Caya, menstrual sex and lactational amenorrhea

The Photo: Caya is a one-size-fits-most silicone diaphragm available (by prescription) in the U.S. as of June 2015. However Caya has been available without a prescription on-line through contraceptive suppliers outside the U.S. for several years. The device is 75mm long (from the relief arch and removal dome at the anterior end on the right in the photo above to the posterior rim on the left) and 67mm wide. The six bumps on the right end of the rim and a corresponding set on the opposite side are ‘grip dimples’ and provide gripping traction for fingers on the rim during compression for insertion. Caya was designed to fit women who take the four most commonly prescribed conventional diaphragm sizes; 65mm, 70mm, 75mm and 80mm and who have a pronounced (1 to 2 cm deep) post-pubic vault to hold the relief arch. Caya has a medium tension nylon spring that arcs downward when compressed to aid in slipping it under the cervix. On average, the ectocervix (the part of the cervix that protrudes into the vagina) is 3 cm long and 2.5 cm wide. The cervix cup is 55 mm in diameter and 3 cm deep which will allow it to accommodate most women’s cervix.

The 3 cm length of the anterior cervical wall and the anterior vaginal wall form a gap called the anterior fornix which along with the cervix is covered by the dome of a contraceptive diaphragm. Thus the anterior fornix is typically a 3 cm cleft into which the stretchy silicone membrane of a Caya can be pushed by the force of a thrusting penis, assuming the shaft is long enough to reach and penetrate the anterior fornix of an aroused partner.

Menstrual sex with Caya: Returning readers will recall that in my entry for February 17, 2016 “So many men, so little time!” I discussed the advantages of the Caya contoured diaphragm. However, I didn’t discuss using it for flow control during menstrual sex and readers have asked about that so I’m sharing my menstrual experiences with Caya.

Caya as a menstrual cup:  For comparison a Diva Cup can hold one full ounce of menstrual flow (30 ml) and the average woman flows approximately 1 to 2 ounces (30-60 ml) per cycle. Depending on the size of the cervix the Caya cervix cup can hold up to 20 ml of flow if it is just being used for flow control and it has a strong seal. If Caya is to be used for flow control during penetrative vaginal sex then it should be emptied cleaned and reinserted prior to penile penetration as a thrusting penis will cause a dome even half-full to overflow. However, unless the user is flowing very heavily Caya should give the couple at least three hours of flow protection. Of course each woman is different since cervical size and flow rates will vary so there will be an interval of trial-and–error when determining the maximum interval and amount of flow that can be contained effectively depending whether it is on light or heavy days during active penile thrusting especially if a partner can reach into the anterior fornix. 

When I’m menstrual and wearing a Caya for flow control and sex I’ll carry two so I can remove one and give it to my partner who enjoys drinking the contents of the cup clots and all while I insert the fresh empty one to collect flow during our penetrative encounter.  With a Diva Cup positioned below the cervix and the woman sitting or standing the cervix isn’t immersed in flow, but with a diaphragm cupping the cervix it is submerged in flow so when the Caya is removed there is a bit more flow as vaginal discharge than with a Diva Cup.  Of course the beauty of using a diaphragm for flow control is that you can have sex while minimizing the flow contributing to the coitial discharge afterward. 

Increasing and checking a diaphragms vacuum: The wearer will want the best fit and strongest suction possible in the dome/cervix cup. The fit is first a matter of pelvic anatomy size and condition. However, if the bladder or colon is beginning to prolapse into the vagina (not uncommon in women who have given birth) the Caya may not seal effectively. A poorly sealing diaphragm can still be effective as a contraceptive barrier by using plenty of spermicide in the dome. However, it is not a good choice as a menstrual cup as it can leak flow since the weight of flow can break the seal.

