T. with the first of Marvin’s patients: I’m looking forward to the phys. therapy sessions with my first of Marvin’s patients who will be here this coming Monday. That will give the security group time to finish installing six HD cams in the castle ballet studio where the video will be stored on disks and satellite linked to Marvin’s office in London. If the videos are any good we may pixelize the faces and sell them on the porn market through Taryn’s org.

Maya arrives: His Grace accompanied Maya, his recent Russian ballerina bedmate, when she arrived this morning in his helicopter. He stayed for lunch and a brief tour of the castle before leaving to get ahead of the rain which appeared later this afternoon.  Chris has already set up a Gyn exam and procedure room in one of the unused interior rooms and fully stocked it with supplies from the Blackthorn Clinic in London.  He removed Maya’s Medusa silver and gold IUD, performed a vacuum aspiration to remove the reproducing tissue and inserted a frameless six bead copper GyneFix IUD this afternoon. Everything went well and she is on a ten day course of an antibiotic and was told no vaginal sex or heavy lifting for a week so she is looking forward to a restful few days of barre, reading and catching up on her sleep.

The Pool Boy Effect

A cross-section of a Natare perimeter pool gutter:

The Photo: This Natare stainless steel gutter with a lip to which a swimmer can cling with her fingers or rest her arms on the grating over the trough while resting or while having underwater surface sex is what my pools, the encounter pools at Splash and the pools at Adolph’s deep water training facility as well as our casino’s bungalow pools are equipped with. It’s the sort of pool gutter that is installed by pool owners who are knowledgeable about the requirements for features that make an effective sexual encounter pool.

The Pool Boy effect: Is what I call the seasonal peak in diaphragm and cervical cap fittings from local women who plan to have sex in swimming pools during the summer. The Pool Boy effect began to be noticeable several years ago after there was a high profile incident involving a pool boy and the daughter of the pool owner that left the girl paralyzed from a stroke which her parents claimed was caused by the pool boy forcing water and air into her uterus during sex in their swimming pool which he had come to clean. 

There were several articles mentioning the possibility of water or air being forced into the uterus during underwater sex if the vagina floods which is common. At the time it was recommended that women expecting or enjoying underwater sex protect their upper reproductive tracts by wearing a contraceptive diaphragm during underwater penetrative encounters which I’ve been teaching for years. With a properly fitted and correctly inserted diaphragm or cervical cap this can provide very effective protection, but shouldn’t be used by IUD wearers as the strings could stick to the diaphragm rim or cap and the IUD pulled out when the cervical barrier is removed. Of course women with IUDs from which the strings have been removed can use a diaphragm or cap safely for flood control.

In the last several years we have noticed college age women coming to be fitted as well as mothers bring high-school age daughters for diaphragms for use as flood protection regardless of the time of year if they take swimming, have pools at home or know someone who has a pool which is almost everyone out here. And the number of heated indoor pools has increased to the extent that the pool boy effect is no longer nearly as seasonal.

Right now moms are bringing in their teen daughters to be fitted for diaphragms as Christmas presents for the girls (w/o their fathers knowing), who have probably been having pool sex anyway, but this an ideal way to get it recognized as ok between mother and daughter so they can bond w/o fear of embarrassment while discussing male sexual appetites and how to satisfy them as well as their own.

As I expected, wearing a diaphragm has become something of a status symbol with adventuresome young sexually active women regardless of what other method of contraception they are using. I think it is because wearing a diaphragm to protect themselves during physically risky sex is a very adult thing to do and by being fitted and wearing one they feel more adult and in control.

When I asked Bea why her friends routinely insert diaphragms when they don bikinis she said it’s because the men can immediately tell they are protected when they insert a finger so think the girls are more experienced and older than many of them actually are. Knowing she has a diaphragm inserted tends to cancel out the pre-pubescent look of waxed pubes for men who are concerned about the possibility of the woman being underage.

It was the same when I was a teen when every girl at my ballet school was fitted for a diaphragm at menarche as is done at St Lucy’s. The look on a boy’s face the first timre he inserted a finger inside me and felt the rim of my diaphragm was priceless! Usually the first question was “What is that?” and I’d explain it was a cervical barrier that allowed me to take him bareback. That pretty much ended any concern that guys had. However, then hormonal birth control wasn’t as universal as it is today and many of us were depending on the diaphragm’s effectiveness to prevent becoming preggers.

Thanksgiving prep - update: First things first. I have all the full panel STI results for my guests, all negative and my girls and I are looking forward to sex with the several men whom we rarely see. The table has been extended in my dining room and the good china and silver is out washed and polished.  All the guests who had to travel have arrived safely ahead of the major storm expected along the Central and North East Coast tomorrow. The food is in my restaurant size refrigerators in my commercial size kitchen and the chef and his staff have been by to ensure she has everything needed ahead for the big day. I will have a divemaster on duty if there are guests who want to enjoy dive-sex, though I’m cautioning no drinking until after diving not before.

