Getting the most from your diaphragm

 

A silicone Caya contoured diaphragm

Repetition: I know I’ve covered this before, but I’m being repeatedly asked about how to get the most from the few styles of contraceptive diaphragms that are still available.

The Photo: The Caya contoured diaphragm was designed to fit women who take the four most often prescribed sizes of traditional diaphragms; 65mm, 70, 75, and 80mm. Caya has a polymer rim spring so there is no worry about wearing it through metal detectors at airports and the slightly matte outer surface of the cervix cup increases a partner’s sensation rubbing against the glans of his thrusting penis. The six bumps on the right side of the rim are grip dimples. There is an identical set on the other side that make gripping and compressing a slippery rim for insertion much easier than the smooth rim of a traditional diaphragm. The dome on the right is the removal dome into which the wearer inserts a finger to break the seal and pull it out.

Disadvantages of the Caya: Women with vaginas smaller than 65mm and larger than 80mm cannot safely wear it. The heat transfer properties of silicone are not as good as latex and in larger vaginas the relief arch tends to rotate a few degrees one way or the other. If rotation is too great the Caya rim can be under-thrust which the relief arch was designed to prevent. Since I am at the upper design limit for the Caya I’m reluctant to wear it for “flood insurance” during underwater sex.

A silicone Milex contraceptive diaphragm

The Photo: The last of the traditional diaphragms still commercially available Milex comes in two rim styles, Arcing and Omniflex (coil spring) rim. It is available in eight diameter sizes, from 60 to 95mm, in 5mm increments. The wide seal flange on the inside of the rim provides a larger surface to seal against the vaginal walls. The two cut-outs in the wide seal indicate where the fingers should be placed to compress the arcing rim for insertion. While the Omniflex (coil spring) rim has the same cutouts the Omniflex can be compressed at any two opposite points on the rim for insertion. The dark round spot in the inside center of the dome is the extrusion nub.

Properly cared for a Milex diaphragm will last several times longer than a latex diaphragm. However, it is still susceptible to deterioration from oils of all kinds as well as silicone lubricants. The stiff silicone dome has much poorer heat transfer properties than does the dome of a latex diaphragm.

One of my latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragms

The Photo: One of my 80mm latex Reflections flat spring rim diaphragms in its case. The curved white polymer device lying above the diaphragm is an ‘introducer’ which aided with insertion of diaphragms with rims of 60mm to 90mm for women with short fingers. 

A major advantage of the latex flat spring over the Caya is that when correctly fitted and properly inserted it is almost impossible for even a mischievous partner to intentionally under-thrust the rim. Other advantages are that silicone lubes can be safely used with a latex diaphragm and the heat transfer properties of the translucent stretchy latex dome are far superior to silicone diaphragms. Another advantage that isn’t generally talked about is that for women with partners who are able to thrust into their anterior fornix a flat spring rim, since it only bends in the plane of the rim, will retain its shape and allow the latex dome to be stretched tight over the tip of the cervix and deep into the anterior fornix. This puts upward pressure on the cervix and therefore the uterus pushing it a few millimeters deeper which makes the bottom of the fornix that much deeper as well.  This cannot be duplicated with Milex and Caya diaphragms because the Milex rims (arcing and coil spring) bend in two planes and the Caya cervix cup is too deep to allow the cervix to be pushed upward by a penis thrusting into the anterior fornix. Another advantage of a Reflexions latex diaphragm is that the raised triangle (with the size of the device in millimeters in its center) on the outside center of the dome can stimulate the glans of a thrusting penis long enough to reach it.

Disadvantages of latex diaphragms: The latex can be easily damaged by oils of all kinds in lubes, vaginal meds and even by perfume on the fingers during insertion. Even when properly cared for a well-used (3+ times a week) latex diaphragm should be replaced every year. The rim of a Reflexions is stiffer to compress and hold (when slippery) for insertion than the Caya and a latex device will develop an odor quicker than a silicone one because the surface of the latex is porous to a small extent.  The odor   developing quicker is seen by scent fetishes as a plus.

However, the main problem with latex diaphragms is that they are no longer commercially available.  I’m fortunate to still have several new Reflexions that I haven’t broken the seals on the boxes, so I should be fine for a while longer. Currently only at Gyn practices specializing in cervical barriers can women be fitted for latex diaphragms custom made with coil, arcing or flat spring rims.

Expressing a diaphragm: For the best protection, a diaphragm should develop a strong seal (suction) in the dome. This seal depends on the flexibility of the vaginal walls with no major irregularities to grip a properly sized and correctly placed rim. A diaphragm with poor suction can be used fairly effectively with plenty of spermicide in the dome, but not as effectively as with strong suction. There is nothing more satisfying to me, from a safety perspective, than to feel the strong suction tug as I break the seal to remove my diaphragm at least six hours after the last act of intercourse (to make sure all his little swimmers are dead) from a long session of love making.

To get the strongest suction possible a wearer should express the air out of the dome or cervical cup with her fingers. Where the most air will accumulate under the dome is in the anterior fornix. The wider the anterior fornix the more air is trapped. Because of the smaller cervix cup there is less air to express from a Caya than a conventional diaphragm dome. Some women can press down and lower the cervix enough that the wearer can express all the air from her anterior fornix with her fingers. But when using fingers there is the possibility of cutting or tearing the dome with a fingernail. Others find it helpful to use a small dildo or the rounded handle of a table knife to force the dome into the anterior fornix to completely evacuate the air. It’s especially important if the wearer is using a diaphragm as “flood insurance” during dive-sex so the hydraulics of a partner’s thrusts will not force water into the wearer’s uterus.   

Contraception prep for college

Oh my God! I think I’m expelling my Skyla!

The photo: Ladies, you know the feeling when something in there moves that shouldn’t; a diaphragm, FemCap, menstrual cup or an IUD. The Skyla is a smaller version of the Mirena hormone releasing IUD and was designed for nulliparous women. Skyla releases the progestin levonorgestrel at a rate of 14 mcg/day after 24 days and declines to 5 mcg/day after 3 years at which time it must be replaced.  Menstrual cups can usually be used safely with IUDs as the cup should be worn low in the vagina where it should not come in contact with the IUD strings. Of course in the case of my wards their GyneFix copper bead IUDs were implanted w/o strings so they can wear diaphragms or FemCap with no fear of interacting with the strings and causing an expulsion.

