Getting the most from your diaphragm

 

A silicone Caya contoured diaphragm

Repetition: I know I’ve covered this before, but I’m being repeatedly asked about how to get the most from the few styles of contraceptive diaphragms that are still available.

The Photo: The Caya contoured diaphragm was designed to fit women who take the four most often prescribed sizes of traditional diaphragms; 65mm, 70, 75, and 80mm. Caya has a polymer rim spring so there is no worry about wearing it through metal detectors at airports and the slightly matte outer surface of the cervix cup increases a partner’s sensation rubbing against the glans of his thrusting penis. The six bumps on the right side of the rim are grip dimples. There is an identical set on the other side that make gripping and compressing a slippery rim for insertion much easier than the smooth rim of a traditional diaphragm. The dome on the right is the removal dome into which the wearer inserts a finger to break the seal and pull it out.

Disadvantages of the Caya: Women with vaginas smaller than 65mm and larger than 80mm cannot safely wear it. The heat transfer properties of silicone are not as good as latex and in larger vaginas the relief arch tends to rotate a few degrees one way or the other. If rotation is too great the Caya rim can be under-thrust which the relief arch was designed to prevent. Since I am at the upper design limit for the Caya I’m reluctant to wear it for “flood insurance” during underwater sex.

A silicone Milex contraceptive diaphragm

The Photo: The last of the traditional diaphragms still commercially available Milex comes in two rim styles, Arcing and Omniflex (coil spring) rim. It is available in eight diameter sizes, from 60 to 95mm, in 5mm increments. The wide seal flange on the inside of the rim provides a larger surface to seal against the vaginal walls. The two cut-outs in the wide seal indicate where the fingers should be placed to compress the arcing rim for insertion. While the Omniflex (coil spring) rim has the same cutouts the Omniflex can be compressed at any two opposite points on the rim for insertion. The dark round spot in the inside center of the dome is the extrusion nub.

Properly cared for a Milex diaphragm will last several times longer than a latex diaphragm. However, it is still susceptible to deterioration from oils of all kinds as well as silicone lubricants. The stiff silicone dome has much poorer heat transfer properties than does the dome of a latex diaphragm.

One of my latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragms

The Photo: One of my 80mm latex Reflections flat spring rim diaphragms in its case. The curved white polymer device lying above the diaphragm is an ‘introducer’ which aided with insertion of diaphragms with rims of 60mm to 90mm for women with short fingers. 

A major advantage of the latex flat spring over the Caya is that when correctly fitted and properly inserted it is almost impossible for even a mischievous partner to intentionally under-thrust the rim. Other advantages are that silicone lubes can be safely used with a latex diaphragm and the heat transfer properties of the translucent stretchy latex dome are far superior to silicone diaphragms. Another advantage that isn’t generally talked about is that for women with partners who are able to thrust into their anterior fornix a flat spring rim, since it only bends in the plane of the rim, will retain its shape and allow the latex dome to be stretched tight over the tip of the cervix and deep into the anterior fornix. This puts upward pressure on the cervix and therefore the uterus pushing it a few millimeters deeper which makes the bottom of the fornix that much deeper as well.  This cannot be duplicated with Milex and Caya diaphragms because the Milex rims (arcing and coil spring) bend in two planes and the Caya cervix cup is too deep to allow the cervix to be pushed upward by a penis thrusting into the anterior fornix. Another advantage of a Reflexions latex diaphragm is that the raised triangle (with the size of the device in millimeters in its center) on the outside center of the dome can stimulate the glans of a thrusting penis long enough to reach it.

Disadvantages of latex diaphragms: The latex can be easily damaged by oils of all kinds in lubes, vaginal meds and even by perfume on the fingers during insertion. Even when properly cared for a well-used (3+ times a week) latex diaphragm should be replaced every year. The rim of a Reflexions is stiffer to compress and hold (when slippery) for insertion than the Caya and a latex device will develop an odor quicker than a silicone one because the surface of the latex is porous to a small extent.  The odor   developing quicker is seen by scent fetishes as a plus.

However, the main problem with latex diaphragms is that they are no longer commercially available.  I’m fortunate to still have several new Reflexions that I haven’t broken the seals on the boxes, so I should be fine for a while longer. Currently only at Gyn practices specializing in cervical barriers can women be fitted for latex diaphragms custom made with coil, arcing or flat spring rims.

Expressing a diaphragm: For the best protection, a diaphragm should develop a strong seal (suction) in the dome. This seal depends on the flexibility of the vaginal walls with no major irregularities to grip a properly sized and correctly placed rim. A diaphragm with poor suction can be used fairly effectively with plenty of spermicide in the dome, but not as effectively as with strong suction. There is nothing more satisfying to me, from a safety perspective, than to feel the strong suction tug as I break the seal to remove my diaphragm at least six hours after the last act of intercourse (to make sure all his little swimmers are dead) from a long session of love making.

To get the strongest suction possible a wearer should express the air out of the dome or cervical cup with her fingers. Where the most air will accumulate under the dome is in the anterior fornix. The wider the anterior fornix the more air is trapped. Because of the smaller cervix cup there is less air to express from a Caya than a conventional diaphragm dome. Some women can press down and lower the cervix enough that the wearer can express all the air from her anterior fornix with her fingers. But when using fingers there is the possibility of cutting or tearing the dome with a fingernail. Others find it helpful to use a small dildo or the rounded handle of a table knife to force the dome into the anterior fornix to completely evacuate the air. It’s especially important if the wearer is using a diaphragm as “flood insurance” during dive-sex so the hydraulics of a partner’s thrusts will not force water into the wearer’s uterus.   

Female protective equipment

A student’s protective equipment for ballet-sex

The photo: A silicone Semina coil spring diaphragm mounted on an introducer to aid in its insertion and a pair of hard shanked Gaynor Minden pointes. Students wear both as gorgeous and effective protection for their cervix and toes during ballet-sex training.

Semina is effective and popular with teens: In my introductory sex-ed course, Contemporary Sexual Health, I use Semina diaphragms because they are effective as well as pretty (which makes very young women feel adult, attractive and confident) so a Semina is more likely to be used during surface-sex. The Semina with spermicide in the dome is a good non-hormonal option when young women reach menarche and begin to need protection for sexual intercourse as it will allow sex with unprotected men giving young women experience in coping with coital discharge.

Semina is manufactured and available primarily in Brazil. It is very difficult to get in the U.S. and it is only selectively available from private clinics in the UK. However, it can be worth the trouble for a student who needs encouragement, something that she thinks is pretty as well as adult and effective which can give her a boost in self confidence.

