The scent maven and masochism

Well used Freed Classic pointes with ¾ shanks

The Photo: A pair of well used Freed Classic pointe shoes with three-quartered shanks (similar to the ones I wear for performances) which show off the arches of the dancer’s feet. Anyone wondering if wearing dancer modified pointes are comfortable has only to look at where the shanks have been cut away from the outer soles and where the wearer puts her weight when on her heels, which is why we seldom put weight on our heels for long when wearing pointe-shoes with customized ¾ shanks. A great many successful female ballet dancers are masochists to some extent which makes it easier to deal with the discomfort of wearing and performing in pointe-shoes.

 Masochism: The term has several meanings:

1. The deriving of sexual gratification from fantasies or acts that involve being made to suffer physical or mental pain. Also, called sexual masochism.

2. The deriving of pleasure from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself.

3. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.

Most women ballet dancers I know fall under the third meaning of the term. Though for me the discomfort (significantly lessened for me by wearing Gaynor Minden shoes for play) is worth the power, confidence I get from wearing and performing in pointes.

The scent maven: I like to be able to provide a fetish partner with a wide range of feminine scents to choose from when we are having a sexual encounter and the extent of options available for my scent bouquet will depend on where I am in my cycle and what I wear.

Some erotic scent sources:

The aroma of estrogenic sweat soaked pointes: Ballet and foot fetishists often agree that the English paste used in Freed pointe shoes made of traditional materials; hessian, cardboard, satin, leather and paste produces the best bouquet when soaked in a dancers estrogenic sweat. A quick way to get them sweat soaked is to wear them while exercising in a latex catsuit or leggings. Especially if they have three-quartered shanks (as in the photo above) since the sweat pours out of the ankle opening and into the backs of the shoes to be soaked up by the raw leather where the top of the shank has been cut away.  

Wearing them for too long when in latex can get them so soaked that the blocks will never recover even when heavily jet glued so if anyone tries this do so with an old pair first. There are a few pointe fetishists who like the sweat soaked aroma of Gaynor Minden pointes that have a chemical scent about them and a really pungent odor if an anti-bacterial spray hasn’t been used on the insides and they have become ripe.

A fun alternative for moistening one’s pointes is to have a partner cum in your shoes in the toe-boxes or on the exposed leather undersoles of ¾ shanked shoes. Or, I like to fellatite a partner and rather than swallowing his load spit it into my shoes.  And of course, the ever-popular option of having him come in my toe pads then push my toes into the thick hot sperm rich cream fresh out of a favorite man before forcing them into the tight toe-boxes of favorite pair of play pointes.

Tacking stitches – visual foreplay: If the role is demanding and if there is time between shoe changes, sometimes professionals will sew ourselves into our shoes (like, into the tights). Or sew tacking stitches in the knot to tack the endings so they don’t come out mid-performance. Afterward it only takes a moment to cut the tacking threads of the ribbons if the shoes can be reused for another performance or class. Letting a man watch me cut the tacking threads and remove my pointes occasionally after a performance or play date, along with the first whiffs of sweat softened paste can be used as foreplay with a fetishist deeply in thrall to any woman who can confidently wear and perform in pointe-shoes. I’ve had some men so fixated that they prematurely ejaculate, but that’s fine as it takes the edge off a bit so they last longer when thrusting inside me.

Toe Cheese: A mixture of dead skin, nail polish chips, bits from toe pads, mixed with estrogenic sweat, liniment residue and occasionally spiced with blood and blister seepage that collects between the toes that is mixed with the aroma of the pointes the dancer wears, especially Freeds in which the scent of the paste can enhance the taste of a dancer’s toe cheese. A few expert pointe-shoe fetishists can tell which makers pointes his partner has worn recently by the scent of her toe cheese.

The aroma of a sweaty latex catsuit: Not that other latex feminine garments don’t provide their own bouquets, but a catsuit can provide both pelvic and breast scents, if the wearer is lactating. Though rancid breastmilk can be a scent-too-far for some as it can cause nausea for the couple and it can be costly since it’s almost impossible to get the rancid scent out of a latex garment w/o damaging it.

