Ballet BDSM

Red Gaynors with a Reflexions and its introducer

The Photo: A pair of my red Gaynor Minden pointes a color I wear when I’m menstrual or am in a very dominant mood along with one of my latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragms partially folded and tucked into a block and a diaphragm introducer. The introducer was used to help users to more easily insert flat spring diaphragms, but since demand for diaphragms has declined it is no longer made. Folded as it is readers unfamiliar with wearing a flat spring diaphragm can see how the dome folds into ridges. The three valleys between the ridges and the rim are filled with spermicide.

Ballet BDSM: Marvin loves being submissive to me in my role as his dead wife Jenna. Returning readers will recall that he suffers from a localized form of Delusional Disorder “with bizarre content” the bizarre content being the impossibility of my being Jenna, which only occurs when I’m near him for more than fifteen or twenty minutes. One of their games during which she became pregnant was a form of Ballet BDSM. Of course Ballet BDSM comes in all forms limited only by the imaginations of the couples playing. In the case of Jenna and Marvin it was fairly vanilla involving only tying Marvin’s wrists and ankles to the bedposts with the ribbons (hers and my ribbons measure19 or 20 inches each in length and are machine sewn to each quarter section) from two pairs of her Bloch SO104 pointes and gagging him with another. Then she slipped one of her micromesh a thong moist with her vaginal secretions over his nose and the waistband behind his head to hold it in place so her scent filled his lungs as he gasped for air while she mounted him; sitting astride his erection and sucking all the cream out of his éclair with her well toned pelvic muscles.

With our play we continue to follow what they were doing during the encounter from which Jenna conceived. Marvin hasn’t said anything about it but I know he would love getting me pregnant. He especially loves the fact that it occurred while Jenna was being dominant and he couldn’t do anything but be a sperm donor as she had her way with him and he is obsessed with trying to have that happen again. At my age having a single act of unprotected sex while fertile I have a 30% chance of becoming preggers, which is why I’m careful to wear the latex Reflexions FS to reduce the likelihood of that happening to an acceptable level.

Ballet intensive, unintended consequences: St Lucy’s was not the only school in town to hold a ballet summer intensive, but we may have been the safest from the standpoint of unintended consequences suffered by the students. The students attending the other BSI had all come to our clinic for evaluation prior to taking the course as it was supposed to push the envelope as far as the student’s endurance. They were all very fit and on hormonal contraceptives. I was surprised who they had as their male pointe teacher. I’ve known Cedric, who dances with the Royal Ballet, since he taught at St Lucy’s several summers ago and thought these students weren’t sexually sophisticated enough to be in one of his classes. However, all I could do was to caution the girls that he was very potent and disliked condoms so they should take care to use their hormonal method according to the instructions that came with it. I also offered to fit them with diaphragms, which their insurance through student health would have paid for, but none accepted my offer.

Most of that school’s BSI students attended it because they would be starting or returning to UNLV in a few weeks and wanted to get settled or back into the life of the city. They had also heard what a stud-muffin Cedric is and so wanted to experience for themselves being in the presence of a ballet sex-god. I understand all too well the strong sexual attraction some men have and Cedric has it in spades. Even I go rubber legged when first around him after being away from him for a while. So I knew all his students would be aroused and vulnerable to his slightest suggestion during class and found myself wishing I could be with them inhaling the testosterone laced pheromones in the scent wafting from his sweat during toe class.

The pace of the SI was said to be so intense that Cedric suggested his students take a nutritional supplement to boost their metabolism to give them more energy. What they weren’t told was that increasing their metabolism would flush hormonal contraceptives out of their bodies so quickly that the amount left borders on ineffectively therapeutic and they should use a barrier as a back-up method until they stop taking it. So at the end of that three week SI two girls, a first year and a returning second year UNLV student, were pregnant by him. This sort of thing happens with him everywhere he teaches as he has an amazing body, great personality and is an amazing chick-magnet. The first year student freaked out as she is from a very strict Christian family and rushed home intending to keep the baby. The family probably won’t sue because they couldn’t stand the publicity. The second year had been around enough to know that a vacuum aspiration was quick almost risk free and was covered by her insurance and it was done at my clinic while I held her hand.

Sex with a Ballet-God: I had sex with Cedric the day before he returned to the UK. We spent the afternoon at the barre and in bed as a going away present (for us both) since he will be rejoining the Royal Ballet as a soloist after their summer hiatus and undoubtedly spend the fall and winter fucking his way through all the new girls in the corps. His body is every bit as beautiful and his technique as gentle and skilled as I remembered it from several years ago. Since I was CD9 and fertile I was careful to wear a latex Reflections flat spring which is nearly impossible to under-thrust as he is mischievous and would like nothing better than to bypass my protection and leave his seed in my tubes to fertilize my egg when I ovulated. It’s too early for me to test to see if he succeeded in impregnating me, but I have no reason to think he was successful as there was no semen just fertile cervical mucus (semen liquefies thirty minutes after ejaculation) in the dome when I removed the diaphragm for cleaning ten hours later.

Priestess therapy: Returning readers will recall Marvin is my psychotherapist and fetish lover, among other things. In his professional capacity he is helping me adapt to and properly assume my responsibilities as a Demi-Goddess, a Priestess of the Goddess Aphrodite/Venus. He is trying to get me to focus on the things around me the Goddess wants me to influence (for example, my students and friends sex lives) and not on generalities like hunger and World Peace which are taking the time and resources of so many others far more skilled in those areas than I. 

In our private lives together (and unbeknownst to him) Marvin is teaching me to mind meld men to cause them willingly to meet my needs by placing them in my thrall. Not that women don’t do that already, to an extent, but male management at the Demi-Goddess level takes a bit of getting used to since it should be done seemingly without effort. My role as Jenna (his dead wife) in our relationship is one such test that the Goddess set for me, a learning experience so I can see how far my power extends before I damage an otherwise perfectly good man. And of course all without calling attention to myself by doing something a beautiful, athletic and sexually active dancer couldn’t possibly accomplish by herself.