A tenth couple at my Thanksgiving table this year: In addition to 1) Ondine, (Willow’s mom) with Jacques, Gigi’s father and a former lover of mine as her partner; 2) Bea & Chris (our male Gyn); 3) Pirate and Yardley Flood, our ballet-boot trainer; 4) Adolph and Kassi (his new PR manager); 5&6) Odette and Odile (With the Gemini, Castor and Pollux who have been ardent in their continuing pursuit of the Swan Twins); 7) Marvin (Morning Wood) and me; 8) Paul (the Swan Twins father) and Gigi since she looks a lot like the swan twins and is submissive like Odette and; 9) Willow and Mitch who is a Stallion level Escort working for Pirate our local Stable Master. She is sweet on Mitch after they were paired during the series of tests he was given to prove he wasn’t responsible for the rash of pregnancies his clients with IUDs had. And finally the welcome addition; 10) my BGFF Anya with a mystery man (Chris has his current negative full panel STI results) who we all are looking forward to meeting

Menstrual protection and fellatio

A Diva menstrual cup showing fill levels and removal stem

The Photo: Showing the smaller (size 1) silicone Diva menstrual cup. The Diva Cup holds one full ounce of menstrual flow (30 ml) when filled to the four tiny air holes below the rim). As the average woman only flows approximately 1 to 2 ounces (30-60 ml) per cycle the wearing interval can be up to be 12 hours or longer w/o emptying it. However, with copper IUDs implanted my wards periods can be a bit heavier so on heavy days they may need to empty sooner.

Kassi gets her first Diva Cup: Kassi had been using tampons and panty liners. I introduced her to the Diva Cup menstrual cup (size 1) which is the brand my other wards and I use. A Diva Cup’s total length, including the stem, is 70mm and the cup length is 57mm. for both size 1 and 2 while the rim diameter is 41mm for the smaller size and 45mm for the larger so one or the other should fit most women. And the cup softens with body heat so it forms to the wearer’s body improving its comfort and seal.

My cup switch: Several months ago, I switched to a Diva 2 since the manufacturer recommends cup wearers older than 30 or who have given birth would have less likelihood of leakage if she used a Diva 2. I tried a Diva 2 and found I didn’t care for the larger size. My vagina is tighter than most nulliparous 20 y/os and I’ve had no problems with leakage and I don’t need the additional capacity as I can go more than 12 hours w/o emptying on almost all days with the smaller size so I’m back to a size one again. 

The Diva Cup at St Lucy’s: While St Lucy’s girls should already have the three shot regimen of Gardasil inoculations required for maximum protection from HPV viruses that cause cervical cancers as well as some genital warts – they can start the series of injections as early as age 9 - students aren’t fitted for menstrual cups and contraceptive cervical protection until menarche. The cervical barriers as returning readers of this blog know are primarily for flood insurance to protect the upper reproductive tract  in case the vagina floods during underwater intercourse since nearly all St Lucy’s girls reaching menarche now have stringless mini GyneFix copper IUDs inserted for contraception as part of a clinical study. Thus leaving only a need for effective menstrual protection during high impact activities, on heavy days and while traveling where long intervals between emptying are necessary. An Ideal product for all women of reproductive age is the Diva cup.

So this week I’ve been teaching a group of three girls who just reached menarche how to correctly insert a Diva Cup so it doesn’t leak and how to tell by feel and experience when the cup needs emptying by how heavy it feels, and the interval difference between light and heavy days. With just a little practice they became proficient at insertion and removal and now they love their Diva Cups!

Insertion is a several step process. First before preparing any vaginal device for insertion wash your hands. Then it’s a matter of folding the cup for insertion, spreading the labia, pushing it partly in horizontally toward the tailbone then letting it spring open. Once it’s in the ringed bottom of the cup is grasped and rotated one full turn to ensure it is fully open and seals properly. During the full turn it should rotate smoothly an indication that the cup is fully open. Then push it further in until the stem is just inside the vagina where it can be easily grasped for removal.

The Cup should sit low in the vagina away from the cervix. Placed higher it might leak and it could interfere with the strings of an IUD. Once they are confident that the cup fits properly and they can insert it correctly so it doesn’t leak they can do away with their tampons and panty liners and not have to worry about using a Milex diaphragm for flow control that was tricky to empty w/o spilling the contents… unless they want to use the diaphragm for flow control during menstrual sex. The students are so excited to have reached menarche and get their first diaphragms and menstrual cups as now they are biologically adult and their reproductive years have begun.

For removal the ringed bottom of the cup can be gently pulled to break the seal. If that isn’t successful then insert a finger between the vaginal wall and the cup to break the seal and then gently pull it out grasping the ringed portion of the lower dome while sitting on the toilet. Then it should be washed in a mild unscented soap in warm water dried and reinserted. The cup can darken with use and may be boiled for 10 – 15 minutes if it develops an odor.

Forcing Kassi’s period, an update: On Tuesday Oct 7 she took her first 5mg Norethindrone tablet. She will continue for nine more days stopping on Oct 16th when I will be CD27. That should cause her to spot on the 17th and start bleeding (her new CD1) on Saturday the 18th when we all should be CD1.

Kassi and fellatio:  Even though she has had her Gardasil shots there is still a chance of an HPV strain causing throat cancer a few years in the future so unless the men are screened the safest thing to do is to suck a man off while he is wearing a condom. The bar-condom brand we offer at our clubs is the latex LifeStyles ultra sensitive non-lubricated. That way the fellator just gets the scent and taste of the latex.

I’m teaching Kassi a trick that men love when it happens to them.  It’s part of my course in Contemporary Sexual Health that I teach at St. Lucy’s. If I’m with an uncut man who is known to have a safe sexual history when he’s just about ready to cum it’s always fun to bite through the reservoir tip and force his glans through the hole in the ruined sheath. Then skin-on-skin I manipulate his frenulum with my tongue with his glans forced tight against the roof of my mouth so that just before he comes he’s gasping and trying to shove his shaft down my throat.  But – and this is important or you can start gagging with your air cut off - I have my hand around the base of his shaft so no matter how hard he thrusts he can only spew in my mouth where I can taste his semen and easily swallow it as a nutritional supplement.