Student’s contraception prep for college: While most teens starting college are on hormonal contraceptives a few use the copper ParaGard IUD and a few still use cervical barriers, a silicone Milex diaphragm or a FemCap. For readers who may not be aware of it the silicone Ortho All-Flex diaphragm that had been available for years by Rx through most pharmacies in the U.S. was discontinued in December of 2013. That leaves only the silicone CooperSurgical Milex- in two rim styles arcing and coil spring – and FemCap as options for women in the U.S who want or need a cervical barrier or the latex Reflexions flat spring which can be ordered from the UK..

This past week we have seen the usual summer increase in teen cervical barrier fittings as they prepare to go away to college for the first time or are having their annual well-woman pelvic exam and diaphragm fit check before returning to sexual activity with college men and some professors.  I fit three 17 y/o patients with 60mm wide seal Milex Omniflex (coil spring) diaphragms. They were the first diaphragms for all three because of health problems after having used only condoms.

One girl has Factor V Leiden a mutation of one of the clotting factors in the blood called factor V. This mutation can increase the chance of developing abnormal blood clots made worse by taking anything with estrogen in it. Factor V Leiden while it can appear in men is primarily found in women. The second, diaphragm patient was a petite gymnast with a full athletic scholarship to a major Midwestern university. She has terrible side effects from the progestin Levonorgestrel in the Skyla IUD that was designed for use by small women and she is too small to have ParaGard inserted. And the third girl does not want to use hormonal birth control of any sort and has a nickel/copper allergy so can’t use a ParaGard IUD.

Their moms came with them and were comfortable that while their daughters ages were below the age of consent for some relationships they were open about sex with boyfriend and the mothers only concern was that their daughters would be well protected by a method under their control. The girls assured me they would wear their diaphragms whenever they were around men as sex can often be spontaneous and the need for effective protection is very important to all of them. The girls had no problem inserting and removing the Milex Omniflex as they all use Diva menstrual cups so were familiar with their pelvic anatomy and folding a device for insertion. They see wearing their diaphragms as a rite of passage and an act of independence accepting the responsibility for managing their own fertility and being able to enjoy the delights of sex with a man while reducing the likelihood of unintended consequences to an acceptable level.

I fit another 17 y/o with a 22mm FemCap as her post-pubic vault was far too shallow to enable her to effectively use even a Reflexions flat spring diaphragm. She and her mom did not want her using anything with hormones in it and they both think IUDs are too invasive so a cervical cap was the only option left for a method over which she will have control. The good news is that for her age she is tall and has a relatively long vagina when not aroused – so a partner is unlikely to hit the removal strap during deep thrusting - and she also has long fingers which allow her to reach her cervix when squatting and pushing down, an ability needed to place a FemCap effectively and equally important to be able to reach it to break the seal for removal.

Elbow hinge arcing spring Vs. latex flat spring: Another patient, a returning UNLV grad student, came in to discuss changing the style of diaphragm she is using. She was last fitted with 70mm latex Reflexions with which she was very pleased. However, she has developed a latex allergy and she wanted something that would provide the same protection and pleasure for her and her very well endowed partner during deep thrusting encounters. What I recommended was a Milex wide seal arching spring which has two elbow hinges that fold for insertion. Once inserted and open when thrust into by a penis the rim flexes only slightly remaining circular and stiff (as long as the device does not rotate significantly in either direction), but not as inflexible as the Reflexions allowing the silicone dome to be stretched across the cervix and glans as it is pushed into her anterior fornix by a thrusting penis.  

There are tradeoffs using a silicone arcing spring instead of a latex flat spring. However, for anterior fornix thrusting I think the two can be equally pleasurable. With the silicone arcing spring the dome is stiffer than the flat spring so the rim flexing is offset by the less stretchy dome which puts the same or perhaps a bit more pressure on the tip of the cervix to push the uterus up and to squeeze the glans simultaneously during maximum anterior fornix thrust depth.  Too, the central dome logo on the Reflexions used as a stimulator for men long enough to reach it is replaced by the extrusion bump in the center of the Milex dome that is easily felt by a thrusting penis when the silicone dome is stretched into the anterior fornix.  The only detracting factors in comparing the Milex to Reflexions is that that Milex costs more and the heat transfer properties are much better with latex. Factors against the latex Reflexions are that couples with latex allergies can’t use it. Latex is more easily destroyed by oily lubes or meds so its useful life is much shorter and latex is more likely to contribute to infections than is silicone. The only major difference in favor of the flat spring rim is that it can be worn effectively by some women with shallow post-pubic vaults. 

The only unknowns with the Milex Arcing spring diaphragm used for deep thrust anterior fornix play is how much the diaphragm will rotate which can affect the pressure deep thrusting will develop and how well the elbow hinges will withstand the reverse pressure when the dome is stretched into the wearer’s anterior fornix by a well endowed partner. The good news is that if the elbow hinges begin to fail a replacement is easily obtained.

Breeding dancers: I was going to title this section Breeding Ballerinas for the alliteration, but while I have helped some of my ballet dancer friends conceive most of the women who come to me for help getting pregnant are statuesque full figured show girls 5’10” or taller so are well over 6” in heels or en pointe; lovely but not with ballet bodies, technique or speed necessary for classical ballet.

My method has been fairly successful and is low cost, fun to use and counter intuitive as a conception aid. I have the friends I’m counseling use a silicone Milex wide seal Omniflex (coil spring rim) breeding diaphragm – one that is two sizes smaller that the size the woman should use for contraception – and have the couple lubricate the dome and vagina with pre-seed, a pH balanced sperm friendly gel, rather than acidic spermicide. This allows a partner to easily under-thrust the rim of the diaphragm especially when the woman is being penetrated from behind while bent over holding on to a barre, chair or table or on her hands and knees.

In that position with the trunk of her body parallel to the floor the uterus is pulled down and back by gravity increasing the depth of the vagina. As the vagina lengthens the rim of the diaphragm in the posterior fornix will be pulled deeper with the cervix which in turn pulls the anterior rim further away from the pubic bone where it can be more easily under-thrust by the smooth upper side of her lover’s glans. Once under the dome the frenulum of an uncut man can freely caress his lover’s G-spot bringing her to orgasm with its strong vaginal contractions that squeeze the thick cream rich with millions of sperm from his vas glands where it spews against her ripe unprotected cervix. Once her breeding partner withdraws the diaphragm reseals against the vaginal walls trapping the ejaculate in the prepared dome along with her fertile cervical mucus.