 

Cervical barriers and BDSM

Reflexions flat spring latex diaphragm preferred by dive-sex professionals

Premature ejaculation in the fetish world: I’m working with my psychiatrist who is treating several of his patients for premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation (PE) in the vanilla world is annoying and embarrassing to men and frustrating to their women partners during recreational sex, but it doesn’t affect their fertility. If he is erect and can get it in before getting off he’s a success at procreational sex. In the fetish world where Viagra, Cialis and Lavitra are consumed like breath mints by males of all ages the inability to control the ejaculation reflex and retain an erection for extended intervals, even with a cock ring, can be a psychologically crippling condition and will affect a man’s standing with women while competing for the most desirable females.

Rather than medicate them with anti-depressants which make it more time consuming for some men to reach orgasm my psychiatrist is trying to have these patients become so used to visual erotic stimuli - in the form of a rubber-girl masturbating - that they can begin to regain control of their ejaculations. I wear a black latex catsuit with a hood that hides my features so I can’t be identified, ballet boots and special black latex exam gloves. I speak very little during a 25 minute session with each patient though I do gasp, mew, moan, whimper and occasionally scream while using my fingers or a dildo to give myself orgasms. The object for the patient is to be able to go the full 25 minutes w/o ejaculating while he watches me masturbate to multiple orgasms.

I wear an Oves cap (my secret) and then ‘double bag’ for safety (in case I’m overpowered during the session and the patient pulls my diaphragm out – see ‘BDSM and cervical barriers’ below) while letting the patient watch me insert a Reflexions (latex) diaphragm in case the patient loses control and mounts, penetrates and ejaculates inside me. In which case we begin again and a second occurrence of that behavior and the Doctor bills the patient $500 for each time I’m mounted. Having a guy drop $1,000 in less than 25 minutes usually focuses a patients mind. All sessions are videoed so there are no billing disputes. For my own safety I insist that all the patients I perform ‘erotic therapy’ with have been recently tested for STIs and are clean before I begin treatment since, as I mentioned, it is not unknown for men to lose control and mount their erotic therapist though it’s far more common to get splattered with semen, especially during the early sessions of a patients treatment.

One reason I wear black latex is that fresh milky white semen splatters show up well on a black background for the video. I wear a splatter mask, a pair of oversized contact lenses, to minimize the chances of getting semen in my eyes (it burns) since some patients have amazing force behind the first three or four ejaculations of semen. I’ve treated four patients so far and three have shown substantial increases in ejaculatory control by being able to go the entire 25 minute session w/o spilling seed after only 5 treatments each.

Many of these patients have wives and young children and had begun experimenting with fetishes to try and correct their inability to perform sexually at the level their wives require, so in addition to our therapy sessions I try to help the patients with tips about what to do to improve their standing at home. At the end of a successful session I allow the patient to mount and get off inside me (a non billable orgasm for the patient) or if he insists I’ll blow him. But then I give him a deep kiss and spit his semen back into his mouth and force him to swallow it. After that I’m not asked for any more blow jobs by that patient. I prefer to be mounted since I enjoy being able to have that much control over a partner and love having a man’s semen draining into my thong. I also like being able to release the patient’s tension after a difficult 25 minutes and taking him for my own pleasure gives me a feeling of accomplishment as well as feeling sated and confident after mutually orgasmic sex.

Cervical barriers and BDSM: A group of young Rubber Sluts (a rank in the local BDSM community that has nothing to do with a woman’s moral character) have asked me to give several seminars on the advantages and disadvantages of using a cervical barrier in the BDSM community. Almost everyone involved in dive-sex out here knows by now that wearing a gas guard during dive-sex is important for a woman’s safety but the choice of which barrier to use and the benefits and drawbacks of diaphragm vs. cap is not always clear. They felt the need for the class became obvious after there were several incidents involving local women in BDSM clubs that put women’s lives at risk. I offered to hold the classes for their entire club membership, but they wanted a private meeting rather than having their Masters or Doms present so they could ask as many personal questions as possible w/o feeling controlled by males.

Reflexions diaphragm: FemCaps and Reflexions flat spring diaphragms are the barriers of choice with the Reflexions far more often used because it is capable of providing a better fit, is less likely to be uncomfortable for a male partner regardless of his size, is nearly impossible for a male partner to under-thrust the rim, can being worn for protection at any time in a woman’s cycle and – unlike most silicone barriers - can be used safely with silicone intimate lubes (like DiveGel) during dive-sex. And the latex dome is stretchier and transmits heat better than silicone so it is almost like skin-on-skin contact. The only possible down-side to wearing the Reflexions is if the woman has a latex allergy. Latex cervical barriers are more easily damaged by oily meds and lubes than are silicone ones, but with proper care a latex diaphragm should last a year or perhaps two even in frequent use. Other diaphragms made of silicone like the Ortho All-Flex and Milex Arcing spring and Omniflex are more easily under-thrust and can be destroyed not only by oily meds and lubes, but also by silicone lubes used with them and silicone lubes are an important part of dive-sex safety.

FemCap: The FemCap is far less effective than a diaphragm as a contraceptive device primarily because of the small number of sizes available (three) which means that fewer women using it can get a really good fit. And the removal strap can often hurt a partner especially in positions where deep thrusting occurs. However, in the BDSM community the FemCap is very dangerous because it can be so easily misused; pulled out of the woman’s vagina before penetration and either used as a butt plug where the diameter of the cap with the man in her vagina gives her the discomfort of double penetration and the possibility of having to go to an ER to have it removed if her Dom/Master hadn’t tied a cord to the removal strap so he could retrieve it.

