Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!

A lovely waxed vulva with small labia minora

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Exhaustion in paradise: The quote in the title is from Mae West and it is very true, as far as it goes. However, it has a down-side in that there are limits even to good things and the nine men who were our original partners for the PA candidate’s pelvic training while having superb stamina were beginning to pass their peak of sexual performance during the second week even with the use of performance enhancers which I’d rather them not use. I suppose that was to be expected since the guys are routinely having eight or more acts of deep vaginal penetration and often multiple orgasms per penetration (since the girls are beginning to practice pompoir and the mares trick) every day continuously for 14 days. Having the trainees manipulating their glans with their vaginal muscles during Pompoir and the mare’s trick training has made many of their penises sore. I suppose I should have known, but I’ve not had multiple men involved with this many encounters during intensive training before. So, Tanaquil, on Taryn’s behalf, has sent us nine more young, experienced, superbly well hung and well rested cocksmen. I expect to switch out the men every two weeks.  The training should be complete on March 26^th.

Since training began on Sunday January 24 the first group of men (the Seven Dwarfs+2 was rotated out and the new group took their place at the start of the third week, February 7^th, and we switched back to the fully reinvigorated original nine on the 21^st. The two week rotation is going well and there was almost no time lost with the switch as the men came up to speed almost immediately since they knew the training regimen and the different needs of each girl. The second group will return on March 6^th and then the original Seven Dwarfs +2 will finish out the 9^th week from the 20^th to the 26^th of March.

Labiaplasty: I am very pleased to say that the labiaplasty procedures to give the candidates lovely small labia minora like mine (our vulvas look very similar to the one in the photo at the top of this post) prior to their entering training is withstanding the very high usage quite well. And having extended the training interval from eight to nine weeks the candidates are becoming accustomed to the frequency and the physical exertion and mental concentration needed to milk a penis even during Pompoir. I taught the girls my regimen in which I ensure a well lubricated vulva and vagina, use a biocide and urinate immediately after each penetrative encounter to flush the urethra to flush out bacteria and lube pushed into the urethra during sex. That regimen seems to have worked for them so far eliminating yeast and urinary tract infections which so often plague women who have frequent vaginal sex with multiple partners.

Small labia minora and camel-toe: Small labia minora make it easier, more comfortable, for a woman to display camel-toe. Most elite escorts working in the fetish end of the business either have naturally small labia minora or have a labiaplasty so they can comfortable wear a thong, tights, bodysuit or leotard deep between their labia majora to display maximum cleavage even when wearing a costume with a cotton lined gusset. For me wearing convertible foot micro fibre tights with a front seam and a cotton gusset rolled down over a belt (like guys do) so the crotch is pulled up into the cleavage of my labia and buttocks which gives my admirers a double cleavage show especially when I’m prancing around en pointe. As far as breast support since I’m lactating I wear a VS Knockout front close clip and zip sports bra so I can easily breastfeed when I need to be milked.

Mid seam off the gusset: Some of us like to wear tights with a front mid-seam off the gusset which can rub on the clitoris (the seam is adjusted so it is on one side or the other of the glans and hood) while others can’t stand the thought of much less actually having something tight pressing against their clitoris. I rather like it as it keeps me wet and aroused and I can even spontaneously orgasm if I have a set of Ben Wa balls inserted which makes my day pass faster and I’m already lubricated if the occasion arises to have penetrative sex with an interesting man. I’ve also found with small labia minora I can more comfortably wear a sports-plug as it will fit tighter w/o pinching my labia which can happen to women with larger ones.   

Additional professional staff: After the first week it was obvious that we needed a podiatrist as well as a Gynecologist, an esthetician and two masseuses in residence since the girls needed a podiatrist because of their long hours in pointe-shoes and all eighteen of us need full body massages every day.  The esthetician keeps us nine women fully waxed leaving only scalp hair and eyebrows. Chris, our male Gyn from my London clinic, has kept us free of pelvic infections which given our number of male partners and the frequency of penetrative intercourse is a tribute to our regimen of feminine hygiene.    

Custom dressing: During week three of the pelvic intensive (7 – 13 February) I began teaching custom dressing which is dressing for a client executive’s particular fetish set. For example a client may want his PA to wear a latex diaphragm in addition to the GyneFix frameless copper bead IUD which is her primary method of contraception so he can under-thrust the rim of a coil spring and ejaculate in the dome and have her wear it for the rest of the day then eat her cervical discharge out of it. Custom coil spring and flat spring latex diaphragms are custom made now because latex diaphragms are no longer commercially available. The specific style and color shoes he wants to see her in is another major item of fetishwear, especially pointe-shoes or ballet-boots during the time she is with him. Taryn’s girls all work in Gaynor pointes which can be easily carried in a tote along with spare diaphragms, a silicone menstrual cup and a selection of condoms in case he wants to use one while she is menstrual.

