Rubber fetishists and the latex diaphragm

A latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm in its case with an introducer

The Photo: One of my 80mm Reflexions latex flat spring contraceptive diaphragms I wear to introduce rubber fetishists to the delights of sex using a latex diaphragm. The diaphragm introducer was used as an insertion aid for new users, but introducers are no longer being made.

Rubber fetishists and latex cervical barriers: My current primary partner and therapist, Marvin or ‘Morning Wood’ as I teasingly call him for obvious reasons (if you saw him when he wakes up in the morning), was asked to give a talk about the psychology of fetishes to an elite group of male latex fetishists. Marvin and I had met most of them and their wives at Alexei’s. Returning readers will recall Alexei and his daughter, Veronika, who is a ballet dancer with a major London Company, are a neighbors of mine living two homes down in the same terrace on Eaton Square.

The men’s fetish group is actually a small club that meets at member’s homes in the west end of London. My fitting one of the member’s mistresses with a latex diaphragm at Marvin’s suggestion (she is his patient) as a way to increase pressure on her lover’s glans and the experience with it inserted was so positive for the member that Marvin was asked to give a talk to the members and their mistresses about the pleasures of penile-vaginal intercourse (PVI) and the psychology behind use of a latex diaphragm both for protection and the subconscious desire to impregnate the wearer. 

I was asked to accompany Marvin to demonstrate diaphragm preparation, insertion, removal and sterilization and even fit a few mistresses with Reflexions if they had suitable anatomies and weren’t allergic to latex. Or even take a few of the members for a ‘test drive’ myself to let them see for themselves how it feels from a male prospective.  Only one member, one of the younger ones, asked to have sex with me while I had a Reflexions inserted. All this past week I have been fertile – I ovulated yesterday (2/20) - so I ‘double bagged’ and wore an Oves cervical cap screwed down tight on my ripe cervix under the latex diaphragm.

It was quite an honor for Marvin as a psychiatrist and rubber fetishist to be asked to speak before the group as the important men and women in the group can open doors and increase the positive profile of the latex diaphragm not only as a latex fetishist’s toy, but as an effective contraceptive alternative for women with hormonal and copper/nickel allergies.    

The latex Reflexions diaphragms and the Prentif cavity rim cap are under appreciated devices that are useful for a rubbrist with a latex fetish. When hormonal birth control became generally available in the mid 60s use of latex cervical barriers began to decline so that now about 0.2% of women using birth control use a diaphragm or cervical cap.  So a young rubber fetishist today may have no knowledge that his or her grandmother probably wore a diaphragm (if she was in the U.S.) or a Prentif cervical cap (if she was in Europe) for contraception. A cervical barrier can be a thrill when clandestinely worn by a woman partner needing one for contraception or willing to wear a latex cervical barrier as a latex fetishist herself or for a fetishist boyfriend.

Pros and cons of latex barriers: On the cons side; the wearer and her partner should not be allergic to latex and the device must be correctly fitted for effective use. A diaphragm that is too large can pinch the urethra and contribute to a UTI while if wearing one too small her partner can hit the rim which is uncomfortable and could cause to him under-thrusting the rim and ejaculate in the dome which is a problem that can lead to pregnancy when it’s being used for birth control.  In addition a latex device has a shorter useful life as it is susceptible to accelerated deterioration from oily lubes and meds. Too, a latex diaphragm that has been continuously inserted for longer than twenty-four hours will develop a strong odor that many find unpleasant.

On the Pro side some few hard-core rubber fetishists find the strong odor of a latex diaphragm marinated in the wearer’s vaginal secretions for more than a day highly arousing and have their girlfriends insert them Thursday night so the scent will be ripe by Friday evening where the couple (well, perhaps only he) can enjoy the scent for the weekend. Additionally, the heat transfer and elastic properties of a latex Reflexions diaphragm are far superior to that of the silicone Milex. The elasticity of the latex membrane makes it possible for a man with a long penis to stretch the latex dome into his partner’s anterior fornix filling it and squeezing his glans while the stretched dome pushes the cervix upward and deeper into her abdomen..

The fetishist’s wives: The wives of the members are all in their forties or fifty’s and know about, and in some cases are friendly with, their husbands mistresses. Their children are grown and as long as there is no divorce all seem willing to accept their status as the wife of a rich and powerful man with a lovely home, a chauffeured car and credit cards with very high limits. Some have the occasional boy-toy, but many seem to be glad there is a mistress to sate their husband’s sex drive and are glad that the trouble getting into and out of  latex clothing and the mess of sexual intercourse is over except when they want it. 

Through my introduction at Alexei’s party the wives know I train ballet dancers and a few other hard bodied young women to perfect their ballet and pelvic skills. I thought for a while I might be looked on as being sympathetic to men wanting mistresses and ostracized as a trainer of escorts for their husbands. Instead they were fascinated with what I do and interested in toning up their own pelvic anatomies and getting recommendations on the pros and cons of Boy-toys and the precautions to take with them before and after menopause.

Circe’s Lair: I’m thinking about upgrading part of one of the newer wings of Blackthorn Castle to make a small getaway destination for vanilla women who want to improve their sexual skills and call it Circe’s Lair.

In mythology Circe was the powerful Witch/Goddess who would make men do her bidding or turn them into animals. From what I’ve seen of aristocratic young British women there should be quite a market for a course that teaches my seductive techniques and pelvic skills.

Lovers and voyeurism as therapy

Red leather Capezio Aerials, Milex & 1 inch diam. Pyrex Ben Wa balls

The Photo: Three of my fetishes, pointe-shoes, contraceptive cervical barriers and Ben Wa balls. Special order red leather Capezio Aerial pointes, a silicone Milex Omniflex (coil spring) diaphragm and a pair of 1.0 inch Pyrex Ben Wa balls.