However, far worse from a safety standpoint, is to have the FemCap stuffed in her mouth as a gag. And I don’t mean from the bitter chemical taste of spermicide. Using FemCap as a gag is extremely dangerous and has resulted in brain damage from asphyxia when the cap was shoved too far down the woman’s throat and blocked her airway and the Dom/Master hadn’t pulled it out in time with a cord tied to the removal strap. If the removal strap is cut off there is nowhere to attach the cord and a strapless FemCap shoved down a woman’s throat will almost certainly lead to her suffocation. I recommend that FemCap not be worn by women in a BDSM relationship because of the possibility of and danger associated with its misuse. A latex Reflexions diaphragm is far safer and more effective device for dive-sex and is less likely to be misused by the wearer’s partner. To the extent that the Dom/Masters are predisposed to latex over silicone I try to steer the Rubber-Sluts toward using the Reflexions diaphragm for protection during dive sex and for other more vanilla uses in their lives.

‘J’ on body hair & the penis

British testicular cancer awareness poster
In the U.S testicular cancer awareness week is April 1-7, 2011

About the photo: While we are discussing male genitalia I thought it would be timely to mention that in the U.S. Testicular cancer awareness week is April 1-7, 2011 and I’m encouraging all Pirate’s male escorts, and my male escort candidates along with the stallions in my circle as well as my male readers to be checked for TC. And on the subject of body hair, the man in the poster is unshaved.

Body hair: J “Women have much less hair to begin with... usually. Some have little or no hair on the legs or arms and certainly none on the backs, bellies, chests and ass. So an overall hairless body actually looks more consistent and visually "organized" and attractive. However, there are men who are covered in/with hair, and some with a moderate amount and a few with very little on their bodies. Their heads is another matter as male pattern baldness is quite common even for males whose body is carpeted with hair. Thankfully my own torso is almost hairless. We are more accustomed to the hairless male swimmer, body builder and I suppose dancer (ballet and modern). Being hairless in those activities seems to be either or both a performance and an aesthetic issue. Hairless bods seem to be the idealized presentation of the human form - look at art from as far back as the Greeks. But perhaps there are people who like and even fetishize body hair below the neck. I'm not one of them! Removing hair for men for the above reasons - performance and aesthetics is a much larger "maintenance" issue for the typical male than for the typical female as they begin from "different" starting points. Aesthetically a shaved cock and balls / pubic area can actually look a bit odd attached to an otherwise hairy body. And considering how much real estate a male has to cover when maintaining a hairless body I suspect few have the time or the patience or the money for such a high maintenance regimen. And literally hair removal of some parts of the body can't even be done by a person to themselves... such as the back... I would think. So here one needs a partner or regular visit to a waxing salon for hair removal. I suppose hormones also influence hair growth. But this has other down side risks and affects associated with it. I suppose from an appearance POV a catsuit provides a short cut means of achieving the look and somewhat the feel of a hairless body...though the wearer compressed hair covered skin will not experience the same thing as latex or whatever the textiles is over hairless skin or naked flesh for sure. I find both hairless males and females more attractive (especially pubic regions) and certainly when they have well toned bodies... no confusion with age play attraction issues. I've always demanded my SOs shave their pubic region.”

Dance belts & Penises J “The dance belt we've read about and even see the camel toe which clearly suggests the opening into the vagina. Obviously displaying a camel toe is deemed provocative and usually avoided by showing a smooth mound of the vulva. Males however do not display the actual shape of their genitals even in dance where it is packaged into a "dance belt" worn under tights. This is for at least two purposes: one to protect the male external equipment which could be subject to damage from some "moves" and interaction in dance... and the other is to provide a smooth line and not interfere with the shape of the male body. The cock is truly an appendage which seems to be not part of the "body aesthetic". Yet there are those who find the (erect) cock has aesthetic appeal. Obviously some specimens being more appealing and suggestive of a perfect form, much like a Balanchine body does for the female dancer. So virtually all dance "discards" the phallus presenting it as a smooth mound or basket as the vernacular goes. This does present "issues" for the male sex player fetishist on some levels. The female form can be completely displayed or hidden (except for erect nipples) an aroused state. Not so for the male whose cock will become engorged with blood and offer up an erection. An erect penis is a very different animal from a flaccid one for any number of reasons. There are fetish garments which encase the erect cock, not unlike a condom encases the erect shaft. But wearing a garment which anatomically encases and therefore displays an erect cock is certainly considered inappropriate except for sexual purposes. Some fetish clubs even suggest such displays are inappropriate. Ironic isn't it? Whipping, bondage, masks and other outlier displays and behavior are deemed acceptable, but an aroused male is sometimes seen as threatening and inappropriate. And certainly displaying the male genitals would be considered bad form. Of course in some fetish settings and certainly in erotica, displays of erect males are often expected... regardless of the "scene". Cocks and bounds...”

Males with a dancewear fetish: “Cocks and bounds” indeed! There are a lot of males with dancewear fetishes who claim not to wear anything under tights or a leotard to support or protect their genitalia while taking ballet class. I understand a man who gets off by wearing tights wanting to hang loose, but he would disrupt any ballet class of amateurs with women in it and wouldn’t be allowed to participate by the school for esthetic as well as insurance purposes because aside from being a disruption in class of the likelihood that in time he would hurt himself or be injured by someone else. So as far as I can tell men who say they take ballet classes w/o wearing a dance belt or at least a Speedo slingshot are fantasizing. As a British choreographer once said (well before Celia Franca who is listed as saying it by Google) “There are certain parts of the human anatomy that simply can’t be choreographed,” and male genitalia are one.