Ballet boots can be carried in the tote as well, but they take up far more room especially if they are Gepetto’s custom boots (which Taryn’s girls wear) that have a unitized titanium toe-box and shank assembly and replicable titanium heels which are fitted with removable heel guards and Inman heel guard release pads on the inside of the heels. The heel guards are needed to prevent ruining expensive rugs and polished wood floors in executive offices and discreet pieds-à-terre used for assignations.

Ballet-boots, pointe-shoes and the Achilles tendon: As ballet dancers know from spending time en pointe and fetish ballet-boot wearer’s know from being locked in the boots with their feet extremely pointed and held that way for long intervals can lead to the shortening of the Achilles tendons so the individual can’t walk with their heels flat. To prevent this from occurring in women wearing extreme heels and pointe-shoes and to minimize the likelihood of tendonitis or tendon rupture we exercise in flats or pointes standing on a step with our forefeet on the tread and heels out over the riser. Then slowly rise on ¾ pointe hold for a ten count then slowly lower past flat to where the heels are as far below the tread as the Achilles tendons will allow and hold for a ten count. For women like me continuously on our toes doing 20 reps of this three times a day should keep our Achilles tendons properly stretched. Most of the PA candidates have followed my example and wear their Gaynor Minden pointe-shoes during the evenings when they are off to help toughen their feet and into the 5^th week now they are becoming accustomed to if not liking to wear pointes.

The eroticism of pointe shoes

A student in Suffolk Solo training pointes

Power Pointe: I love wearing pointe-shoes both to perform in and in my personal life! When in pointes I’m confident and love the feel of the snug blocks confining my feet. I know my legs look their best when I’m on my toes and revel in the power they give me over men. I’m teaching a class for ballet students this semester at St Lucy’s (Pointes and Covert Seduction) in which I show the girls how to seduce men by wearing toe-shoes when they will be around men they want to attract. It’s not that difficult really if the woman is skilled in wearing them. Just several pairs of old, nearly dead, shoes that have been pancaked to clean them up a bit so they are comfortable and presentable to wear on casual dates. If the woman has the money wearing Gaynor pointes in her social life is more comfortable and she doesn’t have to worry about the blocks melting or crushing the shanks if she wants to go en pointe to show off her legs after hours wearing them on a date.

Most men can be led around mentally by their penises if a woman is skilled enough. The little brains between their legs can be enticed to do almost anything by a pretty woman if he thinks she will let him get into her panties. One of the most acceptable ways to mind-fuck a man is by wearing attractive clothing. One highly attractive item is footwear and at the top of the erotic footwear list are pointe-shoes because they make girls legs extremely attractive by lengthening the line of the leg and showing off contracted calves. Although ballet dancers know how effective wearing pointes can be for other women toe-shoes are underused resources because of their seeming perversity. Women w/o pointe training find it impossible to wear even de-shanked shoes comfortably and wearing shanked shoes confidently and expertly requires years of training. The required commitment of money, time and training limits the pool of women who can fully utilize the erotic potential of pointes in controlling men.

Toe pads and toe cheese: Another aspect of a pointe fetish that fascinates some men is the toe pads we wear in our shoes. My toes are toughened by years of wearing pointes. Even so I have my shoes fitted while wearing pads so that when my feet swell during my periods I can still wear my shoes comfortably to perform or play in. An aspect of toe pads that men seem to like is the ability to ejaculate in silicone lined pads, think Ouch Pouch, where their seed won’t soak in so the full 5 or 6 ml will be available to squish between the woman’s toes when she puts them on and holds them in place with the convertible feet of her tights. After she takes class or performs in semen filled pads her lover can turn them inside-out and suck the toe cheese out which consists of dead skin cells, sweat, semen residue, toe polish chips, lint and adhesive residue from toe tape and occasionally blood, pus and liniment which can give the cheese a spicy taste. While wearing semen filled pads can be erotic the down side is that the fluid can soften calluses and cause pressure problems if the woman does it too often.

Shoes of traditional materials for training: Readers know how much I love Gaynor Mindens with their unitized polymer shank and padded toe boxes, but the best shoes for training students are ones made with traditional materials hessian, paper, satin, leather and paste. A student needs to know how to make the blocks and shanks of her traditionally made shoes last and what it feels like when the blocks begin to melt as her sweat softens the paste and the shoes no longer provide proper support. There is also the scent of shoes made of traditional materials when damp with estrogenic sweat that some men find alluring; especially when his partner’s calves are on his shoulders, or her feet are by her ears where he can enjoy the full bouquet while he is thrusting deep into her flat belly.

‘J’ on body hair & the penis

British testicular cancer awareness poster
In the U.S testicular cancer awareness week is April 1-7, 2011

About the photo: While we are discussing male genitalia I thought it would be timely to mention that in the U.S. Testicular cancer awareness week is April 1-7, 2011 and I’m encouraging all Pirate’s male escorts, and my male escort candidates along with the stallions in my circle as well as my male readers to be checked for TC. And on the subject of body hair, the man in the poster is unshaved.