Gardasil and pelvic familiarization

The HPV vaccine Gardasil

Gardasil Cervical Cancer Vaccine More Cost-Effective Than Cervarix

“(Research: Comparing bivalent and quadrivalent human papillomavirus vaccines: economic evaluation based on transmission model)

http://www.bmj.com/cgi/doi/10.1136/bmj.d5775
(Editorial: Comparing bivalent and quadrivalent HPV vaccines)
http://www.bmj.com/cgi/doi/10.1136/bmj.d5720

The quadrivalent cervical cancer vaccine (Gardasil) is more cost-effective than the bivalent vaccine (Cervarix) if the two are equally priced, concludes a study published on bmj.com today. This is despite the fact that Cervarix may provide better protection against cervical cancer.

However, the authors stress that considerable uncertainty remains about the differential benefit of the two vaccines.

Human papillomavirus (HPV) is a common sexually transmitted infection seen most often in young women and adolescents. There are more than 100 types of HPV - some cause genital warts, but others cause cancers including cervical cancer.

Two HPV vaccines (Cervarix and Gardasil) are currently available. Both protect against HPV types 16 and 18, which cause over 70% of cervical cancer cases, as well as several other types of cancer. Gardasil also protects against types 6 and 11, which cause the majority of genital warts as well as a rare disease called respiratory papillomatosis.

In 2008, the UK government chose the bivalent vaccine Cervarix for its HPV vaccination programme, based partly on analyses by Mark Jit and his colleagues at the Health Protection Agency suggesting that Cervarix would have to be £15 to £23 cheaper per dose to be as cost-effective as Gardasil. However, the choice of vaccine will be re-evaluated when the current tender for the vaccination programme ends.

Since then, further evidence has emerged to differentiate the two vaccines. For instance, Cervarix appears to give better protection against cervical cancer caused by HPV types other than 16 and 18. Gardasil has now also shown protection against vulvar, vaginal and anal cancer.

Using this latest evidence within a mathematical model, Mark Jit and his team set out to re-evaluate the two vaccines to inform the next round of vaccine tendering.

They found the price differential between the two vaccines was larger than their 2008 analysis. Based on the most recent evidence, Cervarix would have to be £19 to £35 cheaper per dose to be as cost-effective as Gardasil, mainly due to a lack of protection against genital warts.

When all differences between the two vaccines are considered, "the quadrivalent vaccine (Gardasil) is still more cost effective if the two are equally priced," conclude the authors. However, they stress that "considerable uncertainty remains about the differential benefit of the two vaccines."

An accompanying editorial says that modeling can help decision makers, but ultimately the tender price is the final determinant of cost-effectiveness.”

Personal comment: St Lucy’s was fortunate that we had good advice when we chose Gardasil as protection against cervical cancer as now it has been found to protect against genital warts as well as vulvar, vaginal and anal cancer. This year all new St Lucy’s students must have completed the series of three Gardasil injections over an interval of six months before they are allowed on campus for orientation. All our male partner/instructors have had the full Gardasil regimen as well to provide maximum protection to themselves and their student partners. Gardasil has recently become a topic of debate among candidates for the Republican nomination for the 2012 presidential election. The conservative candidate Michele Bachmann seems to be very poorly informed and continues to blunder on about mental retardation and the dangers of vaccines. Sigh!

New St Lucy’s entry requirements, Pt II: I was remiss when posting about changes to St Lucy’s entry requirements for the 2011/12 school year. I failed to mention that all entering students must have had at least four years of ballet training consisting of not less than four hours a week for at least fifty weeks per year. We aren’t a ballet academy, but the physical and mental development (poise, grace, discipline, confidence and pelvic muscle development) of the students is so closely tied to ballet training and discipline that any less and a student has a very difficult time keeping up. One might think that this requirement would dissuade parents from enrolling their daughters at St Lucy’s, but that hasn’t been the case as highly qualified applicants far outnumber the seats available for new students. Parents (especially their mothers) are determined to begin preparing their daughters years in advance to get into St Lucy’s.

Pelvic Familiarization for post-menarche students: Because the health syllabus at St Lucy’s is heavily weighted toward teaching female sexual skills we require all post-menarche students to take a pelvic familiarization (PF) course. This course covers menstruation, feminine hygiene products and their proper use, reproductive tract devices for contraception (IUDs, condoms and cervical barriers), dealing with the hymen and sex toys. The course purpose is not only to familiarize the student with the range of products and devices available, but to have her become comfortable and confident about touching her own genitals so she won’t be afraid or embarrassed when she takes Contemporary Sexual Health and Advanced Sexual Techniques. To that end we teach and recommend the students masturbate to learn what arouses them and what doesn’t so they can guide a male partner/instructor when that time arrives.

Students in this course usually range in age from 13 to 15 as all train heavily for ballet which often delays menarche. You would be surprised at the number of girls who have been brought up to think that touching themselves “down there” is dirty or shameful so PF has reduced the number of girls needing counseling due to psychological issues from becoming more intimately aware of their own bodies. We are very pleased with the PF student’s response to the classes on the clitoris, condoms, dildos and vibrators and all have delighted in their new found source of self-pleasuring with the toys provided each student for lab exercises.