The Cock Conundrum: J “Transactional sex between a male and female for coital sex will require that the parties be sexually aroused for each to enjoy the experience. An aroused female vagina is naturally lubricated and a woman who controls her vaginal muscles can experience a more powerful orgasm and have more control with respect to the stimuli provided by and to a phallus. A women can of course, as we have recently read in Jill’s World, use a mechanical device to provide the stimulation which can even “out perform” a human phallus. Some women prefer their dildos and fucking machines to live partners. Of course one problem with coital sex, is that the male and female performances are very different. A male who passes the arousal phase, passes the point of no return, will then experience orgasm and ejaculate and usually lose his erection. This is followed by a period of relaxation accompanying the loss of erection associated with the release of semen. This may quench the male’s need, driven by the itch of arousal satisfied by the pleasure of orgasm, but it can and often does leave the female frustrated as she remains in the arousal phase and facing the loss of the stimulation provided by an erect thrusting cock in her receptive and demanding vagina. Does this mean a change of stim approaches? This has led to the notion of the simultaneous orgasm. When SO can be achieved presumably the parties each are satisfied, tension has flowed away and they each relax into the post orgasmic glow. (Women seem to be much more adapted to multiple orgasms directly related to the nature of the genitals. Achieving simultaneous orgasm is another one of those goals or holy grails of sexual congress… especially to the “vanillas”. Achieving SO would seem to require a level of communication and control as the parties each take a fair amount of responsibility for both their and their partner’s performance. See the article on ripple gripping. Sex works both ways! Fetish sex often dispenses with all of the complexities surrounding the SO and literally separates the sexual responses and roles of the parties. The notion of the holy grail of simultaneous orgasm is tossed out the window, in favor of the parties concentrating on the pleasure and arousal of one party at a time… sort of. Getting someone off is considered and experienced as sexually exciting, though not necessarily orgasmic. This is also a vanilla practice to be fair. So as one party is not concerned with their own orgasm or even arousal… they turn their complete focus to bringing their partner through the entire sexual response in some sort of negotiated or understood process. This may involve extending and intensifying if possible the arousal period and even amplifying the orgasm and for kinksters it might even involve denial of orgasm or creation of even “ruined orgasms” for males at least. And then there is the CB crowd who even milk males and remove the biological need for an orgasm. People do the darnedest things for sexual thrills"

The simultaneous orgasm in practice: At night when I want something to put me to sleep I will have a man give me a G-spot orgasm and as I’m reaching the tipping point I begin ripple gripping him just before he pushes me over the edge into ecstasy. At that point my involuntary muscle contractions take over, he loses control and orgasms filling me with semen and we go together! Going together is very, very satisfying to me! But one thing I insist on is that I get pleasured! So most men launch me into orgasm first, especially during the day when time is of the essence because we may be interrupted.

The erect penis & female power: J “Erect cocks can and often are perceived as erotic visual stimuli. You don’t display them in polite society. A female may and often does see her partner’s erection as an expression of her sexual appeal. Whatever she does, says, smells or looks like, her hair or make up, what she wears or how she moves or behaves can re read by her if it has a provocative effect on males as affirmation of his desire for her and the power of her sexual appeal. Nothing new here. Women have learned all the tricks of making themselves into sexual objects… subtle and in your face. This ranges from turning a head of a passing stranger, right through to a visible bulge in a man’s trousers to a raging erection in a male she is with. Women dressing for arousal and therefore their own pleasure is accepted practice… within proscribed boundaries of course. Society would not approve of librarians in rubber catsuits and stilettos… at work! Tease and denial is a key aspect of BDSM and D/s play and so holding a partner in an aroused state requires tangible evidence of arousal – hence the erection… the moist panties, erect nipples and other signs of sexual tension. The Domme will often demand and expect and exact visible signs sexual arousal from her slave and or submissive partner. Accordingly she will do what may be required to display their arousal, but of course often control and even deny the release of the sexual tension she creates. This may be seen as humiliation, or it may be perceived as her erotic power to maintain a male in a constant state of unfulfilled arousal. Males, of course, may welcome this sort of attention, reveling in being held in a state of sexual tension seems to outweigh being ignored or left without any sexual attention. This type of play is accompanied by the notion that an aroused and erect male may be helpless and mentally incapable of resisting. But he also might be aggressive and inspired to rape. All he can focus on is his state of sexual tension. Sexual arousal represents a sort of one way street. Once we turn down it, or are led down it, we can’t or certainly don’t want to reverse and feel compelled to continue.”

BDSM sex and more: J “Transactional fetish sex makes a clear separation of roles. Each partner expects the other to provide their arousal and guide their sexual response. The dominant partner is free to “use” the submissive in any way to bring about their own pleasure and this may involve training, conditioning and controlling the male erection, or even denying orgasm. The submissive sexual partner expects the dominant partner to play them as a sexual instrument. They turn over control of their body’s response including sexual to the dominant. It’s the deal they make. You get to play with me doing X, Y and Z because I (and you) find it sexually stimulating to do so. A sexual sadist will claim they require a consenting masochist, whether or not the masochist finds the experience evocative of their own sexual response. Most kinky masochists find the experience erotic and even orgasmic and at the very least sexually arousing. Presumably sadists likewise experience an aroused state when acting sadistically… although giving into an orgasm in the process is rarely if ever seen. One usually sees an erect cock in BDSM scenes indicating that whatever is going on is experienced as sexually exciting."

"Humiliation and sadism may have nothing to do with an erotic experience and there are some extreme types of BDSM play which go outside of sexual arousal and deal with a whole other set of human responses – pain, psychological humiliation and so forth. This would be extremely troubling… ie an SM experience where there is no sexual response from the parties. This sort of cock conundrum is complex and nuanced”.

My friend Adolph is one who is into very brutal sex that begins with a female partner believing the goal is mutual sexual gratification, but in fact it is gratification only for him passing almost immediately for her into pain and humiliation.

The cock ring: J “And then there are cock rings which kinda work like a one way valves keeping them flush with blood and looking all the better for it... said the actress to the bishop.”

Home Depot as a sex toy supplier: I get my supply of cock rings at Home Depot from their selection of silicone O rings. The prices and size selection are far better than from a sex toy store, though the color selection is limited. I’ve found that keeping a man engorged with a CR works wonders if time is limited and I want him to stay focused and get off frequently in a brief interval. On the other hand keeping him in a CR for a long period can simulate the natural occurring condition of Priapism and cause irreversible penile tissue damage so I cut the CR off him after no more than two hours of continuous wearing. That’s another nice thing about getting a supply of CRs from Home Depot they are so inexpensive that you don’t have to struggle getting it off intact, just snip it off with a small pair of cutters.

