Stamina training and backup protection

A few pairs of dead shoes discarded by the corps

The Photo: Dead Freed and Bloch pointes discarded by the corps. Corps members go through four or five pairs a week. Sometimes more sometimes less depending on the ballets and roles danced.

Pilgrim’s Progress: Here I’m defining Nikolai as a ‘pilgrim’ since he whispers in my ear every time he fills me with his semen how he worships my vagina and the muscles that contract around his erection to milk him of powerful jets of molten pearl. In that sense as his ‘spiritual advisor’ I see him as every bit a sexual pilgrim who I am guiding on a ‘religious’ pilgrimage as intense with his psychological enthrallment and intimate physical interconnection with me as Marvin’s is. I’m pleased to say that Nikolai is very accomplished with needle and thread, a consequence of growing up with hand-me-down practice clothes he had to repair himself when he was a child in ballet school in Leningrad. So he has had no problem in sewing ribbons and elastic on his pointe shoes. He was also familiar with the need to keep his toenails short and I showed him how to economically and effectively use toe tape and toe pads. And he is an exemplary pointe student though he is working on his développés and endurance sur les pointes, but his leaps of course are exquisite!

Ballet-sex dangers, Corps dancer’s stamina: I’ve mentioned in an earlier post the trouble Nikolai got into by impregnating corps dancers, but that was the result of rare failures of the individual women’s IUDs. A much more likely problem is a dancer being injured during ballet-sex even though she is in great shape for dancing.  Returning readers will remember that my definition of ballet-sex is for the woman to be penetrated from behind then rising en pointe and remaining there for the entire time it takes for her partner to give her an orgasm and or to orgasm himself which can sometimes be as long as twenty minutes.  Problems can arise with ballet-sex for several reasons: 1) if the woman must stay continuously en pointe longer than her strength will allow causing her to fall off pointe or; 2) If she has a strong orgasm and doesn’t hold back a bit she could go jelly-boned and lose control of her legs and fall off pointe. 3) Unexpected thrust-drop which is where the male partner’s legs are longer than the woman’s so when he thrusts he lifts her off the floor and drops her back on her platforms when withdrawing which often causes badly bruised nails.  Closely trimmed hails and wearing Gaynor Minden pointes with the thick soft internal platform pads will help minimize the discomfort from thrust-drop.

Some of the more sexually adventuresome Corps girls have tried ballet-sex and found it exhausting and a bit scary so have come to me asking about private stamina training for being penetrated in that position. I suggest they wear Gaynor Minden pointes with sueded tips for their comfort, support and traction during ballet-sex as most of them perform professionally in bespoke Freed Classics. For training I tell them to use a large dildo with a remote controlled vibi and a large suction cup base and a portable barre as most of the fixed barres aren’t far enough from the mirrored walls to get between the mirror and the barre and be able to bend over and support herself on the barre. The height to fasten the dildo to a studio mirror is easily determined by inserting the dildo then doing a 90° forward bend while supporting herself on the barre and backing up to the mirror.  Then go sur les pointes making sure to retain the 90° forward bend and with one hand push the base on to the mirror to develop a good suction. Then step away from the mirror to get off the dildo and mark the spot on the mirror as the height at which the dildo should be suction cupped. Once the spot is unobtrusively marked on the mirror she can fasten the dildo when she wants go en pointe and back on to it then turn on the vibi and move back and forth up and down the shaft. Doing this several times a day and walking around home en pointe should build up stamina for ballet-sex in a few weeks.

Women’s clothing for ballet-sex: Of course the vulva has to be easily accessible. You can wear a thong and sports bra or a thong-back leotard or go commando. I don’t recommend commando because while training with a dildo or during an encounter with a lover secretions can flow profusely and drip on the floor where they can cause a slip especially while en pointe (which is why sueded tips are recommended) I think at least tights or a thong is needed to catch coital discharge while walking to the bathroom or dressing room to kegel out most of it. Since I’m lactating if I’m with a lover I’ll wear a front close sports top so I can breastfeed him as part of foreplay before he penetrates me, a thong or tights with a cotton gusset and old suede tipped Gaynors. I wear old Gaynors because they will probably get splattered with lube and genital secretions during the encounter.