A few minutes later, the inseminated woman basking in the afterglow lies quietly on her back as her vagina returns to its unaroused state submerging the tip of her ripe cervix in the pool of fertile cervical mucus, pre-seed and semen contained in the dome. So far with the small group of friends who have tried to conceive this way almost 50% have been successful within three cycles, but the group is far too small to be able to make any sort of meaningful claim. 

A working vacation, training diaphragm fitters

A Milex diaphragm fitting set with five sizes 65mm – 85mm in 5mm increments

The Photo: Shows a CooperSurgical Milex contraceptive diaphragm fitting set and a demonstration unit to show patients how to insert it correctly. The silicon Milex wide seal diaphragm comes in two rim styles an arcing spring and the Omniflex which has a coil spring rim and comes in  8 diameter sizes, 60mm through 95mm in 5mm increments.

The Milex Arcing spring rim is similar to the (now discontinued) Ortho All-Flex in rim spring strength. However, unlike the All-Flex the Milex Arcing spring folds on two elbow hinges so must be compressed at two specific spots on the rim. The Omniflex can be folded by compressing it anywhere on the rim.

A wonderful training opportunity: Jack and Chris, our male Gyn, had been working for several months on a really great opportunity for the girls to meet some young male Gynecologists who are rising stars in their profession. The opportunity occurred because there was a Gyn conference in Inverness this past week which they were all attending. Diaphragm and cervical cap fitting is no longer being taught in med schools so since my wards and I would be in the area for the vernal equinox Chris offered to conduct a short course in cervical barrier fitting for five of the interested young doctors and got permission to hold it at Crag Abbey. 

He had cleared it with me first and I had gotten the required permissions for the girls to miss classes for several days to participate in a ‘medical seminar’. And of course anything that involves the vaginas of reproductive age women interests His Grace so the cervical barrier short course is underway and includes the silicone FemCap as well as the silicone Ortho All-Flex, the Milex wide seal arcing spring, the Milex wide seal Omniflex (coil spring) and the latex Reflexions flat spring devices and a new device that recently appeared on the market, the single size Caya contoured diaphragm that was designed to be used by women taking a traditional diaphragm in a range of the four most commonly prescribed sizes, 65mm through 80mm.  

How the seminar works: First there is a lecture on the particular device to be fitted (it’s positive and negative features and how it folds for insertion and removal techniques. Then there is a fitting demonstration with me as the patient and Chris as the fitter. Then the individual student Gyns take one of the girls or me as a fitting patient while Chris supervises the individual fitting processes; the pelvic exam (minus the PAP smear) to check for suitable pelvic anatomy needed for a correct fit and effective use of a cervical barrier; a pronounced post-pubic vault and a cervix that is not too anteverted or retroverted.

My women readers I’m sure are starting to squirm at the though of having six pelvic exams in a few days even if they don’t include PAP smears, but the girls and I are up for it and having lovely hunky knowledgeable men gently fondling our reproductive organs can be a huge turn-on which in itself is a problem when a Gyn is trying to fit the woman with a diaphragm of the correct size. That’s because if a patient becomes aroused while being fitted her vagina will tent (lengthen) so there is a good chance she will be prescribed a diaphragm that is too large with the attendant poor seal causing reduced effectiveness and discomfort that could cause a UTI.

To avoid that the Gyn should be professional and quick in his or her measurements and fitting and exchanging the correct size with a larger and smaller size so the patient can feel the difference with her fingers. That’s so if she gains or loses weight she can check with her fingers to verify her fit. A change in weight of +/-10 lbs and she should have her fit checked by a knowledgeable fitter. Usually a gain in weight requires a smaller size and a decrease in weight requires a larger size, but not always.

STI screening: Getting recent full STI panels on the five student Gyns and Emma wasn’t as difficult as I first feared. They were each able to supply a current and clean full STI panel as they had been told it was a requirement for participating in the course.

Esthetics: A few days before we left my wards and I went to Body Buffers for a full body waxing, everything but eyebrows and scalp hair. The dresser who travels with me also works at Body Buffers as an Esthetician for a few elite clients and we all go to her. She gives our pubes the smoothest and the least painful waxing of any Brazilian Esthetician I’ve ever used. My girls call her pubes waxing our ‘ballet bushes’, meaning there isn’t a trace of pubic hair anywhere on any of us when she is through. Women working in erotic dance and as escorts have long known that waxed pubes are the easiest to keep clean and provide the best line under very small gossamer costumes as well as a smooth surface for a man’s bush to rub against when we are entered from the front.

Emma: One of the student Gyns brought along his twenty-seven y/o wife, Emma, who is using the Symptothermal method of contraception (that measures basal body temp, cervical position and cervical fluid) backed by a fertility computer and condoms during her fertile days. I thought she might be a hindrance to the seminar. However, I found she and her husband are very broadminded about sex among friends. Too, she has been interested in trying cervical barriers in lieu of condoms and being fitted with CBs she was thrilled as much as the other girls to have the opportunity to enjoy intimate relations with each of the student Gyns. We all felt that sampling six new men known to be STI free and knowledgeable about female anatomy; the five student Gyns and Chris was a chance not to be missed.   

The girls, including Emma, spent half a day with each Gyn then moved to a different one, Chris making the sixth Gyn, and each gave his ‘patient’ road tests of their barriers so all six of us girls were able to have sex with each of the six men.  Jack had been called away to London on estate business so with Emma, my four wards and me that gave us a one-to-one ratio of women to men, ideal for a seminar of this nature that requires women circulating between partners so the Gyns can learn about how different women react and different barriers feel. Important knowledge when they will be counseling patients about their choice of a cervical barrier. Then we all move to the study fitting and trial of a different device. The cervical barriers being studied and fitted are: 1. Ortho All-Flex arcing spring – included because while manufacturer discontinued there are still so many in use. 2. The Milex Arcing spring and, 3. The silicone Omniflex, coil spring rim. 4. The latex Reflexions flat spring, 5.The Caya single size contoured rim and 6. The FemCap.  The seminar is going extremely well and is being enjoyed by all concerned as we get to sleep with a different man each night.