A latex diaphragm: A latex diaphragm worn for more than 24 hours and marinated in female fertile cervical mucus (FCM), arousal lube, or menstrual flow and male genital secretions can be a sinus clearing scent!  Though leaving a diaphragm in place with menstrual flow for a protracted interval is very dangerous as bacteria buildup can cause Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS) which can be fatal.

A latex diaphragm, now very difficult to get other than by custom fitting, is far better to use as a sensory toy because the latex surface is a bit porous and so reacts with reproductive tract secretions far better than silicone. As a toy the diaphragm can be used to collect fertile cervical mucus for consumption by a male partner or, when I’m luteal, we can act out a breeding fantasy by him ejaculating in the dome and I insert it so the tip of my cervix is submerged in a pool of semen instead of spermicide while he inseminates me the traditional way in missionary.   

Menstrual discharge: A diaphragm either latex or silicone or a menstrual cup (I wear a Diva Cup) can be used as a container by fetishists who are fond of consuming their partner’s menstrual flow. Of m partners who are menstrual fetishists all prefer the silicone Caya because the cup is deeper and can be easily drunk from. My partners think another plus is the grip dimples which prevent it slipping out of their grasp while licking out the “clots”, which aren’t really clots but pieces of endometrium that often come out in my flow. All my menstrual fetishists claim consuming my flow is a nutritional supplement, as a source of iron.  They are also fond of its thick consistency and metallic scent. I do try to eat an iron rich diet to ensure I don’t become anemic from blood loss and I’m fortunate not to have extremely heavy or long and painful menses.

Latex and breast milk: Breast feeding while in a latex catsuit can be wonderful, but high-maintenance as the wearer has to be careful to clean up any milk leakage afterward or the milk and sweat combination will quickly turn rancid and getting that scent out of latex can be very hard and sometimes impossible to do. Occasionally, with a male partner who enjoys revolting scents wearing a latex suit smelling of rancid milk can be a plus, but those men are very rare and good quality latex catsuits are expensive so I have an inexpensive one that reeks of rancid breastmilk that I wear if I’m with one of them. When not in use I wash it and keep it in an airtight bag so the scent is contained. 

Sweaty leather ballet-boots: Returning readers will recall that I wear custom made ballet-boots made by my cobbler Gepetto. They have unitized titanium toe-box and shank assemblies and easily replicable titanium heel spikes in case one bends or breaks which is very unlikely.   Properly sized and genuine leather ballet-boots even though the leather breathes can cause the wearer’s feet to sweat and swell. The problem with ballet-boots is threefold: 1) it’s difficult to get the correct size and heel height and, 2) made of top quality genuine leather - not smaller pieces stitched together - they can be very expensive and 3) there are few cobblers who still make quality hand crafted ballet-boots as the market is small and there is little profit, so the maker is usually still making them because he loves fitting fetishists, especially women. The rich fresh leather scent of a pair of new quality leather boots can be amazing and only improved when soaked in the wearer’s estrogenic sweat.

When I’m out clubbing I’m sometimes accused of “holding court” because some of the male members in my circle will come to my table kneel and pledge their fealty by ejaculating into the laces of my boots. It’s a lovely gesture, but it does make the cleaning of them afterward more difficult. I usually let them dry then loosen the crusty residue with a brush and blow it out of the laces with a hair dryer then polish the boots with Obenauf's boot oil which makes the leather soft, shine and waterproof.

Bare down there: Nude pubes – the pluses and minuses

A full Brazilian (squeaky clean) waxing

The photo: The lovely and confidence building results of a full (squeaky clean) Brazilian waxing.

IPL hair removal: Intense Pulsed Light (IPL) laser permanent hair removal is not suitable for use on light blond, red and white/grey hair as darker colored hair absorbs the energy from the laser and is more quickly destroyed.  However, my thick bright red hair while not as easily removed by laser as darker colors was removed in nine sessions, one every six weeks, over the last year. If I was young and hadn’t been waxing it would have taken longer, but I’d been waxing for more than twenty years so there wasn’t a lot of hair left. Finally, all I have left now are my eyebrows and scalp hair!