Let Nikolai be Nikolai: I’ve decided not to attempt to suppress Nikolai’s libido, but let him be the awesome bull his ego and talent make him. I’m already guiding his choices toward a few of the stronger more talented sexually experienced company girls with powerful libidos. These are some of the ones who have a strong desire to see if they can satisfy him enough to take him away from me so in that sense I’m consorting with the enemy. However, I think my plan is clever as I’m turning my competition’s drive and lust to my personal advantage. I am supremely confident that Nokolai is deep enough in my thrall that daily dalliances will not affect his need to thrill me in any way he can. So I will have time to tutor him in the social graces and soften his interaction with women before I release him to select a mate for marriage and a family if he chooses. This arrangement will keep his needs slaked during the day while I’m teaching class and fitting diaphragms at Blackstone Clinic until I can have him to myself when we have both fulfilled our professional responsibilities.    

Caya as backup protection: The corps girls know I fit diaphragms at a private clinic and some of the more sexually active ones have come to me asking about using backup protection. All in the corps are supposedly using effective methods of birth control. However, the two pregnancies that Nikolai was involved with earlier this year have caused them to be extra cautious as often there is no work for a pregnant dancer – if she is pro-life - or there is a huge delay in the career of a rising star if she carries to term. So some of the most talented and attractive dancers, who are also some of the most sexually active, have asked me to fit them for a Caya contoured diaphragm as they are becoming popular as an effective backup method. I have fitted seven of then so far. One of the attractive features of a Caya, from a man’s perspective, is the very lightly textured (think matte) finish on the dome which partners find very pleasing to rub their glans against. In the UK a fitting is not required for a Caya as it is in the U.S. but if a woman buys one w/o a fitting she could find that her vagina is too small (60mm or less) or too large (85 mm or more) or her post-pubic vault is not deep enough to fully contain the relief arch on the anterior end and have wasted her money.

I think it is deliciously ironic that some of these Caya girls are the same ones I’m grooming as day-fucks for Nikolai and each thinks I don’t have a clue that she wants the Caya for backup protection while she works to seduce Nikolai for herself. That doesn’t bother me in the least as while they are young I am far more lovely as an adult beauty, sexually experienced and know tricks they have never imagined to bind a man emotionally to me. The thing I’m going to have to manage carefully is that they don’t turn on each other and cause social rifts the Corps.

St Lucy’s invitational ballet summer intensive

Barre girls in tights before pas de deux class

The photo: A group of summer intensive students warming up before PDD class.

St Lucy’s invitational ballet summer intensive: We changed the format this year to draw participants only from ballet students 21 or older whose names were submitted by their teachers for their outstanding grace, technique, stamina and fearlessness. We had more than 450 submissions and had places for only 15, limited primarily by the number of professional male dancers suitable to be their partners and those 15 were on full scholarship (from my casino/resort) including meals, travel and medical expenses.

In addition to technique, pointe, PDD and mime we are offering ‘contemporary sexual health for the dancer’ for the first time this year as feedback questionnaires said given the opportunities offered while at our summer intensive a more complete foundation in contraception choices and their use would be helpful to first time students to the ballet summer intensive we offer here in Las Vegas.

Screening: All the students and faculty were required to bring recent full STI panels indicating that they are all free of STIs and all have completed their series of Gardasil shots. And the girls were given pregnancy tests upon arrival. Two failed and as they were both 21 were given the chance to terminate their pregnancy w/o their parent’s knowledge (the termination would have been covered by medical insurance through the scholarship) or return home. Both decided to return home – their mothers flew out to take them home - and two alternates were accepted in their places. We think what happened in both cases was the students were on very low dose estrogen/progestin pills and took weight loss pills to trim down for the SBI that speed up their metabolisms so the girls flushed the hormones through their bodies too quickly and the remaining levels weren’t sufficient to suppress ovulation. The literature we sent out in the spring when we selected them cautioned about taking weight loss pills if the student is on contraceptive hormones.

The weather: With the appearance of July it has turned very hot here in Vegas. The forecast is for temps from 111° F to 108° F thorough the weekend so latex catsuits, hoods and gloves are out except for in clubs with the a/c turned full on. Fortunately the practice clothes of thong-back tank top leos, bare legs and pointes in fully air-conditioned studios and encounter sallies are ideal for this weather. Tights are only worn and over leos, for PDD classes. We cautioned the BSI students to bring at least a dozen pairs of shoes as the students are expected to be in pointes for all classes as well as barre.

The Men: The men were chosen from recommendations to and personal knowledge of Willow, Jack’s 20 y/o daughter, who was in the corps of the Royal Ballet and had danced with the Paris Opera Ballet until last year. They were chosen not only for their ability as classical dancers, but physical strength, personality and sexual stamina. The sexual stamina is important during a Ballet Summer Intensive as students are far more likely to experiment sexually while away from home and with strangers and what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, we hope.