The last two days will be spent giving the student Gyns experience with Ballet-sex, dive-sex and under-thrusting coil spring and Caya diaphragms. Usually the last day(s) of a seminar are noted for the attendees disappearing, but that won’t be the case with this one because there is nowhere for them to go and no attending heterosexual male is going to miss two days of ballet-sex in the studio and dive-sex (in the Abbey’s heated pool) with lovely, young, experienced and very tight muscled girls. Jack had twelve sets of SCUBA gear with OTS Guardian FFMs, tanks and a portable air compressor for refilling tanks as well as a Divemaster laid on for our day of dive-sex training. I’m CD17 and all of us are luteal except Emma who is fertile and overdue to ovulate. She thinks it is due to the stress of being with so many new men, which is probably the case.

Coaching Emma: Since Emma would be having sex with her husband plus five new men repeatedly over in interval of four days and she wasn’t as sexually experienced as the rest of us girls I took her aside and taught her a bit about penetrative sex with multiple partners. Things like making sure she inserted the prefilled disposable (surface size 5ml or the 10ml for dive-sex prefilled applicators) of Dive Gel+ before her first encounter with each new man and to urinate before and immediately after sex to minimize the likelihood of UTIs an YIs from the different bacteria from so many men over such a short time and to check the placement of her diaphragm or cap immediately before and again immediately after each act of IC.  

Fortunately Emma took ballet in school and has continued adult pointe classes after her work as an office manager for an engineering Co. in London. She also routinely practices Kegels with one inch Pyrex Ben Wa balls and I found she is tightly muscled when I checked her pelvic anatomy to make sure she was physically suitable for the seminar.   It’s amazing how many Gyn and ER doctors’ marry sexually adventuresome women who take pointe and Emma is relatively good for someone taking only three ninety minute classes a week. Jack had previously alerted her husband about how the seminar was set up so she knew to bring practice clothes and pointe shoes (she wears Grishko 2007s) and we all take class in the tower studio that had been built for Cyndi where I have practiced for years.

I was fortunate and managed to catch her a few days before we arrived and discussed the desirability of having her pubes waxed, if for no other reason that there would be a lot of activity down there and even a tightly trimmed bush tends to get in the way with that much activity. She was already ahead of me and had booked a full body waxing.  I suggested that since she would be new to ballet-sex she might want to stop by a local dance shop, she went to Dancia International (the one in Drury Lane), to be fitted for hard shanked Gaynor Minden shoes for her introduction to ballet-sex. Otherwise she would have had to wear her Grishko 2007s which I think would have been very unpleasant for her. Even in hard shanked GMs I’m not sure how well her feet and calves will hold up during ballet-sex.

Looking a day or two ahead: The weather forecast for Inverness is for clear or partly cloudy through this Friday with the evening temps at or just above freezing and in the high 40s during the day. So we should have good weather for the start of our return home.

Milex as a training diaphragm, prep. for the Vernal Equinox

A silicone Milex wide seal Omniflex diaphragm

The photo: A Milex wide seal Omniflex (coil spring rim) diaphragm. A common mold is used to extrude both Milex rim styles so the two indentations in the 8mm inner flange of the wide seal are where the fingers should be placed to fold the other, Arcing spring rim, style Milex contraceptive diaphragm.

Escorts, training assistants and training diaphragms: Training diaphragms serve several purposes. Things like decreasing the sensitivity of both an escort candidate and his training assistant so he can build his stamina for delayed orgasms. Learning effective techniques to under-thrust an All-Flex or Omniflex diaphragm on request or covertly. And for the women escort candidates how to wear a latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm as flood insurance, to prevent having water forced into her uterus during dive-sex.

Stamina building: To increase the effort needed to cause a woman to reach vaginal orgasm a silicone diaphragm of the proper contraceptive size can be worn. Silicone diaphragms have far poorer heat transfer properties that the latex devices they replaced so decrease the tactile sensitivity of male/female vaginal contact. Depending on the individual woman’s pelvic anatomy occasionally the rim of an Omniflex might rub against her G-spot when she’s aroused increasing her sensitivity. With training assistants who have this situation (I was going to say ‘problem’, but for most Milex wearers that would not be a problem) it can usually be eliminated by having the training assistant wear a diaphragm one size larger.

Since all our TAs have GyneFix IUDs implanted the too large training diaphragm can be removed immediately after the training session since there is no need to leave it inserted for a minimum of six hours after having semen released in her vagina. Removing the too large diaphragm immediately after the training session prevents the possibility of developing a UTI from being unable to empty her bladder completely due to the too large rim pressing on her urethra.

Under-thrust training: Two different sizes are used for training depending on the woman client’s desired scenario; either accidental under-thrust where a properly sized Omniflex is used or a breeding fantasy where a diaphragm two sizes too small is used to increase the likelihood and ease of a partner intentionally under-thrusting the rim and filling the dome with semen.

Gas guard/flood insurance: This is taught to both training assistants and to sexually adventurous female clients who come to Adolph’s spa, The Lorelei, for encounters with some of Pirate’s stable of stallions. A correctly sized device or perhaps one size larger latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm is worn to protect the woman from the possibility of having water forced into her uterus by the hydraulics of her partner’s thrusts during underwater sex.

If the woman is on another effective method of contraception the one size larger can be worn for the dive and removed immediately afterward to avoid the possibility of developing a UTI. With guests at The Lorelei diaphragms are usually fitted since they can be worn at any depth and Lorelei guests have access to Adolph’s deep water training facility. FemCaps can be fitted if the pelvic anatomy permits, but they are subject to painful squeeze below thirty feet.

Beware the Ides of March: Today Adolph’s 18 y/o niece had a serious accident while training with Adolph in his deep water training facility. Fortunately it occurred while he was with her so no one else can be blamed as his temper is legendary when something goes wrong. It was her fault as she had intentionally worn an Omniflex into The Well with him rather than the flat spring latex Reflexions she knew needed for maximum flood insurance protection. She told me later that she so loves it when her partner under-thrusts her protection, even though in her case it wouldn’t have resulted in a pregnancy even if she had been fertile because she has a GyneFix IUD implanted. I understand that feeling since I enjoy it too, though in my case if my Oves displaced while I was fertile I’d stand a good chance of conceiving.