The diaphragm as an anterior fornix thrust-buffer: I’ve written about this before, but it bears repeating because for some of us it can be important. For a woman with a well endowed partner who can thrust painfully into her anterior fornix a traditional diaphragm can provide some thrust-buffering. I usually wear a latex Reflexions flat spring rim which is no longer commercially available or a custom fitted latex FS device made for me by my London Gyn clinic. In addition to thrust-buffering with my latex FS diaphragm I get a twofer! That’s because when I’m fully aroused so my cervix has been pulled up and back out of the way of an average length penis when Tiny Tim one of my magnificently endowed lovers enters me in missionary he can push the stretched latex membrane of the dome up into my anterior fornix. At the same time the pressure of the dome on the tip of my cervix forces my cervix deeper while the increasing pressure of the stretchy dome squeezes his glans as his thrusts push it deeper into my anterior fornix giving me an A-spot orgasm while buffering his thrusts by slowing or stopping them before he hits bottom while at the same time pulling the anterior rim far enough away from the back of my pubic bone to rub against my G-spot.  None of my friends using a diaphragm have had anything like the mind-fucking turns-me-to-jelly pleasure of a simultaneous two erogenous zone orgasms with a single contraceptive device.

Even when a woman can’t get the same over-the-top orgasmic pleasure I get from wearing a latex diaphragm women with well endowed lovers find peace of mind and increases her pleasure while using it as a thrust-buffer to prevent tearing the ligaments holding her uterus in place.

When a latex FS device is not available silicone diaphragms such as the Milex (Omniflex or Arcing rim) or Semina (coil spring), but not a Caya contoured diaphragm - because the Caya has a smaller diameter and deeper dome - work well for thrust-buffering. Of the silicone options I think a Milex arcing spring rim works best since with an Omniflex or Semina the coil spring rims are more flexible so tend to put less pressure on the tip of the cervix.

Even though the Reflexions flat spring diaphragm is no longer commercially available a Gyn clinic specializing in cervical barriers (like the Blackthorn Clinic in London) can have a latex FS device custom made. And because a latex FS rim device has better heat transfer properties and the flat spring rim is almost impossible to even intentionally under-thrust by a mischievous partner it is the preferred cervical barrier used by  latex fetish escorts and as a flood insurance device it can be used for dive-sex at any depth. The down side of a latex device is that it won’t last as long as a silicone one and can’t be used by couples with a latex allergy.

The pointe-shoe as a defensive weapon: Occasionally a dancer in pointe-shoes can find herself at a disadvantage with a male partner who won’t take no for an answer. It’s difficult to out run a man while you’re wearing pointes, but the hard blocks make ideal blunt force trauma weapons if you are willing to use them. A kick to the temple to fracture the skull and knock him out; A kick to the kneecap to crush the bones and make the knee fold to the side or back; or a flexed foot kick to the pelvis coming up under his penis to crush it against his pubic bone all can be effective, though a kick to the pelvis may not be effective if he is wearing a groin protector/sports cup. A dance belt won’t protect his genitals from a hard blow from below but a sports cup probably will.

However, I think it’s unlikely to find an amorous man wearing a groin protector in a dance setting, but dance belts are standard on performing males. I’ve found that crushing an attacker’s knee so he can’t chase me works best unless he has bent over so his skull is accessible with a sharp high kick with a pointed foot. Once his knee is shattered an attacker can’t stand and a knockout kick to his head is much easier.  For a woman with several years’ ballet training putting a foot into an attackers kneecap should be relatively easy as foot placement in space becomes second nature.

Tim is Returning to school: He is being posted to the Joint Services Command and Staff College (JSCSC) after he finishes his leave. It is located at Shrivenham in west Oxfordshire which is quite rural and rather near the eastern border of Wales. So perhaps if he can get an occasional day off we can fuck each others brains out for relaxation. In his case I’m all for doing what I can to keep up the morale of our military. Shrivenham is about 120 miles (a bit less than 3 hours in good weather) up the M50 to Caersws then another 1 ½ hours from there south west on the A470 toward Llanidloes and into the mountains to Blackthorn Castle.

Monday 30 May 2016 (Spring Bank Holiday): The Spring Bank Holiday is already underway and those who can took Friday off and made it a four day weekend. While Easter Term ends at Cambridge on 10 June and exams are rapidly approaching Bea came stay with me here at the castle for the long weekend and she brought a lover with her. Bryony and Claire (the Dryads) are with me as well as they are taking a break from their thesis research on member’s fetishes at my London fetish club (the Costume Club AKA Clever Cunts) on Holland Park Road since a great many members are off on holiday. They have brought male ballet dancers who can make the holiday just before the start of performances of The Winter’s Tale at the ROH. So Tim and I will not lack for marvelously compatible company.

An English Spring: The weather is what I’ve come to expect. At the Castle given its altitude midday temperatures are expected to be no higher than the high 50s (F) and rain is probable except perhaps on Sunday morning. But then the weather in London is forecast to be about the same with perhaps somewhat higher temps, but cloudy and rainy too. Ahhh, an English spring!

Death Rubber diary

A latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm

The photo: One of my 80mm Reflexions diaphragms. It is made of natural rubber latex and is the style that when worn by a woman when she died during sexual intercourse becomes (for my purposes) a ‘Death Rubber’ diaphragm containing special powers that supplement my sexuality. I know I use photos of Reflexions a lot, but I can’t stress enough how desirable they are for contraceptive and dive-sex safety and for their strong appeal to latex fetishists.

My Death Rubber collection:  For readers who are new to my blog a ‘death rubber’ is a diaphragm, especially a latex one, which was being worn by a woman when she died while having penetrative intercourse. Until my last post (Dating Gigi on May 2, 2015) I hadn’t written about harvesting one for about five months - in my entry for November 21, 2014 - when I harvested one from a Las Vegas Towel Girl at Splash. As this is written it has been eleven months since I added to my collection so readers can understand how difficult it is to obtain a Death Rubber under ideal conditions, meaning that I harvested it myself.

During an orgy in Vegas years ago I found that wearing a latex diaphragm I harvested from the vagina of an elite rubber fetish escort – one I watched die while being fucked at the bottom of a training pool for rubber fetishists - gave me access to the residual Chi contained in the diaphragm that had been protecting her cervix. Through her Chi her memories of past lovers and the pelvic experience and tricks she knew to please them become available for my use which enhances my confidence and pleasure when wearing it.

There are some challenges in collecting this specific item:

• Few women use diaphragms these days.
• The device needs to be in my size, 80mm – usually worn by women much taller than me.
• The woman has to have died during sex while wearing it.
• And so I can safely wear it she must have been free of STIs which means at the time of her death she had had a recent negative full panel STI test.
• And now the Reflexions is no longer being made. However, latex flat spring diaphragms can be custom made for those of us who need them.

Too there is the usual down side to a latex device:

• Some people are allergic to latex.
• The useful life is much shorter than a silicone diaphragm.
• The odor from a latex device worn too long can be very strong, however, that could be a plus if you are with a man who is into funky vaginal scents.