Breakthrough therapy with Marvin: In my last post I mentioned Marvin and my discussions about my feelings of lack purpose without a male ballet partner at the castle for training and sex.  As a therapist he understood completely. He told me that as much as he loved his ballerina wife he too had felt incomplete sexually while married to her. He had tried to get Jenna, his dead wife whose place I have taken in his imagination, to have sex with her lovers (who he knew existed) where he could watch to fulfill his voyeuristic desires and stoke his ardor for sex with her later, but she refused.

As far as Marvin’s current patients are concerned he will be assuming the patient load of a psychiatrist who specialized in psycho-sexual disorders in both male and female ballet dancers and who had retired suddenly when his health failed.    So when I brought up the fact that I wasn’t getting enough penile-vaginal intercourse he said that my having lovers was fine as long as I used protection and he could clandestinely watch. Then he went on to suggest I could help him with any of his patients who might have performance anxiety problems where the sex in that instance would be therapeutic for both the patient and me.

I let him carry the conversation since it was going far better than I had any right to expect. He suggested I could hold ninety minute sexual encounter sessions - with me wearing traditional ballet practice clothes or costumes or perhaps fetishwear in leather or latex - which we would call ‘physical therapy’ in the small ballet studio on the second floor of Blackthorn House in Belgravia. Or, if the patient required longer more intense therapy I could have him, or her (but primarily the problem seems to be with men) to the castle for a week so where we could have four encounters a day for five or six days if I felt the patient needed it.  I can’t imagine a patient needing less than a week of intense therapy of that sort and the isolated location of the castle is ideal to get away from the distractions of the city. I was delighted to see that Marvin is beginning to widen the types of clothing he finds alluring on Jenna since he specifically mentioned latex and leather which I have been slowly guiding him toward.

A win-win: I thought our agreement on my lovers and his voyeurism issue was a win-win as we definitely want to marry and have a child (to be carried by a surrogate) to assure the line of succession for the Barony. But we both need to satisfy our personal sexual needs as well. The amazing thing is that we agree on a way to do that that is acceptable to us both! I was so pleased that we could satisfy his voyeurism compulsion and stoke his ardor for me with my need for intense sex with multiple men. Readers who have been with me for years, when my blog was on Yahoo, may recall that I helped my psychiatrist back then treat sexual predators when I lived on the East Coast. So these patients with whom I will have the athleticism and art of ballet in common should be far easier to deal with.

Since his patients are seen through the clinic they will be automatically given full panel STI tests to ensure my safety. Of course I’m tasted monthly as well so the patient and I will share the results of our STI tests (if they ask) before any fluids are exchanged. As far as contraception is concerned I intend to take a virile disease free patient with him unprotected unless he prefers that we use condoms. I will wear a diaphragm or cervical cap depending on where I am in my cycle (I’m CD5 and bleeding freely as this is written) and whether we are having ballet or dive-sex.

His Grace called: Maya, the Russian Mariinsky ballerina Escort he has been fucking since well before Christmas is pregnant. He is sending her to me for a termination which she has agreed to, but she is feeling very vulnerable at the moment and since Maya and I got along well she wanted to come to me.  So much for the effectiveness of the IUD she has inserted.

In my December 28^th post entitled ‘Yule at Crag Abbey’ I wrote about Maya’s IUD: “Maya has a ‘normal’ – 31mm x 24mm - German Medusa Goldring Ag+Au (silver+gold) IUD inserted from which the strings have been removed. She has been wearing it for a year w/o problems even when being thrown and landing jumps so she should be safe from pregnancy.” Well, she should have been, but there is no 100% effective method of contraception and this sort of an event keeps driving that point home. Chris, my male Gyn, will remove the Medusa as he rotated through a three week course on the Medusa IUD in Munich this past summer and he will also do the extraction of the reproductive tissue and then implant a 6 bead GyneFix copper IUD during the procedure.

 

The Pool Boy Effect

A cross-section of a Natare perimeter pool gutter:

The Photo: This Natare stainless steel gutter with a lip to which a swimmer can cling with her fingers or rest her arms on the grating over the trough while resting or while having underwater surface sex is what my pools, the encounter pools at Splash and the pools at Adolph’s deep water training facility as well as our casino’s bungalow pools are equipped with. It’s the sort of pool gutter that is installed by pool owners who are knowledgeable about the requirements for features that make an effective sexual encounter pool.

The Pool Boy effect: Is what I call the seasonal peak in diaphragm and cervical cap fittings from local women who plan to have sex in swimming pools during the summer. The Pool Boy effect began to be noticeable several years ago after there was a high profile incident involving a pool boy and the daughter of the pool owner that left the girl paralyzed from a stroke which her parents claimed was caused by the pool boy forcing water and air into her uterus during sex in their swimming pool which he had come to clean. 

There were several articles mentioning the possibility of water or air being forced into the uterus during underwater sex if the vagina floods which is common. At the time it was recommended that women expecting or enjoying underwater sex protect their upper reproductive tracts by wearing a contraceptive diaphragm during underwater penetrative encounters which I’ve been teaching for years. With a properly fitted and correctly inserted diaphragm or cervical cap this can provide very effective protection, but shouldn’t be used by IUD wearers as the strings could stick to the diaphragm rim or cap and the IUD pulled out when the cervical barrier is removed. Of course women with IUDs from which the strings have been removed can use a diaphragm or cap safely for flood control.

In the last several years we have noticed college age women coming to be fitted as well as mothers bring high-school age daughters for diaphragms for use as flood protection regardless of the time of year if they take swimming, have pools at home or know someone who has a pool which is almost everyone out here. And the number of heated indoor pools has increased to the extent that the pool boy effect is no longer nearly as seasonal.

Right now moms are bringing in their teen daughters to be fitted for diaphragms as Christmas presents for the girls (w/o their fathers knowing), who have probably been having pool sex anyway, but this an ideal way to get it recognized as ok between mother and daughter so they can bond w/o fear of embarrassment while discussing male sexual appetites and how to satisfy them as well as their own.