Body hair: J “Women have much less hair to begin with... usually. Some have little or no hair on the legs or arms and certainly none on the backs, bellies, chests and ass. So an overall hairless body actually looks more consistent and visually "organized" and attractive. However, there are men who are covered in/with hair, and some with a moderate amount and a few with very little on their bodies. Their heads is another matter as male pattern baldness is quite common even for males whose body is carpeted with hair. Thankfully my own torso is almost hairless. We are more accustomed to the hairless male swimmer, body builder and I suppose dancer (ballet and modern). Being hairless in those activities seems to be either or both a performance and an aesthetic issue. Hairless bods seem to be the idealized presentation of the human form - look at art from as far back as the Greeks. But perhaps there are people who like and even fetishize body hair below the neck. I'm not one of them! Removing hair for men for the above reasons - performance and aesthetics is a much larger "maintenance" issue for the typical male than for the typical female as they begin from "different" starting points. Aesthetically a shaved cock and balls / pubic area can actually look a bit odd attached to an otherwise hairy body. And considering how much real estate a male has to cover when maintaining a hairless body I suspect few have the time or the patience or the money for such a high maintenance regimen. And literally hair removal of some parts of the body can't even be done by a person to themselves... such as the back... I would think. So here one needs a partner or regular visit to a waxing salon for hair removal. I suppose hormones also influence hair growth. But this has other down side risks and affects associated with it. I suppose from an appearance POV a catsuit provides a short cut means of achieving the look and somewhat the feel of a hairless body...though the wearer compressed hair covered skin will not experience the same thing as latex or whatever the textiles is over hairless skin or naked flesh for sure. I find both hairless males and females more attractive (especially pubic regions) and certainly when they have well toned bodies... no confusion with age play attraction issues. I've always demanded my SOs shave their pubic region.”

Dance belts & Penises J “The dance belt we've read about and even see the camel toe which clearly suggests the opening into the vagina. Obviously displaying a camel toe is deemed provocative and usually avoided by showing a smooth mound of the vulva. Males however do not display the actual shape of their genitals even in dance where it is packaged into a "dance belt" worn under tights. This is for at least two purposes: one to protect the male external equipment which could be subject to damage from some "moves" and interaction in dance... and the other is to provide a smooth line and not interfere with the shape of the male body. The cock is truly an appendage which seems to be not part of the "body aesthetic". Yet there are those who find the (erect) cock has aesthetic appeal. Obviously some specimens being more appealing and suggestive of a perfect form, much like a Balanchine body does for the female dancer. So virtually all dance "discards" the phallus presenting it as a smooth mound or basket as the vernacular goes. This does present "issues" for the male sex player fetishist on some levels. The female form can be completely displayed or hidden (except for erect nipples) an aroused state. Not so for the male whose cock will become engorged with blood and offer up an erection. An erect penis is a very different animal from a flaccid one for any number of reasons. There are fetish garments which encase the erect cock, not unlike a condom encases the erect shaft. But wearing a garment which anatomically encases and therefore displays an erect cock is certainly considered inappropriate except for sexual purposes. Some fetish clubs even suggest such displays are inappropriate. Ironic isn't it? Whipping, bondage, masks and other outlier displays and behavior are deemed acceptable, but an aroused male is sometimes seen as threatening and inappropriate. And certainly displaying the male genitals would be considered bad form. Of course in some fetish settings and certainly in erotica, displays of erect males are often expected... regardless of the "scene". Cocks and bounds...”

Males with a dancewear fetish: “Cocks and bounds” indeed! There are a lot of males with dancewear fetishes who claim not to wear anything under tights or a leotard to support or protect their genitalia while taking ballet class. I understand a man who gets off by wearing tights wanting to hang loose, but he would disrupt any ballet class of amateurs with women in it and wouldn’t be allowed to participate by the school for esthetic as well as insurance purposes because aside from being a disruption in class of the likelihood that in time he would hurt himself or be injured by someone else. So as far as I can tell men who say they take ballet classes w/o wearing a dance belt or at least a Speedo slingshot are fantasizing. As a British choreographer once said (well before Celia Franca who is listed as saying it by Google) “There are certain parts of the human anatomy that simply can’t be choreographed,” and male genitalia are one.

