Monday, April 25, 2016

Death Rubber diary

A latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm

The photo: One of my 80mm Reflexions diaphragms. It is made of natural rubber latex and is the style that when worn by a woman when she died during sexual intercourse becomes (for my purposes) a ‘Death Rubber’ diaphragm containing special powers that supplement my sexuality. I know I use photos of Reflexions a lot, but I can’t stress enough how desirable they are for contraceptive and dive-sex safety and for their strong appeal to latex fetishists.

My Death Rubber collection:  For readers who are new to my blog a ‘death rubber’ is a diaphragm, especially a latex one, which was being worn by a woman when she died while having penetrative intercourse. Until my last post (Dating Gigi on May 2, 2015) I hadn’t written about harvesting one for about five months - in my entry for November 21, 2014 - when I harvested one from a Las Vegas Towel Girl at Splash. As this is written it has been eleven months since I added to my collection so readers can understand how difficult it is to obtain a Death Rubber under ideal conditions, meaning that I harvested it myself.

During an orgy in Vegas years ago I found that wearing a latex diaphragm I harvested from the vagina of an elite rubber fetish escort – one I watched die while being fucked at the bottom of a training pool for rubber fetishists - gave me access to the residual Chi contained in the diaphragm that had been protecting her cervix. Through her Chi her memories of past lovers and the pelvic experience and tricks she knew to please them become available for my use which enhances my confidence and pleasure when wearing it.

There are some challenges in collecting this specific item:

  • Few women use diaphragms these days.
  • The device needs to be in my size, 80mm – usually worn by women much taller than me.
  • The woman has to have died during sex while wearing it.
  • And so I can safely wear it she must have been free of STIs which means at the time of her death she had had a recent negative full panel STI test.
  • And now the Reflexions is no longer being made. However, latex flat spring diaphragms can be custom made for those of us who need them.
Too there is the usual down side to a latex device:

  • Some people are allergic to latex.
  • The useful life is much shorter than a silicone diaphragm.
  • The odor from a latex device worn too long can be very strong, however, that could be a plus if you are with a man who is into funky vaginal scents.
The good news about a latex flat spring device is:

  • The heat transfer properties are far superior to silicone.
  • A latex device can be safely used with silicone lubes necessary for proper vaginal lubrication during underwater sex.
  • A great safety feature of a flat spring rim diaphragm is that since it folds in a single plane it is almost impossible for a mischievous partner to under-thrust the rim of one that is properly sized and correctly placed.                         
Fortunately as with my former position in Vegas I have access to the medical records of the Escort service run by Tanaquil for Taryn’s European operation so I know who wears 80mm latex diaphragms (mainly for male clients with latex fetishes) or for under-thrust ‘flood insurance’ during dive-sex. It so happens these are the women who are the greatest risk takers so are the ones most likely to have a fatal accident during an encounter with a commercial client or during filming porn videos. I think the risk is part of my fascination with asphyxia sexual highs while having SCUBA sex because there is so little margin for error. It certainly is a huge thrill and marvelous high for me!

A more recent and serious ‘Death Rubber’ limitation briefly mentioned above is that the Reflexions FS diaphragm was discontinued at the first of 2015. Fortunately the Clinic had received a routine stocking order of the Reflexions so we should be able to provide them to patients for the next few months as they are how only used by up-market fetish escort clients. Also, we are able to have latex FS diaphragms custom made, but at higher cost. The fall-back position is to use 80mm silicone Milex diaphragms as death rubber devices, but the flat spring rim was ideal in providing women and especially fetish escorts with superior under-thrust protection and I suspect those of us in the profession will go to the custom made latex flat spring as for us there really is nothing as good.

Currently my collection consists of six 80mm latex Reflexions diaphragms that I have personally harvested from the vaginas of their previous owners. I try to take good care of them as they all contain their former owners sexual exploits that reside in the portion of her Chi still contained in the diaphragm which supplement my own sexual knowledge and experiences when I wear them and each is unique and irreplaceable in that way.