Some of the women students have much higher sex drives than others so a hyper-sexual girl can arrange to swap men with a girl with a lower libido to find a guy who can satisfy her more frequently. Performance enhancing meds are available to any man who asks. If he is on an enhancing med it’s usually his secret even though he’s expected to perform satisfactorily as frequently as four times a day for the entire 14 days of the course.

Protection for play: In my welcoming remarks to the girls during their orientation I suggested that they might want to try wearing Gaynor Minden pointes for play as they often provide better support and the shanks and blocks last far longer than pointes made of traditional materials. The only problem with GMs is that they don’t breathe, so are hot to wear and take longer to dry. We have taken care of the drying problem by providing drying boxes that circulate warm very dry air across sweat soaked shoes. Our GM representative fit them all with at least two pairs of shoes each, the cost of which is included in the scholarships.

I made it a point right up front that the students male partners were highly fertile and would be having sex with them unprotected unless the woman asked for him to wear a condom. So it is the responsibility of each woman to ask her partner to wear protection or use an effective contraceptive method and if there is any concern about a birth control failure the morning-after pill is available 24/7 at student health.

Also mentioned in my introduction to contemporary sexual health class is that if they wanted to experience dive-sex - and they all did - they would have to be fitted for a diaphragm to be used as flood insurance since the vagina commonly floods during underwater sex, so the diaphragm is used as flood insurance to prevent a partner’s thrusting penis from forcing water or an air bubble into the uterus which could cause PID or an embolism.  Fortunately they all use menstrual cups so were familiar with folding and inserting vaginal devices so none had an ‘ick-factor’ associated with using a diaphragm

Dive-sex was high on their list of recreational choices so no one had a problem with being fitted with a diaphragm and since only one woman (and no men) was allergic to latex Chris, our male Gyn, fitted them with the latex Reflexions flat spring style which is nearly impossible for a mischievous partner to under-thrust and showed them how to use the 10 ml prefilled disposable applicators of DiveGel+. The latex allergic student was fitted with a silicone Milex wide seal arcing spring diaphragm which, with its two elbow hinges, is the next best thing to a Reflexions for flood insurance.  As a confidence builder I have them all wear their diaphragms during ballet classes so they could get used to inserting, removing and moving with it inserted finding that once inserted and properly positioned they can’t feel them.

Toe-tape, the pointe-shoe club: Returning readers will recall that in my post for April 14, 2014 I introduced you to Toe-tape a new Mini-club, writing: “Our Casino/Resort has opened ‘Toe-tape’, a ballet club for adventuresome young women who want to show off their feet and legs for admiring men. I know the name sounds like it should be a Chick band, but we tested it and found it’s the sort of name that appeals to young highly motivated female dancers craving excitement.”

I’m introducing the BSI students to clubbing in pointes, where they can be admired by men with a pointe fetish. Having students 21 or older this year simplifies entertaining them on the clubs scene since I’m not trying to pass them off as older than they really are.  Their male BSI partners (English and French straight ballet dancers from major companies) are here as much for the sex as for what we are paying them and having them along gave the girls time to get to know the guys personally and sort out sleeping arrangements. We prefer that couples sleep in the dorm at St Lucy’s which has private rooms with full baths.  That way there is excellent security and it’s close to the studios.

Fourth of July celebration: Tomorrow evening Adolph has invited the BSI students and faculty to his 4^th of July party. He has promised to have no wood chipper within … well he said “nowhere near” the party so it should be safe enough. And the students will get to dive The Well, his 216 ft dive training facility. He has a net spread across it at 100 ft so none of the newbies to the facility can go deeper accidently.

Oxbridge sex, Bea does porn

A Cambridge girl waiting for her lover in the cove

The Photo: Taryn’s friend Elizabeth (Liz.) a grad student and member of the Cambridge student boat crew waiting for her partner, an Oxford grad student, for dive-sex in the cove. Even with a relatively conservative top the thong bottom of her tankini gives lie to any notion she isn’t prepared to be ravished. Friends who saw her inserting her Reflexions latex diaphragm then squatting, pushing down and inserting two fingers to  press the remaining air out of the dome before inserting a prefilled 10 ml applicator of DiveGel+ deep into her vagina knew exactly what she was hoping and preparing to get from her Oxford boyfriend.