The Cock Conundrum: J “Transactional sex between a male and female for coital sex will require that the parties be sexually aroused for each to enjoy the experience. An aroused female vagina is naturally lubricated and a woman who controls her vaginal muscles can experience a more powerful orgasm and have more control with respect to the stimuli provided by and to a phallus. A women can of course, as we have recently read in Jill’s World, use a mechanical device to provide the stimulation which can even “out perform” a human phallus. Some women prefer their dildos and fucking machines to live partners. Of course one problem with coital sex, is that the male and female performances are very different. A male who passes the arousal phase, passes the point of no return, will then experience orgasm and ejaculate and usually lose his erection. This is followed by a period of relaxation accompanying the loss of erection associated with the release of semen. This may quench the male’s need, driven by the itch of arousal satisfied by the pleasure of orgasm, but it can and often does leave the female frustrated as she remains in the arousal phase and facing the loss of the stimulation provided by an erect thrusting cock in her receptive and demanding vagina. Does this mean a change of stim approaches? This has led to the notion of the simultaneous orgasm. When SO can be achieved presumably the parties each are satisfied, tension has flowed away and they each relax into the post orgasmic glow. (Women seem to be much more adapted to multiple orgasms directly related to the nature of the genitals. Achieving simultaneous orgasm is another one of those goals or holy grails of sexual congress… especially to the “vanillas”. Achieving SO would seem to require a level of communication and control as the parties each take a fair amount of responsibility for both their and their partner’s performance. See the article on ripple gripping. Sex works both ways! Fetish sex often dispenses with all of the complexities surrounding the SO and literally separates the sexual responses and roles of the parties. The notion of the holy grail of simultaneous orgasm is tossed out the window, in favor of the parties concentrating on the pleasure and arousal of one party at a time… sort of. Getting someone off is considered and experienced as sexually exciting, though not necessarily orgasmic. This is also a vanilla practice to be fair. So as one party is not concerned with their own orgasm or even arousal… they turn their complete focus to bringing their partner through the entire sexual response in some sort of negotiated or understood process. This may involve extending and intensifying if possible the arousal period and even amplifying the orgasm and for kinksters it might even involve denial of orgasm or creation of even “ruined orgasms” for males at least. And then there is the CB crowd who even milk males and remove the biological need for an orgasm. People do the darnedest things for sexual thrills"

The simultaneous orgasm in practice: At night when I want something to put me to sleep I will have a man give me a G-spot orgasm and as I’m reaching the tipping point I begin ripple gripping him just before he pushes me over the edge into ecstasy. At that point my involuntary muscle contractions take over, he loses control and orgasms filling me with semen and we go together! Going together is very, very satisfying to me! But one thing I insist on is that I get pleasured! So most men launch me into orgasm first, especially during the day when time is of the essence because we may be interrupted.

The erect penis & female power: J “Erect cocks can and often are perceived as erotic visual stimuli. You don’t display them in polite society. A female may and often does see her partner’s erection as an expression of her sexual appeal. Whatever she does, says, smells or looks like, her hair or make up, what she wears or how she moves or behaves can re read by her if it has a provocative effect on males as affirmation of his desire for her and the power of her sexual appeal. Nothing new here. Women have learned all the tricks of making themselves into sexual objects… subtle and in your face. This ranges from turning a head of a passing stranger, right through to a visible bulge in a man’s trousers to a raging erection in a male she is with. Women dressing for arousal and therefore their own pleasure is accepted practice… within proscribed boundaries of course. Society would not approve of librarians in rubber catsuits and stilettos… at work! Tease and denial is a key aspect of BDSM and D/s play and so holding a partner in an aroused state requires tangible evidence of arousal – hence the erection… the moist panties, erect nipples and other signs of sexual tension. The Domme will often demand and expect and exact visible signs sexual arousal from her slave and or submissive partner. Accordingly she will do what may be required to display their arousal, but of course often control and even deny the release of the sexual tension she creates. This may be seen as humiliation, or it may be perceived as her erotic power to maintain a male in a constant state of unfulfilled arousal. Males, of course, may welcome this sort of attention, reveling in being held in a state of sexual tension seems to outweigh being ignored or left without any sexual attention. This type of play is accompanied by the notion that an aroused and erect male may be helpless and mentally incapable of resisting. But he also might be aggressive and inspired to rape. All he can focus on is his state of sexual tension. Sexual arousal represents a sort of one way street. Once we turn down it, or are led down it, we can’t or certainly don’t want to reverse and feel compelled to continue.”

BDSM sex and more: J “Transactional fetish sex makes a clear separation of roles. Each partner expects the other to provide their arousal and guide their sexual response. The dominant partner is free to “use” the submissive in any way to bring about their own pleasure and this may involve training, conditioning and controlling the male erection, or even denying orgasm. The submissive sexual partner expects the dominant partner to play them as a sexual instrument. They turn over control of their body’s response including sexual to the dominant. It’s the deal they make. You get to play with me doing X, Y and Z because I (and you) find it sexually stimulating to do so. A sexual sadist will claim they require a consenting masochist, whether or not the masochist finds the experience evocative of their own sexual response. Most kinky masochists find the experience erotic and even orgasmic and at the very least sexually arousing. Presumably sadists likewise experience an aroused state when acting sadistically… although giving into an orgasm in the process is rarely if ever seen. One usually sees an erect cock in BDSM scenes indicating that whatever is going on is experienced as sexually exciting."