Having pelvic familiarization taught in a gentle, non-threatening and supportive way our psychologists believe will result in very young students not suffering from stress related Vaginismus: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus a condition where any vaginal penetration – or sometimes in severe cases even the thought of penetration occurring - causes clenching of the pelvic muscles making any penetration extremely painful and so tight penetration is impossible for an erect male. There are physiological reasons – which we test for and if found prevent the student from entering St Lucy’s - as well as psychological reasons for Vaginismus. In the past we have had an occasional case of stress related vaginismus after a student has been accepted so our psychologists believe the PF course should prevent that from occurring

Size matters

An anxious student’s first look at her trainer’s equipment

Cosplay with latex hoods and ball gags: The UNLV Cosplay group is starting a project to play at being kinky escorts to service boyfriends, so Taryn’s friend asked if I would provide technical assistance and training. There is no money in that for me, but it gives me an opportunity to scout the sorority women for possible candidates as escorts. It’s a way for an attractive and adventuresome student to make money if she has talent and can get with a good service. However, with the economy like it is the competition for the available opportunities is brutal.

Anyway, the sorority girls wanted to learn about some basic D/S lifestyle clothing so they could get familiar with and dressing in BDSM gear for role-play, but found that hoods and ball gags caused some members problems. The compression and sensory deprivation aspects of tight latex hoods freaked out some girls and some didn’t like wearing ball-gags because they would appear too subservient (which is exactly what wearing a ball-gag is supposed to do) and minimize the noise if they scream when a well hung instructor/Dom rammed their cervix. Those who couldn’t tolerate hoods and ball-gags were dropped from participation immediately as they would never be able to stand more restrictive equipment like catsuits and ballet-boots.

I think some of them just fantasized about being BDSM submissives – none have the perspective or drive to be Dommes - and so when they had a an opportunity to experience a bit of D/S lifestyle reality they didn’t like the smell of sweaty latex and the taste of a ball-gag and the work to get in and out of the latex suits. You have to be a fetishist, at least to some extent to enjoy wearing latex even though you may be doing it to get a specific man’s attention. So I set up a scenario for the remaining six girls who wanted to wear latex catsuit. It was that that they were being accepted for training as escorts. It starts with an actual and very thorough pelvic exam and a full STI panel to make sure they were healthy and capable of taking at least an eight inch penis before I let them play with some of the casinos well endowed male escort trainers. I know most of sorority girls recently had full STI panels, but I wanted to see the results of our tests to ensure they were still clean.

Rebreather bags & asphyxia: My Advanced Sexual Techniques class at St Lucy’s is having latex rebreather bags fitted to their gasmasks and the FFMs they will use for dive-sex training. A fitter came on campus from Labia Labs the fetishist developmental group jointly owned by Jeff, Gepetto and me. I’ve gotten permission from St Lucy’s board to use Labia Labs even though I have a financial interest in it because they are the only BDSM development shop for creative design of BDSM clothing and equipment, among other things. They will periodically ask for audits of expenses which the Labs comptroller is happy to provide and they even send a young female CPA over to try out some of the designs herself. I’m afraid I’ve co-opted her making a closet rubberist out of her, but that’s human nature, to seek pleasure and she seems to have found it in a latex catsuit, Ben Wa balls, hood and gasmask. I wish everyone was that easy to mind-fuck, but I’m sure she was using toys, dildos and vibis, before I took her to the next level. Now she wants to try everything we teach in AST, “to make certain the school is getting its moneys worth” she says, so who am I to complain. She audits my training classes so she can safely use the equipment and the students rather like having a young beautiful member of the schools admin taking class with them as it makes them feel more adult.

We are training the girls with RBs connected to their gasmasks first. Then when they become confident in that application we will teach them the delights of rebreather bag use during dive sex, which is more complicated. Rebreather bags can be very dangerous since they are used frequently during solo sex and it is easy to get into trouble by trying for a personal best in continuous valve closure during asphyxia play. What we advise is during solo play that the student not shut the valve sealing her rebreather, but put her finger over the vent so that if she faints her hand will drop away and the open valve will allow her to breathe fresh air. Passing out during rebreather solo play with the valve closed has led to a lot of deaths and some that should have died as they ended up in a persistent vegetative state from lack of oxygen to the brain and will be on a ventilator for ever, unless next of kin decided to turn off the ventilator.

Under water rebreather bags: Our way of using an underwater rebreather bag is different from surface rebreathing in that the bag is connected to the exhalation port on a modified FFM that has had the exhalation valve removed and replaced by one at the end of the UW rebreather bag and a manual valve beyond that which can block exhaling into the water. There is also a valve on the air hose to the second stage reg on the FFM (or for added difficulty the tank valve can be used) so that the wearer can shut off her own air.

For normal breathing the valve at the end of the rebreather bag is open so that exhaled air can be released. To activate the rebreather the valve on the end of the rebreather is closed which allows the diver’s exhalation to fill the bag. Then the wearer’s air is shut off by means of the in-line valve or the main tank valve. We prefer a trainee use the in-line valve because shutting off the tank valve prevents buoyancy control by means of inflating her BCD or drysuit a complication a rebreather student doesn’t need at first. Once there is no air through the DV the wearer sucks air from the rebreather bag and the level of carbon dioxide quickly increases to the point where clear thinking is impossible and unconsciousness is imminent. She or her dive buddy has to be ready to restore to her second stage reg before she becomes unconscious. That it’s why we recommend never having solo dive-sex with a FFM fitted with a rebreather bag. There is almost no room to recover from a breathplay mistake while wearing a rebreather bag fitted FFM.