My latest harvesting acquisition: This is the second ‘death rubber’ I’ve harvested since I moved to the UK in January of 2015. The most recent was a French twenty-something ballerina on holiday with her English lover who was at a fetish swim party at a country house in Berkshire which I attended last weekend. I knew her as a candidate on my list of possible Death Rubber donors as she was quite tall at 5’8” for a ballet dancer. She had been fitted by one of Tanaquil’s Gyn friends in Paris and wore the Reflexions FS in my size. She said she was familiar with basic SCUBA gear and was anxious to have her lover take her to orgasm submerged in our host’s pool while other guests watched. Her lover was against it as she was known as something of an exhibitionist, but she teased him about not being able to get it up underwater and so to defend his sexual prowess he reluctantly agreed.

They were using our hosts OTS Guardian FFMs, 60 cu ft aluminum tanks and everything seemed to be going well. The woman was tethered to the bottom of the dive well with an ankle leash and she was out of her tank which was on its side on the bottom so she could be entered from behind. The audio from their comm. link was on the speakers in the pool area so we could hear them talk to each other and both of them gasp and moan from their sexual exertions. She was facing the pool bottom as he entered her from the rear and she grunted, mewed, gasped and moaned as he pushed his way inside her and she adjusted her hips to take his length and thrusts.  He was holding on to her hips and had given her several vaginal orgasms when she began to quiver, gasp and begin to gag and she doubled over possibly to try to unfasten the ankle leash or perhaps from cramps, but her partner kept thrusting into her trying to reach orgasm himself before he withdrew. 

After he came he pulled out, but by that time she was limp and not breathing and I and several other divers had jumped in to help pull her out. I unfastened the ankle leash, a man lifted her tank off the bottom and her partner raised her to the surface. After we got her on the pool surround we tried CPR, but she had apparently drowned in her own vomit.  While straightening her thong and covering her with a blanket to await an ambulance I pulled out the 80mm Reflexions she was wearing still slippery with her lover’s thick creamy semen that hadn’t had a chance to liquefy and slipped it down my cleavage.

She had the results of a serum pregnancy test in her purse that showed she was about eight weeks pregnant so that may have been why she became nauseated though there were two other women at the party who came down with food poisoning so perhaps it was that.

Monday, April 18, 2016

Gas fisting protection with Oves

An Oves cervical cap and a pair of Chacott pointe-shoes

The perils of Gas Fisting: Gas Fisting for the purpose of this post is defined as having compressed air intentionally forced into the vagina of a willing (or unwilling) woman. As far as I know being Gas Fisted is very rare and extremely dangerous which probably explains its rarity. I’m writing about it now because one of my students asked me about it today in my class on Advanced Sexual Techniques. Her boyfriend wanted to do it to her telling her that it was a quick way to flush coital discharge from her vagina. She asked if a diaphragm being used for contraception or as ‘flood protection’, to prevent the hydraulics of a partners thrusting from forcing water into her uterus, would provide effective protection if he forced pressurized gas into her. The short answer is no, it will not!

No currently available cervical barrier or FC2 condom will provide any protection if a woman is Gas Fisted. The few incidents I’m familiar with have all occurred where the woman is in a bikini or beavertail jacket and SCUBA gear where there was easy access to her vulva and a source of compressed gas from a buddy reg on an octopus or her partner’s reg was available and have all occurred w/o the victim’s permission.

Present Barrier protection is ineffective: Readers of my posts will recall that I routinely use the latex Reflexions flat spring contraceptive diaphragm as effective ‘flood insurance’ while diving to prevent water or gas bubbles from being forced into my uterus by the hydraulics of a partner’s thrusting. Neither the Reflexions nor any other cervical barrier currently commercially available will protect a woman against serious injury if high pressure gas is released into her vagina.