As I expected, wearing a diaphragm has become something of a status symbol with adventuresome young sexually active women regardless of what other method of contraception they are using. I think it is because wearing a diaphragm to protect themselves during physically risky sex is a very adult thing to do and by being fitted and wearing one they feel more adult and in control.

When I asked Bea why her friends routinely insert diaphragms when they don bikinis she said it’s because the men can immediately tell they are protected when they insert a finger so think the girls are more experienced and older than many of them actually are. Knowing she has a diaphragm inserted tends to cancel out the pre-pubescent look of waxed pubes for men who are concerned about the possibility of the woman being underage.

It was the same when I was a teen when every girl at my ballet school was fitted for a diaphragm at menarche as is done at St Lucy’s. The look on a boy’s face the first timre he inserted a finger inside me and felt the rim of my diaphragm was priceless! Usually the first question was “What is that?” and I’d explain it was a cervical barrier that allowed me to take him bareback. That pretty much ended any concern that guys had. However, then hormonal birth control wasn’t as universal as it is today and many of us were depending on the diaphragm’s effectiveness to prevent becoming preggers.

Thanksgiving prep - update: First things first. I have all the full panel STI results for my guests, all negative and my girls and I are looking forward to sex with the several men whom we rarely see. The table has been extended in my dining room and the good china and silver is out washed and polished.  All the guests who had to travel have arrived safely ahead of the major storm expected along the Central and North East Coast tomorrow. The food is in my restaurant size refrigerators in my commercial size kitchen and the chef and his staff have been by to ensure she has everything needed ahead for the big day. I will have a divemaster on duty if there are guests who want to enjoy dive-sex, though I’m cautioning no drinking until after diving not before.

A tenth couple at my Thanksgiving table this year: In addition to 1) Ondine, (Willow’s mom) with Jacques, Gigi’s father and a former lover of mine as her partner; 2) Bea & Chris (our male Gyn); 3) Pirate and Yardley Flood, our ballet-boot trainer; 4) Adolph and Kassi (his new PR manager); 5&6) Odette and Odile (With the Gemini, Castor and Pollux who have been ardent in their continuing pursuit of the Swan Twins); 7) Marvin (Morning Wood) and me; 8) Paul (the Swan Twins father) and Gigi since she looks a lot like the swan twins and is submissive like Odette and; 9) Willow and Mitch who is a Stallion level Escort working for Pirate our local Stable Master. She is sweet on Mitch after they were paired during the series of tests he was given to prove he wasn’t responsible for the rash of pregnancies his clients with IUDs had. And finally the welcome addition; 10) my BGFF Anya with a mystery man (Chris has his current negative full panel STI results) who we all are looking forward to meeting

Splash Towel-Girls and Super Bowl XLVII

Fertile with a confident GyneFix smile

Unprotected sex: One of my woman’s clinic’s major customers is Adolph’s swim club, Splash where clients can have unprotected sex with the Towel-Girls. With the elite male clientele it attracts Adolph can’t afford for his Towel-Girls to be anything but supremely healthy so frequent STD testing and well-woman checkups are a condition of employment and free. And, if a girl has been out of the area or with someone other than a Splash client she is quarantined until we are sure she is free of disease.

The girls are all beautiful, intelligent and highly trained in the art of pleasing a man sexually with ideal pelvic anatomy to provide mind blowing sex. Most of the girls have stringless GyneFix implants. The GyneFix is a copper IUD that is effective for three years and for the Towel-Girls the strings are removed when the device is implanted so that there is no danger of it being pulled out if the girl wears a cervical cap or diaphragm for a fetish client or for flood insurance during dive-sex. The nice thing about a copper IUD is that it doesn’t inhibit ovulation so the wearer can experience her full hormonal cycle while being 99% protected from pregnancy.

The others who don’t have GyneFix implants are usually tall beautiful show-girls moonlighting at Splash to supplement their income from dancing. These are the ones who can easily get into trouble w/o realizing it because most aren’t on a long acting reversible contraceptive (LARC) like Depo or Nexplanon because of side effects so they come to us using NuvaRing or rarely Ortho Evra both of which don’t work well in the water. NuvaRing can easily be pulled out and lost during a pool encounter while Ortho Evra (the patch) can be seen which is a turn-off for some clients or worse, come off. Once they have that experience they will switch to an estrogen/progestin pill like Yaz and then they have problems remembering to take it. All Towel-Girls are routinely fitted with a selection of diaphragms and a FemCap for fetish encounters and flow control during menses. It’s from these girls and a few others from Pirate’s stable that most of my current supply of death rubber flat spring diaphragms comes.

SuperBowl XLVII: I’m very pleased to say that Adolph is hosting the party this year at his estate which, as returning readers remember, has the deep dive training facility attached to his chateau. Not that I minded, hosting the party in past years, but it was a lot of panning and coordination even though I had a staff of casino employees, decorators, cooks, wait staff, maids and others working on their own time to do the work.

I’m taking my dive gear since Jack, (John Sandbach my main squeeze) is here from the UK and he hasn’t much experience with very deep dive-sex so I’m looking forward to taking him to the bottom of the 216 foot deep training facility breathing Trimix from twin HP steel 130 tanks strapped to our backs. I hope the debris at the bottom: contraceptive devices (NuvaRing, IUDs, diaphragms, cervical caps) dildos, Penetrator plugs, weighted pool-pointes, swim suits, spreader bars, shackles, chains and other bondage gear won’t be too much of a distraction. He is a powerful swimmer. I remember when he took me into the sea caves on the eastern coast of Scotland a year or so ago and he was marvelous then! He has the strength, stamina and desire to have sex at 200 feet so he should do well if we can adjust to the pressure as we descend. Other than the commercials which I can see afterward neither Jack nor I are interested in the game when we can be sucking gas and fucking each others brains out under 200 feet of water.

I’m going to double bag, a Reflexions over an Oves, for our dives even though I’ll be CD24 and Luteal so there would be no chance of pregnancy even if I got sperm in my tubes. The Oves will prevent anything enter my cervical os while Jack love thrusting into my anterior fornix and getting his glans squeezed by the latex dome so we are both looking forward to a lusty dive.