BDSM Fall training Pt I

An Escort during discipline training in a vertical penetration chair

Fall and BDSM trining: With fall approaching (it will arrive with the autumnal equinox on September 23rd) there is an increased interest in BDSM gear and Submissive training classes are filling up. The one my service is offering, ‘The Assertive Submissive’, has filled up already. There seems to be a need for a bit of spice in this years new Submissives, although some Doms with older girls are sending them through assertiveness training again. The girls in the heavy rubber fetish community are anxious for cooler weather to arrive so they can go shopping in their encasement suits w/o being concerned about heat stroke.

Ballet boots and confidence: We are offering a course, for women, interested in wearing their ballet boots correctly and confidently. A lot of that has to do with buying quality boots of the correct size. Otherwise the boots don’t provide the proper support and can be really uncomfortable. Buying ballet boots is rather like buying bras in that way. The men in the fetish community seem to feel that ballet boots are punitive footwear to be used primarily in the domination of female submissives, and if they aren’t fitted properly they are punitive regardless of how skilled the wearer is. That male mindset is on display on a great many BDSM sites where women are very often shown in chains and ballet boots, in ballet boots strapped to a fucking machine, in encasement suits and ballet boots, hogtied and nude except for a pair of ballet boots… you get the idea.

I understand why a man can feel that way up to a point, especially if he has never worn ballet boots himself so he has no idea how empowering they are if the skill to wear them can be mastered. It seems to me that the males controlling the BDSM communities have unintentionally given women a tool that can be used as an affirmation of our femininity, just as is wearing pointe shoes skillfully. I don’t mean to equate the two, because I think comparing ballet boots to pointe shoes is like comparing child’s bicycle with training wheels to a Tour-de-France racing bike, but a girl has to use the tools she is given and if her master wants her in ballet boots then if she is skillful that can be a major plus for her.

A woman with ability who really puts her mind to it can turn ballet boots from punitive footwear into her signature as a dominatrix. I’ll grant that it takes a lot of time and effort; the proper diet to reduce leg cramps, strengthening calves, feet and ankles and counter-maintenance by proper stretching exercises to prevent crippling ones-self by shortening hamstrings from being en pointe in ballet boots for too long. But if the woman has the determination to persevere she can learn to stride confidently and erotically in her ballet boots to the consternation of her Dom who thought he was punishing her.

Male escort training and ballet boots: Isn’t it always the way with new men coming on to a girl in ballet boots, they will often come in the laces of her ballet boots! That’s why one of the first things a girl is taught after getting her first pair of ballet boots is how to clean the laces because she can count on a man spewing semen into them. You have to wonder why premature ejaculation is such a common problem with new men in the trade, even when they think they have great control over their urges. I know our instructors are lovely, but still… I think it’s such a common problem because many men think of women in ballet-boots as an ultimate sexual fantasy. When a man sees a girl in ballet boots he is conditioned to think they are in punitive footwear and that she is being punished or is submissive, and therefore she is vulnerable. Thinking a woman vulnerable, in my experience, makes him aroused and careless with his urges which translates to him soaking my boot laces with semen while he is on his knees stimulating my clit with his nose, his tongue between my labia lapping up my vaginal discharge. Having him give me oral seems to be an invitation to have the man cream my laces if I stand with my feet in second position with him kneeling straddling one of my boots. I can feel him thrusting into the laces boot-fucking me while his tongue is probing my vagina sucking out my vaginal secretions.

I think the more men are conditioned to think women find wearing ballet boots painful, which they can be, the easier they are to mind-fuck. It gives a woman a huge mental advantage when she becomes an expert in wearing her boots in relative comfort for long intervals while being skilled in walking, dancing and even running in ballet boots. I think it’s such fun watching a man who thinks he’s a predator get mind-fucked by a girl less than half his size.

Contemporary Sexual Health (CSH) at St Lucy’s: At St Lucy’s Contemporary Sexual Health is a required course. It encompasses the usual subjects one would expect at an elite girls school: feminine hygiene, protection from STIs, contraception, emergency-contraception, selection of sexual partners of both sexes and handling oneself at college parties and your options after an unintended pregnancy.

During CSH class the students are given several lecture-demonstrations of the discipline training equipment used by Doms in the D/S subculture, so the more adventuresome of the girls can see for themselves, if (once they reach the age of consent) they would like to take my Advanced Sexual Techniques course. If they do they can earn extra credit by becoming part of the student auxiliary in local Fetish community and take discipline training on a wide range of marvelously ingenious pelvic training hardware, otherwise known as fucking machines.

The image accompanying this entry: The image is of an escort in discipline training strapped into a vertical penetration chair. You can see that she is wearing leather ballet boots, as called for in the standard iconography of domination, (See above) to add another layer of worry to her mental stress as the hydraulic ram – under control of her Dom - thrusts deeper and deeper into her at an ever faster rate until it is battering her unprotected cervix. A single session of vertical penetration training and almost any woman will agree to anything her Dom asks.

HydroGlove latex drysuits and Blog Stats

Escort candidate in a HydroGlove latex drysuit euphoric on NymphGel

Escort training in HydroGlove drysuits: The new group of escort trainees began last week. Wouldn’t you know everything seems to come at the same time. We are starting out the girls submerged latex encasement training using HydroGlove latex drysuits. HydroGlove is a basic latex suit that is very light and comfortable to wear and it is thin and stretchy enough that it flatters the female figure. It is ideal as a starter suit for use in training pools and sexual encounters. Because it is very thin and can be easily punctured on sharp rocks and metal it shouldn’t be worn in a rough environment.