"Humiliation and sadism may have nothing to do with an erotic experience and there are some extreme types of BDSM play which go outside of sexual arousal and deal with a whole other set of human responses – pain, psychological humiliation and so forth. This would be extremely troubling… ie an SM experience where there is no sexual response from the parties. This sort of cock conundrum is complex and nuanced”.

My friend Adolph is one who is into very brutal sex that begins with a female partner believing the goal is mutual sexual gratification, but in fact it is gratification only for him passing almost immediately for her into pain and humiliation.

The cock ring: J “And then there are cock rings which kinda work like a one way valves keeping them flush with blood and looking all the better for it... said the actress to the bishop.”

Home Depot as a sex toy supplier: I get my supply of cock rings at Home Depot from their selection of silicone O rings. The prices and size selection are far better than from a sex toy store, though the color selection is limited. I’ve found that keeping a man engorged with a CR works wonders if time is limited and I want him to stay focused and get off frequently in a brief interval. On the other hand keeping him in a CR for a long period can simulate the natural occurring condition of Priapism and cause irreversible penile tissue damage so I cut the CR off him after no more than two hours of continuous wearing. That’s another nice thing about getting a supply of CRs from Home Depot they are so inexpensive that you don’t have to struggle getting it off intact, just snip it off with a small pair of cutters.

Heretical sects & texts

The narthex of the temple in which lies the Chalice

The Holy Grail: J “Quest for the holy grail. Is that the orgasm or coitus? I would argue for the fetish sensibility it is the orgasm and coitus is only one means to achieve it. Admittedly for the male and probably the females out there 99.999% of orgasms are associated with some sort of physical contact with the erogenous zones. The basic ones are well understood, the vagina, clitoris, G spot, glans, shaft testes, nipples, prostate and so forth. Some have sensitive ears, necks, lips, feet and even their hair can evoke and erotic response. This is not what is at the core of fetish even though we see fetish as manifested in "gear" which exists in the physical world. A fetish ONLY has erotic power to those who "believe in it" or who imbue those "things" with sexual power. Put a rubber suit on a non fetishists and they might say it feels fine, or tight or too tight, or smelly or too slippery… or too something for them to be comfortable. And if they DO not find it uncomfortable they STILL might not find it arouses them sexually. Some might find it does and they would be candidates for becoming a fetishist... someone who finds inanimate things sexually arousing. Of course we all know that the arousal phase is the beginning of the human sexual response. It's the part of the sexual response which gives us an increasing itch to reach the goal post - orgasm. For many "traditionalists" the orgasm is closely linked with cock in pussy fucking and we all know there are scores of "positions" to have cock in pussy sex. Some need that sort of variety and some claim and rightfully so, some position offer better and different experiences and orgasms. But everyone seems to think that there are better and bigger and longer lasting and deeper orgasms and it’s a matter of skill which can tease them out. And a corollary is that there is no limit and more, better, longer, deeper and multiple is out there to conquer.”

The Chalice as an object of desire: “Quest for the holy grail. Is that the orgasm or coitus?” Actually, I had included some apocryphal (and heretical) Christian beliefs in that that thought… hoping you might eventually go there.

After survival, nature’s most powerful drive is the need to reproduce. That biological imperative gives women the ability to cloud men’s minds with lust, mesmerizing the male in more advanced societies into clothing her in exotic materials and bindings in an effort to have his way with her sometimes by bizarre means. Sampling for himself the delights found in the depths of her body he enters the kingdom of heaven on earth to plant his seed at the base of the Holy Grail itself, her uterus, from which all human life springs.

It is understandable that for some early Christians desperate to increase their numbers the uterus was seen as the Holy Grail – from which all life springs - and worship of the female is not a new concept. However, worship of a female God or Goddess was suppressed by the Romans bringing organization to the early Christian church by standardizing its teachings to reflect the views of a male dominated society, probably during or around the time of the First Council of Nicaea a council of Christian bishops convened by the Roman Emperor Constantine I in A.D. 325. The Council was the first effort to attain consensus in the church through an assembly representing all of Christendom. Its main accomplishments were settlement of the issue of the relationship of Jesus to God the Father; the construction of the first part of the Nicene Creed; settling the calculation of the date of Easter; and promulgation of early canon law. In the process early Gospels chronicling worship of the Virgin Mary and glorifying her womb were discarded. Texts of early variant teachings and sects believing in them were suppressed and branded as heretical.

The Idea of the Chalice or Holy Grail (the cup from which Jesus and the apostles drank during the Last Supper) as representing the uterus was most recently brought to the attention of the general public when the concept was used as the basis for The Da Vinci Code the 2003 mystery-detective novel written by Dan Brown. It is the male's biologically driven fascination with women’s reproductive anatomy that has fueled violence and bloodshed since mankind crawled out of the slime and women began seducing men for mates.