For posterity I’m adding that the Baltimore Ravens and the San Francisco 49ers are playing in New Orleans. Since I’m originally from the East Coast I’m for Baltimore and in the minority here. I’m hoping that there aren’t fights at Adolph’s. He will have at least ten of Pirates best young escorts available and circulating so with all the sex available that should hold the males attention unless two decide they want the same girl at the same time. He will often invite some rough men with anger issues to his parties, but he says he has hired enough guards to take care of any eventuality. He’s all for the second amendment, but isn’t allowing anyone to bring guns into the house and his are locked in his safe so we should be ok.

Porn and the Prentif cap

A pair of 22mm (ID) latex Prentif cavity rim cervical caps

A rubberist’s delight: One of my fave stallions is a well endowed rubberist who delights in being able to thrust into my cervix, even when he penetrates me from behind. What really lights his fuse though is if I wear a Prentif cap sucking on my cervix so he can thrust into the soft latex dome. I wear a 25mm Prentif so the top of the dome dimples, collapses a bit, under vacuum, so that if he hits the dimple he knows he is right on target and thrusting into the soft stretchy latex and him ‘double tapping’ the dome and then the tip of my cervix under it gets him off very quickly.

The Prentif and the porn industry: Our clinic is one of the very few that still fits Prentif caps. That’s because Lamberts (Dalston) Ltd stopped making them at least four years ago and our clinic having a large Prentif user base bought up all the Prentif stock they could, much of it at a deep discount. Recently porn producers have discovered cervical barriers as a “new” fetish to be exploited. Since very few men younger that 60 have heard of diaphragms or cervical caps a Prentif used as protection by a porn actress in a video has become a ‘HOT’ retro scene guaranteed to increase demand for any vid in which one is used. Any producer who has his actress take fifteen minutes to languidly insert her Prentif as foreplay while her boyfriend/client is watching or has it pulled out by her attacker during her rape or has her lover eat her cervical mucus out of the dome is guaranteed a best seller.

Then too here is the ‘Geezer factor’ in niche-market porn especially in Europe where the Prentif was far more popular in the 50s than diaphragms and I’m told by the marketers that men of a certain age and style remember it fondly even though they now need performance enhancing meds to participate. Another advantage of a cap or diaphragm being used in porn is that unlike birth control hormones it is a physical object that can be inserted during a tender moment for protection or roughly pulled from the heroine or victim’s vagina during a rape and shoved into her mouth to emphasize the danger she is in. And for those into asphyxia a Prentif can be shoved down the woman’s throat as a very dangerous form of breath play because she can easily suffocate while her attacker is concentrating on planting his seed in her belly. With the increased interest in cervical barriers for use in porn – a lot of the resurgence has been because of the ‘Mad Men’ effect of retro TV shows that got the country longing for what seems a simpler time – our clinic is seeing a substantial increase in requests to fit Prentif caps.

Porn and poor cervical barrier technique: Porn actresses don’t rely on the effectiveness of a diaphragm or cap for contraceptive protection. Many of them have been sterilized or have had IUDs inserted so that an unplanned pregnancy from on-cam intercourse is very unlikely. That makes it far less important that most porn actresses be correctly fitted with a barrier that will remain securely in place through multiple acts of intercourse and for at least six hours afterward. All they need is one that won’t give them a UTI and won’t fall out while they are on-cam. Nor do they need to adhere to correct barrier insertion technique during a video production and that can leave the men and women watching the video with the wrong impression as to how to properly protect a woman using a cervical barrier.

The problem comes from the way the porn actresses are playing with their barriers and appear to become aroused long before insertion. As returning readers know a woman needs to insert her cervical barrier BEFORE she becomes aroused! That’s because during arousal the vagina lengthens (tents) as the uterus and thus the cervix is drawn up and out of the way of a thrusting penis. A vagina that is fully tented can make it very difficult or impossible to place a cervical barrier correctly over the cervix and therefore makes an unplanned pregnancy far more likely.

I’ve tried talking to several of the major producers of cervical barrier porn and they just laugh and say they are interested in getting their audience as hot as fast as possible and a porn-princess moaning and rubbing her barrier over her engorged labia wet with natural lube while she moans and writhes in ecstasy as she plays with herself is a critical part of the production and there won’t be any changes to correctly depict proper insertion technique. I suspected that was the answer I was going to get, but it was worth a try. It does make it more difficult to get vanilla women wanting to portray Magna Cum Loudly or other porn princesses to use their barriers correctly if they will need them for contraception and not just as a sex toy.

I’m trying to steer the porn actresses and their costumers toward diaphragms or FemCap and away from Prentif because the porn industry is not interested in contraception and as I mentioned above Prentif is now a device in short supply and the remaining caps should be used for women who intend to use them correctly for contraception and as gas-guards for upper reproductive tract protection during dive-sex.

Christmas break barrier fittings: At St Lucy’s it’s the end of Fall semester and we are finishing the fit checks – and replacements where necessary - of the cervical barriers the students wear before they go home or travel on Christmas break. While many of the upper form students were sexually active before arriving at St Lucy’s none had enough experience to have caused their vagina’s to stretch appreciably. While they have grown in the months they have been immersed in a strict ballet and pelvic training regimen the pelvic floor muscles have toned considerably making the vagina deeper and tighter. Fit checks are important before the increased use of cervical protection while away from the school’s sexual health support system. It’s also time for an ultrasound to verify the proper placement of students IUDs and for full STI panels to make certain the students are all healthy before sending them back to their families

The students in my Advanced Sexual Techniques class use their barriers as gas-guards for dive-sex while others on hormones use them for flow control for vanilla sex during their pill-periods or if they have a stringless IUD inserted. Stringless GyneFix IUD implants have become much more popular this year because they allow GyneFix users to safely wear a diaphragm or FemCap as a gas-guard during dive-sex. For anyone wondering the smallest Prentif, with an inner diameter of 22 mm, is too large for most teens to wear but they can wear a 22 mm FemCap because the FemCap seals against the walls of the vagina and not the cervix. So Prentif caps are left for the use of experienced adult women.