That’s because a jet of compressed gas from a 2nd stage reg will stretch the vaginal rugae inflating the vagina like a balloon causing the bladder to immediately empty and occasionally the bowels as well. Worse however is that the nearly instantaneously inflated vagina will break even the strongest seal of any diaphragm or FemCap being worn for protection because diaphragm rims and FemCap brims form their seals by pressing tightly against the vaginal walls. The seal of a cervical barrier being breached allows the gas and any water it is pushing to be forced into the wearer’s uterus and fallopian tubes where it could cause PID and infertility or a gas bubble could possibly enter the bloodstream if she was menstrual or recently had an abortion or given birth.

Effective protection: The only cervical barriers that will provide effective protection from the serious side effects of Gas Fisting are the latex Prentif cavity rim cap and the much smaller transparent silicone Oves cap because they suction directly on the walls of the cervix so external pressure will force them down tighter on the cervix.  Unfortunately, neither Prentif nor Oves are still being made. However, there are a few of us still using a Prentif or Oves who can survive a mischievous partner Gas Fisting us.

Too, for a very few of us wanting to tempt fate we can screw a Prentif or Oves down tight on our cervix and have a lover intentionally Gas Fist us or do it ourselves to prove to we still have the nerve or luck to survive.  There is no accounting for the extent to which some of us will go for thrills. Experiencing the massive high that sort of ‘cheating death’ recklessness brings when I successfully survive an intentional Gas Fisting leaves me boneless and gasping savoring how marvelously alive I feel!  

Latex Prentif cavity rim cervical caps like the ones shown above are the only devices other than Oves that will provide effective protection for a woman who is Gas Fisted.

A latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm in its case shown with an introducer.  The Reflexions diaphragm shown above provides no protection from a Gas Fisting.

A silicone FemCap (shown above) provides no protection from a Gas Fisting

Sunday, April 3, 2016

Caya, menstrual sex and lactational amenorrhea

The Photo: Caya is a one-size-fits-most silicone diaphragm available (by prescription) in the U.S. as of June 2015. However Caya has been available without a prescription on-line through contraceptive suppliers outside the U.S. for several years. The device is 75mm long (from the relief arch and removal dome at the anterior end on the right in the photo above to the posterior rim on the left) and 67mm wide. The six bumps on the right end of the rim and a corresponding set on the opposite side are ‘grip dimples’ and provide gripping traction for fingers on the rim during compression for insertion. Caya was designed to fit women who take the four most commonly prescribed conventional diaphragm sizes; 65mm, 70mm, 75mm and 80mm and who have a pronounced (1 to 2 cm deep) post-pubic vault to hold the relief arch. Caya has a medium tension nylon spring that arcs downward when compressed to aid in slipping it under the cervix. On average, the ectocervix (the part of the cervix that protrudes into the vagina) is 3 cm long and 2.5 cm wide. The cervix cup is 55 mm in diameter and 3 cm deep which will allow it to accommodate most women’s cervix.

The 3 cm length of the anterior cervical wall and the anterior vaginal wall form a gap called the anterior fornix which along with the cervix is covered by the dome of a contraceptive diaphragm. Thus the anterior fornix is typically a 3 cm cleft into which the stretchy silicone membrane of a Caya can be pushed by the force of a thrusting penis, assuming the shaft is long enough to reach and penetrate the anterior fornix of an aroused partner.

Menstrual sex with Caya: Returning readers will recall that in my entry for February 17, 2016 “So many men, so little time!” I discussed the advantages of the Caya contoured diaphragm. However, I didn’t discuss using it for flow control during menstrual sex and readers have asked about that so I’m sharing my menstrual experiences with Caya.

Caya as a menstrual cup:  For comparison a Diva Cup can hold one full ounce of menstrual flow (30 ml) and the average woman flows approximately 1 to 2 ounces (30-60 ml) per cycle. Depending on the size of the cervix the Caya cervix cup can hold up to 20 ml of flow if it is just being used for flow control and it has a strong seal. If Caya is to be used for flow control during penetrative vaginal sex then it should be emptied cleaned and reinserted prior to penile penetration as a thrusting penis will cause a dome even half-full to overflow. However, unless the user is flowing very heavily Caya should give the couple at least three hours of flow protection. Of course each woman is different since cervical size and flow rates will vary so there will be an interval of trial-and–error when determining the maximum interval and amount of flow that can be contained effectively depending whether it is on light or heavy days during active penile thrusting especially if a partner can reach into the anterior fornix. 