Colored oval crotch gussets: Now that autumn is here (the autumnal equinox was on 9/23) I’m glad to be getting back into fall leggings and convertible tights. I love my custom legwear with its brightly colored oval cotton lined crotch gussets. I love flashing bystanders when I wear them under micro-minis or getting head turning looks when I wear them in the casino hallways on the way to class and rehearsals. When I go into a restaurant I just wrap a pareo around my hips and slip past the dress code, but I wear it in a way that creates a hip-slit that clearly shows my leg from the waist to toes and a flash of colored gusset when I walk. Blood red, emerald green or canary yellow are my faves for drawing attention. I coordinate the colors with red being when I’m menstrual, green when I’m fertile and yellow when I’m luteal. I often wear red satin pointes during rehearsals as well when I’m menstrual since if I’m in costume one of my stallions interested in menstrual sex may have difficulty seeing the color of my crotch gusset. I’m CD9 and fertile today so my crotch gusset is a brilliant emerald green.

Drospirenone and blood clots: The FDA has issued a safety review update on the possible increased risk of blood clots with birth control pills containing drospirenone. The link is: http://www.fda.gov/Drugs/DrugSafety/ucm273021.htm Of the St Lucy’s students who are on the pill the majority are on a pill containing drospirenone, Yaz or one of its generics. While we haven’t had an instance of any female at St Lucy’s having blood clots while taking birth control pills containing drospirenone we are recommending that all students whose pelvic anatomy will permit, have a GyneFix frameless IUD inserted do so because the GyneFix has virtually no side effects and a very low rate of expulsion if it is implanted correctly.

Aimée’s Easter vacation

DESCO commercial surface supplied free flow FFM

The photo: A young escort trainee wearing a vintage DESCO shallow water surface supplied commercial FFM ideal for dive-sex in residential swimming pools and training pools down to 30 feet. With no tanks to get in the way dive-sex is a lot more fun wearing this surface fed FFM. The large volume of air in the lens cavity keeps the wearer in a heads-up attitude unless she uses mask weights to establish neutral buoyancy of the mask. A light weight belt can be worn or silicone pool-pointes that come with a set of ½ lb to 5 lbs screw on platform weights.

Easter vacation and dive-sex: St Lucy’s girls are out of school for Holy week and so Cyndi invited Gigi and Aimée and three of the younger male escort trainees chosen for their size, stamina and personalities to spend the week with unrestricted use of the smaller ballet studio for the girls pointe classes, our training pool for dive-sex and the upper sun deck for nude tanning. The Pit, my 68 ft deep pool, is off limits for the teens unless a divemaster or I am with them. In the guest wing of my place they can fuck one another’s brains out and won’t get in my way and I won’t get in theirs. Cyndi and Gigi have GyneFix IUDs implanted and Aimée is on Cerazette, a highly effective pill. And there is a drawer full of ella (a 30 mg tablet of ulipristal acetate) the new 5 day morning after pill if any of the girls feels unsure, so I think we are well stocked with supplies. I made sure they all brought their gas-guards and I brought home extra Reflexions in the girls sizes in case someone has a dome failure.

I dove the training pool with Aimée to check out her dive skills and to familiarize her with the Desco free-flow FFM and pool-pointes. While we were in the pool area I had her insert one of her 60 mm Reflexions diaphragms using the professional DiveGel / O9 spermicide combination (Semécide) and then showed her how to squat and bear down to squeeze the residual air out of the folds in the latex dome to greatly increase the dome vacuum and seal. I also showed her how to insert more DiveGel with a prefilled applicator while underwater. Developing the best gas-guard seal possible is very important for young women whose vaginas are still lengthening from growth and sexual experience because if taken by a man when she is ‘tented’ and the anterior rim is out of her pubic notch it will be much harder for a partner to under-thrust the rim.

Doug the plug: I have paired Aimée up with Doug ‘the plug’ whose equipment is only 6 inches long but 2 ¼ inches in diameter. He got the nickname because someone said his penis looks like a fireplug. Petite women love having Doug as a partner because he usually can’t reach their cervixes, but he is so thick that he feels amazing just moving in and out and he is exceptional at giving G-spot orgasms. The down side with Doug as a partner is that - like Peter - he seems to be able to impregnate more than his share of women who all insist they were well protected during their encounters with him. I think she will be safe enough on Cerazette and she is finding his very high fertility thrilling. She tells me at breakfast each morning how many times he has taken her the previous day and that she is draining Doug’s semen. I’m so pleased that I’ve been able to get her to enjoy men in their early 20s now instead of father figures to which she had become so attached in Europe.

Since both Cyndi’s and Gigi’s cycles are synched to mine the three of us are fertile this week, I thought that is fitting for Easter week with the seasonal emphasis on the generation of new life, though we are planning to avoid that aspect of it if possible. I have been surprised how quickly Aimée seemed to blossom once she felt accepted by me and when Cyndi and Gigi welcomed her into our extended family, I wasn’t certain how well her presence would be accepted, she seemed to fit right in and they are all sharing pointe-shoe tips and information about local boys who have been tested and are safe for intimate encounters.