When he took her in missionary at 125 feet while breathing Nitrox II she was a bit narced and her fantasy about having semen in the dome of her diaphragm combined to cloud her judgment and she didn’t object when he under-thrust the rim. During that encounter she had an air bubble forced into her uterus. She was on her period and some of the air formed a clot in her lung.  I’m CD7 today and she is cycling a few days behind me at the moment and was CD3 and bleeding heavily, the most dangerous time, when she got the clot. She is doing well enough in Adolph’s private hospital considering what might have happened, but will be on blood thinners and under observation for a few days. What that means is that she will not be going with me and my other wards to celebrate the Vernal Equinox on March 20^th at Location Z.

Smokeless fire: I’ve been working on my basic skills as a handmade of Aphrodite and I think I’ve mastered the formulation (with the help of Jeff at Labia Labs) of a special ingredient that can be sprinkled on wood and peat fires that will make them burn smokeless and nearly completely so there is almost no ash left. This will allow the use of the twenty large stone fire pits Jack found buried in the ground, four per altar, around the five altars at Location Z to provide warmth for the demi-handmaidens and me and our inductees. The fire pits had stone lids on them which is why they went undiscovered until recently and helps explain the distance between the main and secondary altars. Taking the smoke out of the peat fires while increasing the heat released will improve our comfort substantially while reducing the likelihood that we will be detected from the smoke if the weather happens to be clear. Jack already has pre-positioned stacks of cut blocks of dried peat under tarps in the provisioning area and the pits filled with the first blocks for the vernal equinox celebration.  The fires for this years vernal equinox will be the first in the fire pits in hundreds of years and other than improving our comfort I wonder what other effect they might have.

UNLV’s spring recess is from March 17-22 so we will be leaving for Inverness and Ullapool this coming Monday the 17^th.

Boot Fondle fetishists

An escort Training Assistant booting up for work

Ballet, ballet-boots and antibiotics: Fluorquinolone antibiotics such as Ciprofloxacin can cause tears in tendons. For dancers the Achilles tendon is the most likely to be affected so our sports medicine doctor has forbidden their use for my dancers and for women taking our ballet and ballet boot training.

Achilles tendons and negative heeled shoes: I’ve written before about the possible shortening of Achilles tendons from being in high heels, on pointe or in ballet boots for long intervals w/o exercising to stretch these tendons. But since I’m writing about ballet boots I’m going to  mention it again. For my circle who are on pointe for long intervals and ballet boot trainees it’s important when out of pointes and BBs that we all wear negative heel shoes to stretch our Achilles tendons as well doing stretching exercises.

Fondle fetishists: The swan twins are being stalked by two guys in their mid twenties. I first noticed it at Gepettos when Odette and Odile were being fitted for their ballet boots. The men were there with two women of about their age who were considering being fitted and they tried on several pairs of sample boots before deciding they were too expensive., The guys with them seemed to be concentrating on the twins not the girls they came with which aroused my curiosity. Then we saw the girls again in Naughty’s Boot Bar when the twins were having their boot cherries harvested. This time they were wearing lovely $800 British ballet boots and again the men were paying far more attention to Odette and Odile than to their dates much to their date’s disgust. The twins say they have seen the guys in the cafeteria on campus at UNLV, but they don’t seem to be students and they show up regularly at Yardley’s ballet boot classes which the stalkers girlfriends take. 

The twins took the guys pic with their iPhones while seeming to be taking selfies and we had our security identify them. They are the twin sons of a rival casino owner. They graduated from an Ivy-League school this past summer and work for their father in his Casino-Resort here on the Strip. At that point I decided to have a closer look at them and so I became a ‘boot-mom’ as a spectator at several of Yardley’s ballet boot stamina class, held in an encounter salle where visitors are behind a mirror so they won’t distract the students. There the guys seem to be deeply into their girlfriend’s boots and I watched them doing minor cleaning of the laces, oiling their date’s dry set of boots and then after the mid-class boot change, licking their damp toe pads and smelling the boots damp with estrogenic sweat.

But when they talked about the students it was about the twins amazing stamina and how few leg cramps they had compared to the other girls in class and when they watched the women they watched the twins and cast covetous eyes on the twins boot bags while wondering aloud if they were wearing training balls in boot class.  The girls avoid leg cramps by staying well hydrated replacing vitamins, minerals and electrolytes with sports drinks and eating bananas. The stamina comes from long hours of training so that a 90 minute boot class doesn’t leave them so leg-weary they have to take their boots off immediately or with cramping calves. Now that the twins have been on their training regimen under my supervision for two months they have been able to graduate from wearing 1.0 inch solid Pyrex balls (each ball weighing .65 oz.) to 1.0 inch solid steel balls like the rest of us (Bea, Cyndi, Anya, Yardley and me) during ballet and boot training classes. A 1.0 inch solid surgical steel ball weighs 2.153 oz., about 4.3 oz. for the set of two which because they are a quarter of a pounds we call our ‘McBalls’. And we all wear diaphragms the type depending on where we are in our cycles, menstrual or fertile or if we are training to avoid (Reflexions flat spring) or promote (Ortho All-Flex arcing spring) under-thrusting the rim.

I’m not particularly concerned about the age difference between the swan twins and their stalkers as the girls are very sophisticated and work with escort candidates that age. What I am concerned about is the guy’s absolute fascination with the women’s ballet boots. So I’m thinking these guys and perhaps their father - because I’ve heard (from Adolph who knows about these things) he is kinky in his private life - have an acute fetish-fantasy about women in ballet boots and are scouting talent for their fantasies. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but the only other example of an ardent boot fondler that I know of is Adolph and he can be extremely perverse!  So I’m waiting for the guys, who I’ll call Castor and Pollux, The Gemini, to introduce themselves to the twins which I expect to be soon.

An expected proposition: Actually, what should happen and I’m almost certain that It will, is that Castor and Pollux will come to me to ask permission, since it’s well known in the fetish community that I’m the swan twins dominant and Mistress in all things, before approaching them as I’m convinced that the Gemini want more than just to date them. Their father knows how business relationships in the trade are conducted so I’m sure he has counseled them to explain their interest in two of the most beautiful and talented girls at UNLV, what they would expect from them and get my permission before they approach my girls. Should I say no the Gemini would be forbidden from approaching the girls. I’ve negotiated with their father before so he has surely alerted his sons that I’m a tough negotiator and I don’t play games.  