Getting mine: J “Sex as a selfish act (which it demonstrably is) involves getting "yours" the way you like it... so to speak. And when there's a partner involved it may be getting THEM to giving you "yours" the way you like it. There are a few strategies here. One is simply to demand it and say... here you play this fiddle called my sexual response. Your role is to learn what I teach and follow the script with finesse. Your reward can be I can do you at another time, or maybe at the same time, or you can learn to "get off" on playing me my way. Wouldn't that be dandy! Another is the quid pro quo where the provider is paid or obligated to perform to spec... the hooker, escort, pro Domme and so forth. You can also "train" or manipulate the partner to do your bidding by positive and negative reinforcements - training. People and animals are easy to train this way. Yet there are times when the partners interactions naturally leads to them each giving and getting exactly what floats their own boats. It doesn't get any better than that. Jane like John to ram her hard in rough almost brutal sex and John gets off on the idea of brutally taking a female! This can apply to any aspect of fetish play... and is what lovers seek in their partners - compatibility. Sure you can wear a rubber suit to please my eye... but I am looking for the women who is turned on by wearing the rubber suit - then she's really sexy to me... the rubberist male might say. But I digress”

“The Holy Grail is not the vagina but the tactile experience of the vagina on a penis for a male and the feeling of the thrusting penis inside her vagina for a female. This is so because vaginas and penises are where the physical sensations which offer up orgasms come from. Some men can get off and prefer an anal cavity. Some a rubber cavity of a sex doll. Some women prefer or are fine with a glass or rubber dildo or even a cucumber to fill their vaginas. Fetish sex is about the toys as substitute for the "real thing". But fetish sex, like vanilla sex is about getting off, but with more emphasis on the arousal phase... lots more. It makes the arousal phase include all sorts of gear and clothing... the mental constructs to eroticize them.”

Suppressed Symbolism: I agree that the vagina is not the Holy Grail. But as I mentioned above I think “the tactile experience of the vagina on a penis for a male and the feeling of the thrusting penis inside her vagina for a female” is not the Holy Grail either. I believe the Apostles drinking from the cup during the Last Supper, pledging they would continue his teachings when Jesus had gone was seen by some early Christians (who worshiped Mary as a deity) to be analogous to or symbolic of sexual intercourse with the transfer of semen (as the blood) which actually fills the Chalice or Holy Grail – the uterus – to continue the faith and mankind. This view of communion in the Catholic Church as celebrating sexual intercourse has been suppressed for nearly 2,000 years, but for believers traces of it can still be seen in the ritual of the Mass, performed by celibate priests.

The genitals as a fetish: J “I suppose some people have a genital fetish and literally eroticize the facsimiles of genitals. This I suppose is manifest in silicone breast augmentation, but surgical and applied on top of one's own breasts, or rubber vulvas and vaginas which can be worn as garments, some with sheathed cavities to penetrate... mostly used by CDs I suppose. But it's conceivable that a female could have a fetish of being fucked with a fake pussy she wears. And the same might apply to a male who sports a fake cock over his own. And there certainly could be females who desire large rubber cocks more so than the real deal. However these sorts of appliances are more about the actual fucking than the arousal the way most fetishes operate. Fetish is mostly about getting there as opposed to being there and so the Holy Grail is really about the QUEST for it than FOR it. What do I know?”

Cervical barriers as a fetish: I don’t know any women who have a genital fetish, but I know some CD/TVs who do. I’ve written about some few rubberists both male and female who are into ‘vaginal rubber’, an oft overlooked area for the female rubberist, and the different pleasures that can be derived from its use. As returning readers know I wear a cervical barrier to protect my upper reproductive tract. I’m CD24 today and have an Oves cervical cap sucking on my cervix as a gas-guard for dive-sex and as a contraceptive barrier although I’m in my Luteal phase with my menses starting next Friday so I’ve ovulated this cycle and as far as contraception is concerned I could go w/o protection and still be safe. For me contraceptive diaphragms and cervical caps are a huge turn-on. I love the added confidence that I get when I have a physical barrier protecting my cervix even though it may be a tiny bit of .2mm thick transparent silicone rubber.

Ever since I was in my early 20s and got my first latex Prentif cavity rim cervical cap I’ve been in love with cervical barriers for contraception. I was on the pill and hated what the progestin did to me, killing my libido and drying me out so that even on the rare instances when I wanted sex I could never get comfortable regardless of which or how much lube I used. Today less than one percent of U.S women use a cervical barrier and most doctors aren’t taught how to fit them anymore. Women’s doctors are in the pocket of Big Pharma and pushing hormones these days saying cervical barriers aren’t nearly as effective. But for a motivated woman who follows all the rules all the time and who has a properly fitted diaphragm that is correctly inserted the device is more than 96% effective which is as good as the protection most women get from their pills because they aren’t compliant in taking them.