UNLV’s Fall semester also ends on December 17th and many of the sorority girls I know have had our clinic check the fit of their diaphragms and will be leaving mid week rather than on that Saturday so there has been a surge in barrier fit checks and some requests for STI panels for them as well. The students come to us to avoid having these items show up on their UNLV Student Health statements that are sent to their parents.

Checking Slit-kits: Before traveling for the holidays is also the time to check and restock everyone’s skit kits to ensure condoms, spermicide, antibiotics and emergency contraception pills are all fully stocked and in-date. There are two effective EC specific pills:

Plan B One-Step (a single pill containing 1.5 mg of the progestin levonorgestrel) which is effective for up to 72 hours, three days, after unprotected sex or a contraceptive failure. Plan Bs effectiveness decreases the longer after the event it’s taken so it should be taken as soon after the event of concern as possible. Women on oral contraceptives may continue taking them on their normal schedule after taking Plan B. In the U.S Plan B is available to women 17 years of age or older behind the counter w/o a prescription.

The second and newer pill is available in the U.S. as ella and in Europe as ellaOne (a single pill containing 30 mg of ulipristal acetate, a progesterone receptor modulator) which is effective for up to five days after the event of concern. Women on hormonal contraceptives should not rely on the effectiveness of their pills, but use a reliable barrier method of contraception after using ella, for any subsequent acts of intercourse that occur in that same menstrual cycle.

For EC our clinic now recommends ella, because of its longer effectiveness interval and at St Lucy’s its cost is covered by the student’s Student Health policy.

Heretical sects & texts

The narthex of the temple in which lies the Chalice

The Holy Grail: J “Quest for the holy grail. Is that the orgasm or coitus? I would argue for the fetish sensibility it is the orgasm and coitus is only one means to achieve it. Admittedly for the male and probably the females out there 99.999% of orgasms are associated with some sort of physical contact with the erogenous zones. The basic ones are well understood, the vagina, clitoris, G spot, glans, shaft testes, nipples, prostate and so forth. Some have sensitive ears, necks, lips, feet and even their hair can evoke and erotic response. This is not what is at the core of fetish even though we see fetish as manifested in "gear" which exists in the physical world. A fetish ONLY has erotic power to those who "believe in it" or who imbue those "things" with sexual power. Put a rubber suit on a non fetishists and they might say it feels fine, or tight or too tight, or smelly or too slippery… or too something for them to be comfortable. And if they DO not find it uncomfortable they STILL might not find it arouses them sexually. Some might find it does and they would be candidates for becoming a fetishist... someone who finds inanimate things sexually arousing. Of course we all know that the arousal phase is the beginning of the human sexual response. It's the part of the sexual response which gives us an increasing itch to reach the goal post - orgasm. For many "traditionalists" the orgasm is closely linked with cock in pussy fucking and we all know there are scores of "positions" to have cock in pussy sex. Some need that sort of variety and some claim and rightfully so, some position offer better and different experiences and orgasms. But everyone seems to think that there are better and bigger and longer lasting and deeper orgasms and it’s a matter of skill which can tease them out. And a corollary is that there is no limit and more, better, longer, deeper and multiple is out there to conquer.”

The Chalice as an object of desire: “Quest for the holy grail. Is that the orgasm or coitus?” Actually, I had included some apocryphal (and heretical) Christian beliefs in that that thought… hoping you might eventually go there.

After survival, nature’s most powerful drive is the need to reproduce. That biological imperative gives women the ability to cloud men’s minds with lust, mesmerizing the male in more advanced societies into clothing her in exotic materials and bindings in an effort to have his way with her sometimes by bizarre means. Sampling for himself the delights found in the depths of her body he enters the kingdom of heaven on earth to plant his seed at the base of the Holy Grail itself, her uterus, from which all human life springs.

It is understandable that for some early Christians desperate to increase their numbers the uterus was seen as the Holy Grail – from which all life springs - and worship of the female is not a new concept. However, worship of a female God or Goddess was suppressed by the Romans bringing organization to the early Christian church by standardizing its teachings to reflect the views of a male dominated society, probably during or around the time of the First Council of Nicaea a council of Christian bishops convened by the Roman Emperor Constantine I in A.D. 325. The Council was the first effort to attain consensus in the church through an assembly representing all of Christendom. Its main accomplishments were settlement of the issue of the relationship of Jesus to God the Father; the construction of the first part of the Nicene Creed; settling the calculation of the date of Easter; and promulgation of early canon law. In the process early Gospels chronicling worship of the Virgin Mary and glorifying her womb were discarded. Texts of early variant teachings and sects believing in them were suppressed and branded as heretical.

The Idea of the Chalice or Holy Grail (the cup from which Jesus and the apostles drank during the Last Supper) as representing the uterus was most recently brought to the attention of the general public when the concept was used as the basis for The Da Vinci Code the 2003 mystery-detective novel written by Dan Brown. It is the male's biologically driven fascination with women’s reproductive anatomy that has fueled violence and bloodshed since mankind crawled out of the slime and women began seducing men for mates.