When I’m menstrual and wearing a Caya for flow control and sex I’ll carry two so I can remove one and give it to my partner who enjoys drinking the contents of the cup clots and all while I insert the fresh empty one to collect flow during our penetrative encounter.  With a Diva Cup positioned below the cervix and the woman sitting or standing the cervix isn’t immersed in flow, but with a diaphragm cupping the cervix it is submerged in flow so when the Caya is removed there is a bit more flow as vaginal discharge than with a Diva Cup.  Of course the beauty of using a diaphragm for flow control is that you can have sex while minimizing the flow contributing to the coitial discharge afterward. 

Increasing and checking a diaphragms vacuum: The wearer will want the best fit and strongest suction possible in the dome/cervix cup. The fit is first a matter of pelvic anatomy size and condition. However, if the bladder or colon is beginning to prolapse into the vagina (not uncommon in women who have given birth) the Caya may not seal effectively. A poorly sealing diaphragm can still be effective as a contraceptive barrier by using plenty of spermicide in the dome. However, it is not a good choice as a menstrual cup as it can leak flow since the weight of flow can break the seal.

After insertion and checking proper placement, by feeling the cervix under the dome with the anterior rim tucked up out of the way behind the pubic bone, the seal of a Caya can be increased by using the fingers to express the remaining air from the dome. When expressing air from the cup care should be taken to ensure a fingernail does not puncture the cup. With a strong vacuum the silicone membrane collapses against the cervix and may be pulled up slightly into the anterior fornix. This will increase the vacuum and the dome will gradually fill with flow and with strong suction the weight should not break the seal.

Strong seal test: The seal on a Caya with a strong suction fit should not break when gently tugging on by a finger in the removal dome or if there is flow in the dome while being penetrated from behind when the cup is upside down such that the flow is being held in the dome only by the strength of the seal.  A good test of the seal is having intercourse entered from behind (doggie style or during ballet-sex (en pointe a la seconde bent over a table, chair or holding on to a barre) while menstrual with the Caya dome expressed to maximize the suction. With 10 ml (two teaspoons) or less in the dome it should not leak when thrust into. However, because of the dynamic movement of the rim against the vaginal rugae during penetrative sex there will be a slight sheen of flow on the vaginal walls. To minimize the likelihood of staining a man’s trousers with flow while having sex in public a condom can be used.

Lactational amenorrhea: lactational amenorrhea is the temporary infertility that occurs when a woman is amenorrheic (not menstruating) and fully breastfeeding. Since I’m lactating and still want to have a regular menstrual cycle I have to limit the number of times I breastfeed to prevent becoming amenorrheic since I enjoy the swings of my hormones when I’m fertile and menstrual. I’ve found that if I limit my breast feeding sessions to about one every six hours or not more than four in a 24 hour interval I can avoid becoming amenorrheic and still cycle regularly. 

Lactating is not without its challenges: A wonderful source of information about breastfeeding problems is at WebMD. It covers painful lumps, blocked ducts, yeast infections or thrush and engorged Breasts. I use a lanolin-based cream made specifically for nipple inflammation. It’s PureLan 100 Nipple Cream by Medela which for me minimizes the likelihood of further problems. The WebMD article can be read HERE

The Flowers graduate: On Saturday March 26th the six remaining Personal Assistant candidates completed the nine week Pelvic Intensive course that I conducted at Blackthorn Castle. I am very pleased to say they have already been placed with executives in major corporations. Returning readers will recall that Heather had a seizure during a dive-sex encounter and was hospitalized in a private dive medicine facility in Milford Haven. She was released after several days of tests and observation and was released from the PA candidate program for medical reasons. She will still remain in Taryn’s organization, but with a far less rigorous physical schedule.

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