After insertion and checking proper placement, by feeling the cervix under the dome with the anterior rim tucked up out of the way behind the pubic bone, the seal of a Caya can be increased by using the fingers to express the remaining air from the dome. When expressing air from the cup care should be taken to ensure a fingernail does not puncture the cup. With a strong vacuum the silicone membrane collapses against the cervix and may be pulled up slightly into the anterior fornix. This will increase the vacuum and the dome will gradually fill with flow and with strong suction the weight should not break the seal.

Strong seal test: The seal on a Caya with a strong suction fit should not break when gently tugging on by a finger in the removal dome or if there is flow in the dome while being penetrated from behind when the cup is upside down such that the flow is being held in the dome only by the strength of the seal.  A good test of the seal is having intercourse entered from behind (doggie style or during ballet-sex (en pointe a la seconde bent over a table, chair or holding on to a barre) while menstrual with the Caya dome expressed to maximize the suction. With 10 ml (two teaspoons) or less in the dome it should not leak when thrust into. However, because of the dynamic movement of the rim against the vaginal rugae during penetrative sex there will be a slight sheen of flow on the vaginal walls. To minimize the likelihood of staining a man’s trousers with flow while having sex in public a condom can be used.

Lactational amenorrhea: lactational amenorrhea is the temporary infertility that occurs when a woman is amenorrheic (not menstruating) and fully breastfeeding. Since I’m lactating and still want to have a regular menstrual cycle I have to limit the number of times I breastfeed to prevent becoming amenorrheic since I enjoy the swings of my hormones when I’m fertile and menstrual. I’ve found that if I limit my breast feeding sessions to about one every six hours or not more than four in a 24 hour interval I can avoid becoming amenorrheic and still cycle regularly. 

Lactating is not without its challenges: A wonderful source of information about breastfeeding problems is at WebMD. It covers painful lumps, blocked ducts, yeast infections or thrush and engorged Breasts. I use a lanolin-based cream made specifically for nipple inflammation. It’s PureLan 100 Nipple Cream by Medela which for me minimizes the likelihood of further problems. The WebMD article can be read HERE

The Flowers graduate: On Saturday March 26^th the six remaining Personal Assistant candidates completed the nine week Pelvic Intensive course that I conducted at Blackthorn Castle. I am very pleased to say they have already been placed with executives in major corporations. Returning readers will recall that Heather had a seizure during a dive-sex encounter and was hospitalized in a private dive medicine facility in Milford Haven. She was released after several days of tests and observation and was released from the PA candidate program for medical reasons. She will still remain in Taryn’s organization, but with a far less rigorous physical schedule.

Diaphragm tricks, Holiday planning

One of my 80mm latex Reflexions FS diaphragms

The photo: One of my latex Reflexions flat spring rim diaphragms and a pair of my red GM play shoes. The Reflexions maker, Lamberts, stopped making them at the end of 2014. The long white polymer device in the photo is an ‘introducer’ that was once a standard insertion aid and it too is no longer being produced. You can tell how soft and stretchy the dome is by how it lays in soft folds and the heat transfer properties of latex membrane are awesome! A flat spring latex diaphragm has become a must have for ritual sex during celestial celebrations as it allows me to cycle naturally while protecting me from the common consequences of sex with a virile and unprotected man.

 

Diaphragm tricks: To increase the strength of the seal (the suction) in the dome of a correctly sized and properly inserted diaphragm you need to express as much of the air in the dome as possible. The wearer should do that immediately after insertion by inserting the first two fingers of either hand into her vagina and press the dome against the anterior wall of the vagina and into the anterior fornix as far as it will go being sure not to damage the dome with a fingernail in the process. I wear my nails short, but even so while using the pad side of the finger the nail tip will come in contact with the dome especially while pressing it into the anterior fornix so care or a nitrile glove should be used.