Getting mine: J “Sex as a selfish act (which it demonstrably is) involves getting "yours" the way you like it... so to speak. And when there's a partner involved it may be getting THEM to giving you "yours" the way you like it. There are a few strategies here. One is simply to demand it and say... here you play this fiddle called my sexual response. Your role is to learn what I teach and follow the script with finesse. Your reward can be I can do you at another time, or maybe at the same time, or you can learn to "get off" on playing me my way. Wouldn't that be dandy! Another is the quid pro quo where the provider is paid or obligated to perform to spec... the hooker, escort, pro Domme and so forth. You can also "train" or manipulate the partner to do your bidding by positive and negative reinforcements - training. People and animals are easy to train this way. Yet there are times when the partners interactions naturally leads to them each giving and getting exactly what floats their own boats. It doesn't get any better than that. Jane like John to ram her hard in rough almost brutal sex and John gets off on the idea of brutally taking a female! This can apply to any aspect of fetish play... and is what lovers seek in their partners - compatibility. Sure you can wear a rubber suit to please my eye... but I am looking for the women who is turned on by wearing the rubber suit - then she's really sexy to me... the rubberist male might say. But I digress”

“The Holy Grail is not the vagina but the tactile experience of the vagina on a penis for a male and the feeling of the thrusting penis inside her vagina for a female. This is so because vaginas and penises are where the physical sensations which offer up orgasms come from. Some men can get off and prefer an anal cavity. Some a rubber cavity of a sex doll. Some women prefer or are fine with a glass or rubber dildo or even a cucumber to fill their vaginas. Fetish sex is about the toys as substitute for the "real thing". But fetish sex, like vanilla sex is about getting off, but with more emphasis on the arousal phase... lots more. It makes the arousal phase include all sorts of gear and clothing... the mental constructs to eroticize them.”

Suppressed Symbolism: I agree that the vagina is not the Holy Grail. But as I mentioned above I think “the tactile experience of the vagina on a penis for a male and the feeling of the thrusting penis inside her vagina for a female” is not the Holy Grail either. I believe the Apostles drinking from the cup during the Last Supper, pledging they would continue his teachings when Jesus had gone was seen by some early Christians (who worshiped Mary as a deity) to be analogous to or symbolic of sexual intercourse with the transfer of semen (as the blood) which actually fills the Chalice or Holy Grail – the uterus – to continue the faith and mankind. This view of communion in the Catholic Church as celebrating sexual intercourse has been suppressed for nearly 2,000 years, but for believers traces of it can still be seen in the ritual of the Mass, performed by celibate priests.

The genitals as a fetish: J “I suppose some people have a genital fetish and literally eroticize the facsimiles of genitals. This I suppose is manifest in silicone breast augmentation, but surgical and applied on top of one's own breasts, or rubber vulvas and vaginas which can be worn as garments, some with sheathed cavities to penetrate... mostly used by CDs I suppose. But it's conceivable that a female could have a fetish of being fucked with a fake pussy she wears. And the same might apply to a male who sports a fake cock over his own. And there certainly could be females who desire large rubber cocks more so than the real deal. However these sorts of appliances are more about the actual fucking than the arousal the way most fetishes operate. Fetish is mostly about getting there as opposed to being there and so the Holy Grail is really about the QUEST for it than FOR it. What do I know?”

Cervical barriers as a fetish: I don’t know any women who have a genital fetish, but I know some CD/TVs who do. I’ve written about some few rubberists both male and female who are into ‘vaginal rubber’, an oft overlooked area for the female rubberist, and the different pleasures that can be derived from its use. As returning readers know I wear a cervical barrier to protect my upper reproductive tract. I’m CD24 today and have an Oves cervical cap sucking on my cervix as a gas-guard for dive-sex and as a contraceptive barrier although I’m in my Luteal phase with my menses starting next Friday so I’ve ovulated this cycle and as far as contraception is concerned I could go w/o protection and still be safe. For me contraceptive diaphragms and cervical caps are a huge turn-on. I love the added confidence that I get when I have a physical barrier protecting my cervix even though it may be a tiny bit of .2mm thick transparent silicone rubber.

Ever since I was in my early 20s and got my first latex Prentif cavity rim cervical cap I’ve been in love with cervical barriers for contraception. I was on the pill and hated what the progestin did to me, killing my libido and drying me out so that even on the rare instances when I wanted sex I could never get comfortable regardless of which or how much lube I used. Today less than one percent of U.S women use a cervical barrier and most doctors aren’t taught how to fit them anymore. Women’s doctors are in the pocket of Big Pharma and pushing hormones these days saying cervical barriers aren’t nearly as effective. But for a motivated woman who follows all the rules all the time and who has a properly fitted diaphragm that is correctly inserted the device is more than 96% effective which is as good as the protection most women get from their pills because they aren’t compliant in taking them.

The Prentif as a bondage device

My 25mm Prentif turned inside out to show the cavity rim that grips the cervix

Rubber-Masters and the Prentif cap: I have received several enquiries already from Rubber Masters interested in introducing the Prentif into a submissives heavy latex encasement wardrobe. I have to say that is a diabolical idea to use a woman’s contraception and over pressure protection as bondage device to put her further under her master’s control. While use of the Prentif was very popular among sophisticated European women in the mid 20th centaury as a convenient and effective method of birth control it was rarely used as a method of subjugation. These days with the rediscovery of the Prentif by the latex fetish community, encasement of a woman’s cervix in heavy rubber seems to be a turn on not only for birth control device fetishists but for heavy rubber encasement fetishists as well. The soft thick rubber of the Prentif and the grip of the vacuum in both the rim and dome of the cap on such a feminine part of a submissive make Prentif particularly well suited for use in total heavy rubber encasement of beautiful woman of child bearing age. For women not used to wearing a Prentif the grip of the rim and the vacuum in the dome can cause some cramping which Rubber Masters seem to like. I think it is a psychological thing for a heavy rubber encasement fetish guy because he can’t really see his slaves heavy rubber encased cervix w/o using a speculum, but he can feel it with his fingers if she pushes her cervix down.