The down-side of bare down there:  There can be a safety issue with pubic grooming at home. If not careful shaving can cause cuts requiring a visit to the ER and home waxing can cause burns also requiring a trip to the ER. Too, there is some research that shows that girls who haven’t reached puberty have more pelvic infections than after puberty when a thick bush can afford some protection. So removing pubic hair can increase the chance of pelvic infections.

Reasons for nude pubes: Growing up in a ballet boarding school I couldn’t wait for my first pair of pointe-shoes and my first pubic waxing, which occurred shortly after I reached menarche at fourteen. The school encouraged nude pubes since costumes fit better and leotards and tights displayed the mons pubis and cameltoe in greater detail. Some of the other reasons knowledgeable and sexually sophisticated women prefer hairless pubes are:  

• It makes the woman look younger.
• Ease of access to fondle the shaft of the clitoris.
• Sports Plugs (vaginal plugs) seal much more securely if body adhesive is needed (if her post-pubic vault isn’t shaped to retain the plug) when the wearer has bare pubes to prevent being finger-fucked at parties.
• It’s easier to clean up while menstrual, especially after menstrual sex and cunnilingus.
• Hair doesn’t get caught in a partner’s teeth and the relief zippers of catsuits.
• Greater comfort, poise and confidence gotten from knowing you look fabulous when displaying nude pubes under revealing clothing.

Latex Catsuits relief zippers: Nude pubes as a relief zipper plus was mentioned above, but I think it needs its own brief discussion because with tight relief zippers on properly sized, very tight, latex catsuits getting a relief zipper closed even when the wearer has a closely trimmed bush can be a challenge. I recommend some relief zipper training for my escort clients when fitted with one of Gepettos custom latex catsuits that are so tight that the zipper is between the labia forming a soft deep cameltoe. With one of those it is very difficult to get even a well waxed zipper fully closed w/o having hair caught in the zipper unless wearing a Sports Plug so nude pubes are highly recommended.  Of course a suit that tight can’t be worn comfortably by many of us but for those who can, like me, the zipper along the shaft of my clitoris is very arousing.

A Full Brazilian for hygiene: Hygiene is defined as: “Conditions or practices conducive to maintaining health and preventing disease, especially through cleanliness.” Well, ease of clean-up is certainly one aspect of having nude pubes though I agree with the doctors (in the links below) that grooming to hairless pubes isn’t really the primary reason that a high percentage young women and a much higher percentage of performers and escorts go bare down there for the reasons mentioned above. A recent New York Times article about shaving, waxing, or lasering pubic hair is at:

“Most Women Prefer to Go Bare, Citing Hygiene (and Baffling Doctors)” can be read HERE

In case readers hit a pay-wall at the NYT Links cited in the above article are:

“Pubic Hair Grooming Prevalence and Motivation Among Women in the United States” can be read HERE

“Pubic hair removal among women in the United States: prevalence, methods, and characteristics” can be read HERE:

“Vulvovaginal Health” article can be read HERE:

“Pubic hair grooming injuries presenting to U.S. emergency departments” article can be read HERE.

 

 

Major external anatomical parts of the female genitalia

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Ballet BDSM

Red Gaynors with a Reflexions and its introducer

The Photo: A pair of my red Gaynor Minden pointes a color I wear when I’m menstrual or am in a very dominant mood along with one of my latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragms partially folded and tucked into a block and a diaphragm introducer. The introducer was used to help users to more easily insert flat spring diaphragms, but since demand for diaphragms has declined it is no longer made. Folded as it is readers unfamiliar with wearing a flat spring diaphragm can see how the dome folds into ridges. The three valleys between the ridges and the rim are filled with spermicide.

Ballet BDSM: Marvin loves being submissive to me in my role as his dead wife Jenna. Returning readers will recall that he suffers from a localized form of Delusional Disorder “with bizarre content” the bizarre content being the impossibility of my being Jenna, which only occurs when I’m near him for more than fifteen or twenty minutes. One of their games during which she became pregnant was a form of Ballet BDSM. Of course Ballet BDSM comes in all forms limited only by the imaginations of the couples playing. In the case of Jenna and Marvin it was fairly vanilla involving only tying Marvin’s wrists and ankles to the bedposts with the ribbons (hers and my ribbons measure19 or 20 inches each in length and are machine sewn to each quarter section) from two pairs of her Bloch SO104 pointes and gagging him with another. Then she slipped one of her micromesh a thong moist with her vaginal secretions over his nose and the waistband behind his head to hold it in place so her scent filled his lungs as he gasped for air while she mounted him; sitting astride his erection and sucking all the cream out of his éclair with her well toned pelvic muscles.