Hot-loading, a tutorial

A silicone (post 2008) All-Flex arcing spring diaphragm

This post: A reader asked me about syringe plugs and hot-loading masturbation. It’s a topic I mentioned earlier only in passing so I thought I’d give readers insight into another of the niche fetish markets that my casino serves that appeals primarily to young wealthy women fetishists who like to test the effectiveness of their contraception with high quality semen.

Hot-loading, how it works: With Hot-loading a syringe plug, a vaginal plug with a spring loaded ejaculation chamber, is used to propel potent semen against the user’s cervix. It could be a Penetrator that is held in place by a locking ridge behind the pubic bone, or a silicone G-spot dildo. The ejaculation chamber can be filled with a warming gel like K-Y Intense or - as we are discussing here - potent semen. The spring is compressed, the chamber filled and the plug or dildo is inserted. The wearer masturbates usually with her fingers or a small vibi to orgasm. At orgasm the rings of vaginal muscles spasm and the contractions squeeze the plug/dildo tripping the trigger emptying the ejaculation chamber under considerable force against her cervix.

Hot-loading at Naughty Pleasures: Our boutique pharmacy at Naughty Pleasures partners with a local sperm bank to offer our women customers a thrilling ‘hot-loading’ experience using very high potency sperm. It can be high risk for some (if the client is unprotected) or a test of the effectiveness of her method of contraception while having the experience of draining a $350 USD 6ml load of high quality semen into her panties while watching a show or at the tables in our casino. For male readers going ‘WTF!,’ or women readers going ‘Ewww!’ A hot-loader usually wears a shield in her panties or wears tights with an absorbent crotch gusset so she doesn’t soak through her skirt or slacks while sitting. If she is plugged and it is developing proper suction she shouldn’t leak, but it’s always best to have a back-up plan. Of course using a syringes dildo will leave the full load draining out quickly so even if she Kegels, which would minimize much of the sensation of semen-filled panties, a light-days pad is needed to absorb most of the discharge. As I mentioned, this is a niche fetish and an acquired taste.

The risks: While it can be a lot of fun for adventuresome women hot-loading has its risks for those of reproductive age. You’d be surprised at the number of women who don’t take their birth control pills correctly. They forget pills, or forget to start a new pack, or forget to change a patch, or to insert a new ring, or for women with any hormonal method, including implants or IUDs, taking a medication that reduces the effectiveness of her contraceptive hormones. So there have been quite a few unintended pregnancies for young women who have enough money to have hot-loaded three or more times during visits to Naughty’s. A few women using a LARC hormonal method (a Mirena or Implanon/Nexplanon) who claim to have gotten preggers while hot-loading try to blame the Club, but anyone who intentionally introduces high quality semen into her vagina can’t realistically blame the Casino for her contraceptive failure. We are aware of no instances of women with copper IUDs (ParaGard or GyneFix) who claim to have conceived from a Hot-loading experience.

A Hot-loading friend: We have a gorgeous twenty-something blond lesbian who comes in solo when her partner is traveling. She uses a syringe Penetrator plug and wears a silicone All-Flex diaphragm for contraception when she’s fertile and fucks herself with a high-test load while she watches the ballet and chorus girls in the lounge entertainment. She says it’s the safest way she’s found to experience what it’s like to have a man - and the attendant risk of pregnancy, which is her form of gambling – w/o having to put up with one. She says the certainty that she won’t get a STI from the experience is priceless.

I fitted her with both the Penetrator (hers is custom made) and All-Flex myself replacing an old Milex Omniflex coil spring that was too small as she has a diaphragm fetish. Unfortunately she has a latex allergy so she can’t wear Reflexions which provides much better under-thrust protection. However, using a Penetrator syringe plug she should be safe enough using an All-Flex since the plug doesn’t shift once properly inserted. Had she been using a dildo mounted syringe where she could accidentally under-thrust the rim of the All-Flex if she thrusts it at too great an angle into her vaginal wall I would have fitted her with a Milex arcing spring. That’s because the rim of the Milex Arcing has elbow-hinges and only folds at two spots so is somewhat less likely to be under-thrust than an All-Flex.

In the case of this customer because she is wearing a Penetrator her clitoris is under the head of her plug so she presses a small powerful vibi against the head of the plug and gets both clitoral and G-spot stimulation simultaneously. I’ve done that myself while watching one of our male acts perform and the dual stimulation is awesome! My lesbian friend says if her diaphragm leaks and she tests positive for hCG she will terminate it and wants me to do the vacuum aspiration. I hope it doesn’t come to that as she is a delightful person and a free spending repeat customer and a pregnancy might turn her off hot-loading.

Brian’s Muses – an update: The Semina girls, Anne, Bea and Jean had serum tests for hCG today and all are negative just as we expected. So far so good! Brian was very impressed with Bea and how well she accepted his thrusting root as he could batter her cervix even while wearing the cock ring. I’d be envious of Bea if Brian didn’t seem so into me!

The Aria incident Pt II: For my readers who were wondering... On Thursday Feb 28 an “LAPD-FBI task force arrested a fugitive from Las Vegas wanted by the Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department," Los Angeles police spokesman Lieutenant Andy Neiman said. The suspect was identified as 26-year-old Ammar Harris, who has been the subject of a multi-state manhunt since the incident early on February 21. So at least the shooter is off the street and the three women in the Range Rover with him at the time were found unharmed. News reports say Harris was “involved in the sex trade”. That sort of publicity is giving sex workers here a bad name. We are doing everything possible to play down the incident and have increased the visibility of our armed security to demonstrate to casino guests our concern for their safety.

Dive-sex on Trimix

An Ocean Technologies Guardian FFM

Discipline facility maintenance: Taryn wanted to dive Trimix while she is home and the only place deep enough to do that is Adolph’s 216 foot deep by 36 foot diameter well at his discipline training facility. Adolph lets us dive it when the facility isn’t in use, mainly for training young European Rubber-Girl Submissives. Adolph has one of the few very deep all-year training facilities so Doms are willing to pay transportation, room and board to get newbies to the fetish taught the basics of being sexually dominated underwater while incased in rubber. The Dom gets videos of her training to savor in private moments or show to friends.