Fitting, insertion and care of a Prentif: There are four sizes, based on the inside diameter, of Prentif caps: 22 mm, 25 mm, 28 mm, and 31 mm. To ensure a proper fit the cervix should be closely inspected by the woman’s fitter to determine that the cervix is smooth and symmetrical so as not to interfere with the cavity in the rim sealing against the wall all the way around the cervix. It is important to insert a cavity rim cap, either Prentif or Oves, before becoming aroused. After a woman becomes aroused it may be impossible to insert it correctly because the vagina lengthens (tents) during arousal and the pelvis engorges with blood making correct placement and suction on the cervix very difficult to obtain. Before inserting a cervical cap the woman should wash her hands and have short nails or wear latex exam gloves so she doesn’t scratch herself. Then compress the rim and while spreading her labia with the fingers of one hand push the compressed rim into the vagina. Once behind the pubic bone push it up and over the cervix. This can take a bit of getting used to while determining the best angle to use and care must be taken because if turned the cap can suction onto the wall of the vagina rather than on the base of the cervix. Once the cap is in place and the dome dimples the wearer should sweep a finger all the way around the dome to check that the cap is correctly covering the cervix.

To test for a good seal the woman should insert the cap, wait 15 minutes, remove the cap and then immediately feel for the raised rim tissue – that was pulled into the rim cavity - to ensure that there is raised tissue the full 360 degrees around the cervix. If there is raised tissue all the way around the cervix after 15 minutes of wear that means the cap is a good fit and it is sealing well. Also on all but the 22 mm size, the top of the dome will dimple from the vacuum in the dome if the cap is a good fit. A 22 mm will not dimple because the dome is too small and stiff.

To clean a Prentif it should be turned inside out and the cavity cleaned carefully with a toothbrush and warm mild oil free soap and water to ensure it is free of mucus, rinsed well and then let air dry. A Prentif should not be exposed to cold weather as the latex will harden and shatter and of course oils will cause the natural rubber to deteriorate rapidly so only water based lubes should be used with a Prentif. To visually inspect for latex aging; the first sign is that the latex will become stiffer, gives less and the domes of the larger caps will remain dimpled after the vacuum is released. Then look for cracking around the dome to rim interface while the Prentif is turned inside out for cleaning. This will reveal any latex aging. The effective life of a Prentif will depend on the user (use frequency and vaginal environment) and can be as short as 2 years and as long as 10 years. I take good care of my 25 mm Prentif and though it is no longer my primary method I use it occasionally for play. It is 7 years old and still develops a wicked vacuum so I have to pry it off my cervix and shows no sign of latex fatigue. A Prentif cap can be worn safely for at least 48 hours then removed, cleaned and immediately reinserted. If spermicide is used the dome should be no more than a third full, more could cause the spermicide to be forced into the rim cavity and break the suction. And as I’ve mentioned women with excellent fitting Prentif caps can safely wear them dry.

Ballerina birth control before the pill

The Prentif cavity rim cervical cap

Ballet boots and Prentif: In addition to UDP (a premium service) at the ranch we offer fantasy ballet encounters with our ballet dancers from Central Europe in standard studio, dressing room or salon settings. Or, we will create a custom setting for the encounter if the client can stand the cost. On request the girls will wear some of the older styles of contraceptive barriers and the Prentif cap is a particular favorite of men who want to recreate the 1930s – 1950s milieu right down to the exact contraception that was widely used by dancers in Europe in the years before the pill became available. Ballet boots that button rather than lace up never really caught on, but the nightclubs, especially in Germany and Austria – between the wars - were deep into ballet related fetishes. The Viennese fetish boot (circa 1900), which sported a heel that was actually longer than the sole of the shoe, thus making standing and/or walking impossible was the ancester of the ballet boot. A creative and enteerprising balletgirl shortened the heels of her Viennese fetish boots and a new style was born that only became resurgent again in the 1980s.

Fetish boots and shoes: A client can choose what fetish footwear his partner will wear. Ballet boots are available in ankle, calf, knee or thigh lengths that the client can help her lace up. In addition, for men with a pointe shoe sole design fetish the following makers pointes are available: Freed, Capezio, Bloch, Gamba, Chacott, Grishko, Russian Pointe, Merlet and Schachtner and pointes from other makers can be worn with two weeks advance notice. At her client’s request his partner will wear a particular maker’s shoes and style so the men can admire the sole patterns on their pointes, or even suck on the platforms, while she is on her back with her feet in the air taking his thrusts against the soft thick latex dome of her Prentif..

In the European cabarets where fetish was king between the great wars abortions were common for unplanned pregnancies that resulted from failed barrier contraceptive methods when oil based lubes were routinely used with latex barriers by unsuspecting women which caused frequent failures especially for new users who hadn’t been properly warned. Of course there were also the tricks where a dancer would arrange for her rivals birth control to fail by slipping punctured condoms into the rivals purse or dance bag when it was known she would be entertaining her lover for a quickie and unlikely to be as careful as she should. The recovery time from the physical, and occasionally mental, effects of an abortion guaranteed that the pregnant woman would be off stage for weeks as she regained her strength and confidence giving a rival an opportunity to steal her roles. We still see some of that today with school girls exchanging a rival’s pills with a dummy pack causing her to get her period or knocked up. Of course with Plan B and Mifeprex that sort of thing is quickly resolved today as little more than a minor inconvenience with very little worry.

Soft rubber caps: In the early 1900s there were custom made metal cervical caps of silver or gold, but those were very expensive and rarely used by performers, unless paid for by a wealthy lover. The answer to failed condoms for most women who wanted to control their own fertility was to wear a latex cervical cap that was rugged enough that it wouldn’t fail immediately even if it was used with Vaseline or another petroleum product. That way the woman could check for leaks, apply spermicide and insert in privacy where no one could tamper with her cap. And, if an oil based lube was used the Prentif while beginning to experience damage wouldn’t leak during the encounter nor while providing at least eight hours of protection afterward while her partner’s sperm died in her belly. The soft rubber dome of the Prentif also provides sensation for a man of average size who wants to thrust into his partner’s cervix while providing her with a modest amount of thrust buffering by distributing the energy of his thrusts equally around the walls at the base of the cervix.