Intimacies between species

Bottlenose dolphin


Inter-species encounters: During the first few days of July we had a marvelous opportunity while at my villa on the north shore of Virgin Gorda There was a pod of dolphins nearby for the entire time we were there. The calves and their moms, called cows, and the bulls and their harems were offshore and the young males were in the cove below my house looking for someone or some thing to have sex with. So we brought the boat around and anchored in the cove and used it as a diving platform. Some years ago I had had an intimate relationship with a dolphin I called Freckles. I was hoping to see him again but if he was there we never connected. I had told the girls what a wonderful time I had with Freckles and when we found the male dolphins were in the cove Anya suggested we try and duplicate my cross-species adventure again. I was all for it but cautioned Anya and Taryn that being around randy male dolphins could be dangerous especially if the immediate object of their affection attempted to avoid mating with them. The male’s standard technique with a female who is proving elusive is to force her on to the seabed and hold her there while he penetrates her and fills her with semen. Male dolphins are known to frequently initiate sexual encounters with humans and so we were thinking if we were lucky perhaps we could each have an intimate encounter with one of the younger males. We were hoping for younger males because they are smaller than the fully grown ones though at 300 lbs a 2 y/o is massive when you are belly-to-belly with him. And because the older bulls can have barnacles on their skin that can shred a wetsuit or open a girl’s belly or thighs like a scalpel if he is pushing against you. So if you have the chance it’s a good idea to check out a male’s under side before mating with him to make sure that his skin is smooth.

Size does matter: Another critically important reason to stay away from fully grown males is that their penises can be 10 to 14 or so inches long and 2 – 3 inches thick something any woman would want to stay away from even if it wasn’t delivering 300 to 500 pounds of thrust at the tip of a 2 or 3 inch diameter rod. A young male can be sexually mature but not fully grown so if you are able to get a small one chances are that he may be 8 or 9 inches long and 2 inches thick so an experienced woman wearing a strapless FemCap as a sports shield and thrust buffer may be able to take him in relative safety. It’s all in his size and how lucky you feel that day. Once you are penetrated you are pretty much at his mercy. There may be the possibility of reaching his flippers with your hands and pulling yourself off his penis but the current due to his forward motion is very strong so it would be a struggle, and, if he is too large or the woman too small that option may not exist at all. In preparation we all inserted a 10ml applicator of dive-gel in our vaginas and we all wore only the tops of our Tankinis as rash guards. There was no point in wearing the thong bottoms as all the men who were along could recognize each of us by our vulvas but more importantly we needed to be fully and immediately accessible if we found a suitable dolphin to mate with.

The dive: Our dive started well. Cyndi went down with us wearing a thong. She was supposed to stay close to the yacht and watch for possible trouble as I didn’t want to chance a 16 y/o being injured during a sexual encounter with a dolphin especially if she had initiated it. Taryn, the 18 y/o was the first to attract male interest. He was a bit larger than I would have preferred about 10 feet long and 250 lbs but he seemed to be young and his belly was smooth and pink which meant that he was sexually aroused which was already obvious since his eight inch erection was on display and he was rubbing it against Taryn’s belly and wrapping it around her wrist. He easily separated her from the rest of us and as he covered her she spread her legs and adjusted her hips to help him enter her. We could all see when the moment of penetration came as there was this great rush of bubbles as she gasped and arched her back which caused their direction to move sharply downward. I swam along side for a minute or two and motioned that she needed to lie as flat as possible against him to prevent being taken deeper and perhaps trapped against the cove bottom. She signaled she was ok and snuggled against him and the mated couple’s depth settled out at about 40 feet, 20 feet off the bottom. It was over in less than three minutes with the young male ejaculating in her with such force that I could see her back arch, her legs shot wide in a spilt and her head was lost in a cloud of bubbles as she tried to deal with the release of his semen under pressure that would cause it to spew ten or more feet under water. Then he headed up while still penetrating her and at about 20 feet he withdrew and nuzzled her then swam away. She waved that she was ok and I swam to meet her. She gave me the thumbs up and I saw she was Kegeling his load which was thick and in creamy strands as she forced most of it into the water.

My interested friend: As we were swimming leisurely back toward the yacht the same dolphin appeared next to us again and this time he was interested in me displaying his pink belly and rubbing his 10 inch erection on my belly below my BCD. He suddenly pushed between Taryn and me and before I knew it I was alone beneath him with his tip wriggling to get inside me as he propelled me away from the yacht. Even though I’d taken a dolphin a few years ago I was very concerned about how I was going to do this time even though Taryn had come through being first just fine. I tried to relax my pelvic muscles and he shoved his 2 inch diameter shaft through my oculus and as he pushed deeper into me the muscles of my vaginal barrel automatically tightened but there was no slowing down much less stopping his penetration until he hit the dome of my strapless FemCap. Then I suddenly felt a swelling in my vagina as his penis balled itself up and it felt as though I was being fisted! Then it straightened again and I felt his prehensile tip feeling the FemCap which was sucking tightly on my cervix. I was so glad I hadn’t worn just an Oves for the dive because with the flexibility of that tip he could have grabbed the tiny cap and pull it off. He couldn’t have gotten my preggers of course, but he might well have given me a pelvic infection or an embolism if he forced his semen into my uterus. I kept my legs spread enough that he could settle his genital slit over mine and could feel the wash of his powerful fluke as it propelled us through the water.