Oxbridge sex: It’s impossible to say how public the Cambridge women and Oxford men would have been with their sexual activity had Taryn’s porn company not been shooting a dive-sex video in the cove. They are all grad students between 23 and 27 years old and while not blocking traffic make no attempt to hide having sex in almost any position on the forward deck of their boats, but they are out of the way of those arriving or departing. They seem to be having such fun! I that I hope the girls are still safe from unintended pregnancies.  

Liz is one of the girls who were taking weight loss pills that reduced the effectiveness of Cerazette, her oral contraceptive. So I’m having her test daily for hCG and hope she isn’t pregnant. She is using her Reflexions correctly and for every act, but I’m concerned about the sperm from the few days before she came to me that may have been waiting in her tubes for her to ovulate.

Bea as a porn actress / diver: One of the younger porn actresses had a seizure during underwater shooting. It was during an encounter at 30 feet and she should have had plenty of bottom time left as far as DCS is concerned and she was wearing her Reflexions for flood insurance so she shouldn’t have had an air bubble forced into her uterus to cause an embolism. However, she has a Mirena IUD inserted and that may have caused a problem. No one knows what happened for sure other than she shuddered and then stopped breathing in mid orgasm as her partner filled her with semen.  The director is pleased that she was able to complete the scene just after the dive-girl stopped breathing and her rescue was shot as well in case they want to work that in to the story. Her partner inflated her BC vest and got her to the surface and she was taken aboard the Lusty Lass where we got her breathing again and she seemed fine. However, the Producer radioed for a helicopter to take her to Schneider Regional Medical Center on St Thomas where there is a hyperbaric chamber if she needs it and rode along with her.

With seizure-girl gone the cast was short a young actress and Bea was there and one of the male actors who has been having sex with her suggested she replace seizure-girl in the rest of her scenes. Bea is the right size for her costumes and no one is asking if fucking a 17 y/o’s brains out in a dive-porn video is legal, so we are good to go. Anyway, no one will know who she is as her face will be hidden by her mask and reg. She’s being credited (using her middle name as a nom de théâtre)) as the actresses body-double and even being paid for the sex scenes. She will be just another gloriously well developed female dive body “Getting as much dick as she can on every dive…” As the preview catch lines will say.

I’m keeping an eye on her bottom time as while I’m sure she is as safe as this sort of thing can be she is still my youngest now and my favorite though I try not to show it. She shows such promise for being able to go on to great things when she grows up so being able to step in to a porn actresses’ role in the middle of a shoot is awesome experience for her! I just remind her to always lube up as there is no such thing as too much lube, especially in a dive-sex video.

CD10 and newly fertile: I am fertile today and my libido is at its peak at this time in my cycle. Since my wards and I are in menstrual synchrony we will be fertile for the rest of the week. Since they have copper GyneFix IUDs implanted they have very little likelihood of becoming pregnant no matter how many times they have sex or how potent the men are. With me it’s different since I depend exclusively on cervical barriers, a contraceptive diaphragm or an Oves cervical cap to prevent me from becoming pregnant. Of course at 43 I have only a 30% chance of conceiving rather than the 50% when I was in my early 20s, but those figures are for a single act and with me having multiple unprotected acts with multiple lovers it sometimes seems I’m continuously draining fresh semen regardless of how much I Kegel out.

Still if it’s only 30% that’s far too great a risk when I want to avoid pregnancy entirely while still having the thrill of knowing there is a chance if my barrier leaks a lover’s sperm could put his baby in my belly. I really don’t want my hard sculpted bod stretched out of shape as a member of the baby bump brigade even as I fantasize about it so I’m being very careful to only wear Oves or the Reflexions which is nearly impossible for even a mischievous lover to under-thrust.

Pointe class at the cove: All the women in Taryn’s porn video cast take ballet. That’s not surprising. Actually it’s almost mandatory in order for the girls to stay strong and limber. And I was pleased to see that they all wear Gaynor Minden pointes as they are the most comfortable while lasting far longer than other maker’s shoes of traditional materials.

This is the first time my villa’s studio has been anywhere near half full with twelve women and seven men. The five porn starlet/mermaids (there were six but one as I mentioned is in hospital on St Thomas), Juicy, Tom, the six partners for the mermaids and Anya, Bea, Willow, Odette, Odile and me. We have enclosed heated drying racks on an inside wall for several pairs of each woman’s pointes – because with the humidity and frequent showers otherwise they would never dry and bacterial growth would be a much bigger problem than it is..