With our play we continue to follow what they were doing during the encounter from which Jenna conceived. Marvin hasn’t said anything about it but I know he would love getting me pregnant. He especially loves the fact that it occurred while Jenna was being dominant and he couldn’t do anything but be a sperm donor as she had her way with him and he is obsessed with trying to have that happen again. At my age having a single act of unprotected sex while fertile I have a 30% chance of becoming preggers, which is why I’m careful to wear the latex Reflexions FS to reduce the likelihood of that happening to an acceptable level.

Ballet intensive, unintended consequences: St Lucy’s was not the only school in town to hold a ballet summer intensive, but we may have been the safest from the standpoint of unintended consequences suffered by the students. The students attending the other BSI had all come to our clinic for evaluation prior to taking the course as it was supposed to push the envelope as far as the student’s endurance. They were all very fit and on hormonal contraceptives. I was surprised who they had as their male pointe teacher. I’ve known Cedric, who dances with the Royal Ballet, since he taught at St Lucy’s several summers ago and thought these students weren’t sexually sophisticated enough to be in one of his classes. However, all I could do was to caution the girls that he was very potent and disliked condoms so they should take care to use their hormonal method according to the instructions that came with it. I also offered to fit them with diaphragms, which their insurance through student health would have paid for, but none accepted my offer.

Most of that school’s BSI students attended it because they would be starting or returning to UNLV in a few weeks and wanted to get settled or back into the life of the city. They had also heard what a stud-muffin Cedric is and so wanted to experience for themselves being in the presence of a ballet sex-god. I understand all too well the strong sexual attraction some men have and Cedric has it in spades. Even I go rubber legged when first around him after being away from him for a while. So I knew all his students would be aroused and vulnerable to his slightest suggestion during class and found myself wishing I could be with them inhaling the testosterone laced pheromones in the scent wafting from his sweat during toe class.

The pace of the SI was said to be so intense that Cedric suggested his students take a nutritional supplement to boost their metabolism to give them more energy. What they weren’t told was that increasing their metabolism would flush hormonal contraceptives out of their bodies so quickly that the amount left borders on ineffectively therapeutic and they should use a barrier as a back-up method until they stop taking it. So at the end of that three week SI two girls, a first year and a returning second year UNLV student, were pregnant by him. This sort of thing happens with him everywhere he teaches as he has an amazing body, great personality and is an amazing chick-magnet. The first year student freaked out as she is from a very strict Christian family and rushed home intending to keep the baby. The family probably won’t sue because they couldn’t stand the publicity. The second year had been around enough to know that a vacuum aspiration was quick almost risk free and was covered by her insurance and it was done at my clinic while I held her hand.

Sex with a Ballet-God: I had sex with Cedric the day before he returned to the UK. We spent the afternoon at the barre and in bed as a going away present (for us both) since he will be rejoining the Royal Ballet as a soloist after their summer hiatus and undoubtedly spend the fall and winter fucking his way through all the new girls in the corps. His body is every bit as beautiful and his technique as gentle and skilled as I remembered it from several years ago. Since I was CD9 and fertile I was careful to wear a latex Reflections flat spring which is nearly impossible to under-thrust as he is mischievous and would like nothing better than to bypass my protection and leave his seed in my tubes to fertilize my egg when I ovulated. It’s too early for me to test to see if he succeeded in impregnating me, but I have no reason to think he was successful as there was no semen just fertile cervical mucus (semen liquefies thirty minutes after ejaculation) in the dome when I removed the diaphragm for cleaning ten hours later.

Priestess therapy: Returning readers will recall Marvin is my psychotherapist and fetish lover, among other things. In his professional capacity he is helping me adapt to and properly assume my responsibilities as a Demi-Goddess, a Priestess of the Goddess Aphrodite/Venus. He is trying to get me to focus on the things around me the Goddess wants me to influence (for example, my students and friends sex lives) and not on generalities like hunger and World Peace which are taking the time and resources of so many others far more skilled in those areas than I. 