Jack on being introduced to Kink while young: “Thanks for that explanation about "sexual" technique being taught to 15 year olds. I am quite sure they are mentally capable and physically capable of learning techniques. I suppose that if you gave a rubber catsuit to a 15yr old and ask her to wear it she might feel "sexy" and that she looks like some super-heroine. I also suppose she might decide on her own that wearing rubber is a turn on to her and could / would be to her boyfriends. She might even not associate unusual clothing as taboo since she has had no exposure or comprehension of kink vs. vanilla sex, the concept of fetishes and things like BDSM. Having ballet "sex", dive-sex and so forth are as kinky as any and I am not passing judgment here.' So yes, you can show her... this is what some adults do and "covet" and you can learn how it's done. You wrote you don't teach BDSM per se, but will to a student who shows and interest. What is the philosophical distinction between dive sex as described here and bondage scenes in BDSM? Or between sex in rubber ballet boots and rubber enclosure and BDSM play? Many adult (male) fetishists would love to be able to take a vanilla partner and turn her into a fetish loving female with a few "classes". From what I read, the vast majority of non fetish women when exposed to it by their SOs, or spouse might at best ...give it a try, but most seem to reject it and see no appeal or use for it and the introduction of kink into a vanilla relationship is often the death knell for it. Older people seem to be incapable of learning fetish and learning to love and to "use it" as you claim to be able to teach to young ladies. I suppose if one at any age WANTS to learn sexual techniques they are expressing perhaps the attitude and proclivity for an expansive sexual menu in their quiver. But there are adult lovers who even want to "get with the program", make an effort and find fetish sex, kink and so forth does nothing for them. They might feel uncomfortable and alienated from sex wearing rubber or a hood... uncomfortable in killer heels and bondage attire. These lovers have the right attitude, and maturity and "don't get it." Can turn on be taught in a classroom environment?”

“Thanks for that explanation about "sexual" technique being taught to 15 year olds.”

I know that was written facetiously, but that’s the ideal age to introduce a young woman to advanced sexual techniques, including kink. That’s because most girls who are training intensely for ballet or swimming don’t reach menarche until about the age of 14. Then it’s best to give a girl at least a year after her periods start for them to settle into a routine as to length of her cycles and duration of her periods. So by the time she is well into her 15th year she should be ready to be fitted for and become used to using all her fetish related equipment she is almost 16 and at the legal age of consent for penetrative sex.

“What is the philosophical distinction between dive sex as described here and bondage scenes in BDSM? Or between sex in rubber ballet boots and rubber enclosure and BDSM play?”

The difference is that the St Lucy’s students have a self directed interest and willingness to learn about various intimate aspects of diving and rubber fetishwear and no coercion is used. A St Lucy’s girl can mix and match different aspects of various fetishes to maximize her own erotic response or that of a prospective mate to fit her immediate needs.

“From what I read, the vast majority of non fetish women when exposed to it by their SOs, or spouse might at best ...give it a try, but most seem to reject it and see no appeal or use for it and the introduction of kink into a vanilla relationship is often the death knell for it.”

Exactly! That makes my case elegantly. Much earlier in our discussions you inferred there was no advantage for an impressionable young woman to be introduced to and schooled in multiple aspects of kink and using those she felt comfortable with to pull a suitable mate into her orbit and hold him there with her intimate skills!

“I suppose if one at any age WANTS to learn sexual techniques they are expressing perhaps the attitude and proclivity for an expansive sexual menu in their quiver. But there are adult lovers who even want to "get with the program", make an effort and find fetish sex, kink and so forth does nothing for them.”

I agree, and I think that’s so sad! That happens a lot because by the time they become ‘interested’ many have reached the point where the free testosterone circulating in the blood – in both women and men – has declined to the extent that they find the result not worth the effort, or their conscience tells them ‘it’s wrong’ to be turned on by rubber, kinky SCUBA or whatever and they shame themselves into giving up before they give it a good try.

“Can turn on be taught in a classroom environment?”

At St Lucy’s we introduce the students to a wide range of fetishes and the girls can chose from among them the ones they feel most confident with or that best fit their personalities. However, only a small part of their training in those chosen fields is in the classroom. We recommend that they choose no more than 3 or 4 to specialize in because the kink takes time to learn – in lab encounters with male escorts - and some field trips - to Tahoe for altitude diving – or Reno for rough-rubber clubbing for example.

Treating infertility, fetishes & sexuality

Natalie Portman as Nina Sayers in Black Swan

Treating special cases of Infertility: I’ve been working as a resource for a local practice of specialists that treat infertile couples. I was asked to participate some months ago after one of the partners, an endocrinologist, and I both attended a party and knowing my interest in dive-sex he told me that he and his wife were taking lessons from a mutual friend. Once on that subject one thing led to another and he shared that he and his wife had been trying to conceive for 18 months and nothing was working so they were about to start fertility treatments in preparation for harvesting her eggs for a try at IVF.

Both had been tested extensively and nothing appeared to be wrong with her tubes, her eggs are of good quality and her cycles are regular at 30 days and her hormones are well balanced – she is 26 and seven years younger than her husband. His sperm is plentiful well formed and highly motile so there is no apparent reason for their not conceiving. He said his wife was very upset about not being able to become pregnant and I jokingly asked why he didn’t under thrust his wife’s gas-guard during an underwater encounter and fill it with semen. I said that since they had decided to try IVF that the pressure was off her for a while until she started on the fertility drugs so she wouldn’t be so stressed out worrying about if she would conceive from every act of intercourse and if he filled the dome of her diaphragm with sperm during her fertile days and she left it in place for at least eight hours.. well it wouldn’t cost anything to try and who knows what might happen.