I’ll do a Trimix dive at Adolph’s occasionally when I want to have a lover plant sperm in me while I’m 200 feet below the surface, which is a huge thrill for me! In return I’ll clean up the debris on the bottom of the well. Abi, Adolph’s Pool-Assistant (and Lorelei in residence), is afraid of diving to the bottom of the well with Adolph because he is very rough with her and she is scared of rough sex at that depth. That means the bottom doesn’t get cleaned very often, but that gives me a chance to be useful to him in a matter concerning the training facility which grants me access to it.

So Taryn and I took two of our fave deep diving stallions and went on a prearranged ‘bottom-date’ in the well this morning. We wore the Gottex thong bikinis that are the casinos signature swimsuits. And we both had Reflexions inserted as gas-guards because our lovers both enjoy the feel of thrusting into the thin stretchy latex membrane of the domes. The water in the well is heated to 85° F and circulated so the pool is a uniform temperature throughout it’s entire depth so wearing thongs on the bottom was comfy, but then dive-sex is strenuous so we were working with heavy respiration quite a bit of the time.

We used Ocean Technologies Guardian FFMs equipped for Trimix and a Trimix blend of 19/30 in Worthington HP steel X8-130 twin sets with tanks of 100% oxygen pre-positioned at our 40 ft. deco stop. The importance of a using an FFM for deep dives and dive-sex can’t be overemphasized. For dive-sex if it gets rough and having her cervix rammed causes the woman to expel her reg at best it interrupts the moment and at worst she ingests enough water that she needs to terminate the dive. The other reason a FFM is so important is in case of decompression sickness (DCS) where the diver might pass out or have a seizure and expel his or her regulator and it may be impossible for the dive buddy to get the reg back in her mouth. That is a very common cause of dive fatalities especially where the ascent will take too long for there to be a reasonable chance of survival w/o being able to breathe.

The men took care of our needs, twice for each of us, and then we let them go while we cleaned up the bottom. We could have used their help, but I didn’t want them to pay attention to what was on the bottom and start asking questions and getting ideas. What we found was chilling. I’ve mentioned before seeing training pools where women’s birth control and cervical protection devices littered the bottom and that was the case on the bottom of the well. What I found exceptionally scary was that there were three GyneFix IUDs (the gold standard for non-hormonal contraception) on the bottom. In the case of two the implanted knot had come out of the fundus and the entire device had been expelled. On the third the cord holding the copper sleeves had broken and only two of the six sleeves were still on the cord. I’m hoping the expulsion of GyneFix IUDs can be explained by the fact that several years ago when GyneFix first came on the marked in Europe the implantation process hadn’t been perfected and the expulsion rate was about 10 – 15% during the first three months after implantation. Our clinic hasn’t had any expulsions or cords breaking in the two years since we have been using the new implantation procedure. In addition to the GyneFix devices we found:

• Ortho latex Coil spring diaphragm, one, 60mm with a thin spot that became a hole in the dome
• Ortho latex All-Flex arcing spring diaphragms, two 65 mm one of which had a tear in the dome.
• Silicone All-Flex arcing spring diaphragms, 7 of various, but mostly 65 mm sizes two of which had punctures in the domes.
• Cooper Surgical (Milex) Omniflex silicone diaphragms, 2 a 65 mm and 70 mm
• Reflexions latex flat spring diaphragm, one 75 mm.
• FemCaps, 3 one small 22 mm and two mediums size, 26 mm
• Prentif Cavity rim cervical caps, 2 a 22 mm and a 25 mm.
• Oves cervical caps, 2 both 28 mm
• ParaGard framed copper IUDs, 3 two with bent frames
• Mirena, IUD, 1 with a bent frame
• FC1 condoms, 16
• FC2 condoms, 27
• Filled DiveGel applicators, 7
• Empty DiveGel applicators, 37
• Filled Semécide applicators, 1
• Empty Semécide applicators, 43
• Filled Conceptrol spermicide applicators, 3
• Empty Conceptrol spermicide applicators, 5

From the Number and type contraceptive products we found it seems clear that: Women being sent for training at a facility deeper than 30 feet were not being told that if a diaphragm was to be used for training only a Reflexions flat spring latex diaphragm would provide under-thrust and distortion free protection down to at least 200 feet. All the women sent are beautiful and slim. It seems likely that the 65 mm silicone All-Flex devices were too small (under-sizing is a common mistake made by inexperienced fitters) making them easier to dislodge and expel. The number of full lube and spermicide applicators on the bottom suggests that the women were nervous about being in training and not confident about the use of vaginal applicators. And, additionally, a lot of their diaphragms or caps were being either expelled or intentionally being pulled out by their partner/instructors. That being the case one hopes they are being removed after providing protection as gas-guards during dive-sex. Contraception is a different matter entirely and can be taken care of easily with emergency contraception especially since Ella is now available in the U.S. And pregnancy at least through the 8th week with Mifeprex so while it might put the woman in a moral quandary she has options readily available. That isn’t the case if she gets an embolism because her gas guard was pulled out during dive-sex before she was penetrated.

It was a fun morning and Taryn and I enjoyed ourselves immensely! We masturbated each other while we were tethered to the deco buoy at 40 feet so we were really relaxed by the time we reached the surface. I kept all the debris we collected on the bottom and will give it to Jeff for analysis by his technicians at Labia Labs. They can sometimes get the wearer’s DNA from the devices and test the effectiveness of lube and spermicide remaining in the empty applicators. It’s amazing what you can learn about the women who pass through Adolph’s training facility by doing that.

Under-thrusting, an explanation

A vintage Kirby Morgan Mk 16

Foreword: This under-thrust explanation is being written in reply to a comment posted by Eric on my entry for November 24, 2010 entitled “Under-thrust training” in which he wrote: “I've never understood how someone could thrust around it. Of course, I would think something like that would have to be a fluke or someone would have to have a lot of skill. However, you might've mentioned the possibility of poorly-fit diaphragms.” An explanation requires some detail so I want to post it as a blog entry rather than a comment so more readers will see it.

Under-thrusting defined: What I’m talking about is the intentional under-thrusting (forcing the tip of the penis under the rim) of a diaphragm worn for contraception and/or upper reproductive tract protection. Under-thrusting of a contraceptive diaphragm is far more likely during vanilla sex if the diaphragm is too small, but it is fairly rare if the diaphragm is properly sized and correctly inserted because the male partner is almost always interested in giving his partner her pleasure first or just getting off himself and most guys I’ve been with are trying to reach my cervix and none of those goals are easily accomplished by acute angle thrusting of the male penis which is necessary for successful under-thrusting.