The HydroGlove is a waist entry suit. The bottom half is pulled on like a pair of very long waisted slacks. Then the long tubular waist is folded down to the wearer’s waist level. The top is slipped on over the head like a rubber hoodie and the tight fitting hood positioned to seal around the face. The upper part has a very long tail rather like wearing an extra large tee as a sleep-shirt and the tail is pulled down and straightened out over the folded down waist of the bottom of the suit. Then the Long waist and the tail of the upper part are rolled together in an inch wide fold up to the wearer’s waist. It folds 4 or 5 times making a water tight seal of the upper and lower halves of the suit around the wearer’s waist.

A flooded HydroGlove: A really nice thing about a HydroGlove is that if it floods while the wearer is using it for buoyancy compensation she isn’t trapped on the bottom of the body of water she is diving. It is relatively easy to get out of a flooded HydroGlove and swim to the surface. That’s a feature more women latex fetish divers are appreciating since it has become distressingly common for men to take out their frustrations on a partner by slashing and flooding her drysuit. They think she will be left helpless to suffocate or drown on the bottom, but if she is wearing a HydroGlove she can survive the attack, unless she has been shackled to the bottom which rarely happens. Then of course she is well and truly fucked in every sense of the word!

There are no fill and dump valves or hose connections to a HydroGlove so it has a clean slimming appearance. The hood seals around the wearer’s face. On the surface it can be inflated by pulling the chin of the hood over the wearer’s mouth and blowing into the suit. Or for compressed gas inflation when submerged the hood can be worn over the skirt of the mask and then by exhaling into the mask air will be forced out the top of the mask and under the hood of the HydroGlove. Or, the mouthpiece of the second stage reg. can be slipped under a wrist seal and the purge button depressed to fill the suit. For deflation a wrist seal is opened a bit to release the desired amount of air.

HydroGlove penetrative encounters: Clients are increasingly asking for dive-sex encounters with a woman wearing a drysuit. A heavy rubber shoulder entry dry suit like an Avon or GNT isn’t suitable for penetrative dive-sex as the zipper is under her tank and she has to take off her breathing equipment to get out of the neck seal. Though a client into technical diving might want exactly that! More typically a man just wants the thrill of seeing his partner’s protective drysuit flood leaving her vulnerable to the ambient water temp, even though the water is a comfy 85 degrees. I think it’s important to keep in mind that the brain is a person’s most powerful sexual organ! Men who have talked to me about their reasons say they enjoy the thoughts of endangering their partner during sex. I would say that is misogynistic except that there are a lot of women in my circle who enjoy the thrill of having their protection compromised every bit as much as the guys enjoy doing it. Estrogen and testosterone getting the two sexes to the same kinky place! Go figure!

HydroGlove is ideal for submerged penetrative sex as all that needs to be done is unroll the waist seal. Of course once flooded it is difficult to purge the water from the suit. It can be done not quite completely (but more than enough to use it for buoyancy control) with a HydroGlove by resealing the waist and introducing gas into the suit by inserting the mouthpiece of the reg under a wrist seal with the wearer’s feet higher than her head so the air flows to the feet of the suit while the water is pushed out through the same open wrist seal as the suit fills. The problem with that is that it is a tricky process and the wearer needs to be tethered to the bottom to prevent an uncontrolled ascent to the surface. So in practice after foreplay while the escort is still in her in inflated HydroGlove she lets her partner unroll her waist seal and flood her suit and she lets him penetrate her after checking that her gas guard is in place and she has enough DiveGel inserted. She wears a short tank so she can be taken conveniently from behind and she lets him finish inside her planting hundreds of millions of sperm deep inside her up against the stretchy rubber dome of her gas guard. After he withdraws she removes the upper half of her HydroGlove, drops her weight belt and they head for the surface together.

Submissives in HydroGloves: We are holding a class for a few of the Local rubber Doms favorite Submissives to train them to use the HydroGlove as an encasement suit as well as to use the suit for dive sex. The girls are enthusiastic about wearing HydroGloves because of their lightness, the flattering fit and ease of movement when fully encased. For fave Subs they have a lot of spirit, but perhaps that’s because they are in one another’s company and all have repressive disciplinary regimens they live under. And while in training they are out from under the discipline of their Doms. All the costs for equipment as well as room board and tuition, covering instruction expenses as well as cost of the training facility, are paid for by the Dom sending his Sub for training.

Costs: The cost of a HydroGlove dive sex encounter with a commercial escort is very expensive because of the additional training. It also includes the cost of a hooded HydroGlove ($170 USD retail) from http://www.hydroglove.com/ or a distributor. That’s because clients are so anxious to flood their escorts suit that they often tear it and while a torn suit can usually be repaired you don’t want to wear a repaired suit for an encounter that has cost the client thousands of dollars. However, we do use the repaired suits for training and our own in-house BDSM encounters.

Blogger Stats and Latex Lit: I’ve been looking at my blog stats from the new Blogger Stats feature that was just activated and guess what the eight most popular entries on my blog are. In order of popularity they are:

Open water bondage Apr 3, 2010 707 page views
Snuff videos and heavy rubber Nov 30, 2009 501 page views
Gasmask-sex underwater April 14, 2010 364 page views
BDSM Fellatio collars July 17, 2010 308 page views
Gas masks, rebreather bags and heavy rubber September 7, 2009 225 page views
Heavy rubber and rebreather bags August 5, 2009 191 page views
Ballet-boot maintenance and etiquette September 6, 2009 181 page views
The Sybian machine July 20 2010 145 page views

So Eric, while I’m not a Geek Goddess I have, without even trying, seem to have become an ‘author of explicit rubber narratives’, better known as Latex Lit. Or perhaps it’s just that a lot of my readers think I am. Not that I mind. I think someone should be writing about what goes on in the local BDSM community and behind all the glitter and glamour of Vegas. I think the greed, envy, and psychopathic violence in the fetish community is fascinating and being a part of it keeps my adrenaline pumping and my skills well honed. Given that I’m a ‘Rubber Slut’ (the highest position a woman can hold in the local latex fetish community) and having insight into what is happening out here I suppose, for now, that someone is me.