Jack on women, sex and youth Vs experience

Giselle

Jack on youth Vs experience: “Perhaps I am a bit different than most out there being older. I observe some interesting phenomena without any data to understand how widespread or commonly held the paradigms I perceive are. First, most people respond sexually to young and healthy looking bodies (target partners). This makes sense from a performance perspective, younger are more fit and sex is a physical activity. But it is not usually thought of a skill we need lots of training for. Most sexual activity can be undertaken by most people aside from "positions" for coitus, for example which require extreme flexibility which is often associated with some manner of athleticism or dance training which are again activities performed by the young and healthy (mostly). Enter the mental aspect of sexuality. Sex may be instinctual in that it is similar to other biologic needs, driven by hormones and so forth, but it is a behavior which involves cognitive functions. We think about, plan, and fantasize about sexual encounters before and during the actual encounters. In fact, many will claim that the mind is the biggest or main sex organ of the body. Without our minds engaged in sexual activity and response we could enjoy it... I suppose it might be technically possibly to have a sexual response with no mental engagement, but how would we even know about it? I digress. Sex being a mind thing like the body thing makes better minds capable of "better sex". Learning any activity is both a physical and a mental development and in most cases they go hand in hand. A very young body (child?) has a very young and undeveloped mind and inexperienced mind. Therefore a young person cannot have achieved and advanced development of their sexuality. Of course when we reach physical sexual maturity we often are very intellectually and emotionally experientially naive. My observation is the kink and fetishes are the province of older, more experience, more aware, more developed minds. This doesn't mean that a lesser “sexually” developed mind can’t engage in kink, for surely they can. But the question is, is this a natural development of human sexuality.... or a bit of putting the cart before the horse... mentally and emotionally? Certainly we see that many endeavors REQUIRE experience and maturity and mental engagement to produce the best results... athletes and artists are obvious examples. But there are prodigies and this is a very outlier and mystifying experience”

I think there is some instinctual drive that causes men to select young beautiful women as sex partners. The smooth soft skin, the energy and ripeness of the figure all indicate subliminally that here is a set of reproductively healthy genes. And of course young women between the ages of 19 and 26 are the most fertile so when at mid-cycle are the ones most likely to become pregnant, a 50% chance from a single unprotected act of intercourse. Men are more attracted to women who are ready to ovulate probably by subtle body language and the woman’s scent which is why a fertile unescorted women at a beach, bar or fetish club will attract more men than one with the same or even better looks who isn’t fertile. I’ve had that happen. When I’m fertile – as I am now (I’m CD12) and will ovulate in two days - I can draw men away from a drop-dead-beautiful woman in her early 20s holding court with standing-room only men at the Meat Market. At 40 I’m still very attractive, but I’m not that beautiful! It’s the fact that my cervix is ripe and I’m about to release an egg and the men can sense it. That’s what has the guys peeling off her pussy-posse and following me. And they haven’t even had an opportunity to experience the delights I can provide from my 25 years of experience.

Jack on young women and the sexual experience learning curve: “So in the realm of sex we have an odd "thing" happening. On the one hand adolescents are "rearing to go"... and lacking experience and emotional maturity. Young, physically attractive, athletic and healthy (nubile) are what we covet in females (and the equivalent in males)... yet these bodies have hopelessly naive, inexperienced and emotionally undeveloped minds. For example, can a physically sexually desirable 25 year female make a "good" dominatrix? Well she could be dressed for the part, perhaps even learn some of the "moves", but could she truly posses the mental landscape of a more mature person? I think not. Maturity comes with experience and in a sense you can't get it until you are "equipped" to play in the big leagues. It's a bit of a conundrum for sure. The bottom line of this comment is that kink and fetish appeal fit with people of a certain level of mental development and maturity. We may desire young, for other sexual reasons, but to my mind young minds and kink don't match. And not only don't they match, but the idea is a bit disturbing or off putting. So what we get is the images mixing youth with what is associated with maturity... young models in fetish roles. I suppose it appeals to pedophilic desires in some people, but hopefully not in others. A good wine is not ready before its time. A great ballerina takes years and years of training and I would argue that a great fetish/kinky partner takes quite some time to form. Kink and fetish is much more of a mental overlay on the basic physical human sexual response. For example, vigorous fucking is rarely the emphasis, though sustained arousal and of course the desire for orgasm always is there... like the rabbit chased by the dogs around the track. I suppose this is why most fem Dommes are not nubile adolescent girls, but tend to be found in women in the mod to late twenties at the very youngest with most in their 30s, 40s and older. These are women of a certain level of experience, sophistication with a advanced level of social interactions and symbolism, style and composure simply not found in younger women. On the other hand a "sex slave" is hardly a role which requires more than the ability to take orders and be compliant... and this is well within level of a child's mental capacity.”