 

Labia Labs latex (3L) diaphragms: Returning readers may recall that in March of 2012 I mentioned that Gepetto had teamed up with Labia Labs to produce a line of latex diaphragms with coil spring rims in standard sizes from 55mm to 90mm in 5mm increments. And now he has added a latex flat spring rim to take the place of the Reflexions of fond memory. He decided against producing an All-Flex arcing spring rim device because there were patent licensing costs and an arcing spring rim is needed primarily for women with lax muscle tone which is of no concern to Gepettos target market, escorts with fetish specialties and some of the tightest and strongest vaginal grips in the world.  The devices can be custom made in half sizes (2.5mm) and can be provided by special request. The Labia Labs Latex (known as 3L) line of diaphragms is now being offered exclusively through our women’s clinic here in London and only to hostesses working for Clever Cunts and Taryn’s stable of Escorts both of which are now run by one of Tanaquil’s stable masters. The exclusivity of the 3L flat spring diaphragm gives our girls a significant advantage over other escorts serving the fetish community.

 

The 3L line 80mm flat spring user roster: Having the Latex FS diaphragms dispensed exclusively by my clinic has enabled me to do a much better job of tracking women taking the 80mm size which is what I wear. So if an escort dies during sex with a client while wearing her latex 3LFS I know about it right away and can attempt to harvest her diaphragm before the body is sent to the morgue. In those instances the diaphragm becomes known to me as a ‘death rubber’ as it contains a small portion of its former owner’s Chi that contains all her pelvic skills and fetishes so when I wear a ‘death rubber’ its former owner’s sexual knowledge and skills become mine.

 

When it was announced that the Reflexions would no longer be available I despaired of ever being able to restock my ‘death rubber’ diaphragm supply, but Gepetto and Labia Labs in offering the 3L latex flat spring will allow me to continue harvesting latex flat spring diaphragms from unfortunate wearers for the foreseeable future.  

 

Winter Solstice, Christmas, 12^th Night & Virgin Gorda planning: Trinity College Cambridge Christmas vacation is from: December 14 Monday, Last day of undergraduate and graduate classes, to January 25 Monday, Undergraduate and graduate classes begin. Being off for five weeks will allow Bea, Willow, the Dryads (Bryony and Claire) and Marvin (Morning wood) along with the girls boyfriends to spend the Winter Solstice, Christmas and 12^th Night at Blackthorn Castle and then have several weeks with me along in the BVIs at my place on Lost Cove on Virgin Gorda. I was pleased that the Dryads want to spend the holidays with me rather than their parents though I think it was the lure of time in the BVIs and the possibility of multiple partners that tipped the scale in my favor.

 

My cycle and the moon: I’ll be fertile, CD11, on the Winter Solstice which will be on Tuesday December 22^nd. The moon will be waxing and 89% visible then and will be full on Christmas Eve, Christmas and Boxing Day, December 24^th through 26^th. I should ovulate on Christmas day. Being fertile on the Winter Solstice is awesome as it brings good fortune from the goddess.

 

Training for seminarians: I’ve been engaged to provide lust training for young men studying at a local seminary. The Head Master thinks it’s best to have them knowledgeable about what temptations await them before rather than after they take vows of Chastity Poverty and Obedience. It’s a novel approach, one I don’t think many seminaries have tried with success in the past. This is my first day with them and I gave them an overview of contemporary sexual health and then paired off for individual training with the first one. The order in which I’m taking them – it will be in a delightfully outfitted encounter salle at the seminary - was decided by drawing straws.  I’m certainly looking forward to taking each one in hand and to bed for a day. They are such lovely well muscled young men and are all supposedly virgins meaning that they have never had penile vaginal intercourse.

 

As this is written I ovulated four days ago and I’ll be luteal for almost the next two weeks and then menstrual so I can initiate any who are interested in menstrual sex as well. I’m going to train them with neither my student nor me using contraceptive protection of any sort. That way we both will have maximum tactile sensation during intercourse. I will have a different eighteen year old spew hot, thick, creamy semen deep inside me each day and have their sperm in my tubes every day for nearly two weeks with no worry about pregnancy. What fun! As I write I’m draining the first one’s liquefied semen, the bit you can never entirely Kegel out, into the cotton gusset of my tights. That is such a sensuous feeling! What a marvelous opportunity to enjoy young men at the height of their sexual potency!