Wearing a cavity rim cap dry: Actually, a well fitting Prentif, just like a well fitting Oves cap can be worn ‘dry’, that is w/o spermicide in the dome. Of course that means that if it should dislodge there is no backup contraception, but with a well fitting Prentif or Oves the likelihood of it dislodging is very remote, unless worn during the woman’s period when it could fill with her menstrual flow and ‘float’ off her cervix. A FemCap, the only cap generally available in the U.S. at the moment, can not be safely worn w/o using spermicide in the dome and also in the channel on the outside of the cap at the base of the brim. After a few cycles, when I was sure of its excellent fit, I wore my Prentif dry and have done the same with my Oves caps (once I became confident of their strong suction on my cervix) for more than seven years, that’s ninety-three cycles, with no pregnancy scares. And for someone who is as sexually active as I am that is an amazing tribute to the tiny bit of .25mm thick transparent silicone rubber that keeps me well protected by sucking on my cervix. Occasionally a casual lover will want me to give him one of my Oves caps, but they are not souvenirs. I think they are such an intimate part of me that I burn my old Oves caps along with my dead pointe shoes so that nothing so intimate as my cervical protection is ever given away.

Ballerina’s with children: From the ascendancy of women in classical ballet through the 1940s when personal discipline and sacrifice for the art of classical ballet was expected and enforced – by ballet management – women did not have children and expect to continue as a ballet dancer. Stars as famous as the British ballerina Margot Fonteyn, after an unintended pregnancy and abortion, had her tubes tied and managed to hush it up to continue dancing. Today, ballet dancers, if they are good enough so they are not easily replaced by management, can have children and a career as well. Darcey Bussell (British Royal Ballet retired), Julie Kent (ABT) and Alessandra Ferri (ABT retired) to name a few all had their families in their 30s after their careers as ballet Principals were well established and returned to dancing afterward. Cyd Charisse the lovely long legged MGM ballet dancer was offered the female lead in An American in Paris if she would have an abortion. She refused to abort her son with her husband Tony Martin and Leslie Caron took her place beside Gene Kelly in the 1951 musical. We’ve come a long way baby! Sigh!

Cervical barrier Contraception 101

The human cervix on day 7 of a menstrual cycle

The image above shows the cervix and the opening (the os) in its center that leads to the uterus, on day 7 of a menstrual cycle shortly before the woman becomes fertile. The camera is looking at the cervix as a doctor would while the woman is on an exam table with a speculum inserted to hold her vagina open. The cervix is the conical protrusion from the back end of front wall of the vagina. The back side of the rim of a diaphragm fits into the posterior fornix (the area behind the cervix) which is the dark area under the cervix in this pic. The front rim of the diaphragm tucks into her pubic notch just above her pubic bone. The bladder is above the vagina’s anterior wall (at the top pf the pic) and the colon is behind the vagina’s posterior wall (at the bottom of this pic) In cervical barrier contraception a diaphragm or cervical cap with spermicide in the dome covers the cervix to prevent sperm from passing through the opening in the cervix and reaching the woman’s fallopian tubes where, when she is fertile, it can remain motile and potent for 7+ days waiting for the woman to release an egg.

A selection of contraceptive diaphragms and cervical caps

Cervical barriers: The above image shows a selection of contraceptive cervical barriers used to protect a woman’s cervix during sexual intercourse. The cervix fits under the dome of the barrier which seals against the wall of the vagina or directly against the cervix. The eight barriers shown in the image are, from left to right:

Top row: The Ortho All-Flex, an arching-spring diaphragm and the Cooper/Surgical (Milex) silicone wide seal diaphragm.
Second row: Prentif cavity rim cervical cap and the FemCap
Third row: Lea’s Shield and an Ortho coil spring rim diaphragm
Bottom row: A Semina silicone diaphragm made in Brazil and an Oves cavity rim cervical cap.

Discontinued or otherwise unavailable barriers: The Prentif cap and Lea’s Shield are no longer generally available and Semina and Oves are only available in the U.S. in clinical trials.

A complete FemCap with the removal strap still attached

FemCap: FemCap is the best barrier for protection during dive-sex because it can be used at any depth and is the only barrier that provides meaningful thrust buffering. In the image above the wider brim, shown on the left, is worn against the back wall of the vagina. The removal strap is often trimmed off which gives the wearer and her partner a bit more room when the male is big relative to his partner’s vagina. The outer walls of the brim seal against the walls of the vagina and the dome covers the wearer’s cervix.

An All-Flex diaphragm compressed for insertion

All-Flex diaphragm: All-Flex is the Ortho-McNeil version of the arching spring rim diaphragm and the type most often prescribed by experienced barrier fitters. That’s because it has a stiffer spring that can be worn by women with poor vaginal muscle tone and because since it folds in two planes (see the image above) into a crescent it is easier to get the back rim of a compressed All-Flex behind the wearer’s cervix. The All-Flex reduces the number of times women insert their diaphragms improperly and are therefore unprotected.

Birth control at St Lucy’s: I have started my Contemporary Sexual Health class for students who will be entering the school for the Summer term. CSH is a mandatory course given the temptations available in the surrounding area. Though compulsory almost all the students are very interested in learning how to protect themselves during recreational sex.

St Lucy’s policy on the use of contraceptives is where possible to minimize the use of hormonal contraception. For some few women hormones are necessary to regularize their cycles or control heavy bleeding, but St Lucy’s believes in teaching discipline and learning to use a cervical barrier correctly does teach discipline. Used correctly a properly fitted diaphragm or cap is (at St Lucy’s) actually better than the pill for teens because a large percentage of teens don’t take their pills correctly. The student’s barriers come with RFID chips so we can track who is wearing their protection and who isn’t and the ones who aren’t get penalty points which bring them in line quickly. And, of course a diaphragm can be used to minimize the mess during menstrual sex. Both diaphragms and caps can be used to protect against over-pressure events during dive-sex but a diaphragm is effective only to a depth of 10m when the rim starts to distort due to the pressure.. A strapless FemCap is better than a diaphragm for dive protection because there is no limit to the depth at which it can be used and it also provides thrust buffering if the woman’s pelvic anatomy is small in relation to her partner.