He asked how he would go about under thrusting and told me she wore a 70 mm All-Flex when I asked what maker’s diaphragm she was fitted with. An All-Flex is ideal because it is the easiest type for a man to under thrust. I told him he should penetrate her doggie style with her bending over with her hands on her knees or with her kneeling on her hands and knees and that he should get her as aroused as possible so that with the lengthening (tenting) of her vagina along with gravity pulling her uterus deeper into her the anterior rim of her All-Flex should be far enough out of her pubic notch that, if he thrust into the anterior wall of her vagina, he should be able to easily under thrust the rim. And because he is uncut another good thing about taking her from behind during an under thrust encounter is that if he angles his shaft correctly the top of his glans pushes against the rim not the more sensitive underside so his frenulum is protected, which otherwise can be injured by hitting the rim.

When I finished giving him instructions he looked unsure of himself, blushed and wouldn’t look me in the eye. Then he looked up and asked if I would show him how the All-Flex folded. I had known him for a while and had flirted shamelessly with him at cervical barrier meeting we both attended so I knew he usually didn’t have a roving eye and was deeply in love with his wife. Even so I thought he was going ask to let him try under thrusting with me and I was ready to say yes. So I was caught off guard when he only wanted to see how the device folded. I think I was able to hide my dismay in not being able to add him to my list of conquests while I composed myself. I had a Milex Arcing spring diaphragm in my tote that I had as a backup so I got that out to use as an example. It’s not the quite the same as an All-Flex since the Milex will only fold in two places while the All-Flex will fold when compressed anywhere on the rim, which is what makes it so easy to under thrust. There are some differences between his wife’s and my pelvic anatomies. According to him she has strong vaginal muscle tone and wears a 70 mm diaphragm while I have extremely strong muscle tone and wear an 80 mm diaphragm but I showed him how it folded and he seemed satisfied, though I thought he looked at me with a particularly smoldering gaze just before we said good bye.

I didn’t hear from him again for about three months when he called to tell me his wife was eight weeks pregnant after he under thrust her gas guard during one of their dive sex encounters in the dive well of their all-weather pool. I was so pleased for them! Since then he has recommended to several infertile rubber fetish couples who enjoy wearing and thrusting into vaginal rubber that they try under thrusting to hot load the wife’s diaphragm and it has worked for at least one of them. So perhaps that’s an inexpensive and fun way to treat some cases of infertility.

Fetishes and sexuality – the discussion continues: This is the second part of a discussion between an anonymous reader (J) and me about our fetishes and sexuality. His comments have been edited to an extent.

J: “Thanks for reading and responding to my long rants! I wouldn't mind if you edited out some of my typos when you quote from them.”

If I publish this in printed form, I’m going to charge you for editing services! LOL! You are the first man who has been willing to share his thoughts in depth with me about sexuality and fetishes in general and his specifically which is why I find our discussion so fascinating.

J: “Could you go into detail about not so much as learning a technique used in fetish.. and there are many of them from getting into rubber, whipping and so forth but how one actually fetishes or turns activities which in themselves are not sexual to be experienced AS sexual activities? I've always presumed that it was a sort of positive (mostly) reinforcement whether from the teacher or self the inductee into the fetish. At least that's how it seems to be framed.”

In my case it was pointe shoes first. Every girl taking ballet longs to wear pointes and it seemed forever until I got mine when I was 12. Of course I had been wearing other student’s pointes – I had several pairs of friend’s dead pointes that fit me – for more than a year before I officially got my first pair of Capezios. The first time I wore pointe shoes I felt different, with a tingling in my pelvis that I (then) did not recognize as sexual arousal and standing and walking around en pointe made the feeling more intense. It wasn’t until 2 years later when I reached menarche at 14 that I connected the feeling I had when wearing pointe shoes with sexual arousal. My Psychiatrist says my sexual attraction to tight shoes and ballet-boots and standing on my toes with my feet tied into my shoes by satin ribbons or locked into ballet-boots with shaft locks is connected to my being rejected by my mother’s husband (not my biological father) after she died when I was 7 y/o and he sent me away to ballet school.

I am also something of a masochist enjoying the pain of being dropped on to the platforms of my pointes when a lover’s thrusts lift me off the floor while being taken en pointe and when a man is large enough to thrust into my cervix. I do have limits, but they are rarely approached and, so far, never exceeded. Over time I’ve found I can get a spike in my libido from wearing tight latex body suits. Tight rubber undies or skirts don’t do anything for me (well, the undies contribute to yeast infections), but a well fitting latex catsuit shows off my body while providing the illusion of ‘protection’. Protection from what I’ve never been able to rationally determine because a .2 mm or even a .4 mm latex skin is easily punctured or torn. So I’ve concluded that showing off my sleek ballet body encased in glistening rubber membrane to make me appear more alluring, and ‘unattainable’ has no useful purpose other than to make me feel more confident and to attract and mindfuck potential lovers.

With my AST students and my circle of friends I try to interest them in trying different fetishes. I’ve found a hard sell is counterproductive. Some don’t care for the experience, but a few find it pleasurable and those are the ones to whom I give positive reinforcement to bring them further into whatever fetish experience they seem to enjoy. It is merely an extension of their sexual identity.