The good news about a latex flat spring device is:

• The heat transfer properties are far superior to silicone.
• A latex device can be safely used with silicone lubes necessary for proper vaginal lubrication during underwater sex.
• A great safety feature of a flat spring rim diaphragm is that since it folds in a single plane it is almost impossible for a mischievous partner to under-thrust the rim of one that is properly sized and correctly placed.                         

Fortunately as with my former position in Vegas I have access to the medical records of the Escort service run by Tanaquil for Taryn’s European operation so I know who wears 80mm latex diaphragms (mainly for male clients with latex fetishes) or for under-thrust ‘flood insurance’ during dive-sex. It so happens these are the women who are the greatest risk takers so are the ones most likely to have a fatal accident during an encounter with a commercial client or during filming porn videos. I think the risk is part of my fascination with asphyxia sexual highs while having SCUBA sex because there is so little margin for error. It certainly is a huge thrill and marvelous high for me!

A more recent and serious ‘Death Rubber’ limitation briefly mentioned above is that the Reflexions FS diaphragm was discontinued at the first of 2015. Fortunately the Clinic had received a routine stocking order of the Reflexions so we should be able to provide them to patients for the next few months as they are how only used by up-market fetish escort clients. Also, we are able to have latex FS diaphragms custom made, but at higher cost. The fall-back position is to use 80mm silicone Milex diaphragms as death rubber devices, but the flat spring rim was ideal in providing women and especially fetish escorts with superior under-thrust protection and I suspect those of us in the profession will go to the custom made latex flat spring as for us there really is nothing as good.

Currently my collection consists of six 80mm latex Reflexions diaphragms that I have personally harvested from the vaginas of their previous owners. I try to take good care of them as they all contain their former owners sexual exploits that reside in the portion of her Chi still contained in the diaphragm which supplement my own sexual knowledge and experiences when I wear them and each is unique and irreplaceable in that way.

My latest harvesting acquisition: This is the second ‘death rubber’ I’ve harvested since I moved to the UK in January of 2015. The most recent was a French twenty-something ballerina on holiday with her English lover who was at a fetish swim party at a country house in Berkshire which I attended last weekend. I knew her as a candidate on my list of possible Death Rubber donors as she was quite tall at 5’8” for a ballet dancer. She had been fitted by one of Tanaquil’s Gyn friends in Paris and wore the Reflexions FS in my size. She said she was familiar with basic SCUBA gear and was anxious to have her lover take her to orgasm submerged in our host’s pool while other guests watched. Her lover was against it as she was known as something of an exhibitionist, but she teased him about not being able to get it up underwater and so to defend his sexual prowess he reluctantly agreed.

They were using our hosts OTS Guardian FFMs, 60 cu ft aluminum tanks and everything seemed to be going well. The woman was tethered to the bottom of the dive well with an ankle leash and she was out of her tank which was on its side on the bottom so she could be entered from behind. The audio from their comm. link was on the speakers in the pool area so we could hear them talk to each other and both of them gasp and moan from their sexual exertions. She was facing the pool bottom as he entered her from the rear and she grunted, mewed, gasped and moaned as he pushed his way inside her and she adjusted her hips to take his length and thrusts.  He was holding on to her hips and had given her several vaginal orgasms when she began to quiver, gasp and begin to gag and she doubled over possibly to try to unfasten the ankle leash or perhaps from cramps, but her partner kept thrusting into her trying to reach orgasm himself before he withdrew. 

After he came he pulled out, but by that time she was limp and not breathing and I and several other divers had jumped in to help pull her out. I unfastened the ankle leash, a man lifted her tank off the bottom and her partner raised her to the surface. After we got her on the pool surround we tried CPR, but she had apparently drowned in her own vomit.  While straightening her thong and covering her with a blanket to await an ambulance I pulled out the 80mm Reflexions she was wearing still slippery with her lover’s thick creamy semen that hadn’t had a chance to liquefy and slipped it down my cleavage.

She had the results of a serum pregnancy test in her purse that showed she was about eight weeks pregnant so that may have been why she became nauseated though there were two other women at the party who came down with food poisoning so perhaps it was that.

To Bea or not to Bea

A stunning bikini by Agent Provocateur

The photo:  While in London for her STI panel and GyneFix ultrasound Bea visited the AP shop at 16 Pont St Knightsbridge and picked up several of these bikinis to tease men during dive-sex and for our planned trip to Virgin Gorda.  

Cunilingus and the cosseted cunt: The nutritional value of semen from a normal male ejaculation (about one teaspoon’s worth) contains between five and 25 calories and a minimal amount of protein. Semen is only one percent sperm; the rest is composed of over 200 separate proteins, as well as vitamins and minerals including vitamin C, calcium, chlorine, citric acid, fructose, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, sodium, vitamin B12, and zinc. I like to say that swallowing semen is a ‘nutritional supplement’, but of course it’s really not and can be dangerous if the donor has an STI which is why my partners are tested so frequently.

I mention this because Bea and I have renewed our sexual relationship. While she is very young she is of the age of consent and we are not related so there is no problem with our relationship being illegal. She has asked me to mentor her in her quest to learn more about the pleasures of sex between women which has appealed to my love for teaching as well as the sexual pleasure it can bring us both. I thought about saying no, but agreed to her request because I want her to learn safely and if I don’t train her then she will seek help elsewhere with a less experienced teacher.

Since I can teach her a great deal about girl-girl sex and she is fun to be with I agreed to guide her in this aspect of her sexuality so we have been experimenting with something new. Well, new for us. In addition to enjoying my breast milk we are exploring her increased interest in oral girl-girl sex, at least with me, but that hasn’t reduced her interest in men at all. Even for a woman she is an exceptionally gentle and considerate lover and a gorgeous young woman so her looks absolutely stun men when she enters a room. I think her ballet training which has given her poise and confidence has allowed to bloom spectacularly at such a young age.  Returning readers will recall that Bea has a GyneFix copper IUD implanted so she can safely take an unprotected man without needing contraceptive barrier protection herself, unless needing a barrier as a gas guard or flood insurance during dive-sex. 

Cunilingus training: During her cunilingus training we meet very soon after we have orgasmed with unprotected men who have ejaculated in us, using the guys to inseminate us so Bea and I can suck out each other’s coital discharge. Since the men make a contribution to her training they wanted to watch one of our training sessions, but we are so into each other during a session that it is too private for an audience even by video.  However, since the sessions are being videoed they might be for sale later after our faces have been pixilated out.  She has a very long tongue as do I so she is an apt and talented pupil.  I’m teaching her tonguing techniques to caress the clitoris barrel and occasionally its head, though that should be used only when a partner asks for it since most women I know can’t stand any direct touching of the clit as it is so sensitive. Bea’s cycles are no longer in synchrony with mine as we have been apart for too long. Even so, I’m CD13 and fertile and she is CD15 and ovulated today which means I can not only suck out her lover’s semen I can also enjoy sucking out a some of her fertile cervical mucus which thickens her coital discharge and today was colored and flavored with a little blood from ovulation spotting when the follicle ruptured to release her egg.