At St Lucy’s we work with our ripe bodied young women to guide their impressionable minds through a wide range of sexual experiences and alternatives, a smorgasbord of tricks and treats to be used for personal as well as mutual pleasure with a man. That way they have an extensive sampling of the delights available and can browse among them all or specialize in a few that take their fancy. We try to guide the girls toward interests that will draw and retain a man in orbit around her rather than into the more sophisticated field of D/S with any thought that she can quickly become a Domme and be good at it. But if that is a career path she wants to pursue we can set up interviews for graduates with responsible Dommes who want a younger woman as a student/slave to teach her the business, if she can last. Very few St Lucy’s girls are looking for that sort of life.

Jack on youthful heroines in ballet: “The same conundrum is present in the world of ballet. For example Romeo and Juliet is a about teens and to dance these roles one must look like a teen and dance like a season artist with decades of training. So we get younger and younger dancers, isolated from the real world and maturing experiences being asked to "act"/play roles which are much older people in many cases, or deal with mental states and experiences these talented dancers can't possibly have any real life experience with. Their AD's I suppose are helping them with this sort of thing. Remember how Nina was prompted to reach for "sexual passion" to help her with the role of Odile... I doubt whether an AD would actually do such a "thing" but it supports the notion that adolescent sexual energy is perhaps the most mature passion a naive mind can grasp... selfishness and greed come pretty early to children... and are hardly the province of adults. We sort of have in sex - fetish two sets (similar to ballet) of "curves" plotted over time... body curve tends downward and mental maturity curve tends upward over time. So in the "beginning" body is "there" and mind is not developed and at the end … after passages of years... mind is there, and the body is waning. The latter can be found with some sort of rigorous work... but one can't win that battle. The mind however can keep growing and advancing. And so for "mental" sex older is no handicap and is in fact an advantage. Perhaps that is why there are so many pervy older men (and women)?”

In one company I danced with the Ballet Mistress was thought to have been responsible for breaking up a romantic relationship between a female principal and an outsider (non-ballet) male to give the young principal some perspective on romantic loss to prepare her for the role of Giselle she was being groomed for.

Jack on the male libido: “The underlying driving urge for sex in a male is driven by his genes. THEY want to be passed along and so they have created the pleasure of sex to get them into another generation. Males aren't aware that they are having sex for their genes and so I suppose the self desire to leave a sex partner pregnant might be those genes working their way into his consciousness. Unless he intends to be a father, help raise a child or settle down with the woman, leaving her pregnant for her to deal with the 20yrs of raising a child on her own (presumably) is an act of extreme selfishness which not only makes it tough on the woman, but makes it hard on child who will likely grow up never seeing or knowing his father, the love and caring of two parents and so forth. I suppose there is the possibility that he might want to stick with the woman and her pregnancy may be the beginning of a committed relationship. She might be abortion averse and so she might demand he act responsible and "tie the knot" or commit to her and his future child. A child SHOULD be wanted, and when they are the result of self sex it's not likely to work out very well. But even the best laid plans of mice and men go awry. Suffering is not a good thing and being the cause of it or contributing to it makes one a monster.”

“It’s the woman’s problem”: I completely agree with what Jack says here that men have a hormonal drive to reproduce whether they realize it or not. During recreational sex women CAN NOT depend on a man to take the necessary contraceptive precautions, (except by withholding her favor) unless he is concerned about the possibility of contracting an STI. That is why I don’t think a male birth control pill will be effective for general use. Some few men who don’t want to be trapped by a woman who says she is on the pill and isn’t will use it, so a paternity test will prove he isn’t the father, but otherwise I think most men don’t care because “it’s the woman’s problem”. That is why we drill into our St Lucy’s girls from a very early age that as far as sex is concerned they are responsible for their own protection. They are the only ones who can be depended upon to protect themselves from unintended pregnancies while learning to use their bodies to attract and retain a suitable mate. I’m not sure I’d call a man a monster who intentionally impregnates his partner and then abandons her because she does have alternatives, but he is certainly unthinking and selfish.