He gets off deep inside me: The best I could tell he was taking me in a circle around the boat when he could have just as easily taken me straight out to sea, but I hoped that was unlikely as he would meet the bulls in his pod and a larger male might take me away from him. I really didn’t want to think of two dolphins fighting over which one of them was going to fuck me. Even when scared I was so turned on because of his thickness and the texture of his shaft that he quickly took me to a series of the most wonderful G-spot orgasms. At 10 inches I was comfortable with him ramming my FemCap and as with my human male partners I could tell when he was about to come as his shaft began to swell even more just before he reached orgasm. When he came if I hadn’t had my spit-strap fastened I’m sure I would have expelled my reg! It was at the same time softer but much more intense as he released probably 100ml of semen into me under such pressure that it hit the silicone barrier of my FemCap and then formed a bulge as it moved down my vagina as it was forced back along his thickness and squirted out into the ocean between my labia and around his shaft. I’m guessing about the quantity based on the amount that was forced out around his shaft while he was still inside me and the amount I Kegeled out after he withdrew. I had forgotten what an amazing feeling it was to have such an intelligent marine mammal complete its mating ritual leaving its seed in me. Sexual intercourse with a dolphin is certainly not for everyone, but for an adventuresome woman who is properly protected it is an amazing experience not to be missed!

Anya on the bottom: My mate left me at about the same depth, 30 feet, at which he found me on the other side of the boat from Taryn who, when I got my breathing and heart rate under control and looked over to where she was, was pointing to Anya who was struggling with a larger male which was trying to mate with her. She wasn’t winning. As soon as she rolled out from under him he was back on top of her and each time he was steering her toward shore. At that location the beach slopes down to about 20 feet below sea level then drops straight down another 50 feet to the seabed in most of the rest of the cove and as we watched he forced her into the sandy bottom just on the land side of the submerged cliff. There was this great cloud of sand as her tank dragged along the bottom and I prayed that her equipment didn’t snag on something and tear apart with the stress. As we swam closer the sand began to settle and I could see that her air hose had caught on a coral spike and since her spit-strap was fastened she still had her reg in her mouth, but her head was at an extreme angle against her tank. The coral spur was acting as a pivot. She was being turned in a tight circle around the spur by her 500 pound lover. Her air hose tethering her to the spot and as she revolved the hose was being abraded. I was able to get close enough to try to lift the tightened hose off the coral spike but by then it had worn a grove in the coral and the armored sheathing was showing through the outer layer of the hose and I couldn’t get it off the coral. The huge male paid no attention to me and continued turning her for a minute or so longer until he finished inside her and a cloud of creamy semen floated out from between her legs. After that he lost interest, withdrew and swam away. I sent up an emergency buoy which meant that the medical team was to meet us on the beach. Once Anya was out from under the dolphin she signaled she could move on her own and she and Taryn headed for the surface and the beach while I went back to get Cyndi.

Cyndi’s clear choice: I got back to the yacht just in time to see a 200 pound male finishing inside Cyndi with the now familiar cloud of creamy semen jetting from between her legs! After he withdrew she rubbed his dome and they seemed to kiss and he swam away. Well, so much for looking out for the welfare of my 16 y/o ward! I knew that she is extremely practical and seems to get calmer the worse a situation gets so I was never too concerned, but I’d have rather she had the experience a bit later in life. But, given that she was diving with us she really had no choice when confronted by an eager male. Fortunately we were all protected with FemCaps and in that regard they worked extremely well. She was right to acquiesce to her admirer’s attentions rather than fight a battle she knew she would lose and quite probably be injured in the process. We swam back to the boat and a crewman took us to the beach in a zodiac where we could be with Anya and Taryn while Chuck and a servant came down to the beach from the villa.

Anya’s injuries: When we got to the beach Chuck had just arrived. Her arm was bleeding but was able to walk up to the house where Chuck cleaned as much of the sand as he could out of her badly scraped right arm and packed the wound with an antibiotic ointment and started her on Zithromax. He also put her in a cervical collar for her sprained neck. She has been in NYC with her parents for surgery to repair a rotator cuff tear and plastic surgery on her upper arm where she was forced into the sand as she pivoted around the coral. She should make a full recovery but will require physical therapy for her neck and shoulder and perhaps another operation to remove the remaining scars from her arm. . Fortunately there was no muscle damage. She is back to taking class but can’t tie her ribbons so has had thick elastics crossed over her insteps sewn on her pointes – stripper style - so she can slip them on and off. She won’t be performing for a few weeks as her shoulder and upper arm recover.