A taste of latex: Speaking of flavor, to give me a taste of latex when she isn’t secreting FCM she will wear one of her latex flat spring diaphragms so her arousal lube and her partner’s semen will be flavored by the latex device marinating in their genital secretions. This gives me the opportunity to get an idea of what my coital discharge tastes like since I usually wear a latex diaphragm if I know a male partner is going to give me cunilingus after pumping me full of semen.

In my case I have been training with a latex flat spring diaphragm inserted so Bea can savor what my coital discharge tastes like when flavored by a well used latex diaphragm. I have also worn a silicone Milex arcing rim so she can taste and appreciate the significant difference in taste.     

The Vernal Equinox and the arrival of spring: Technically Spring will arrive here in Wales at 4:30AM GMT on Sunday, March 20^th. However, Sunrise is at 6:15AM and the Celts celebrated at sunrise so that is what we will continue to do. I will have only one other pair concelebrating with me and that will be Bea and a partner yet to be named. I had hoped that Willow, Viscount Sandbach’s natural daughter, would be able to participate but her schedule with her ballet company in London will not permit her absence. The weather at Llanidloes which is the nearest forecast to Blackthorn Castle is to be in the mid 30s° (F) with heavy clouds and a light wind from the northeast. If that holds we will be lucky that it isn’t raining. But since the Castle is at least a thousand feet above Llanidloes it will almost certainly be below freezing.

 

 

 

Morning Wood’s problem, and a shoe room tryst

The single rod contraceptive implant good for 3 years

The Photo: The Nexplanon 4 cm long single rod progestin only subdermal implant that slowly releases etonogestrel.

Morning Wood and morning sickness: The 19 y/o student, ‘Miss Nexplanon’, who is fucking her way into one of Marvin’s Cambridge Psychology classes and as a consequence is draining his seed from her tight, deep pussy tested positive for hCG. She hadn’t been able to keep breakfast down for the past several days so she peed on a stick and found she is pregnant. That’s not supposed to happen for women on Nexplanon which is statistically about 99% effective and she is freaking out and wants to get rid of it as does Marvin. She was on diet pills and St John’s Wort for depression which probably reduced the progestin’s effectiveness.

Chris, my male Gyn who works at the Barony’s London women’s clinic, is giving her a vacuum aspiration this evening (Saturday, after office hours) and Marvin accompanied her. They plan to spend the night at Blackthorn House in Belgravia before returning to Cambridge Sunday as though they had gone to London for the shows. I suppose she is lucky since there is a good possibility that a pregnancy while on a progestin only contraceptive could end up as ectopic and result in the possible loss of one of her tubes. She is having a frameless copper bead GyneFix IUD inserted at the same time so she and Marvin can continue their affair. That’s fine with me as it will keep him pumping seed into a known vagina for the academic year while he is teaching at Cambridge.

Snow: On Thursday 1/14 we had our first snow. It was forecast for Llanidloes which is about 550 feet above sea level with temps in the mid 20s (F).   Blackthorn castle is at 1,600 feet and our temp was in the high teens (F) and we had about 4 inches of snow. It was my first time here in the snow and the castle looks marvelous all trimmed in white.

A shoe room tryst: As I mentioned in my entry for January 1^st, Tim has an erotic fascination about pointe shoes and the women who wear them. When I showed him my shoe room with its bins of new Freed and Gaynor Minden pointes he was very interested, but he fell in love with the racks of damp smelly ones drying after being worn. They are infused with the unique bouquet of stimulating scents immediately recognized by all women ballet dancers; estrogenic sweat soaked leather and paste and anti-bacteria spray from drying Freed and Gaynor pointes, lineament, antiperspirant and perfume that I wear on a daily basis. And from the soiled costume hamper occasionally the malodorous aroma of a pantie and plug set that was worn while fertile. The shoe room has a barre and mirror so I can try on a pair and see how they feel to see if they are right for what I will be doing a technique class, rehearsal or a performance and what role I’ll be dancing. Every woman who was ever fitted for pointe shoes knows there can be a different look and feel between pairs of seemingly identical pointes. 

Tim loves the intimacy of watching me prepare my toes, taping them and pulling on toe pads then forcing my padded and taped toes intro the toe-boxes of the shoes and pulling the backs up over my heels then walking around en pointe with the ribbons untied to see how they feel and set my toes in the blocks. If everything feels right then I’ll wrap the ribbons around my ankles and tie my feet into the pair of pointes before stretching for a few minutes at the barre. I was CD 7 and follicular and needed the protection of a cervical barrier.

Ordinarily I would insert a cervical barrier before dressing in practice clothes however I wanted him actively involved in the fantasy of helping a ballet dancer protect herself before an unanticipated encounter so after that I let him apply DiveGel+ in the dome of a Caya pull down my tights, slip the thong of my leo to one side and parting my labia expertly inserted it slipping the rim under and behind my cervix before pushing the relief arch up behind my pubic bone. I checked after him to feel my cervix through the silicone membrane of the cup just to be sure. It was positioned perfectly and I was ready to rock and roll!  With my vulva still exposed and my tights at mid thigh I took his hand and guided him over to the barre, stepped up on to pointe a la seconde, grabbed the barre with both hands and bent over inviting him to enter me from behind.

He is tall and marvelously well hung so even en pointe a la seconde he lifted me several inches off my platforms which is why I increased the padding as I wore bespoke Freeds from the Crown maker with 3/8^th inch thick three-quartered leather shanks for our ballet-sex encounter rather than Gaynors since I was going to give the shoes to Tim as a souvenir of our time together when he left to return to duty.  The leather shanks flex not break when the wearer is thrust-dropped on the platforms during ballet-sex. Even so there is no internal platform padding so wearing Freeds for ballet-sex is for the masochist not the faint-of-heart.

Taking a man inside me when I’m en pointe is almost always a marvelous experience for me especially if he is well endowed and Tim is near my upper limit in that category.  All my muscles from the tips of my toes to my abdominals are clenched when I’m on my toes so I have to be very well lubricated and then the initial penetration as his glans pushes between my labia and under my pubic bone is absolutely thrilling feeling the warmth and size of him filling me as he pushes deeper thrusting into the depths of my posterior fornix pushing against the nylon spring rim of the Caya.  His strong hands holding my hips as he thrust and withdrew and thrust and withdrew! All that length and girth, his new set of bacteria and when he came he filled me with the hot, thick, creamy strands of bioadhesive semen coating the convex side of my Caya   It is so marvelous having Tim thrusting inside me! He loves the lightly textured matte surface of the Caya dome which acts as a stimulator and gets him off quicker than if I was wearing a Milex that has a glass smooth finish to its dome.