Arousal: There are two factors that will determine the ease with which a correctly sized D can be under-thrust. First is the degree to which the woman is aroused. That matters because when fully aroused a woman’s vagina will lengthen (called tenting) by 5 cm or more (depending on the woman) as the uterus and cervix are pulled up and back out of the way of a thrusting penis. That means that the anterior rim of the diaphragm will be pulled out of the wearer’s pubic notch at least to some extent so there may be a gap between her pubic bone and the anterior rim of her diaphragm.

Missionary position: A few minutes after correct insertion the dome of the D should have developed a seal against the anterior wall of the vagina so the rim should not drop down unless the seal is broken, but if the woman is on her back and penetrated in missionary, if her partner thrusts up at an acute angle (into her anterior vaginal wall) when she is fully aroused he may be able to push his way between her pubic bone and the rim and thrust beneath it. Then he is inside the dome and if he ejaculates sperm is placed against her cervix. That’s why spermicide is used as a back-up.

From behind: When the woman is taken from behind while bent over so she is penetrated doggie style, the gap (after tenting) between the pubic bone and the rim of the diaphragm is even larger. That’s because the uterus and cervix are pulled deeper still by gravity when the woman is on all fours or standing bent over with her hands on her knees. With his partner in that position the man has to thrust downward at an acute angle if he is going to try under-thrusting his partner’s diaphragm. Even with a correctly sized diaphragm and during vanilla sex because the rim can be pulled so far out of the woman’s pubic notch it’s in this position that there are the most complaints from men about hitting the rim, which is uncomfortable for most of them.

Rim Style: The second factor that determines the ease with which a diaphragm can be under-thrust is the type of rim (coil, Arcing or flat spring) of the diaphragm the woman is wearing. There are practical reasons for a woman to wear an arcing spring or a coil spring rim, however both the arcing and coil spring rims are easy to distort when thrust into at an oblique angle without much indication to the woman that it is happening. That is not the case with a flat spring rim.

The only way a flat spring rim will compress is when it is compressed in the plane of the rim, thrust into edge on not at an angle to the plane of the rim. Therefore, when the rim is hit at an oblique angle as it almost always is the rim will not compress and it’s like hitting a metal wall. The penis will drive the uncompressed rim painfully into the woman’s vaginal walls alerting her that her partner is doing or trying to do something he shouldn’t. And ramming a flat spring rim that way will be painful for both partners.

The arcing spring rim is the most popular with doctors because it can be worn by women with a wide range of vaginal muscle tone and it is easier to insert correctly. However if the woman needs a menstrual gas guard that can be used effectively during dives deeper than 30 feet and one that is difficult to intentionally under-thrust then the flat spring Reflexions is the only one that meets those criteria. There are a few men in Vegas who are masochists and sadists and these are the guys who will enjoy the pain of trying to under-thrust a flat spring diaphragm and enjoy hurting his partner and perhaps impregnating her. But if they try she will certainly know what he is doing.

Tradeoffs: Ideally, except for when a woman is on her period a cervical cap would be the best barrier to wear for dive-sex as it can’t be under-thrust and if correctly fitted it is very difficult to dislodge with a thrusting penis. The problem is that for petite women or women in their teens their pelvic anatomies may be too small to be fitted with FemCap (the smallest is 22 mm) and quite often their partners are hurt by hitting the removal strap or if that has been trimmed away the dome and find it uncomfortable. So a latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm is probably the best all around gas guard available for petite or very young women.

Sex in a Kirby Morgan

In the Pit: On Thanksgiving Day while my other guests were watching football I took Adolph to the bottom of my 68 ft deep pool, the pit. He isn’t interested in American football and he wanted to see what it would be like if we both wore surface supplied Kirby-Morgan 47 helmets. I was CD7 and we both enjoyed ourselves. He is something of a sadist and I’m a masochist so when he battered my cervix through the dome of my Reflexions he actually hurt me enough to bring on a cervical orgasm which was awesome! He was bouncing me around pretty severely, but with chin strap, fitted head cushion, neck pad and the neck dam/neck ring assembly and twin-pin locking collar to hold the helmet securely in place I was quite safe, not in nearly the danger I would have been in if I had been wearing a KMH 16 [shown in the image at the top of this entry] where the latching assembly could be unexpectedly broached and have the helmet separate from the yoke assembly. I wouldn’t say the KM 16 is unsafe, but the latching mechanism that holds the helmet to the yoke and neck dam is an obsolete design more than 30 years old.

The KM 47: Adolph and I helped dress each other in our KM 47s so I got to pay close attention to how it should be done. It was a bit of a struggle though we put on the helmets standing on the shallow ledge so we could just submerge after we locked ourselves in to get rid of having the heavy helmet on our shoulders as quickly as possible. If I’m being thrown around during an intense sexual encounter I’m a lot happier with the much more secure latching assembly of the KM 47 holding the helmet sealed. I love the way the head cushion snaps into the helmet shell and can be custom fitted to make sure I could get my long hair (in French braids) comfortably and safely contained in the helmet. With everything fastened properly (including the chin strap) I felt snug and safe in my KM 47. The helmet’s weight is about 33.5 lbs and mine has been adjusted with weights for balance and neutral buoyancy in fresh water. A drawback of the KM 47 (or any KM mask or helmet) is that there is limited visibility through the polycarbonate lens when compared with my Ocean Reef Space Raptor FFM and because of the helmet’s size there is inertia as the diver turns her head.

But the reduction is visibility was offset in my case by the head protection the fiberglass and carbon fiber shell and head cushion provided when Adolph repeatedly shoved me into the wall during our encounter. When I tried to stay against the wall he would pull me away and then shove me back so the back of my helmet was repeatedly slammed into the pool wall as he thrust into me. I wouldn’t have escaped w/o a concussion if I had been wearing only a neoprene hood and FFM. But that’s just the way Adolph is. He extremely strong and goes after sex with a woman with amazing intensity. He knew better than to try and under thrust my gas guard though it is one of his fave tricks with most of his other partners. I would say he was brutal if I hadn’t enjoyed our encounter so much.