J: “You hear the word "training" used. Training is used typically in the Dom/Sub context... and it makes kind of sense. Submissive is trained to do whatever... presumably to please the dominant.... such as trained to wear heels or ballet boots. There is less implication and emphasis that the sub actually finds the training erotic as much as the idea of pleasing the dominant by acquiring the skill. In many cases it's almost as if the fetish they are trained in is "distasteful" on some level and it is a selfless task to suffer the training.”

I don’t consider myself deeply into the D/S S&M scene. Although I do consider myself a Domme I can switch if I find the right man or when I’m teaching a husband to under thrust his wife’s diaphragm and ejaculate in the dome. [I wear an Oves cap under the diaphragm so there is no danger of him getting me preggers as much as he might like to] Under thrusting a partner’s diaphragm is a reproductive technique for couples having problems conceiving and curiously it seems to work more often for some supposedly infertile couples than statistics can explain; which is why I haven’t mentioned it before. When I’m teaching either Escort trainees or AST students at St Lucy’s I train the individual trainee/student in the use of, for example: pointe shoes for sex doggie style en pointe, or the use of Ben Wa balls for strengthening the muscles of the vaginal barrel, or Ben Wa balls for learning to manipulate the vaginal muscles to be able to ripple grip a man. All my training is toward pleasuring the wearer or making her more attractive to men.

J: “I would have thought, or actually do think, that what is more the operative psychological thing going on is a positive reinforcement which becomes and acquired taste, preference sexual trigger.”

Exactly the point I was making above! And I do wear things I know a particular man likes when I’m to be with him and switch off with his different faves, because even I would get tired of steak all the time and I’m a carnivore of mythic appetite.

J: “Novelty is definitely working inside us driving our libidos. It's probably why monogamy and sex don't seem to work in most cases. Once the novelty of an experience is gone attention and interest wanes. This is very much how out nervous system works. Essentially we respond to changes and ignore steady states responses. The brain would be overwhelmed otherwise.”

As returning readers know I’m not monogamous. Fortunately for me there is no lack of novelty in my available partners. In addition to my ‘normal’ stable of stallions within my circle of friends I have the pool of male talent from the escort trainees who I teach from which to choose. The turnover in male Escort trainees is continuous and each man brings his unique perspective and interpretations to the sexual talents he brings to the job. If I was looking for a lifetime mate, someone to settle down with or if I had baby fever and wanted a man to impregnate me I’m sure my viewpoint would be very different. But for now I’m blessed with a very strong libido and a large pool of talent from which to slake my appetite for any sort of sex I want.

J: “My own observations are that fetish (sex) is much less intimate and personal than coital or even vanilla sex. There is all sorts of "dress up" identity and role play which many represent as being some sort of deep expression of "who they are" and pass this off for intimacy. This is really not the case. How can one be intimate with an "illusion" or a role... or with someone who is hidden inside of some outfit where often their features are concealed? A sexual response or orgasm is associated with intimate activities as we usually choose carefully who to receive from or reward. But once it becomes "depersonalized" and commoditized it loses intimacy and is more like sport or a match where the players use each other receive some sort of reward. Once people separate sex from intimacy it really is closer to masturbation or selfish gratification”

I think (for fetish sex) this is probably true for most people as we have agreed in earlier correspondence. It is difficult for a client to hide his or her identity under an encasement suit and hood, though not impossible by using cars with their license plates hidden or changed and paying in cash. I think emotional intimacy is a very small part of fetish sex – except when a person is first exposed to the concept. In my experience dress-up fetishes are mainly concerned with sexual gratification for the one(s) wearing the clothing.

J: “I am not saying some people are not better at sex, have longer and deeper orgasms than others - they do. I am saying that fetish is not especially better than non fetish sex... and the novelty simply drives the cost way up... and once down that road we are somewhat stuck as we can't turn back. Here is where the intellectual aspect of kink kicks in. That is where we embrace fetish for all sorts of reasons unrelated to a sexual response”

To be into fetishes in a big way can be ruinously expensive, which is why so few are. For me there is an aspect of ‘protection’ however ludicrous that may be (if considered rationally) when entirely sheathed in a .2 mm latex membrane or ‘danger’ - from a number of sources - during dive-sex. My Psychiatrist says that taking risks is an effort to prove myself to my father (who died in 1991) but since none of my fetishes are required for me to reach orgasm they are harmless, but who knows long term? Wearing certain favorite things does make me feel more confident and more desirable; pointes by displaying my feet and legs to advantage while standing en pointe and an encasement suit molded to my body making me ‘unattainable’ because I’m ‘protected’ while sheathed in a latex membrane that can be torn by a sharp fingernail. Go figure! Who is mind fucking who? Is that rational? Not really, but great fun!

Readers who were with me when I was posting on Yahoo 360 may recall that my father blamed me for my mother’s death since she was driving me home from ballet class when we were hit broadside by a drunk driver. My father was inconsolable and, saying that I reminded him too much of my mom, he sent me into exile at boarding school. He eventually drank himself to death. I tried to convince him it wasn’t my fault and in my late teens even tried to get him to sleep with me believing (for a while) I could take my mothers place in his life, but he shunned me. I just wanted to please him by giving him the only gift I had to give, amazing recreational sex! I didn’t want to have his baby! What’s so wrong with that? So I have my own set of demons pursuing me, which is why I’ve been in analysis with a really great Psychiatrist for years. He keeps me stable and focused, so I can devote my time and skills primarily to ballet and sex.