The Dragon to Cardiff: I’m taking Tim to the airport at Cardiff this coming Monday, Jan 18^th. The Dragon, my private cars, will be connected to the 7:31 AM from Caersws for the three hour trip to Cardiff arriving at 10:39 AM.  We will be having sex and a late breakfast aboard and then more sex.  He will be boarding a military aircraft bound for some location that he can’t talk about. In Cardiff he is taking me for an early dinner to Gateway of India since we both like Indian food and he says the restaurant is excellent. Then I’ll go with him to the airport to see him aboard his plane then take a taxi back to Cardiff Central to board The Dragon for Caersws and home. The return trip will take 9 ¼ hours! I’ll certainly have time to become reacquainted with my vibi after an amazing two weeks with Tim! Sigh…!

Dating Gigi

Home alone - the perfect accessory for a night of solo passion

The photo: A Lelo Gigi 2 G-spot vibrator. This latest version offers eight modes of vibration. The two hour charge time offers up to four hours of pleasure from the rechargeable battery! I love how the tip of the Gigi stimulates my G spot and hooks into place behind my pubic bone a sign of excellent design and superb Swedish craftsmanship.

Unwinding after a busy day: When no man is available I love a good soak in a tub then read a few pages of a Nora Roberts romance on my Nook then slip between the sheets and have Gigi come to Mama. Just a drop or two of a water base intimate lube eases her entry if I’m not already aroused. With the different vibration patterns I can tease myself to where I’m right at the tipping point with tiny vaginal contractions. I could just float there forever, but I’ll finally tease myself to a massively intense gasping, moaning, mewing, screaming toe curling orgasm at the end of which the afterglow is so intense I sometimes immediately fall asleep with Gigi still inside me. When I get up I clean her and put her on charge again before putting her back in her bag to await our next intimate encounter.

Gigi and cervical barriers: When I’m fertile and need to be super safe I wear an Oves cap screwed down tight on my cervix. Neither Oves nor FemCap come in contact with Gigi when she is inserted. However, when wearing a traditional diaphragm; an All-Flex, Milex or Reflexions the head of the Gigi is in contact with the anterior rim of the diaphragm as well as a portion of the dome and you get a very different experience which will vary depending on the rim style. With the Milex Omniflex (coil spring rim) there is a shimmery feeling the full length of the vagina. With the stiffer All-Flex and Milex Arcing spring rims there is a more intense vibration through the entire rim all the way around the cervix; and because the Reflexions flat spring rim bends in only one plane it delivers the most intense full vaginal experience.

However, the Reflexions with its soft natural latex dome is far more likely than the silicone Milex or All-Flex to be damaged by the vibrator head from friction wearing a thin spot or hole in the dome which, if that occurs shortly after  intercourse with an unprotected man, could result in pregnancy. An additional future problem with the Reflexions FS diaphragm is that it was discontinued at the first of 2015 and so are no longer generally available. Fortunately our Clinic had received a routine stocking order of the Reflexions so we should be able to provide them to patients for the next few months. With luck we may be able to have latex FS diaphragms custom made, but at higher cost.

A toy to die for: There have been instances when the exertion from vibrator induced G-spot orgasms has been too much for the woman’s physical condition and one of those instances occurred last weekend at a house party I attended in Northamptonshire. She was an escort hired for the occasion by the eldest son of a neighboring titled family whose wife was pregnant and unable to attend. Her procuress should have been aware of her condition and not allowed her to work with clients who expected her to participate in extreme personal sexual pleasure encounters rather than providing it for her client himself. Rather than giving him vanilla sex what he expected was for her to be the party entertainment by continuously orgasming using a G-spot vibrator while the men and a few women watched her writhe, gasp, mew and moan in ecstasy until she became unconscious from the caress of the vibi she had inserted. When her client tried to wake her he found she was dead.

She and I had talked before her fatal performance and I had checked the placement of her 80mm Reflexions. She was one of my clinic’s escort patients I track who wear an 80mm diaphragm like me so I might be able to harvest her diaphragm if she died while having penetrative sex and wear it as a ‘death rubber’. She asked what I thought the most intense G-spot orgasms was and I mentioned having a latex flat spring diaphragm inserted so that not only the G-spot was stimulated but the stiff flat spring rim would transfer the strongest vibrations throughout the entire length of the vagina. Since she was SCUBA qualified and had her Reflexions with her to use as flood insurance in case she was asked for dive-sex she inserted it and apparently the experience with the vibrator-diaphragm combination was too intense for her. It was later found that she died from a blood clot probably caused by her hormonal birth control.

The hosts stored her body in their walk-in freezer and knowing my prowess as a Domme and exhibitionist asked if I would take the dead performers place as the men really wanted to see a woman totally consumed by a series of G-spot orgasms. I would have thought that watching a professional escort fucked to death by her vibrator would have been enough, but the host wanted at least another 45 minutes and some of the women didn’t think I would since I was CD2 and bleeding heavily and a vibrating diaphragm leaks like a sieve. When the hosts found I was menstrual they pleaded even more since watching a menstrual continuously orgasming woman is a rare and unbelievably messy opportunity so I took the request as a challenge as well as hoping for a good time.

I was willing to perform in her stead, but needed access to her body to get her Reflexions and the Gigi 2 G-spot vibrator that killed her because I didn’t want to chance ruining my own flat spring latex diaphragm and I wanted her Gigi 2 for myself as well.  Marvin (Morning Wood) my psychiatrist and current lover didn’t mind me performing by masturbating for the house party guests so I thought I’d show them how that sort of thing should be done. I quickly harvested her 80mm Reflexions while her body was still warm and took her Gigi 2 and its charger out of her tote before she was sent on her way to the freezer.

She hadn’t been menstrual so my bleeding was a bonus of sorts and I let the guests watch as I pulled out my Dive cup full of flow (one of the male guests drank it) and inserted the dead woman’s flat spring latex diaphragm. I could immediately feel her Chi coming off the latex dome and knew that I would be fine just lying back, inserting the Gigi and letting it take me where it would. The host wanted a 45 minute performance, but it lasted 65 minutes before I couldn’t take any more and my bones and brain were jelly at the end. I had a marvelous time, but was a little hoarse from screaming and moaning by the end. Afterward Marvin had to help me sit up and get into one of the host’s wife’s thick robes to absorb the blood and into a comfy chair and drink a sports drink to replenish lost electrolytes before I had strength to shower and rejoin the other guests. Marvin got the escort’s death and my performance having a vibi fuck my brains out on video so they should sell well on the porn market.

The Mare’s Trick and contraceptive sabotage

Afterglow: bare legged in well worn GM play shoes

The Photo: Floored! Napping bare legged in Gaynors after performing Pompoir and the Mare’s Trick with clenched thighs and pelvic muscles while penetrated from the rear by Marvin. I love it when our passion is so great he takes me on the carpet.