In our private lives together (and unbeknownst to him) Marvin is teaching me to mind meld men to cause them willingly to meet my needs by placing them in my thrall. Not that women don’t do that already, to an extent, but male management at the Demi-Goddess level takes a bit of getting used to since it should be done seemingly without effort. My role as Jenna (his dead wife) in our relationship is one such test that the Goddess set for me, a learning experience so I can see how far my power extends before I damage an otherwise perfectly good man. And of course all without calling attention to myself by doing something a beautiful, athletic and sexually active dancer couldn’t possibly accomplish by herself.

 

Rubber ballet-sex

An entertainer encasing herself in a plum latex catsuit

The photo: An Entertainer dressing for success. In Switzerland, Austria and Germany Dommes in latex and ballet-boots wielding riding crops are an extremely popular form of male entertainment, where she entices the man to have sex with her. Now how hard is that? 

Orgasm-worthy performances: Almost all men who are on His Grace’s guest list have exquisite female companions some of whom are their wives, but they almost never accompany their men to the hotel for business meetings. A 45 minute conference with a young woman encased in a latex catsuit, ballet-boots or pointe shoes and wielding a riding crop can purge a great deal of stress from a harried titan of industry if he can survive it.

During the most popular scenario there is a fantasy rape which she initiates (during which she is forcibly penetrated from behind while standing on her toes) and then she finds she enjoys rough sex and takes him again while astride him where she can control the depth and angle of penetration and caused his penis to repeatedly ram the rim of her diaphragm. That can be a very unpleasant experience for him especially if he is uncut or unless he is a masochist and enjoys painful sex. Then after she orgasms the man atones for defiling her by being beaten with the crop as she stands over him, her relief zipper open while she Kegels out his ejaculate which she has him lick off the floor.  Can you say ‘submissive’ boys and girls?

In Switzerland prostitution is defined as sex for money and to be legal a sex-worker must be 18 or over. Here in Davos we are classified as ‘entertainers,’ and perform for the sole pleasure of His Grace’s guests. No money changes hands and we are all 18 or over and only perform within the hotel owned by His Grace. If we go out we dress and behave conservatively so we don’t call attention to ourselves. So we pretty much blend in with the other beautiful women visitors to Davos, while in the hotel we are free to go about performing and dispensing various forms of adult entertainment and punishment in our inimitable style w/o fear of being bothered by the authorities,

Screening guests: We are given a list of guests that we should expect based on our patron’s interests in their specialties or how likely they are to be indiscreet about the details of their work or friends. A small group of computer specialists access the persons (almost always men) on-line med records for indications of STIs and heart problems that might make him a poor candidate for the level of excitement a sexual encounter with one of us will cause. Usually periodic checkups for insurance purposes will in these days address the policy holder’s sexual, physical and often mental health.  Also checked are gossip columns and rumors about what women the guest has been seen in public with (and their sexual health is checked as well) are sufficient to clear most guests for unprotected sex. 

In the dressing room: A guest is not allowed into the entertainers dressing room, however he is allowed to watch what he is told is the feed from a hidden HD security cam in her dressing room, which heightens his arousal because he is watching clandestine video of the girl dressing who has no idea she is being videoed, or so he thinks.

The sounds, the creak and snap of latex as she is getting in to the .25mm chlorinated latex catsuits (about the thickness of a green Thera-Band, for those not familiar with catsuit thicknesses) and then she inserts Reflexions latex diaphragms, a 10 ml prefilled disposable applicator of DiveGel+ and sports plug to train for rubber ballet-sex. With their partners watching the clandestine video the guys all developed woodies quickly. The girls have a choice of ballet-boots or pointe shoes and – if the guest has no known preference - most prefer to train in Gaynor Minden pointes as it takes more strength and stamina to have sex en pointe in pointe shoes than in ballet boots which allow taking the weight on the dancers heels and the tightly laced boot shafts provide a great deal of ankle stability. Not that being taken from behind while standing in ballet-boots isn’t awesomely kinky fun, but it’s a lot easier than balancing en pointe for 20 minutes or so while being filled with semen. However, as I mentioned Aryans seem to prefer sex with a girl in leather ballet boots so we wear Gepettos for most encounters with Aryans.