Thanks and call for requests: I want to thank all the members of the U.S, and European fetish communities who are reading my blog. [Though I don’t think they read my general posts like this one.] There are aspects of the D/S BDSM community here that I haven’t written about because they don’t interest me. However, if a reader has a particular fetish that s/he hasn’t seen mentioned please let me know (by leaving a comment) and if it’s happening here I’ll post about it. Ok?

BDSM while menstrual

A Fasteners SA models spider bra, collar & mask set

BDSM while menstrual: At Fasteners, our Bondage Boutique, Gepettos new Spider set is flying off the shelves! It’s the new must-have for bondage-girls! It looks like a conventional Spider bra, but the bindings are adhesive backed and when wet they shrink remarkably. So when the bra is dipped in water, before slipping it on and the ‘legs’ are adjusted over the breasts (while the wearer is bending over) the bindings will adhere to the flesh of the breasts and will tighten as they shrink while drying. A new thing for Local Doms seem to be to have their menstruating partners experiencing breast pain while havening unprotected menstrual sex thinking that when on their periods women aren’t fertile, but that’s not always the case. So we see a lot of submissives coming in for Mifeprex or a menstrual extraction after having missed their periods and testing positive for hCG a month or so after having unprotected menstrual sex.

I love wearing my Spider set! My situation is complicated by the fact that I’m lactating so not only do the drying bindings of the ‘legs’ tighten but my breasts swell as they fill with milk so it is a fun experience, if you are really into pain like I am! The Spider bra fastens in the back with a band-lock. If you think unhooking a bra by reaching behind you is a problem try unlocking a back mounted band-lock! If you don’t have help getting out of it don’t stand anywhere near the toilet when you are trying to fit the key in the lock.

I’m menstrual: I’m CD1 and menstrual today. My cycles are super regular at 28 days so I don’t have any worry about getting preggers from unprotected sex up to CD7. Even so other than when I’m with one of my stallions for unprotected menstrual sex I wear a Reflexions flat spring diaphragm for cervical protection during my period. That’s just in case I have an urge for dive-sex since I can be very spontaneous. Penile-vaginal-intercourse (PVI) during dive-sex is one thing a girl should not do unless she has a gas guard inserted for upper reproductive tract protection. A pregnancy can be easily resolved, but an embolism is a life threatening occurrences from which a woman can not fully recover.

BDSM Fellatio collars

Rubber-girl in a heavy rubber fellatio collar

The cervical collar as BDSM equipment: For fetish escorts a cervical collar can be an important piece of bondage or training apparatus for extreme fellatio where the chick is being deep-throated. Especially for girls just learning the breath control necessary to survive deep-throating w/o freaking out. Fellatio collars are also preferred by Doms who are control-freaks who want to ensure their partner (of either sex) is restrained as much as possible. Heavy rubber is preferred as body fluids, saliva, vomit, semen and sometimes urine, wash off easily. The collar helps hold the wearer’s chin elevated and throat open so her partner can insert his shaft easily straight down her throat even when the woman is gagging. The only concession to her partner’s safety is the thin fellatio guard (think ring-gag) that is usually inserted to prevent the woman’s jaws clamping down on his shaft during an involuntary reflex if she freaks out. The collar the pic-chick is wearing is pneumatic and can be adjusted to fit any woman.

Contaminated filter canisters: Recently I’m being called to clean up after women who are dying from using contaminated gasmask filter canisters. Several have had chemical powder coated filter membranes inserted in place of the chemical scrubbers so that the moisture from a gasmask-chicks breath creates nausea gas and she throws up in her mask. The security videos of that happening can be fun to watch since so few women know how to use the quick-release feature on their spider head harness and a few end up with aspiration pneumonia or drown in their own vomit. Watching that sort of video is a teaching moment for anyone with a gasmask fetish.

This morning I watched a security video that showed a beautiful young newly pregnant wife removing the seals from a new filter canister that she bought in a feminine BDSM boutique. It was sold as being lavender scented and had a toxic blood thinning powder in the filter. She wore it on her gasmask while masturbating with a large battery powered vibi while her husband was traveling on business and gasping for breath during orgasm sucked the blood thinner into her lungs. She went into shock, had massive cramps, miscarried, expelled the fetus and placenta and bled to death right in the middle of their bed.

It turned out that she had a birth control failure and was unexpectedly pregnant. Her husband wanted her to terminate the pregnancy and she wanted to keep his baby. There is no proof, so far, that he was responsible for putting the contaminated filter in with her masturbation supplies, but her mother has hired a private investigator to see what she can find. That sort of video is wildly popular because it appeals to multiple audiences; abortion fetishists, gasmask masturbation fetishists, snuff video collectors and general porn viewers who like to see pretty girls get into trouble while masturbating. The video will go on sale in Europe next month.

Lesbian lovers quarrel: There have also been two Bi fetish escorts (from a rival casino) who may, or may not, have gotten on the bad side of someone and had cyanide coated filter membranes inserted in place of the chemical scrubbers so that the moisture from the gasmask-chicks breath created potassium cyanide gas and they offed themselves while masturbating astride a pair of Sybian stallion machines. They were dressed in recreational rubber encasement suits with gloves, hoods, good quality leather ballet boots and Mestel SGE 400 BB gasmasks, which are pretty much the standard mask among escorts out here. The light recreational rubber, rather than the heavy rubber preferred by Dom fetishists, tells me that they were dressing for themselves rather than being encased for men and the suits were fastened tight with the exception of their crotch zippers which were open since they were astride and penetrated by their Sybian machines. After the first whiff of a bitter almonds scent it became a HASMAT scene and it was a bit tricky getting the bodies out since Beth and I had to wear HASMAT rubber, air tanks and positive pressure FFMs to prevent the possibility of breathing cyanide fumes.