The Mare’s Trick: clenching the thighs and pelvic muscles to prevent a man’s penis leaking blood and losing his erection during his refractory period after ejaculation. With skill a woman can keep her lover continuously hard between a series of his orgasms. Performing Pompoir (penis milking) and the Mare’s Trick takes considerable skill and effort and I’m fortunate that I almost always have an unbelievably intense orgasm at the end that puts me to sleep during afterglow. I know it sounds strange, but having my toes packed tightly in the blocks of Gaynor pointes while I’m milking a lover’s erection or have it trapped inside me gives me additional reassurance that I’m in control.

Menstrual cycling and barrier usage: As this is written (on Sunday 4/12/15) I’m CD9 and newly fertile. I finished my period with a Milex Omniflex inserted for flow control on CD6 because I’m not concerned about contraception during my menses since I have stable cycles and don’t become fertile until CD8 or 9 so the wide internal rim flange of the Milex provides the best seal for menstrual flow control if the wearer isn’t concerned about the possibility of becoming pregnant from a partner under-thrusting the coil spring rim of an Omniflex.  I switched back to an Oves cap this past Thursday when I stopped spotting. I love wearing Oves as it’s so tiny that I can take a very large man in my posterior fornix w/o him feeling it.

The Duke of M****’s new mistress:  Returning readers will recall that in my post for March 27^th “The reburial of Richard III” His Grace was to start interviewing candidates for a new intimate companion. I wrote:

“Ashley (Jack’s fiancée) was to introduce him to a dancer friend as his former ballet dancer mistress has returned to Russia to recover from an abortion and to begin performing again with the Mariinsky. He is now interviewing sexually adventuresome ballet dancers Ashley’s age looking for a new intimate companion.”

After more than two weeks interviewing the seven possible candidates “in depth” he selected a 23 y/o soloist with the première ballet company in England headquartered here in London. Her name for her appearances in my blog will be ‘Verity’ (not the name she dances under) and I met her when she came to our clinic for the obligatory full STI panel and serum pregnancy test prior to her initial meeting with His Grace. All seven candidates passed through our clinic for testing prior to meeting with the old bull and I thought she would be the one he would choose as her attitude and looks are quite similar to mine though she is not nearly as dominant, but still will provide him a challenge. The deciding factor though was almost certainly when His Grace found out about Verity’s being SCUBA qualified and her delight in dive-sex as she becomes very aroused even when talking about sex in a hostile environment and she has her own OTS Guardian FFM for diving.

His Grace has almost no women other than me who will dive the Crag Abbey cistern with him for dive-sex even though the water is filtered and heated so that’s pretty high on a mistresses must-have abilities. He has often told me he wishes he had met me twenty years earlier. Not that that has stopped him from inseminating me every chance he gets and I suspect he will continue to want sex with me even with Verity in residence. That could be a problem for both His Grace and me as I’m not sure how possessive she will become with him. She already knows he will never marry her so perhaps she won’t care all that much as long as he doesn’t embarrass her by flaunting his other trysts. Verity and I get along well right now and she is depending on me to help her develop her pelvic skills so I will have her working with Ben Wa ball sets to isolate and manipulate her PC muscled sets for Pompoir and eventually, if she wants to expend the effort, the Mare’s Trick.

Pompoir: The Urban dictionary has the best definition of the term I’ve seen so far, which reads in part:

“Use of the vaginal muscles to milk the penis. Linguistically, this is a French corruption (via the Portuguese) of the original Tamil place-name Pahmpur or Pampur, which is the Dravida Kurumba Pulayam city where this esteemed practice originated.” The link is: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pompoir

Verity gets a GyneFix, FemCap and Reflexions: Now that His Grace has made his choice and Verity accepted it she came back to the clinic to have a full size, six copper beads, frameless IUD - with the strings removed so she can safely wear a cervical barrier - implanted. And because she will be having dive-sex I fit her with a 22mm FemCap for shallow dives (down to 25 feet) and a 75mm latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragm for use at unlimited depths. With a GyneFix implanted she won’t need the barriers for contraception, but will need them for ‘flood insurance’, to prevent the hydraulics of a lover’s thrusts from forcing water into her uterus during dive-sex.

Mews entrance Eaton Square: To give His Grace and Verity some privacy while he tested her skill at dive-sex I let him use the pool at Blackthorn House, Eaton Square. On the back of the property there is the mews entrance. You can drive through a massive timber and steel door into a small courtyard to unload supplies and carry away refuse. It’s also the way the air tanks and associated equipment for diving is gotten to the pool area. It’s quite private so guests can arrive and depart with hardly anyone knowing.

Club hygienic products and pregnancy: One of the rubber fetish clubs in London – not the one owned by the Blackthorn Trust - had been getting a lot of complaints from women who are members and frequent users that they are becoming pregnant from sexual encounters at the club.  Even though there are few women members and clubs try to attract them (because they in turn attract more men) at first club management paid no attention to the complaints until one woman threatened to go to the tabloid press. At that point the club asked our clinic to quietly investigate to see if there could be any possible club involvement in the member’s pregnancies.

The first thing we found was that the women were all on hormonal birth control and none had their partners wear condoms. We ran blood tests, but it had been too long since the encounters of concern and the blood tests were negative for any suspicious substance. Two of the pregnant women were on Nexplanon, the single rod implant releasing etonogestrel. One was on the Mirena IUD that releases Levonorgestrel and two were using NuvaRing which releases a combination of ethinyl estradiol and etonogestrel and is worn in the vagina continuously for three weeks before removing for a withdrawal bleed.  So it was unlikely that any of them had been using their method incorrectly that would interfere with releasing the hormones.

I immediately suspected an employee of the club intentionally planting a contaminated hygienic product of some sort one that would be used each time a woman came to the club.  So what items supplied by the club would be commonly used by women members and could any of them be easily tampered with? Suspicion quickly centered to the supplies in the women’s loo; aloe wipes, hand cream, boxes of nitrile exam gloves similar to the ones available in the bar and each of the encounter sallies that are snapped on before fondling a partner’s genitalia and tubes of a water soluble gel-lube to lubricate the gloved fingers or penis before inserting them in the woman’s vagina. The lube is heavily and frequently used as some women on hormones find its difficult to get wet with their natural lube even with considerable foreplay.

We clandestinely gathered and tested samples of each item that might be used to distribute a progesterone agonist/antagonist, something similar to ulipristal acetate that is used in the EC ellaOne, which binds to the progesterone receptor. Using a progestin for contraception and another med that binds to the progesterone receptors together could reduce their hormonal methods contraceptive efficacy. Returning readers may recall that the instructions for using ellaOne say:

 “After using ellaOne, if a woman wishes to use hormonal contraception, she should do so no sooner than 5 days after the intake of ellaOne, and she should use a reliable barrier method until the next menstrual period.”  