The sports plug as a pacifier: I’ve written recently about sports plugs, a version of the Penetrator with a lightly textured latex head that grips the fabric of tight lingerie, leotards or swimsuits to keep the thong from slipping to one side minimizes being casually groped and prevents displaying camel toe. But in a D/s relationship there is another amazing use, as a pacifier for a submissive male. If the plug is removed while the wearer is standing, as it usually is when preparing for ballet-sex, en pointe in Ballet boots or pointe shoes, the 1 inch deep secretions cup beneath the anti-expulsion ridge (which can be used as a menstrual cup) collects the woman’s vaginal and cervical secretions: her clear slippery natural lubricant produced during arousal and her thick stretchy fertile cervical mucus.

When carefully removed while standing the contents of the secretions cup can be easily transferred into the submissive's mouth and almost immediately coat his tongue with the musky, salty taste of her vagina and perhaps the taste of a previous lover if she is still draining the last of his liquefied semen. Removing a Domme’s Sports plug then having it shoved into his mouth as a pacifier and gag of sorts is often a huge turn on for the sub. When it is used as a pacifier/gag we usually give it to the sub as a souvenir after the encounter.    

Carnal pleasure, The sounds and scents of rubber ballet-sex: In an encounter salle all you hear at first is the creak of her latex suit stretching and soft thump of padded GM pointe platforms as the escort moves to the barre and warms up with pliés, relevés, tendus, dégagés, échappés and développés then rolls on to pointe and bourrées and jetés in center before bourréeing over and offering herself for his pleasure in being dominated by a beautiful rubber clad woman balanced confidently on the tips of her toes.

Once in his arms she places his hand between her latex sheathed thighs. There is the hiss of her relief zipper as its gently tugged open and the slight chill of the dry salle air against the sweaty flesh of her pelvis. He feels for the removal loop lying against her perineum. The loop being pulled down and forward, the soft sucking sound of her sports plug’s seal being broken, the plug is pulled out and she carefully takes it from his hand and slips it into his mouth for safekeeping while she unzips his pants and gently slips his package out of his slingshot as she prepares to fuck his brains out.

She turns, rises en pointe a la seconde bends over grips the barre with both hands and orders, “Take me!” The wet sound and gasp on initial thrust of well a lubricated tight penetration while en pointe and her gasps, grunts and mewing when taking his thrusts and moans when her cervix is hit. He grunts as he thrusts; “Uhn! Uhn! Uhn! Uhn! Uhn! Uhn!” He mumbles; trying to talk with her plug in his mouth and tasting of her vaginal secretions; then her urgent instructions “Deeper! deeper! Oh, oh, oh yes! Oh yes! Right there! Oh God yes, right there! There! Oh God, oh God, oh God! Yes!”

The outside of her rubber suit is quickly slick with his testosterone laden sweat on the outside and her estrogenic sweat on the inside. The sweaty latex combining their musk with the scent of latex, silicone rubber polish, her shampoo and vaginal musk when her vaginal plug was pulled out and a short time later the scent of his semen joins the sweaty bouquet generated by her carnal pleasure with an unprotected man as her contractions during orgasm pull him into ecstasy with her and the fluid transfer is completed, A few ml of ejaculate and several hundred million sperm have been released under pressure to splatter harmlessly against the latex membrane of the escorts diaphragm.

 

Sexual repression and exhibitism

Sexual therapist preparing to work with a male exhibitionist

The photo: A trained escort/sexual therapist wearing new patient selected and purchased lingerie arranging her hair prior to a therapy session. She will be training her patient to relax enough to improve his aim when masturbating to ejaculate between her breasts or improve his other exhibitionist skills with confidence and w/o shame.

Of course our therapists all use an effective method of contraception so when there is a psychological breakthrough and the patient’s confidence with women improves the patient can be encouraged to take the session to the next level and reach release through conventional vaginal penetrative sexual activity. In that way she can help him gradually become confident enough in his ability to penetrate and ejaculate inside her. Using conditioner in a therapist’s hair allows her to easily wash out semen which often splatters in long hair during a therapy session.