I became involved in the aftermath of their deaths because the casino that employed them – they were found in one of the Casino’s Spa relaxation rooms - wanted no publicity and Gepetto had created the Sybian stallions the women were riding when they were snuffed. The two YTHP chicks weren’t known to be a couple by the lesbian community, which closely tracks those things, and they were well liked in the trade. Both were very feminine and were sexually active with male partners. However, I think that their deaths were probably a murder suicide when their covert love affair went bad. That’s because there was no sign of a struggle and the younger one (she was 19 y/o) died a good while before the other, based on forensic evidence. So it’s hard for me to believe that, if it hadn’t been intentional, when the younger one got into trouble the older one wouldn’t have tried to help her. There was no indication that either tried to remove her mask once she was gassed.

Renaissance art and lust

Multi-purpose Renaissance Art

Renaissance art and BDSM: The roots of celibacy in the western church go back to the apostles where “The sacrifice of married life for the "sake of the Kingdom” was a phrase common in their writings. Church leaders writing in the 4th century AD indicate that the requirement that priests, whether married or celibate, should be continent continued to be the the established rule. During the renasance, when celibacy was impacted by art it became possible for church leaders using paintings and drawings by great artists to bring to life passages from the bible for the illiterate peasantry which formed the bulk of the churches membership.

A side effect of these graphic depictions was to provide a medium to refocus some members of the clergy’s pent-up sexual desire and to feed the propensities of some toward what we know today as BDSM. This was especially true when commissioning art depicting the martyrdom of the saints, men and women in various stages of undress undergoing sadistic torture and death by the enemies of the church. An example of this is the image that accompanies this entry. It is a painting of Saint Sebastian by Andrea Mantegna ca 1459. High ranking churchmen or the nobility commissioning a sculpture or painting of a young scantily clad male or female Saint being grilled, beheaded or pierced with spears or arrows would be getting a twofer; publicly celebrating the patron’s religiosity while at the same time privately slaking his appetites for brutality or masochism by having the image of an attractive human body in pain or ecstasy close at hand to use for his own purposes. This feeding of the beast somewhat offset the desires of the flesh the clergy were sworn to ignore.

Royalty and the aristocracy on the other hand were never really confined by any moral code except where it pertained to other men’s lust for their own wealth and women. Self interest was their first priority, so the most aggressive continued robbing and raping to satisfy two of their voracious cardinal sins; greed and lust. Only later as they became more sophisticated did the aristocracy develop a taste for painting and sculpture and recognized the niche it could fill to bank the fires of lust for a young body when no suitable male or female virgin was available. Even so, in the courts of the more insatiable the household staff being unable to produce a virgin for an evenings pleasure of the Master was a capital offense, so young sons and daughters of peasants routinely disappeared along the more infamous nobles travel routes. That sort of thing continues to this day, but rarely makes the headlines.

Latex allergies: For professional performers, escorts and rubber fetishists including St Lucy’s students latex allergies can be a problem. Our clinic has been keeping records and over the past 4 years about 4% of our performers and escorts have had some allergic reaction to latex used in their profession. I think the level is that low because by the time they have the experience needed to perform at the level needed to hold a job here in Vegas most with latex sensitivity will already have encountered the problem and have changed professions. About 7% of fetishists from the general public locally have reported sensitivity to latex at some level and either learn to live with the symptoms or switch to PVC, silicone or leather and a few to Lycra. At St Lucy’s the students use silicone almost exclusively for contraceptive devices and sex toys. The ballet troupe, swim team and the girls taking my Advanced Sexual techniques course all have several latex encasement suits and less than 1% has had to drop out due to latex sensitivity so severe that they couldn’t participate at an acceptable level. We have tried to use alternative materials, like silicone, but for some things only latex will do because the scent stretchiness and heat transfer of latex can’t be duplicated.

Working in boots

Sorry, I’ll be tied up this weekend

Working in boots: The position of the boot-girl shown in the image accompanying this entry is a favorite of ‘shoe sniffers’ men who love to smell a woman’s sweaty boots during sex. It is also favored by men who are very well endowed because a woman can be penetrated the deepest (with the least pain and injury) when she is horizontal on her stomach so her uterus is pulled down by gravity while she is being taken from behind. In an office setting a few reams of copy paper can be placed under her hips to adjust the height of her vagina to meet the needs of her partner and a roll of Mylar sheeting can be used to prevent staining the carpet. At home folded blankets or hard pillows work well for hip adjustment. Fasteners, our casino’s bondage boutique, sells colored nylon line and rope of various sizes for hog tying as well as a complete line of stainless steel chains, collars, cuffs, locks, clamps and spreader bars. Since the recession began the demand for up-market BDSM has increased at least four fold just as it has for the Escort trade so it is difficult to get and train enough talented women to fill the need. This shortage has led a few entrepreneurs to enter the market to get a piece of the BDSM surge.

The second job: Some office girls bring a change of clothes and a pair of ballet boots to work in a boot bag. They could be going to the gym after work, staying late to help a friend with an after hours project or going to their evening job as a boot-girl in a BDSM salon. A pretty woman who loves adventure can make good money as a boot-girl in a BDSM salon as long as her health and looks last. With the number of office towers and condos in foreclosure here there is a lot of space with lovely views of the Strip. Some of it is being used for BDSM salons and for the most part that seems to be working without major problems. There was the recent instance where a girl in pointe boots and a House of Harlot white latex catsuit with a spreader bar clamped to her ankles went off a balcony on the 23 floor of one of the towers. How she managed it no one is quite sure. Fortunately she landed on the pool surround on the pool patio at the fourth floor level and not in the street. Even in heavy rubber the 19 floor drop burst her suit like a balloon and she splattered. After we collected the pieces building maintenance had to work with buckets of a quicklime paste to remove the stains. That she was able to get away from her Domme and escape - in a manner of speaking - says a lot about the level of attention to detail from that Mistress. The Families closed her salon down as a hazard to tourism and she is in confinement indefinitely in heavy rubber. Taryn and I cleaned up the mess. There was nothing the girl was wearing - she was on birth control pills so she had no vaginal protection and her HOH suit was ruined - that either of us wanted.