Lube gel tampered with: What we found was the tubes of water-based lubricating gel had all been replaced with counterfeit ones that included  a chemical that binds to the woman’s progesterone receptors for at least twice as long as ulipristal acetate, at least ten days. The pregnant club members were all frequently in the club to pick up Mr. Right Now so their hormonal contraception was quickly sabotaged.  The switch couldn’t have been going on very long or other hormonal users would have noticed fertility symptoms and full period bleeds rather than just a light withdrawal bleed or perhaps no bleed at all if they were enjoying the absence of their periods. An intense interrogation of the employee who was responsible for distributing the tubes of lube got an admission of guilt, she was paid by a rival club, and more of the sabotaged gel was found in her locker.

Fortunately the pregnancies were detected within the first few weeks and all were terminated through vacuum aspiration at our clinic and were paid for by the clubs insurance. There will also be a quick cash settlement if the individual women agree not to sue the club and no one wants the publicity that would bring.  

Lovers and voyeurism as therapy

Red leather Capezio Aerials, Milex & 1 inch diam. Pyrex Ben Wa balls

The Photo: Three of my fetishes, pointe-shoes, contraceptive cervical barriers and Ben Wa balls. Special order red leather Capezio Aerial pointes, a silicone Milex Omniflex (coil spring) diaphragm and a pair of 1.0 inch Pyrex Ben Wa balls.

Breakthrough therapy with Marvin: In my last post I mentioned Marvin and my discussions about my feelings of lack purpose without a male ballet partner at the castle for training and sex.  As a therapist he understood completely. He told me that as much as he loved his ballerina wife he too had felt incomplete sexually while married to her. He had tried to get Jenna, his dead wife whose place I have taken in his imagination, to have sex with her lovers (who he knew existed) where he could watch to fulfill his voyeuristic desires and stoke his ardor for sex with her later, but she refused.

As far as Marvin’s current patients are concerned he will be assuming the patient load of a psychiatrist who specialized in psycho-sexual disorders in both male and female ballet dancers and who had retired suddenly when his health failed.    So when I brought up the fact that I wasn’t getting enough penile-vaginal intercourse he said that my having lovers was fine as long as I used protection and he could clandestinely watch. Then he went on to suggest I could help him with any of his patients who might have performance anxiety problems where the sex in that instance would be therapeutic for both the patient and me.

I let him carry the conversation since it was going far better than I had any right to expect. He suggested I could hold ninety minute sexual encounter sessions - with me wearing traditional ballet practice clothes or costumes or perhaps fetishwear in leather or latex - which we would call ‘physical therapy’ in the small ballet studio on the second floor of Blackthorn House in Belgravia. Or, if the patient required longer more intense therapy I could have him, or her (but primarily the problem seems to be with men) to the castle for a week so where we could have four encounters a day for five or six days if I felt the patient needed it.  I can’t imagine a patient needing less than a week of intense therapy of that sort and the isolated location of the castle is ideal to get away from the distractions of the city. I was delighted to see that Marvin is beginning to widen the types of clothing he finds alluring on Jenna since he specifically mentioned latex and leather which I have been slowly guiding him toward.

A win-win: I thought our agreement on my lovers and his voyeurism issue was a win-win as we definitely want to marry and have a child (to be carried by a surrogate) to assure the line of succession for the Barony. But we both need to satisfy our personal sexual needs as well. The amazing thing is that we agree on a way to do that that is acceptable to us both! I was so pleased that we could satisfy his voyeurism compulsion and stoke his ardor for me with my need for intense sex with multiple men. Readers who have been with me for years, when my blog was on Yahoo, may recall that I helped my psychiatrist back then treat sexual predators when I lived on the East Coast. So these patients with whom I will have the athleticism and art of ballet in common should be far easier to deal with.

Since his patients are seen through the clinic they will be automatically given full panel STI tests to ensure my safety. Of course I’m tasted monthly as well so the patient and I will share the results of our STI tests (if they ask) before any fluids are exchanged. As far as contraception is concerned I intend to take a virile disease free patient with him unprotected unless he prefers that we use condoms. I will wear a diaphragm or cervical cap depending on where I am in my cycle (I’m CD5 and bleeding freely as this is written) and whether we are having ballet or dive-sex.

His Grace called: Maya, the Russian Mariinsky ballerina Escort he has been fucking since well before Christmas is pregnant. He is sending her to me for a termination which she has agreed to, but she is feeling very vulnerable at the moment and since Maya and I got along well she wanted to come to me.  So much for the effectiveness of the IUD she has inserted.

In my December 28^th post entitled ‘Yule at Crag Abbey’ I wrote about Maya’s IUD: “Maya has a ‘normal’ – 31mm x 24mm - German Medusa Goldring Ag+Au (silver+gold) IUD inserted from which the strings have been removed. She has been wearing it for a year w/o problems even when being thrown and landing jumps so she should be safe from pregnancy.” Well, she should have been, but there is no 100% effective method of contraception and this sort of an event keeps driving that point home. Chris, my male Gyn, will remove the Medusa as he rotated through a three week course on the Medusa IUD in Munich this past summer and he will also do the extraction of the reproductive tissue and then implant a 6 bead GyneFix copper IUD during the procedure.

 

The accident, New product lines for Blackthorn

Joy riding – penetrated by a Sybian machine

The Photo: A Sybian machine plug, shown penetrating the rider’s vagina.

Edith’s accident: I hadn’t asked exactly how my great, great, great grandmother died. At 103 I thought ‘natural causes’ which for someone that age could have been a variety of ailments. However, when Emily, my Lady’s Maid, mentioned her mistress’s accident I asked what sort thinking it was a fall from tripping on a rug and hitting her head or some such thing. That wasn’t it at all. Emily found her previous mistress after she heard the Baroness moans and screams during orgasm suddenly stop while on a routine morning ride of her Sybian machine. She was found slumped forward with the top of her head on the floor while still pinned to the machine. Her doctor, from the local NHS practice, said it was a heart attack from the exertion and she died almost instantly. I should be so lucky being fucked to death when my time comes.

I wondered how she had managed her vaginal preparation for a machine fucking, but then remembered the hormone replacement therapy med pills and estrogen creams I saw when we went through her meds. Emily said she had no problems with dryness and was comfortable, relaxed and seemed rejuvenated by her daily ride.

New product lines: I’ve been working with my contacts in Vegas to establish commercial ties here with some of the Barony’s commercial ventures. Having a presence for Gepettos, ballet-boots and Labia Labs vaginal and fetishwear products is a must if we are to appeal to the up-market sexually liberated woman and ballet and rubber fetishists. So far I’ve been able to get the following companies to sell their products exclusively in my shops.