Male sexual repression: Recently I’ve gotten several comments from a reader who says he is an exhibitionist. If exhibitionism interferes with a person’s daily life then s/he may be diagnosed as having a sexual disorder called Paraphilia, but for some exhibitionists the compulsion can be a lot of fun when handled correctly. This reader claims to enjoy a form called Martymachlia, defined as a paraphilia which involves sexual attraction to having others watch the execution of a sexual act. The roots of exhibitism are uncertain, perhaps beginning in early childhood from being forbidden to masturbate even when alone or from other psychological trauma at an early age.

I love men with exhibitionist tendencies as I’m a bit that way myself and because they are the only ones who have the nerve to have sex with me in public. It’s easy to do in crowds especially during the summer at races and parades where I can stand in heels in front of a partner while wearing a skirt and thong or go commando, if we are at a pool where I can wash off in the water later, and have him enter me from behind. I’ve even been taken that way on a NYC commuter train during rush hour while wearing a miniskirt and a pair of Gepetto’s custom made ballet-boots. That time I wore a thong under the mini to collect the coitial discharge after he withdrew since we were going to the races and I didn’t want semen and lube running down my thighs into my boots all afternoon. 

Sexual therapy training for escorts: Our clinic is holding a summer session for Escorts who want to specialize in working with severely sexually repressed men. You would be surprised how many men who appear to be normal and want to perform dangerous sexual fantasies with a professional escort. The course is to help the escorts who provide this service develop insight into the mind of the sexually repressed male and how to interact with him safely in a service provider/client relationship. Some fetishes that I as a sexual therapist specialize in are: lingerie, pointe-shoes, and cervical barriers.   

Risky diving and the cervical cap: I’ve written elsewhere about the general safety and effectiveness of cervical caps, the Prentif, FemCap and Oves, for contraception and as flood insurance for women divers. Returning readers will recall that for parous women caps are not advised as changes in the cervix and musculature of the vagina during pregnancy and birth cause the cap to be significantly less effective than a diaphragm. However, even for nulliparous women diving a cap with a significant void in the dome (Prentif or FemCap) can cause squeeze below 10 meters, approximately 30 feet, which can be both uncomfortable and cause the cap to dislodge, thus leaving Oves and similar designs as the only truly effective cervical cap for contraception and flood insurance while diving when correctly fitted. 

The Silicone Unitized Cap: Because the Oves cap is no longer generally available Labia Labs has developed an Oves like cap of transparent silicone that differs from Oves primarily in the design of the inner circumferential seal that grips the base of the cervix and avoids any patent infringement issues. The Labia Labs device comes in four sizes 19mm, 22mm, 26mm and 28mm to fit most young nulliparous women. The new cap was designed to be disposable, but is rugged enough for repeated use. We are currently in clinical trials with the device and my circle and I now wear it as flood insurance and some of us, like me, for contraception as well.

The snug fit and super thin silicone dome membrane cause the dome to adhere to the cervix by surface tension avoiding any possible problem with squeeze when worn during a deep dive. The only problem with using an Oves type cap is that it can’t be worn during menses and must be emptied of FCM before a dive if the wearer is fertile or the cap may be floated off the cervix. And, of course it can’t be used by a woman with IUD inserted unless the strings have been trimmed off as the strings interfere with the seal of the cap and if the strings adhere to the cap when the cap is removed it could pull out the IUD.  

The design name of the Labia Labs cap is Silicone Unitized Cap or SUC. That name has already been corrupted and morphed to ‘Sucker’, which due to the exceptional strong seal of a correctly fitted SUC is amazingly descriptive. There have been complaints from some trial users that the Sucker is too hard to remove, but for those of us who need the strongest possible seal that’s a good thing.  All it takes is for a new wearer to familiarize herself with the proper insertion and removal techniques for the device, but for women with deep vaginas having long fingers is a must.

Target market: We are getting a lot of interest in the Sucker from young women in the high-end sexual services industry, think Splash Towel-Girls and elite escorts, clients at The Lorelei, Adolph’s luxury Spa and young up-market adventuresome society women who want a back-up barrier that a partner can’t feel during intercourse that will provide almost undetectable and superior flood insurance during underwater sex.