Sunday, July 28, 2013

Sexual repression and exhibitism

Sexual therapist preparing to work with a male exhibitionist

The photo: A trained escort/sexual therapist wearing new patient selected and purchased lingerie arranging her hair prior to a therapy session. She will be training her patient to relax enough to improve his aim when masturbating to ejaculate between her breasts or improve his other exhibitionist skills with confidence and w/o shame.

Of course our therapists all use an effective method of contraception so when there is a psychological breakthrough and the patient’s confidence with women improves the patient can be encouraged to take the session to the next level and reach release through conventional vaginal penetrative sexual activity. In that way she can help him gradually become confident enough in his ability to penetrate and ejaculate inside her. Using conditioner in a therapist’s hair allows her to easily wash out semen which often splatters in long hair during a therapy session.

Male sexual repression: Recently I’ve gotten several comments from a reader who says he is an exhibitionist. If exhibitionism interferes with a person’s daily life then s/he may be diagnosed as having a sexual disorder called Paraphilia, but for some exhibitionists the compulsion can be a lot of fun when handled correctly. This reader claims to enjoy a form called Martymachlia, defined as a paraphilia which involves sexual attraction to having others watch the execution of a sexual act. The roots of exhibitism are uncertain, perhaps beginning in early childhood from being forbidden to masturbate even when alone or from other psychological trauma at an early age.

I love men with exhibitionist tendencies as I’m a bit that way myself and because they are the only ones who have the nerve to have sex with me in public. It’s easy to do in crowds especially during the summer at races and parades where I can stand in heels in front of a partner while wearing a skirt and thong or go commando, if we are at a pool where I can wash off in the water later, and have him enter me from behind. I’ve even been taken that way on a NYC commuter train during rush hour while wearing a miniskirt and a pair of Gepetto’s custom made ballet-boots. That time I wore a thong under the mini to collect the coitial discharge after he withdrew since we were going to the races and I didn’t want semen and lube running down my thighs into my boots all afternoon. 

Sexual therapy training for escorts: Our clinic is holding a summer session for Escorts who want to specialize in working with severely sexually repressed men. You would be surprised how many men who appear to be normal and want to perform dangerous sexual fantasies with a professional escort. The course is to help the escorts who provide this service develop insight into the mind of the sexually repressed male and how to interact with him safely in a service provider/client relationship. Some fetishes that I as a sexual therapist specialize in are: lingerie, pointe-shoes, and cervical barriers.   

Risky diving and the cervical cap: I’ve written elsewhere about the general safety and effectiveness of cervical caps, the Prentif, FemCap and Oves, for contraception and as flood insurance for women divers. Returning readers will recall that for parous women caps are not advised as changes in the cervix and musculature of the vagina during pregnancy and birth cause the cap to be significantly less effective than a diaphragm. However, even for nulliparous women diving a cap with a significant void in the dome (Prentif or FemCap) can cause squeeze below 10 meters, approximately 30 feet, which can be both uncomfortable and cause the cap to dislodge, thus leaving Oves and similar designs as the only truly effective cervical cap for contraception and flood insurance while diving when correctly fitted. 

The Silicone Unitized Cap: Because the Oves cap is no longer generally available Labia Labs has developed an Oves like cap of transparent silicone that differs from Oves primarily in the design of the inner circumferential seal that grips the base of the cervix and avoids any patent infringement issues. The Labia Labs device comes in four sizes 19mm, 22mm, 26mm and 28mm to fit most young nulliparous women. The new cap was designed to be disposable, but is rugged enough for repeated use. We are currently in clinical trials with the device and my circle and I now wear it as flood insurance and some of us, like me, for contraception as well.

The snug fit and super thin silicone dome membrane cause the dome to adhere to the cervix by surface tension avoiding any possible problem with squeeze when worn during a deep dive. The only problem with using an Oves type cap is that it can’t be worn during menses and must be emptied of FCM before a dive if the wearer is fertile or the cap may be floated off the cervix. And, of course it can’t be used by a woman with IUD inserted unless the strings have been trimmed off as the strings interfere with the seal of the cap and if the strings adhere to the cap when the cap is removed it could pull out the IUD.  

The design name of the Labia Labs cap is Silicone Unitized Cap or SUC. That name has already been corrupted and morphed to ‘Sucker’, which due to the exceptional strong seal of a correctly fitted SUC is amazingly descriptive. There have been complaints from some trial users that the Sucker is too hard to remove, but for those of us who need the strongest possible seal that’s a good thing.  All it takes is for a new wearer to familiarize herself with the proper insertion and removal techniques for the device, but for women with deep vaginas having long fingers is a must.

Target market: We are getting a lot of interest in the Sucker from young women in the high-end sexual services industry, think Splash Towel-Girls and elite escorts, clients at The Lorelei, Adolph’s luxury Spa and young up-market adventuresome society women who want a back-up barrier that a partner can’t feel during intercourse that will provide almost undetectable and superior flood insurance during underwater sex. 



Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Going on vacation

Guess who’s going to Virgin Gorda on vacation.

Diaphragm fitting: The first of the St Lucy’s Summer Ballet Intensive classes began last week. One of the advantages of the St Lucy’s SBI is that the students get a chance to be adventuresome and push the envelope a bit. Offering a beginning dive-sex class as entertainment has really increased the interest in taking ballet here in the summer.

There are minimum requirements, like having to be 16, pass a pregnancy test, and be on an effective method of birth control and with pelvic anatomy to correctly wear a FemCap or diaphragm for flood insurance, to prevent a dive partner from forcing water into the student’s uterus from the hydraulics of his thrusting. We prefer Reflexions latex diaphragms because they are very difficult to under-thrust and impossible to under-thrust w/o the wearer knowing and can be worn effectively on dives of any depth, but for girls with smaller pelvic anatomy a Milex Omniflex are effective for dives of 30 feet or less, And for girls with little to no post-pubic vault a FemCap will usually work well on dives no deeper than 25 feet. And since the encounter pools at St Lucy’s are being used and there are none deeper than 25 feet Omniflex and FemCap wearers should be fine.  

I’ve been helping fit the student’s diaphragms or FemCap and demonstrating proper insertion and removal technique. The male partners for the student’s dive-sex classes are all escort trainees who need the hours perfecting their technique for their dive-sex qualification so the girls are very well serviced.

Virgin Gorda bound: I’ve already sent ahead all the personal dive gear for Anya, Bea, Cyndi, Jack, Chris and several other men so all we’ll need to take are our clothes and personal items when we leave this Thursday, July 18th , for several weeks of vacation. I’m particularly pleased that Anya can join us as she has been working so hard recently and has had no time to relax. His Grace’s sailboat, the Lusty Lass IV, will meet us at the airport on St Thomas. I can’t wait to feel the soft breezes off the ocean and listen to the comforting sounds of the surf.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Pointe shoe quiz July 11, 2013

Who is the maker of these shoes?

This is an interesting one.


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