Labia Labs in the UK: I’ve gotten Jeff to agree that Labia Labs fitted devices such as sports plugs and Fet-tex rubber fetishwear will be licensed to Blackthorn Holdings Ltd as sole distributor for its vaginal and fetishwear products in the UK. Chris, my male Gyn, can fit vaginal devices and the shop assistants will be fitting Fet-tex catsuits at Blackthorn Ballet and Fetishwear.

Gepetto’s Ballet Boots in the UK: Gepetto will be sending his 26 y/o daughter Cleo to work at Blackthorn Ballet shoes and Fetishwear to fit his custom titanium unitized toe-box and shank leather ballet-boots. Cleo has been working in Gepetto’s Vegas shop for five years and is an expert fitter. The cost $2500 USD (about 1655 GBP) for a basic pair will eliminate wannabe clients and limit customers to dedicated fetishists and fashionistas.

Cervical barriers and menstrual cups: Wide seal silicone Milex Arcing spring and Omniflex (coil spring) rim diaphragms and Lamberts latex Reflexions flat spring diaphragms as well as FemCaps and several styles of menstrual cups are readily available in the UK and can already be fitted and purchased through the Blackstone Clinic.

It’s complicated: Marvin and I have been discussing my feeling of isolation from where the action is as I’m finding having nothing meaningful to do other than my ballet technique and pointe classes makes time seem to drag. Honestly, I need sexual stimulation and being in a castle, as lovely as it is – and I intend to make it even better - several hours by train from London is already getting on my nerves and I’ve been here less than a week!   I can become involved with the local woman’s clinic and will help the gardeners and cook revive the kitchen garden in the spring, but what I really need is male ballet partners to maintain my level of training and, quite frankly my need for sex.

 

 

Menstrual protection and fellatio

A Diva menstrual cup showing fill levels and removal stem

The Photo: Showing the smaller (size 1) silicone Diva menstrual cup. The Diva Cup holds one full ounce of menstrual flow (30 ml) when filled to the four tiny air holes below the rim). As the average woman only flows approximately 1 to 2 ounces (30-60 ml) per cycle the wearing interval can be up to be 12 hours or longer w/o emptying it. However, with copper IUDs implanted my wards periods can be a bit heavier so on heavy days they may need to empty sooner.

Kassi gets her first Diva Cup: Kassi had been using tampons and panty liners. I introduced her to the Diva Cup menstrual cup (size 1) which is the brand my other wards and I use. A Diva Cup’s total length, including the stem, is 70mm and the cup length is 57mm. for both size 1 and 2 while the rim diameter is 41mm for the smaller size and 45mm for the larger so one or the other should fit most women. And the cup softens with body heat so it forms to the wearer’s body improving its comfort and seal.

My cup switch: Several months ago, I switched to a Diva 2 since the manufacturer recommends cup wearers older than 30 or who have given birth would have less likelihood of leakage if she used a Diva 2. I tried a Diva 2 and found I didn’t care for the larger size. My vagina is tighter than most nulliparous 20 y/os and I’ve had no problems with leakage and I don’t need the additional capacity as I can go more than 12 hours w/o emptying on almost all days with the smaller size so I’m back to a size one again. 

The Diva Cup at St Lucy’s: While St Lucy’s girls should already have the three shot regimen of Gardasil inoculations required for maximum protection from HPV viruses that cause cervical cancers as well as some genital warts – they can start the series of injections as early as age 9 - students aren’t fitted for menstrual cups and contraceptive cervical protection until menarche. The cervical barriers as returning readers of this blog know are primarily for flood insurance to protect the upper reproductive tract  in case the vagina floods during underwater intercourse since nearly all St Lucy’s girls reaching menarche now have stringless mini GyneFix copper IUDs inserted for contraception as part of a clinical study. Thus leaving only a need for effective menstrual protection during high impact activities, on heavy days and while traveling where long intervals between emptying are necessary. An Ideal product for all women of reproductive age is the Diva cup.

So this week I’ve been teaching a group of three girls who just reached menarche how to correctly insert a Diva Cup so it doesn’t leak and how to tell by feel and experience when the cup needs emptying by how heavy it feels, and the interval difference between light and heavy days. With just a little practice they became proficient at insertion and removal and now they love their Diva Cups!

Insertion is a several step process. First before preparing any vaginal device for insertion wash your hands. Then it’s a matter of folding the cup for insertion, spreading the labia, pushing it partly in horizontally toward the tailbone then letting it spring open. Once it’s in the ringed bottom of the cup is grasped and rotated one full turn to ensure it is fully open and seals properly. During the full turn it should rotate smoothly an indication that the cup is fully open. Then push it further in until the stem is just inside the vagina where it can be easily grasped for removal.

The Cup should sit low in the vagina away from the cervix. Placed higher it might leak and it could interfere with the strings of an IUD. Once they are confident that the cup fits properly and they can insert it correctly so it doesn’t leak they can do away with their tampons and panty liners and not have to worry about using a Milex diaphragm for flow control that was tricky to empty w/o spilling the contents… unless they want to use the diaphragm for flow control during menstrual sex. The students are so excited to have reached menarche and get their first diaphragms and menstrual cups as now they are biologically adult and their reproductive years have begun.

For removal the ringed bottom of the cup can be gently pulled to break the seal. If that isn’t successful then insert a finger between the vaginal wall and the cup to break the seal and then gently pull it out grasping the ringed portion of the lower dome while sitting on the toilet. Then it should be washed in a mild unscented soap in warm water dried and reinserted. The cup can darken with use and may be boiled for 10 – 15 minutes if it develops an odor.

Forcing Kassi’s period, an update: On Tuesday Oct 7 she took her first 5mg Norethindrone tablet. She will continue for nine more days stopping on Oct 16th when I will be CD27. That should cause her to spot on the 17th and start bleeding (her new CD1) on Saturday the 18th when we all should be CD1.

Kassi and fellatio:  Even though she has had her Gardasil shots there is still a chance of an HPV strain causing throat cancer a few years in the future so unless the men are screened the safest thing to do is to suck a man off while he is wearing a condom. The bar-condom brand we offer at our clubs is the latex LifeStyles ultra sensitive non-lubricated. That way the fellator just gets the scent and taste of the latex.

I’m teaching Kassi a trick that men love when it happens to them.  It’s part of my course in Contemporary Sexual Health that I teach at St. Lucy’s. If I’m with an uncut man who is known to have a safe sexual history when he’s just about ready to cum it’s always fun to bite through the reservoir tip and force his glans through the hole in the ruined sheath. Then skin-on-skin I manipulate his frenulum with my tongue with his glans forced tight against the roof of my mouth so that just before he comes he’s gasping and trying to shove his shaft down my throat.  But – and this is important or you can start gagging with your air cut off - I have my hand around the base of his shaft so no matter how hard he thrusts he can only spew in my mouth where I can taste his semen and easily swallow it as a nutritional supplement.